 Welcome again to another NARC survivor line video. This one we're going to be talking about what it means when you have defeated a narcissist and how you know that you have finally and once and for all defeated them because I'm sure it's a question that many of you have. You wonder how do you know when is it finally done when is it finally over and after everything they did to you they came in they manipulated you they lied to you they deceived you they future faked they did all of these things to you they insulted you they put you down they made you feel like you're nothing and all the while they were extracting everything they needed from you and they already had their new source lined up while they were dealing with you at least in most situations they already had someone knew they're ready waiting for when they were ready to get rid of you and then at some point they just got rid of you they discarded you and many of you you wonder why you wonder how did that happen how is that even possible how could they just leave but that's just it that's how you know that you have defeated the narcissist you've defeated them when they don't come back when you don't hear from them anymore when they're gone when they're out of the picture when they stop calling you when they stop messaging you that's how you know that you have defeated the narcissist because up until that point if you remember when they kept coming into your life they were always there they were always using you manipulating you all those times they were playing you for a fool they felt like you're not really on to them you don't really know what they're doing to you what they're trying to achieve so all of that time they stuck around thinking oh yeah I'll just keep milking it out of you I keep getting what I want and you will be none the wiser you won't even see what I'm trying to do it's how they're thinking but then think about it why do they stop why do they discard you why do they walk away of course the reason why is because they know they can't do that anymore they can't get went over on you like they used to so they got to run off and try and find another unsuspecting target because they know they can't pull that with you anymore they can't play those games with you they can't mess you around like they did before and at that point that's how you know you have defeated them when they don't come back especially when they discard you I mean that is a clear sign when you see they just run off they disappear when you see them running away that's how you know that you have defeated them the last thing you want is for them to stick around feeling comfortable around you feeling like they're safe to be in your presence if you've got a narcissist like that around you then they really just think that you're a fool you're easy for them to manipulate and I know many of you can relate I mean just at the back at the beginning of the relationship they were all over you then they were always there it's like you couldn't get rid of them and what was happening at that time if you remember you were being fooled you were being manipulated you were being tricked they pulled the wall over your rise you were under a spell you were in a trance and that's why they were there when you come out from all of that you're no longer under a spell you're no longer in a trance you're no longer susceptible oh now they're nowhere to be found why because now you're not a fool now you're not willing to be their dormant now you've wised up you've got the knowledge the power they don't want to be around you now they want to be around someone who they perceive as stupid naive foolish unaware and intelligent someone who can't see what is happening what is being done to them now that is the kind of person they want to be around someone who can't see the forest for the trees and unfortunately that's what a lot of people are like in this world and you will find that when before you were quite innocent and naive but then when you do begin to become wiser more experienced and more knowledgeable now it's like all of these people who are once manipulating and using you now they want to turn against you or now they just don't want to be around you either way it's because you've defeated them whether they turn against you and they lie they start a spear campaign they try to sabotage your life or they just completely disappear all together either way it's because you have defeated them that is the reason why don't forget to hit the thumbs up button down below if you are finding this message helpful helps the YouTube algorithm let's get this message out there so that other survivors will see it as well and benefit from it please show your support it will only take you two seconds to hit that thumbs up button again many of you the narcissist discards you it's like it gets to a point where they leave you they go off they find someone else and you wonder why it's like you look at yourself you self-loathe you blame yourself you think there's something wrong with you you're not good enough or the new person they're with they're better and you start comparing yourself to them when it's like no you've just become stronger you become wiser you see what they're doing now you see what's going on and many times after dealing with you after they've already had the best they had someone who was always there for them always at their beck or did whatever they want after that they typically go down I mean you just got a look back at everything you did for them you really think they're gonna find someone who can do better than you if they could they wouldn't have stayed with you all of that time so many times what happens is after they leave they actually take a fall they go down they're not doing as well as when they were with you because you were the one who was keeping them afloat so what happens is they go down and it's like there's no way they can reciprocate anything back to you after all of that time they were just draining you of everything that you had and then you wonder why they're not coming back and it's like you really think they're gonna come back just so you can have the last laugh just so you can reject them because of course I mean after everything you did for them and they never did anything for you they just lied they future faked they promised you this future which never came into fruition of course they know if they come back you're going to what answers you're going to want to know what happened to all of that and you're just gonna reject them you're gonna humiliate them you're gonna crush their ego their self-esteem their false reality their false character so of course they're not gonna come back to you they just they can't measure up to you to what you were to them they can't operate on that level so they know they can't come around you they've got to go and I mean as as they say water seeks its own level so they got to go back down to where they belong to where they come from which is not anywhere near to where they were with you they came up while they were with you they saw things they never seen before they had things they never had just drink it some tomato juice today like to try different juices different fruits different vegetables but yeah trust me these people they know where they belong they know where they belong just look back at how they treated you everything they did and what did they ever do for you tell me did they ever reciprocate even a fraction of the value of what you give to them of course not and why because they weren't on your level they're not on your level now and they're never going to be all that's going to happen is they're gonna go down and they're gonna keep going down and when you don't hear from them when they run off they discard you they're trying to find another unsuspecting victim the reason why they do that is because you have defeated them that's why and if you didn't defeat them well then they'd probably still be with you treating you like a fool using you abusing you making your life even worse than it already was when they discarded you because yeah if you thought it was bad it could have been a lot worse it would be a lot worse if they were still there the longer they're with you the worse it gets it doesn't get better many of us we hold on we believe in the lies in the future faking thinking that if we stick around things will get better in time but actually they do just get worse and they get a lot worse your value just continues to get depleted the longer you spend around them because they do not have any value of