 jama여 akita jama wakimi kukesha nfive knotsiwa lalean au kwa mwera Jamaia zika jugama seshia wakimi kukesha wakimi kuhikama wa kuhikama wa wakimi kuhu na use kukesha wakimi matati wakibi Wakinga kamao ena jamaia mahuzaה kwa wakimi kuplubi pili Bibini pokani liginga kwa kakва mahuzae nama akita jamaia mwenuzae niss wakimi kukesha wakimi na wa ya nando na kurwa kwa kila wewa, ya wлiste kwa liwa kwa bura nukwya wata katojitia ya wlisbe kakakiku wata kwa kikuwa. Kwa kwa nikitia howa, auka, na na kwa kikuwa wata kwa, na na kwa kikuwa wata kwa kikuwa. Kwa maisha, mati wana wakaanto. Kwa kika mula hansu? Kapimiya, kwenja. I backendu kwa mili Iindokwya nga wikia. Kupiya kwa wakao kwa, Shizuwa na nyanaa, ki ga kipaka pari na nyanaa. And you must always have to refer to someone. So this is the first time... Right. So when you speak of clarity of purpose, what do we mean? First of all before I answer clarity of purpose, it's to get to understand what purpose is. And purpose is your wha, what is your wha. And when you talk about purpose of life is your wha of being alive. Why are you created? Why were you born? Why did God choose for you to survive out of all the billions of spams that were produced at that time? Why you? So there's a reason why you survived. There's a reason why you have you're here and it's because you're destined for something. Everyone has a reason. Everyone has a purpose. And this purpose you have to define it. The earlier the better. Because when you see people behaving or living in a life of like they are not sure what they're supposed to be doing, today you're working in a salon, tomorrow you're working in a bar, the other day you're working in a church, the other day you go back to the bar, the other day you don't know what you're supposed to be doing. That is because they don't know their purpose. And clarity of purpose is now being clear. Being clear because there's nothing as important in life as being clear about what you want to do. So how do you work on your purpose? How do you develop it? How do you even live your purpose? That's now having that clarity. Exactly and that's why I want you to take us because many people would say like you have just given an example of you working in a bar then you're somewhere else. Someone would say I'm multi-talented. I have so many gifts I can do ABCD at the same time. So how now do I sit down and identify this is my strength, this is my area? And then how now do I move in to perfect that which I have identified within me? You know the main goal of life is happiness right? The main the reason why I want someone wants to be a doctor is because they think that being a doctor will make them happy. The reason why somebody has become a pastor is because they think that touching lives or maybe preaching to people will make them happy. So the main goal is happiness. Now when you're doing all these things that you think you're talented in, are you fulfilled? Because when you're fulfilled is when you realize now the inner happiness is when you know you can bounce, you can you can work and you know you get that working style that you know that defines that makes you be happy. So the main purpose of finding happiness is actually just being happy. Now when you're finding your happiness and doing what you feel this is what I've been called for of course there are relationships but we say we all need sugars to lean on. How do we now create networks? Having healthy relationships let me speak also. We are all social beings. No human being is created to be on their own. We are all social beings and that's why nowadays you find that because of the lockdown people in the house their minds are you know they are not thinking straight because they know that connection and even you find that marriages are breaking up because you are only connecting with that person that you know that you marry just because of the wrong why. So as being social beings you need you have to connect with people and there is no place of purpose that you will find yourself not being able to connect with people because we are created for a purpose and purpose is being of service to somebody to other people. So who are you serving? You might say that I'm going through so much I'm you know I'm going through a lot of pain and how can I be of service to somebody but guess what your pain is even supposed to be helping somebody so we go through life because whatever we go through has a reason and it's a meant to you know to touch other people's lives it's supposed to be for others not for ourselves we don't live for us for ourselves neither we will we die for ourselves we'll die for another reason exactly speaking of the relationships and being there for each other there's something that I feel has been a problem with so many and that is about the boundaries how do you create a boundary how do I define someone's boundary you will speak of the current events where I will need someone to stand with me and then I we end up being enemies because maybe I asked for and help or maybe I asked it in the wrong way how do I define my own boundaries and how do I get to learn someone's boundary one thing about clarity is that it makes you have those boundaries and being firm there is you know we are told that even the bible say that you when you're asking ask with clarity ask ask and it shall be given to you it didn't say nag or it didn't say you know cry for it you know I don't know you've seen people who go through issues and they are always in the church praying and they you know they they never get their answers and I'm not God I can't I can't tell why but from my own perspective as a person and from my own development and my own personal development I've come to realize that when you ask too much from God it's like you're nagging and he didn't say that you nag he just said ask I've heard you from the you