 So Tania says I've been dating this guy for a couple months now and I've been dating this guy for a couple months now and now he's asking me to move in with him and I said no I'm not ready for that kind of mood, a move. Now he's upset and he told me if I'm not moving in with him we're done and I agree we can just be friends. Was I wrong for not moving in with him? Help me man. No I mean if you're not comfortable with that and you're not ready for that, first off if you're looking for marriage and you know you're not you know and he's like hey move in with me and you're not in some kind of weird situation where you need to move in with him or something like that then my suggestion is that you wait until you have some kind of promise of marriage before you end up moving in with him. Because you know if it's just been a couple months and it's just like you know because basically what's going to end up happening is he's going to end up getting a lot of his needs met that he wants to get met that men normally would only get met if they were married. And so if he's getting those needs met and you're not getting all of your needs met assuming right now that you want marriage which I just had a conversation with some woman the other day about this. She's like well what if I don't want marriage and it's like okay great whatever it doesn't matter right. And I'm not advocating that you should or shouldn't want marriage you know I think whatever you want is fine but if you do want marriage then my suggestion is that you don't get into a situation where he's getting all of his needs met and you're not getting all of yours met. And so I absolutely don't think that it's you're wrong for not wanting to move in with him. I you know I don't I don't think that you should ever just want to move in with a guy just because he wants to wants you to move in with him. And if he's threatening the relationship because you aren't moving in with him that's a huge red flag anyway because he's threatening the relationship. And so you don't want to be with a guy who's ready to throw a relationship away completely because you have a boundary right so you put up a boundary in his reaction is to threaten the entire relationship that's a that's a problem that's a big problem. And so it's good that you know that now and that you know that that's going to be something that you're going to see more of in the future if he wants something and you don't want it. He's going to threaten the relationship and so that's it's good it's good that you know that now. And so I you know I don't know what the rest of your situation looks like but yeah I don't think you're wrong at all.