 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd today We are gonna be talking about how to actually be interested and what the other person is saying because if you know anything about meeting people You know that being interested in what the other person has to say is the fastest way to make yourself more interesting So if you're more interested in your conversations, you're gonna have a lot more success with women Okay, in fact, it's probably gonna solve like 90% of the problems that you have in conversation I know this from coaching a lot of guys that a lot of times that they have problems Actually being interested in what the other person has to say because let's be honest when you're out at a bar's club Social events or party or whatever it is. You're gonna talk to a lot of people about subjects They don't really care about you know, especially that too people have trouble getting it You know enthusiastic to have small talk or to talk about a subject that they're not really interested in Okay, I used to have this problem to you guys like when I used to go out And I would have to talk to a girl about so like her cats or some crazy story that wasn't that crazy at all It was actually just her. I don't know frickin forgetting. She left her keys at home or something like that I'm like, holy cow. How did this story end up being ten minutes long? You know You just like you just want to rip your hair up And so it makes it very difficult if you're not able to get into conversation to actually build some attraction Build some tension build some of those good things that we're talking about here. Okay So in this video basically what I'm going to cover is how to be more interested in what other people have to say before I get Into that I'm going to say if you guys are wondering how to do this or I want to get coached by me One-on-one. I would recommend that you take a look at my form down below Fill it out and if we seem like if you seem sorry like a good fit Then we'll get back to you and then we'll set up some calls and figure that out Okay So the first thing that I'm gonna tell you about how to be more interested in what people have to say is Don't think about the subject so much a lot of times when guys are talking to a girl and they're talking about a subject They don't care about their temptation is to okay If I don't like talking with a subject Maybe I'll change it to a subject that I like okay stop focusing on the subject so much I don't like talking about a lot of things like there are a lot of subjects that I don't really care about I don't give a shit about politics. I just don't you know It doesn't really seem like it's gonna help me out in my life to be arguing who's right Sorry, who's correct a left or right, you know like all those things bore me to tears Okay, but what I do care about when somebody's talking about politics is why they believe what they believe because at the end of the day I'm interested in people. I like learning about why people do the things that they do so when someone's talking about politics I want to know why they think what if they hate Donald Trump or if they really like Donald Trump What about Donald Trump? Do they not like what about Donald Trump is fascinating to them or inspiring to them? Okay, I'm curious about them and actually that is a much better way of handling the conversation as opposed to just treating the topic as something like Well, I have to talk about politics now and I hate talking about politics to especially in these kinds of subjects What tends to happen as well too? As people start getting into Debates they start they have a certain opinion about something and they really want to tell other people about their opinions Look man, I've been going out a long time. I've talked thousands of people maybe tens of that probably way more than that Maybe a million people. I've talked to a lot of people. Okay People do not care at all about your opinions Most of the time you're probably not going to convince anyone of anything especially if you're being obnoxious So I don't try and do that to someone that I just met I never try and convince anyone of anything when I've just met them rather what I do instead is try and understand them Okay, and people are really fascinating. You know what maybe they had a certain They grew up a certain way and so that's what they think what they think or maybe they had a really bad Experience or something like that and that's why they believe what they believe So whatever it is whatever subject you're talking about it can be a lot more fascinating if you focus in the person Telling you about it rather than the subject itself Okay, that's one thing now also to if you're getting if someone's telling a story and it's you know boring you the tears It's not a very good story. How can you make it more interesting for you? Well, the way you can make it more interesting is ask certain questions Okay, and again, I like to focus on the person in these cases I like to focus on you know, why it was so exciting for them like in that example of the story of Some girl who left her keys at home. What about leaving that key was so crazy for her, you know Turns out she actually she left her keys And it made her late to one of the most important meetings that she had that she had to go to for a company She was just really bad at telling the story and so that's why she couldn't she didn't get to the point very quickly But I was able to ask one quick question. We got to the point a lot faster I was able to be more interested in her story because now I know what the whole point of it behind was so ask key questions when people are telling you stories focus on the person that you're talking about rather than the subject itself and Also to share some stuff that you're fascinated in and a lot of times they'll follow suit Okay, if people if you have more of a commanding presence and you have more of an authoritative and like Positive assertive presence in your conversations a lot of times people will follow suit with you And so that tends to happen to me a lot when I'm talking to somebody is they'll just kind of like mirror what I'm saying a Lot of times and tell the same kinds of stories You know make the same kinds of jokes and sometimes they can get a little boring So I like to let people go a little bit But if you get good at handling the conversation a lot of times you can steer it into a direction or into a format or Into like a topic that is a lot more fascinating for you Than that and if you want to know how to do that a lot better I recommend that you check out my how to talk to a girl's playlist. I talk about this a lot I talk about it a lot in my coaching program If you guys have any questions about this, please put them in the comment section below I'll read them. Thanks a lot. You guys good luck