know from the first time so now when because now God said that we need to ask and it shall be given just ask so the same way that God wants us to be clear to be clear about what we want we need to ask ask for it and we ask with clarity because there's power in clarity you also need to be very clear about connections about people how you need to know yourself because one one cannot ask clearly when they don't even know what they really want because number one number one reason or way of being clear or being firm is to you know to know to know what is it that I want and then you ask you have your why so why do I want it what is it that I want and why do I want it the why comes before the how then you find the how so you start learning on how to do it whatever it is that you want to ask so you first need to be very clear of this is what I want and then you know why do I want why do I really want it and then how do I find it how do I the how the learning about it so you start learning skills on how to to even relate with people so you need to have your clear wise don't just say I want space or I want you know I want a boundary but you don't have your why you need to to be clear all right with that will be taking a very short break and you have known building a relationship you need to know the why and then the how then you know how to approach your friend let's take a very short break we'll be back with now moving to professional life how do you build a professional life in clarity don't go too far why 254 why 254 thank you for keeping us company and if you just tuned in this is why 254 health and lifestyle Wednesday tonight we are talking about hailing with clarity of papas and now we are moving to building a healthy professional life how do you do that I'm speaking to angel and Zilani she's a life coach yes now how do I build a highly professional life now that I have realized what I want I'm doing what I love I'm working with people how now do I live professionally um okay first is to believe in a dream have a dream have a dream and believe in it you know like I said that you need to know what you want and if you know already know you know what if you already know that this is my purpose this is what I'm supposed to be doing then you need to know why do I really you know why is my purpose why why is it that this is the purpose that I'm supposed to be working on and then now you start learning how so you have to invest in the learning and investing doesn't really have to be in terms of money it can be in terms of time money of course sometimes comes into take apart to play apart but it's good to to know that there are so many resources out there I can give you maybe an example of myself when I went when I finished high school I went to do CPAs that's accounting wow and um yeah well I finished my accounting and I got a job with an Indian farm and at the Indian farm I was doing I was like now the multitasking I was a jack of old trades I would do so many things I was doing sales I was in charge of the payroll in charge of I was the cashier I was the one in charge of managing the office making sure it's clean I could fire and hire all the commissions of the sales were yours yeah so I would do all those things but some part of me the only part of me that I loved was the bit about selling and I so I started now feeling that maybe I should go into marketing so I enrolled myself into a marketing degree I did marketing but I've never done any marketing it when I when I now came to learn what really marketing is it's a well people used to tell me that you because you talk too much you your vocal and you know you can go out there and market but I never had the skill it never came in even going even after going through the training it never really resonated with me I never fulfilled me so I continued and along the way I became a contractor so now you see these are how many three three careers already so I became a contractor and I combined being a contractor with being a farmer who was also constructing greenhouses and yes and along the way I never still wasn't fulfilled until I discovered my purpose so late in 2017 now in 2018 is when I started now working on myself learning new things training going for training listening to other speakers out there and you know just learning and learning it's been a day every day has been a day of learning so you have to invest on the learning it doesn't matter when you discover your purpose but I said alia that when if you discover your purpose early enough the better for you I if we have parents who are watching I would encourage them to help their children at their younger age as this they go through their career path let their career be in line with their purpose so let us help our children to learn what purpose is to learn why they are here why they are created to learn how to even discover that purpose and then they will now choose careers that are in line with you know with the careers that are in line with their purpose so that we don't have all this you know mix up of life like I did if I had a better guidance I would have I would have maybe come out stronger no there's an aspect of life where people kind of neglect and maybe could have a positive impact on their life and this is their spiritual connection and even it's coming even to church or the people in church because even in the marketing itself I'm sure you interacted with people from more sorts of fields how does one build their spiritual connections whatever religion they ascribe to though we have to believe that there's an power than ourselves there's somebody who controls things not us we are not the ones in control there's somebody who connects us with things and that's why he said that we should ask him no matter what your you know your your faith is it doesn't it doesn't really matter you still believe