their own these are empty meat suits it's a void a black hole there's nothing inside of them you were keeping them afloat you were giving value to them but they never gave it any value to you they were sticking around to get that from you and that's why the longer you spend around them the more you go down and the more they go up but then as soon as it's all over things start to get better for you over time or things just get worse for them which is why they do usually try to come back I mean on average a narcissist will hover their victim seven times but if you've really defeated them what can they do they can't come back but yeah this is how you know what you were dealing with with the narcissist I mean the narcissist is always the one who comes in with a little or nothing then they leave with more than what they came in with the victim comes in with a lot leaves with a lot less that's the whole point a victim has been robbed they've been depleted even if it's just in their energy even if there was no money involved no physical abuse just depleted of your energy and then they run off with all of the enthusiasm you're stuck there with your head down lost all of your confidence because you've been victimized you've been robbed that's what arses says will do to you 195 live viewers and only 51 thumbs ups please hit that thumbs up button down below if you enjoy this message do your bits to help get this message out there to other survivors as well very important I can't do it on my own I need your help as well takes just two seconds to hit the thumbs up button thank you but yeah many of you you may not have thought about it this way till I mentioned it but this is the reality of it this means that you have defeated the narcissist when you don't hear from them when they no longer want to be around you that means you become a threat that means maybe they're afraid of being around you they're afraid of you rejecting them or you exposing them you hold them up to certain expectations so they see you as a more powerful force and that is exactly what you want you don't want them to see you as weak compliance and submissive to where they think they could just keep coming back using you again and again you do not want that that's the last thing any of us want so when you don't hear from them when they're not responding to your text answering your phone calls when they've blocked you that's great that's what we should all be striving to achieve where they no longer want anything to do with us they just completely leave us alone that's great that's all we should want because trust me you're never gonna get anything good from dealing with them nothing good is ever gonna come out of that what's gonna happen is you're gonna be depleted of everything you've got all of your love energy and resources all of your positivity and enthusiasm all that's gonna go all that's gonna be gone the longer that around the worse that it's gonna get it will just keep getting worse and worse and that is why I say when they discard you when they leave they walk out when you don't hear from them and when they don't come back yeah that means that you have defeated them that means that you have won that means you're a winner you're a champion you have defeated the villain the monster you did it at that point we should have a celebration because that is a great thing to defeat a narcissist to where they don't want to come back to you I mean that is brilliant that is what we should all strive for there should be no pride in seeing yourself as a grading source of supply to a selfish abusive narcissist there's nothing good in being that if a narcissist likes you wants to be around you wants to be in your space in your life that means that there is a serious problem that means something needs to be done things need to be changed to keep them out we need to become the type of person these narks want nothing to do with that's the type of person that we should strive to be and in fact any narks trying to come into your life whether it's the one from before or a new one we don't make sure those boundaries very firm and fixed and not only that just be that which they do not want discuss them be something distasteful they want to watch you they want to stalk you they want to monitor you to see if you are going to be a suitable source for them make sure they see things that are going to make them sick make sure you really put them off don't ever let yourself be presented as anything interesting or uphealing to a narcissist because that's how they get in a lot of times you want to be dull you want to be boring and interesting give them the gray rock that's what I do a lot of times I go out keep my earphones in put my shades on you put my head up I don't want no narks looking at me think that I'm some kind of snack something to relieve their appetite no I don't want any narks looking at me like that thinking they can use and abuse me no way and in that sense we have defeated many of these narks before we've even got involved with them despite being that uninteresting and uphealing because that's the way it's gotten these days I mean you know you want to present yourself well in life you want to dress nice do your hair wear nice clothes have a nice car do those looking at this stuff when you go out into the world like that you think any empaths are thinking that you're appealing to them or that they want to be involved with you of course not the only types of people who are seeing that when you go out there for the guys you're showing your muscles showing your new car for the girls maybe you've got a nice outfit on you're wearing a short skirt whatever it may be what type of people do you think are looking at that that's appealing to narcissists those are the type of people who flock towards those types of things this is why I do what I do this is why I try to separate myself as much as I can from the general population I try to stay in rooms that are away from everyone I don't stay in hotels I can avoid it I try to avoid public transportation even when I do go out I put on my shades my earphones so no one talks to me put my hoods I don't want anyone to see me to look at me to think I could be anything to them I don't want anyone to even think that because it's been like that before in the past and I've been used I've been abused so many times and I don't want to go through that again and I know I've learned all of these things that we may admire about ourselves our physical appearance how we look our beauty our money our success our wealth even our intelligence our creativity all of these things these qualities the main people who are really looking at this stuff are narcissists narcissistic people who are just seeking to use and exploit us empaths aren't looking like that an empath is typically looking to give to share something with you not to take from you so they're looking at you like thinking oh I see something I can get from this person just to use you like an object this is why when they go when they discard you yes that means that you have won that's an accomplishment and achievement when they want nothing to do with you that is great don't let it affect your confidence your self-esteem if anything I should do the opposite I mean that's how I see it if I see that narcissists are avoiding me they don't want anything to do with me I see it as though yeah that means I'm doing the right thing I'm on the right track because if they do want anything to do with you if they see you as something attractive or appealing that means something is wrong we should not desire for these types of people to want anything to do with us at all we should never want that at all the absolute losers the garbage if they desire you if they want you that means that there is a problem that there is something wrong that we need to fix about ourselves we should not ever desire to be a healing to narcissists once you get to a certain point of healing you'll realize just how disgusting that is this even the thought of it it should repulse you because they are nothing to be desired or to be wanted around you there's nothing good about them at all so yeah when they don't want you that's great that's what we should all aim for and that means that you have defeated them so that's it that's the message for today this means you have defeated the narcissist congratulations if you found this video helpful please hit that thumbs up button down below show your support it will take you two seconds let me know what you 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