 Welcome back to the 21 convention 2019 of Warsaw, Poland. Our next speaker is a returning speaker to the 21 convention stage, first taking it 2018 and recently the Patriarch Edition in Orlando, Florida. He likes his coffee black and he's a retired heavyweight boxer and a fucking badass. Without further ado, please let me welcome back to the 21 convention stage, Ed Latimore! Man, good morning, good morning, good morning everyone. I'm gonna start this one out a little light because it's a bit of a heavy topic we're gonna talk about here. And starting out light, I chose that image off of something, you know, I think I just googled red pill, right? And I got the image and I just noticed when I was pulling up the image and getting it ready that the pill inside of the, the stuff inside of the pill are shaped like hearts. And that just tickled me for some reason. I just, I didn't notice it before. So what I want to talk about today though is this whole idea of red pill knowledge saving lives and keeping gods alive. And the original idea came from the same we used to have back home. And I guess to say used to have is incorrect, we still say it. And that's game saves lives. And the whole idea was that when you look at guys who are doing all types of crazy shit, like running people with vans or shooting up places, we go, man, if they were only getting laid, they only had a better understanding of the world and went, man, they wouldn't really be interested in doing that. You know, they'd be too busy getting laid, but instead they're not and they're angry and they go do stuff. Well, while I had that idea, and I said, that's a really good topic to speak about at the convention. And then it got really heavy for me because I started doing research to, to, you know, confirm or deny some of my ideas and I'll go through that a little more. Some things that I actually pulled out, but a lot I kept in and a lot I found not only reinforced what I thought, but took me down or an even deeper rabbit hole. So, so let's get into it. First, there are some tragedies that I discovered. Number one, divorced men are 2.4 times more likely to commit suicide than married or single men. In other words, you know, I don't think being in a relationship, you know, hopefully being in your relationship is happy, but I don't think being in a relationship is any more or less a protective from suicidal thoughts, but certainly getting your heart broken makes it way more likely that you want to end your life and leave this planet. And I put Mary, I put the slash for single and the original style I looked up, it had Mary, but I just figured if you're with somebody for four or five years and you break up with them, your heart's not going to know the difference. I mean, yet there's going to be the legal ramifications and everything for separating the marriage, but in a relationship, that's still a sting and that's still heavy, but that's not the worst part. The worst thing is what I discovered next. Divorcemen are non-times more likely to commit suicide than divorced women. And those of us in the know, maybe even in the know, we're not quite sure what that is, but I'm going to break that down though. But what that tells me is that even though the event apparently affects both sexes equally, clearly something is going on that makes it more difficult for men to cope with being broken up with than women. That's just the first order. You know, things go badly, you feel badly. But what about the second or what about what comes after that? Well, 63% of you suicides are from fatherless homes. How the father becomes absent from the home, you know, I would imagine that the smaller percentage, and I even imagine the smaller percentage of God, of fatherless children, you know, the father died, right? But many times it's because he left our divorce or other kind of situations, one or the other. But mostly he left and why the father left is going to tend to what we're going to talk about. And the last thing, 70% of inmates did not grow up with both parents in the home. And I did dig deeper into this and we found, or they found, and I'm reporting, that having just a father in the home is no worse than having a mother and a father in the home. Having just a mother in the home is where we see this. They put this stat and they phrase it this way, so you're not hip to what's really going on. But the issue is, a lot of inmates grow up without a masculine influence in their life. And why is that? Well, what you do or don't do resonates down beyond you. Your failure or your inability to grasp the nature of women and the nature of the red pill is going to lead you to do things like have children that you're not going to be able to stick around with. Not because you don't want to be there, but because the state's going to prevent you when it, if it fails, and it fails because you're not prepared for how to deal with these things. But we get into all this a little more. But there are some more tragedies. These are the big ones we hear about. Guys like Elliot Roger, if you don't know Elliot Roger, he's a guy over in Santa Cruz, California, who decided that he couldn't stand out of Chad's and Stacey's getting laid while he was living his miserable life. So he went and killed six, injured 12, and killed himself. Have no choice but to exact revenge on a society that denies sex and love. Scott Barrow, down in Virginia, I believe, walks into a yoga studio, kills two, injures three, and commits suicide. Here's a guy with a history of sexual misconducts and arrests. Issues relating to women and figuring out why don't they like me, right? No one is saying they should like him, but he can't even understand why and refuses to. Chris Harper Mercer, the Oregon Community College shooter, nine killed, eight injured, commits suicide. What's he say? Here I am, 26, no friends, no job, no girlfriend. These are quotes taken from the manifestos or the writings they leave behind on social media right before they go out and do the deed. I didn't even know about this guy. This is the biggest one, one of the bigger ones. Mark Lapine in Montreal, 14 killed, suicide. What's he say? You're all a bunch of feminists. I hate feminists. Now, we rag on feminists a lot, but no one ever calls for the murder of feminists. And it's not like he was able to, and this was in 1989, by the way. It's not like he was able to go out and had these, these superglasses on and said, you're a feminist and you're not. No, he just targeted women. He suspected were against he and his ideology or his existence as a mammal. George Sardini. George Sardini was really interesting to me when I looked into this guy. Because here's a guy when you look at George and I didn't put his picture up. George is a good looking guy. I believe he was, uh, he was a high income, he definitely had a high income. I want to say doctor, but that doesn't seem right in my memory. But George Sardini, uh, also I'm from Pittsburgh. That's where this happened. Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania and the United States walks into an LA fitness at random. Then they're not even where the girl is that he was interested in or felt rejected by who he just went out on a date with, uh, believe the week before kills three and commit suicide taken directly from his writings. Women just don't like me. There are 30 million desirable women in the U S my estimate. He actually wrote that. I cannot find one, but the worst. Alec Manassium, 10 dead, 16 injured. He drives a van up in the road in Canada. The incel rebellion has again, we were through all the Chad and Stacey's all hell. The supreme gentleman, Elliott Roger, the guy I referenced in the first slot. Nicholas Cruz, 17 days, 17 injured. This is the Parkland shooter obsession with a girl who rebuffed him and intensified up into the final days where advances a pushback during the day of shooting. So I've written, did a lot of research into his, the shooting and discovered that the timeline of the shooting, there was a girl that was his interest. And he was chasing, chasing, chasing until the day of he actually texted her and she was like, get out of here. You're weird. And he was a weird guy. No one's saying that the only reason these guys do these things is because of the failures of women, but they all have that in common. And there's, in all of these, and I actually took out a guy. You guys, you're as Europeans, probably familiar with him. This is Slot originally had three names on her. Alex Manassi and Nicholas Cruz and Anders Lovitz, the guy who flew a plane into a mountainside because, you know, and they, they blamed it. When I first did the research, they were saying, okay, he just went through a breakup. He bought his girl an Audi and she, she divorced or not even divorced. I think they were engaged. She dropped him. And I did a little more research and finds out the guy was just sick. I mean, it just so happens that event happens. So I didn't think that would be fair to include, but I want to highlight that to show you that I'm not just choosing these guys around them who happen to have a, a difficulty in romance or difficulty except in the nature of women and adapting to it. I'm choosing these guys because that seems to be a significant motivator and more importantly, and I couldn't find much on the other guys, but more importantly, it was a, Nicholas Cruz was the subject of an article that came out a little while ago where they talked about 26 of the, the 27 deadliest shootings in the United States have been by guys who didn't have fathers in the home. Now that's since been edited that research shows. It was more like 19 or 20, not 26 of 27, but that's still significant. We're still seeing that an inability for men to form connections with women. What did I say at the beginning? Not just the first order with these guys do with the second order with their offspring do is an effect. Now what's the problem here? Few role models from masculinity in the media guys don't turn on the television and see an idea of a stronger man or a man that's capable. I think the biggest show or one of the bigger shows right now in the United States and perhaps over here is modern family. What we are, our portrayal of what a man is in that show, a man who leads his family, no less is not something that I personally would consider to be a strong male role model. And I know if I think that and I'm from a single mother home, then I know that many guys must feel the same way. Perhaps they don't articulate it as such, but they know that what they're looking at is not something that strongly reflects what they will naturally want to become. Few male role models from masculinity in the home because so many of these kids are growing up without the father in the home. Now why the father is not in the home is you know, the state is one aspect of it absolutely, but the other aspect of it are guys making terrible choices with women coming from single mother homes themselves. They never figure out a bond and relationships themselves and as a result, the relationship they do have, you know, they get together, they procreate and then they depart and these kids are left without anything in the house to show or and this I don't know if I would say this is worse, but it certainly approaches the same issue is the guy who is in the home has been completely emasculated. He has no control. He has no agency. These kids don't respect them kind of like I mean, we see the soy boys have a soy boy with kids and that can't be good for society and we can see that femme centric society. A few weeks ago, my girlfriend brought up this article to me about how more children today are being diagnosed with ADHD than ever in history and my first stop, my very first thought, this is how you know you've been too woke, right? You've been in this ship for too long. My first thought was does it break the stat down by boys and girls? It didn't. So I went and did my own research and I found out, you know, see in the next slide what I found out in terms of the ADHD diagnosis, but we're treating young boys as defective girls as they say. Boys are between four or five times more likely or four or five times more represented in the ADHD diagnosis than young women, than girls. So God's clearly either there's something completely wrong with all the boys and we're all defective, right? Or there's something wrong with how we're going about approaching men, approaching would be men is they grow and develop. Our worst are focused on and vilified and our best are ignored and marginalized. Back in the United States, they made a really big deal. I mean, you know, first of all, everyone is familiar with the Me Too movement and how that got started was everyone coming forward against Harvey Weinstein and his treatment of actresses and, you know, forget the ones that got the role for doing that, which focus on the ones that felt vilified all of a sudden and they took them down and I was good and then that led to them going after Kevin Spacey, which turns out he was like the gay equivalent of Harvey Weinstein and God's were being harassed. So crazy thing, right? In response to that though, they look in other fields and see where this is happening or why it's not happening and we discover that Mike Pence. He is he's got this rule and his rule is that he will not have any type of dinner meeting whatsoever. What a what a what a woman by herself. There's got to be someone else there always. It ain't just going to be a one-on-one and he says he does that to protect his marriage and because and to protect his rep. You know, he's he's involved. They are a vice president, right? And you would think that that would be greeted with applause, but it was not. He