in a god or somebody who is above you so you we need to to lean on that person we need we have to lean on that person you know to ask for whatever we want and we will find it we just need to ask because spirituality is important we cannot live without it even those who are pagans they still believe there is a faith in them there is a faith that says you know faith doesn't have to be like okay they are degrees of faith so what they have is just little faith have the master said faith yeah so that they just have very little faith it's it's not because they don't believe god is there god is there and we have to you know to to keep on talking to him no what I want us to talk about now is a very sensitive area and this is sexuality having a sexuality like positive aspect of life in terms of sexuality and gender we have been calling for gender equality we have been seeing women in power how relating with people now how do you now become define your position whatever gender you are in that you may not maybe subject others to feeling like you are not important sexuality is we are all equal okay what I can say we are all bearers of a spirit we are all souls so if we look at ourselves first as a soul then all these other things you will not define yourself too much you know leaning so much on because I'm a woman I should get favors because I'm a woman I should be you know the leader but it leadership should come from my qualities as a person what what makes me better we cannot be the same they are they are men who you know they are leaders in their homes but they cannot lead in a company they are led by women so we need to just understand that we are first souls and you as a soul are very very very tiny in this world very tiny if you look at all the creation that God did we have the universe we have I was listening to a talk by some motivational speaker I'm forgetting his name seeing singoli something like that and he was talking about how small one person is then he was saying what if God really forgot you exist because you're too tiny that he cannot even see you yeah so it's just funny that he could come up with that but we are souls first so you need to look at yourself as a soul and talking about maybe taking you back to spirituality we have to personalize spirituality you have it has to be personal it's not supposed to be dependent on who your pastor is or which church you go to or who are your parents it's supposed to be very personal so how I interpret my own spirituality how I interpret my own even my own soul my own sexuality should be very personal how and it should be personal in a way that it suits you it works for you so don't don't don't just do things because people are doing them don't go to you know offices because expecting to get favors because you're a woman and your boss is a is a male or expecting to you know to lure this woman to giving you a promotion or something like that work for it let us be genuine be authentic in getting the right things you know what what we deserve in the right way yeah so all right as we wind up now I have realized myself I know this is the idea that I am good in I am knowing my sexuality I'm living in a healthy sexuality life I have connected to us spiritually money is coming now how do I have a healthy finance management without having to maybe put my money to usury financial but you know money money makes a difference a very good difference oh money is good but as many times we interpret with the way we relate to money is the way it comes to us or it stays money can only stays stay where it is respected so we must be very humble even when it comes you know we only treat it with so much humility it will stay it behaves like a person yeah you you get money and you start you know dishing it out any howly like like myself what I did and it went yeah it happens it happens to so many people and it will stay where it is respected so you need to learn a little bit about how to handle money you know everything is about learning nobody is known knowing I mean is born knowing everything so whatever what any any new skill that you need like managing money managing property you know investing knowing how to invest and and all that you need to learn all these things but if you get it and it's too much and you know you don't even take time to learn then it will just because you've not taken time to learn it you'll just somehow vanish I don't know that's how it is all right niti maybe suri amani kanyenge kubo kubo you find no comments this is your camera maybe like to encourage someone out there as we finish um okay relating to our topic today clarity of purpose it's important that we all find our purpose it's important that we all keep on growing ourselves because when you find your your purpose or when you know why you're here it's inevitable you will start finding happiness you will start growing yourself you know invest in in coaches invest in even learning in yourself if you cannot on your on your own if you cannot afford to you know to afford a coach there are so many ways of learning so it's inevitable it is the only sure way to finding happiness which is the ultimate purpose of life so I would encourage people to just find their purpose their purpose early enough and be clear all right thank you so much Angie for coming and truly we will try and get to learn something and realizing who we are we were speaking about our clarity of purpose having known what you want and knowing where you're heading to it's good to keep on learning we will never stop learning thank you so much and back home thank you so much for keeping us company she has been my guest Angelin Zilani she's a life coach and my name is Dereva Hilei I was sitting in for Patricia Murioki I will be seeing you again on Monday and next week keep it Y254 enjoy the rest of our programming good night and goodbye