was criticized for that. So how we suppose the how women suppose to make advances, you know? Well, our job our job is men is to create these safe environments and we attempt to do that, right? Because because what does Mike Pence done? All he's done is look at human nature and go. Okay, I can't change people and I might do some off the wall shit. So let me just put myself in a position to I can't do any off the wall shit and and not only do they kill him for that in the media. A recent survey just came out that said 60% of male managers are now afraid to have any type of one-on-one meeting with their female subordinates. And the first thought of course is what would you expect? These there's a fucking witch hunt man guys ain't trying to get strung up, right? But what was more entertaining to me is that rather than look at these guys as a model of what to do, right? Is a way to kind of deal with the problem. They go, well, that's awful. How are women ever supposed to get any type of promotion or any kind of raise? You're not going to meet with them. So we take these guys who are supposed to be making strides and really responding to things the best they can. And we ignore them and we marginalize them and we are even worse. We criticize and go after them. And the worst of what we focus on and when you know the worst people in the group, they're the ones that are magnified. Their message is the one we hear the most. They get the most attention. That's unfortunate. That's human nature, right? Here's some examples. Mothers receive primary custody, 68 to 88% of the time. Fathers receive primary custody 8 to 14% of time and equivalent residential custody is awarded. And only 2 to 6% of cases. This blew my mind. I wasn't aware of this. Like I said, you know, this putting together this presentation was very enlightening for me because I just followed the facts. And if I saw something, I went and followed more facts. So what we see here is obviously and very clearly the state is favoring putting boys in a situation. Our children, not just boys because there's effects on the daughters to them. But we'll get into that in a situation where they're going to be raised with a mother as the primary figure they see where we're moving those masculine role models. Males are generally more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD than females with male to female ratio of approximately 4 to 1 and community samples. I remember my original research. It was a little closer to 5 to 1, but then they they played with some wording and got it down to 4 to 1. But the point is overwhelmingly clear that they're looking at young boys as something wrong, not something right. Otherwise we would expect to see it like more closer to 1 to 1. Lastly, you know, putting together PowerPoint reason tages is fine. You know why? Because you got to find pictures that fit. Right? The picture I wanted to use for that. She didn't look so happy. It was that picture from the Houston floods and that soldier is carrying the girl. He's not even a soldier. He looks like an ex-soldier. He's just that Jack the masculine came that woman and her baby. I wanted to use that and it was flooding. But it didn't fit right and I found a few aspects and it didn't work. But this one is hearing it and it makes the point that I'm trying to make, which is toxic masculinity has no female counterpart and is grouped with masculinity in general. If you doubt this, go ahead and mention something about masculinity on social media and see how you are vilified and how it quickly turns into toxic masculinity. That adjective is just going to sneak up. You know, there's not only are you not allowed to separate the two, but try and bring up a conversation about toxic femininity and see what happened. You will find that that should apparently there's like Santa Claus and the leprechaun had a baby and he was the twin of the Easter bunny like he doesn't exist. But talk to masculinity is real a lot. So we got these examples. What's the solution? I don't want to just bring you down. The solution is for you to understand red pill and we're all here because we've we've taken it or we want to take it and we're in various stages of taking it and before going any further. I just want to preface what I believe and think about red pill stuff in general along what I wrote formally. Yeah, so red pill is just an understanding of the true nature of intersexual dynamics. That's it, right? What you do with that information is up to you. I don't care if you go make towel if you decide to enjoy the decline or have a traditional family and raise the fight it, but you do these things from a position of understanding the true nature. You're not buying in to a society tells you women should be like and what men should be like. You understand that there is a very real nature. One of my favorite quotes is from patrice O'Neill when he's talking about men and women working together and patrice man. I don't know how patrice be received today if he was still off. Things become come rough, but he said he says something hilarious. He goes, you know, men and women working together is like having a grizzly bear work with a piece of salmon dipped in honey and expecting a grizzly bear to just be cool the whole time. Now, you know, clearly that's taken to an extreme for comedic effect, but the point of that statement is that we have a nature and just because society has changed doesn't mean that all of a sudden our biology is going to just go right along with it hop and step. Maybe it never catches up. Maybe it catches up 100 years from now. What we know is right now the way we are. We are not any different than what we were at the core. We've certainly, you know, we're more accountable for our actions and I think there's a greater movement for us to be be good people and no one at least I'm not advocating for you to go out there and be an asshole and be grabbing asses and all that kind of stuff. But there's a certain truth to human nature and a certain truth to intersexual dynamics and when you deny that you get in all kinds of problems. That's all and our solution though. I remember that though and we get to the solution we'll come back to that solution. We've got to accept that no one's coming to save us and this means that we have to save ourselves. I think the hardest thing for many of us to really take in is that and then my speech before kind of focused on this when I spoke on a stage or a stage like this in an event like this in a different country was that we have to accept that just because we know a thing and we may even be surrounded by the people who know the same thing that society at large is not going to change and believe something and act on those beliefs because we do our job is simply to find the like tribe and get with that tribe and then bring up and live our lives that way. If someone doesn't agree, you know, look man, you either get on my page or pick up a different book. That's all it's got to be. If they aren't with that, then you are not going to be able to go along with them. Well, and how you decide how you deal with that whether you just shut up or you go, all right, man, we're out is up to you, but you got to understand not only is no one going to save you, you can't save other people and you can't expect people to understand your perspective because you see the truth. The truth has no wild eyes. But looking at those who have already fallen, we can figure out how to avoid a similar fate. You watch you look and you see what happens, man. I am. I look at that whole thing with Mike Pence and this really bugged me for a long time. It happened because it echoed something else that I had experienced. I watched a friend of mine post on Facebook about I guess a few years ago, these nerds figured out a nail polish that a girl could use and she could dip on a drink and if the drink had been roofied, the nail polish would change color. I thought it was brilliant personally. Right. I don't know anyone. I mean, I'm sure I'm sure you don't guys don't know anyone either. Right. They have used roofies, but in case those roofies happen, there is a way to stop it and we were going to be okay. Right. Date rate was going to come to a screeching hole and it was going to be good for everyone. But how was it received? The buddy, you know, she freaks out a friend of mine on the Internet. She goes, oh my God, I can't believe this is the thing. We should be locking these guys up, whatever. And and a rational friend of mine responded rationally. He says, so are you saying that because we can't stop all of it, we can't stop any of it. And she blocked them, right? Cut him out of life. All he did was, you know, she she's saying, you know, I want to live in a world where we don't need this nail polish. I think that was her exact wording and all he goes away. It's saying because we can't stop all of it, we shouldn't stop any of it and she decided that this guy had to go. What is that lesson for us? The same lesson we take from Pence. Is it? When you bring the truth to people, you got to be ready for the consequences. And it's unfortunate that we have to put those two words in the same sentence, truth and consequences. But that is the burden of knowledge that you carry when you when you know how things really work. And you have to look around and decide, okay, do I want to really be about this life? Do I really want to open my eyes? Do I want to try and open other people's eyes? Look and see who fell before you see if it's worth it. Above all things, you must accept the truth about society, our place in it and what must be done. You have to keep on keeping up the good fight. You know, I think about that scene in the Matrix and the Matrix rated, you know, it gives us the red pill analogy and it's a great kung fu movie to many people. But to a lot of us, I think a lot of people in this room anyhow, there's some really great philosophical points made, albeit packaged in a bright Hollywood kind of kind of rapping. But one of my favorite scenes is when he's trying to when the one guy can't remember his name right now, but when the one guy is trying to get back into the Matrix and he goes, look, man, I know this steak tastes is not real, but I want to get back to have him real steak again, man, I want to I want to get back to the illusion. I want to get back to the bullshit. I want to go back in the Matrix. And I'm tired of this. This realness is it's too much for me. Well, the unfortunate thing is you don't really get to make that choice. And that was the whole point of that scene is like, once you wake up, man, you can't go back to sleep. And and I think that once you know how things really work, you automatically have a responsibility to do something about it for yourself in your life. And that's all you can do, right? You can't really change someone else's life. You might want to. They're not going to listen. Not only they're not going to listen, they're going to hate you. Just so you got to decide if you if you want to go for that that fate down that road and you know what you got to do. So what are some things we got to do? Right? We got to swallow the pill completely. What's the red pill? You know, understanding of intersexual dynamics in spite with society we may have you believe in. We're upon understanding is like teaching slaves how to read. It was forbidden because it gave them a means to be free. We've heard a few speakers up here already talk about what happens when you have agency? What happens when you're free? What happens when it's hard to control you? When you stop believing that you a cage tiger and you remember what you really are. Man, you really a beast. Cat Williams how to first of all I hope you guys are fans of comedians and not these new comedians. I tried to watch what the hell is his name? Trevor Noah the other day. I tried to watch him and all I can see was agenda, agenda, agenda, agenda, agenda, agenda narrative, agenda, agenda, right? I just I couldn't laugh, right? I like the old shit man with guys were not afraid to offend and one of my favorite old-time guys before he lost his mom on crack was Cat Williams. Cat Williams has got this great bit where he's talking about a few years ago some some guy fell into a tiger cage, right? And the tiger fucked him up man, that's that's what they do, right? But he's like, you know, God falls on a tiger cage and the tigers look up and they look at him and go man, I feel like I should do something here. I'm not sure. I'm getting hungry. I want to go bite him. Is this what tigers are supposed to do? I mean, I know I'm a target but I don't I don't really feel like a target. Right? That's what happens when you start understanding what's going on. You're going to look around and you're going to feel like you're going to okay. They tell me I'm fucked up because I like 20 year old girls and I'm and I'm 35. That doesn't seem right. But you know what? I'm I'm going to try and go along with that. Now I can't do that. Right? Or when you are when you go you go the other way and I go, you know, I don't I don't like fat women, right? Big and beautiful is ridiculous thing. And they try and convince you that no, beauty is a social construct. What is wrong with you? I can tell you, you know, you only like slim women because society told you to and you go man, that doesn't doesn't seem quite right. But you know what? I don't know any better. So fuck it. Well, this is what happens when you take the red pill. You know better. You know better and more importantly, you surround yourself with people who are not going to vilify you for being who you are. And that's really important because as we saw in that slide about ADHD, we're treating men, young men, boys, we're treating boys before they become men as something else. We're trying to turn them in to girls and trying to make them less than what they are. And that's just one symbol or one part of a bigger problem, which is us not being aware of just what we are, you know. So I title this speech red pill saves lives because our confusion causes desperation or desperation leads to tragedies of both co-mission and omission. And what do I mean by that? We do things and we let things happen. We commit atrocities and we allow them to happen. We commit offenses and we let trespasses happen against us because we don't know any better. Not only do we think that it's better to be soft and sensitive and always talk about our feelings and a moat, moat, moat, moat. We also ignore the red flags because we're told that that bull ring in her nose is just her being expressive. That doesn't mean anything. Right? Who cares? How? Who cares? How many Godfriends she's got like in her wall? I'm just going to ignore that. Right? So we commit things. We commit offenses against our own sensibilities and we also allow things to happen that we know better. We know is not real. So this is the first solution to this. What are we going to do? That's not me, by the way. I know he's black. That's not me. If you build it, they will come. I almost spelled that with C-U-M. That's just where I was at. And then I was like, you know what, this is going to end up on YouTube one day and I want the channel to be good. So let me, let me, but C-O-M-E is how I ended up spelling it. And now the first thing you got to do if you're going to take this and use it to save your life or save someone's life in the future, is you got to remember to all start with you. You got to understand what women actually find attractive to make yourself that guy. If you ever, if any of you guys get a chance to check out Elliot Rogers Manifesto or at least not the whole thing. That's, that's a lie. I didn't even read the damn thing. But I did watch the video he put on, on YouTube. It took a little while to find it because they, they trying to race that shit for no reason. But one of the things that stood out to me about this guy, I'm not a bad-looking guy at all, right? He actually shoots the video and a BMW, man. So he's paid. Not bad-looking. Got a little money. But he can't figure out why no one likes him. He doesn't understand what makes him attractive. He has bought into this idea that I mean, he, he himself doesn't think he's that good-looking. I mean, no homie, he's not a bad-looking guy. Dang, he's not a model, but he, he's not going to be opposing people. You don't need a bag over say, he's all right, right? But, but he's bought into this idea that because he's always given compliments and he's got this car and he's got these connections that the women should be throwing themselves at him. That's not how it works. Everyone, you know, we, we know that that shit, Kanda helps, right? Kanda, I mean, anybody who's ever been poor knows you don't need money to do anything. But when you understand what really makes you attractive, then you can build yourself into an attractive man. Otherwise, you might end up in a position where you attract a woman. Imagine if he does get a girl with that BMW, right? And she's a, you know, gold digger-ish. I mean, it's only BMW. I don't say that, that cocky, but it's, you know, it's cars that cost more money. Point is, imagine if that works and then he has a kid with her. But eventually, you know, he can't keep with the payments, X, Y, Z, whatever happens in a divorce. Now we've got a kid in a home because 68 to 88% of the time that kid's going to be given to the mother. So now he's got a fatherless home and we already see statistically, what's more, what's most likely to happen than I got. Well, that's not the other way around, but when we look at the inmates, 70% of them don't have fathers in a home. 63% of those kids who commit suicide don't have fathers in a home. So one way or the other, because he doesn't have an understanding of women, he's either going to ruin his life or the life of people down the road that he produces. It just turns out that he ruined his life and a few people at that moment. Make sure your money is right. You should never be in a position of financial desperation. I know I just said that thing about the the BMW not being, you know, worth much as a tool for attractive women or to attract with just that would be foolish. And that is still foolish. With that said, part of financial responsibility are making money. Forces you to interact with the world in a certain way. It forces you to become about something more than women. I mean, because with the exception of my man, Steve and the jiggler game when other guys like him, most of us are not going to make money from chasing women. That's not how it works. We're going to lose a lot of money doing it. We're going to lose a lot of time doing it, which means we're not going to make a lot of money. But we're going to put so much of our energy into that that we don't become anything worth standing on our own. We're not going to become a God that's attractive and any girl we do get is only going to be around for a short while. And look, guys are a little more resilient than women, but I think one of the reasons why we have that suicide stats show up where guys are nine times more likely than a than a divorced woman to commit suicide. It's we're not the reality is we're not emotionally resilient, not the way they are. They have networks. They're naturally more communicative. We're not that way. A guy is much more likely to go sit in the room with a bottle of Jack and some porn than he is. The call is boys up and go or the woman is the caller girl going to go. Okay, I got to talk about this. We got issues, right? So she feels better. So you got to be aware that you got to put yourself in a position. I'm going to talk about that a little more, but but putting yourself in a place where your money is right, means you would likely put the rest of your life right as well. Have a mission to force you to develop in the physical world. I had an argument with a kid. And it's weird, man, because I'm calling people who are 22 kids. I'm not I'm not that old. I'm just Oh, I think old enough to do that, right? I've earned that been on this planet long enough and I'm not dead. But he was talking about how he couldn't get women and no girls like them and we were going back and forth and I'm offering him the best I can but I've said repeated me and I've been in relationship for six years, man. I'm not. I'm not in the streets like that anymore. But one of the things that kept coming up though was hobbies. I wanted him to join the UFC gym and take a fight. I wasn't saying he should he was going win the fight. I thought he actually was probably going to get his ass kicked pretty bad. But I thought he should train and do it because the training of itself is going to force him to be a certain way and develop certain habits and get out there and not be afraid and not be a weirdo who's just chasing girls like really become about life because when he was going at that point town was just smoking weed and playing video games and that's the point of this conversation. When I brought this up to him that he should achieve Excellency and something or make progress and something. His response to me was I put a lot of energy into these video games. I'm trying to become a competitive gamer. And and I'm on you know, look anybody who's interacted with me on lawn knows if I'm wrong I'll tell somebody I'm wrong right. I have no issue going you know what? You made a good effort point. My bad and I almost conceded to that and I said why is this bug me? Why is the progress that he makes in the video game not equivalent to progress you make you know learning an instrument or learning a new language or becoming a fighter or something and it hit me and it hit me after the last 21 con I was talking to Tanner Guzzy about something. He says you know we got this confusion between value and efficiency. The kids think because they're efficient they're valuable right that because they have figured out a way to make a little money by taking one resource and putting it here with another one are memorizing patterns in a video game that they have added value to the world and reality is know that they have and they have just taken advantage of systems that already exists and kind of placed themselves there they sit there and just over and over again it's like it's like if you read a book if you read the Bible enough times you you'd memorize most of it 80 90% accuracy you'd get to the next level of Bible whatever that that level is and the same thing happens with video games I think and it hit me like you're not developing you like like you don't suffer there's no penalty for you making a mistake there's nothing to develop you as a man and we are developed through through hardship we're developed through failures we're developed to that that sting man like you know you you lose a level you lose a battle and and I don't I don't even know the video games anymore man I'm so out of it but if you get shot in your video game it's not getting shot in real life right it's not the same at least getting punched you don't feel anything you don't learn anything you don't become a better person you just learn okay let me not make this move so I don't get hit and it's not really learning as in feedback it's learning as in efficiency so your mission has got to force you to develop in a physical world whatever your mission is I'm not here to tell you exactly what that mission is going to be but I'm telling you that that needs to be something that puts you out there and makes you interact with other people that matter what it is you don't have to change the world you don't have to make a lot of money but you need to be interacting with humans there needs to be a real feedback mechanism that forces you to encounter things that gives you things like anxiety right I can't imagine look I'm not saying anxiety never existed I'm just saying that it was probably a lot less of it when it was a lot less internet when it was a lot less social media because people didn't have time to you know let it affect them they had to get out there and face in a matter of what you got to have a way to the screen the one minute coming to your life I remember I think I think I think I think this was Chateau Harteast who said this back in the day a.k.a. Royce for you those you who are who are from the old school this shit but uh he said that picking up women was one part of the game but the other part the part that no one talks about is screening them knowing when to fold them getting good cards is one thing knowing when to let them go right you can be holding queens but but if you feel like they're beat by month forget it's got two three four five you got to you got to put them down man and a lot of guys can do that that screen that discipline but you got to have a way to do that otherwise you're going to situation where you procured with a woman where it's almost certain that you're not going to stay with her where she's almost certainly going to break your heart in such a tragic way that you consider taking buckshot mouthwash and it's not going to be a good thing right while begun is have done starting the right way is eighty percent of the battle if you all you had was a list of things you wouldn't accept a lot of guys have this but I have a list right people have a list they go I want I want them to be six feet tall I want her to to be a certain body weight and I want them to make this much money I want her to have her hair be this long all that shit's good well it's all once once once what about what you don't want that's what's going to cause you the most issue in the long run is the thing that you end up the land mongering of step on it you didn't see I mean you can you can say you want to be to the other side of the war zone but the thing is going to stop you a shit you didn't see so you didn't expect dodge bullets the landmines you step on if you're not ready you're not looking those was going to blow you up so you have to know what you want in a person you have to know importantly know what you don't want and how to look for it because all signs means something your job is just to figure out what you want what you can tolerate and select accordingly I just use myself as an example one of my favorite scenes about women how true this is you know there's some truism isn't in it right that you can have one you can have two of three things right you can have extreme beauty kind of extreme intelligence you can have extreme emotional stability pick two you're not getting all three society does not put society is not designed most women that way right so you got to pick to I decided a very long time ago not oh yeah long enough at this point right after some some pretty bad experiences that emotional stability was non-negotiable and intelligence was non-negotiable I said look if it comes down to it in between a five or a stable five right and a and a crazy eight meh right I kind of know I'm going to lean that's me whatever whatever is for you is what it is for you and once you know what that is you have to know how to look for that I knew look I I knew like my girl was a keeper when she drove down to see me at at a I T advanced individual training after basic training in the military when she drove down to see me and for our date we went to the science museum and the Holocaust Museum I said okay there's a girl who likes learning she good right and I kind of knew we were on the same page after uh our first real like fight and she ain't losing my she ain't slamming shit around me she still did a girl thing you know I ain't talking to you which is like a punishment right but but I wasn't all kinds of bullshit right I wasn't suddenly a bunch of names there wasn't suddenly a bunch of people she she did I used to date a girl we argued when she'd go get in her phone and she was texting God's complain I'm like it's crazy right but you got to figure out what you can handle for some dudes is going to be looking at I don't care how crazy she is that ass got to be right I ain't saying it's my thing I'm but once that's your thing and that means what are you going to select for you're going to look for how does she eat how does she drink right if you want to look see how smart she is you look at her hobbies see what that is emotional stability how many tattoos she got she got that stupid ass boring in her nose stuff like that right you have to look at these things and don't be afraid to have those those standards man like like I'll I'll never forget one day I was on a date this is right before I met the current woman and I was on a date and and I don't remember what she said exactly Oh I found out that she was like heavy into like club promotion conda and I said this is this ain't going to work and I we had already been on two dates and I just got up and left and I was very liberating but it was at that point we're really we're really made sense to me I was like okay that was a sign that I had put together signs my entire life and I said that was a sign this is a girl who's going to be in the club that ain't for me it's not what I'm looking for that's just in this right now I think a lot of men would go okay this means it's got to be quickly to get out like the special forces man like nah man because that was too much Tom wasting you for me to even bother being there you know you got to lead yourself everything is an extent you know I work for myself but I read a lot of stuff on leadership because I really believe the leadership is is the most important thing and more importantly leadership is about directing yourself and your energies and your desires and going you know what I don't care what you want you want you want you want we all have to focus on this goal and all of those you you use are different desires different objectives you know look man I'm like any other guy I just want to I mean I can't I love vanilla ice cream I love it especially with the waffle cone and the sprinkles best I can't eat that shit every day though it's just not going to happen I'll end up you know I'll end up out of shape I love sitting around and I love some some Netflix man I'm not going to lie I rag on Netflix on the internet but that's because I know how powerful it is because I just want to sit around and watch series but I know I can't do that because one I'm going to be setting a bad example for my girl two more importantly I'm not going to eat I'm not going to make any money so I have to leave myself and I have to know what's wrong and or rather what's wrong with with me where my deficiencies are and then once I successfully navigate my deficiencies then I can be like look here woman get in the gym because I'm in the gym stay on your purpose because I'm my purpose because I can't I I'm a big believer in this I cannot have someone else do something if I'm not doing it myself it's not going to happen at least someone of my steed are under my protection as we say right and never be afraid to walk period I do this I do this about every two months it's up to six now it used to be like every two months but I go okay I look I go girlfriend hoes right and I put them on a scale and the girlfriend has been there's been like this for the past seven years right and as any better stay like this look I got no problem with a shift in this way because I'm never afraid to walk when you're never afraid to walk you always are going to look at things the right way there's nothing wrong with being in love man don't don't listen to that bullshit it is like bait or something let yourself fall in love let yourself feel good man lose yourself for the woman but don't ever lose yourself respect don't ever lose your dignity because you want to hold on to a good feeling because you don't want to have things being comfortable never be afraid to walk when you when you always know that you can get the hell out it keeps everyone honest it keeps you honest it keeps her honest people keep harassing me man when you go put a ring when it's been seven years I'm like man after like 10 I mean I think she earned a marriage at that point right and they look at me like what what is wrong with you well things are going to be things are going well so far things are going well so far because I've put myself in a position where I know that I can leave when I want to and that means she's got to stay on point but that also means she can leave when she wants to so I got to stay on point so everyone stays on point this way and you got to be a heartbreak proof of life of things don't go well all men need a way to coat with a heart egg I don't care who you are I don't care how tough you are and preferably not alcohol I'm six years in five and a half years in and being sober please don't clap people clap every time I say that thank you for not clapping five years I had five and a half years in on so broadie one of the things that took me to that point where I was like I got an issue is because my way to deal with with everything rejection in particular was to just drown it in a bottle right but my way to celebrate to my dates on a bottle it was just too much alcohol the point of me bringing this up is that whatever your way is to cope please don't let it please not something destructive I think this also contributes what I was saying earlier in the speech to why men are so much more likely to commit suicide than the women we don't have ways to cope and and guys are all more likely to become that dude you know we all got that guy you got a new girl and he disappears he cuts off his support system and you don't want to cut that support system off build a heartbreak prove life this starts by making sure there's a relationship is never your number one priority I put this in here before I saw something online right and and and I have to preface what I'm you know this this slide now because what should be obvious isn't obvious or maybe it's only obvious to me when I say your relationship should never be your number one priority this is a probabilistic statement not a deterministic one what I mean is that there are exceptions to that for example if you've been with somebody for eight years and all of a sudden she's sick as hell yeah you probably should make sure she all right you she can get you sick eight years and you guys you know kids together whatever yeah then it's important then it's number one then everything else will stop because this is a person that's put their loyalty down and showing you down for the cause so now it's right to do the same now if you were somebody six months and you ain't doing shit but then I did one of the reasons I started boxing by the way this is a side note on boxing is because for four years I was with somebody and all I did every day at every job I took the reason one of the reasons I didn't finish going back to school was because I was trying to make sure I seen her every single day she was talking about going away for school it terrified me as a man I wanted to make because my relationship was my number one priority so I wasn't progressing in life and it was only two years in and I do say only I do believe that right you got to put the arms in real time it was only two years in the idea though make sure you wear this never never your number one priority so that way you have other things to follow if it fails so you don't think it's a good idea to grab a gun and grab a bottle there's nothing wrong with being a little bitch if it's cathartic man there ain't nothing wrong with crying I ain't telling you to cry all the time I ain't saying you should cry most things I'm not telling you to cry in public but if you got to cry man for excuse yourself put yourself someplace where you got to let the tears flow because look man that energy is going to come out somehow some way and it's better that you have control over it than to have it over overwhelm you one day man people are never going to forget the time my cry like a little I was 22 22 I still get people I'm 34 that's 12 years ago cry like a little bitch man I was drunk in the middle of a party girl had just dumped me I was crying man well I don't even remember it I mean I saw pictures of it but people had little phones out and shit like I remember it but like I don't remember it but I've seen it but what had happened and and while I obviously needed to cry man I can't share the hell that shit handed it like a soldier I shouldn't have been drinking so much to deal with it but these are less since you learn you got to have a heartbreak proof life the coldest shower you'll ever take and see how quickly a woman gets over you man y'all life because I know it's true and you got to deal with that she won't forget you and this is just because that's that whole emotional whatever it is man I don't know the exact science but I know there is a difference I don't need to be an electrical engineer to flick the light switch anymore than I need to be a neuroscientist to understand and realize that there is a difference between the way men and women love and one of the advantages they have is they can pop on and not just physically not just get under somebody to get over them but like legit being love with a new mother fucker while you still looking around wondering where the furniture went and when you accept that then it's not going to surprise you it's not going to put you in a position where you think the world is a terrible place and we're still pretty terrible but what we say in boxing the punch that puts you down is the one you don't see when you know this is coming it's a lot different than you've learned in the first time in the hard way and you just go what happened man we just I just gave her a dollar ring she's supposed to love me spent about three months salary I don't know where that came from three months salary man and lastly don't forget man this is the most important thing you know what you do now prepares you for things you can't predict and sets emotion things you'll never see you create your future and someone else's you'll never meet by your actions or in actions in the present so I brought up the stats about the children because I believe a lot of that is preventable but only if a God takes responsibility for himself swallows a few hard bitter taste in red pills and go I got to do this the right way otherwise what's going to happen my children are going to suffer I'm going to suffer people who depend on me who are not even my children are going to suffer all because I had a a notion of how things should go and they didn't go that way all because I thought that I could be me and that was enough and I have to do anything else and it didn't go that way so once you know the truth the truth will set you free but only if you do something with it that's it for me you have time for two questions for Ed two three hey questions those are always nice yeah I agree with almost everything that you said it was fantastic just question back to the slide where you said that don't be afraid to love and but at the same time don't be afraid to be or have the have the mindset to be able to walk away right so that that sort of reminds me of the movie Heat when Robert Marrow said don't get attached to anything you can't walk away in 30 seconds all right I mean that sounds very sounds like very good advice but is it actually practical and feasible? is it practical? okay so so it is great advice and I love that scene of Heat by the way as far as how to execute it and implement it the practicality only becomes an issue when you have like children or something right where you have now you have people who depend on you who didn't ask to be here you brought them here so now they're kind of your responsibility right but if you know if you've been with somebody and y'all have no ties together yes you should I'm not saying it is easy but all the important difficult things in life that are going to give you the greatest return on investment they are not easy yeah you got to go okay you know you got to compartmentalize on most you go okay I'm in love and I love the hell out of this human but they've crossed the line and now they got to go think of it this way I don't care how much you love your woman you come home and you know some man dangle raw dog in on the bed what are you going to do you gonna be like ah you know I love her ah shit let me just put her face in it and she'll learn from it like a dog or something like no you got to leave man and it's the same thing now now what I hope is that you have standards to the point where it doesn't get to that point right where you're willing to walk before that and you got to know what that is going to be for you I can't tell you what your standards are going to be I know some hardcore G's they're like look man she can't even have social media let me catch her Instagram I'm a straight killer and other guys are like alright man she got one male friend as long as he ain't as long as he gay or something right who knows right point is whatever your standard is whatever your standard is but if you don't have a way if you're not willing to go okay ugh this is gonna hurt but I gotta rip this bandaid off yeah you gonna get an infection man that's how it goes anymore alright let's give it up for Ed Latimore