 Why you will never see the narcissist ever again? I know I often talk about how narcissists will hoover you But that isn't always the case Sometimes they won't Sometimes you will never see them again and this typically happens when You are their secondary source of supply When you're not their primary source When you're not the one who Staying at their home The one who is taking care of them Maybe giving them money giving them a place to stay if you're that person Then it's quite rare that they will leave you completely And you'll never see them again It's normally if you are the secondary source Because then you're just someone they use for their own amusement They're not really depending on you for their survival. So that's why it is normally the secondary source They won't always get a hoover But that being said Sometimes even if you are the primary source You're the one who's taking care of them you've given them a home You're giving them money They can still leave you too Because no one is really significant to the narcissist And sometimes they will leave you and that's the end You'll never see them again, but as I said No one is really significant to the narcissist. So They're not really leaving you Because they never even saw you as a separate person They just saw you as an object who existed to meet their needs So when you stop being their needs, that's when they leave But when you start questioning and confronting them and holding them accountable for their actions But they're not really leaving you They're just running from a reflection of themselves Because that's what you become after you've spent a certain amount of time around them You become a reflection of them You're reflecting back to them everything that they are You don't even have to say anything They can sense it When you're treating them differently You're not responding to them in the same way that you did before Because you've seen them do all of these crazy things And it makes them feel bad And they're running from the shame That's why You will never see them again But it has nothing to do with you as a person They never even took the time to get to know you So I know some of you may feel rejected if you're going through this Maybe you haven't seen them for a few months and It's unlikely that they're ever gonna come back Don't take it personally Don't see it as though they've rejected you It has nothing to do with you. You are just an appliance a tool They are Constantly rejecting themselves Because when they get to know someone Or rather when you get to know them Then You're reflecting back to them who they are And they don't like it so The only thing they can do is get rid of it Get rid of you Get rid of this reflection of themselves that they don't like And yes, as I said, this can happen whether you were the primary or secondary source I would say that it's more likely To happen with secondary sources You may know In your own situation with the narcissist That they run through secondary sources very quickly Maybe while you were with them You could count about five or 10 different people that they were with While they were with you So yeah, I mean secondary sources they don't tend to be very important to the narcissist They don't tend to spend a lot of time with them So it's very easy for them to get rid of them Since that's the person who Is not giving them a place to stay They're not giving them money But if they do find the person who is doing that then it makes it a lot easier for them to leave you If you Are their primary source Because then they're ready to advance the new secondary source to the primary possession And it's not always about how much you can do for them Of course, that's what they want you to think They want you to think that whoever does the most that's the winner They win the narcissist. What a great prize What a great achievement that is but um Yeah, that's what they want you to think is that You know, whoever does the most for them, they are the ones who win But it's not like that at all It's whoever Is the biggest fool Whoever is the most blind Whoever overlooks all of the things they're doing And is there for them anyway That's the person who Wins or I should say loses In the end because then they're stuck But this person treats them like a doormat Punching bag They feel that you never want that to be you That's why as I've always said The person who wins is the one who figures them out The one who gets out of there before things get too bad Because the longer you stay with them the worse it gets And the more times they come back the worse it gets You thought the first time was bad Then the second time it's even worse The third time there's just No boundaries no respect nothing It just gets worse and worse the more you let them back in So get a person who wins It's the one who walks away Realizes they don't need the narcissist That's the one who wins because trust me you are not winning anything By being with them You lose a lot Just look back at how much you've lost already All of your time money Energy enthusiasm for life Your passion but if you're lucky you still got something left And you can use that to build a better future for yourself Don't let this person bring you down Because that's all they're gonna do The longer you stay with them It's just gonna get worse and worse I've never Heard a success story From someone who is dealing with a narcissist or toxic person Someone who is self-absorbed and lacks empathy I've never heard a success story Never but I can tell you that I have heard Thousands Of stories of narcissists destroying people's lives So Just remember that Anytime you feel like you got rejected by a narcissist Anytime You feel like They don't want you and they think someone else is better Remind yourself of that whoever they want to be with whoever sticks with them That person is the loser in the end It's the person who gets away. That's the winner And I've heard those success stories so many times Thousands of times I've heard People who have left the narcissist or even people who have been discarded rejected I've heard people like that who have moved on with their lives and things have got a lot better So You really need to start reframing these things See it from a positive perspective And That doesn't mean you have to be delusional because this is reality The reality is someone who gets rejected by a narcissist That person is probably going to go on to win And then the person who The narcissist is all over and they're giving that person praise and compliments all their love That person Is destined to lose That I think we all have lost something from dealing with them You know, I have lost a lot And I think back And I'm like, yeah, wow I was a loser while I was with them But look at me now. I'm a winner I'm a winner now that they're gone And I want you all to be winners too And you can win just by leaving them behind because You have this natural ability to win inside of you I know a lot a lot of you if you look back you will find that You were just around the wrong people Maybe things were going well for you You had everything you wanted Maybe things went perfect, but you were happy And then suddenly whoop Here they come the narcissist The narcissist comes in and then Turns your life upside down Now you don't know which way is up You don't know where you're going That's what happens to us So Yeah, the narcissist You may never hear from them again In some situations who cares? Good That's better for you More power to you Because while you're with them all they do and they're stripping you of your power You're giving your power away to them But then when they're gone you can keep that And Maybe give it to someone who deserves it Someone who will respect Someone who appreciates it Someone who can receive it And give something back to you in return For the good that you're doing for them 102 live viewers Only 40 Thumbs up Please give this video a thumbs up And spread the awareness Get this message out there Yeah, it's true though sometimes you will never hear from them again And you see the title and it may sound sad And then you just got to think how brainwashed are we? If you if you read the title And you're thinking oh no, I'm never gonna hear from them again Oh, it's so horrible We need to reframe these things because Yeah, I can understand I mean don't get me wrong. I know it hurts in the beginning It can be a very painful breakup with a narcissist because You are so attached to them you cared about them Some of you loved them You would have done anything for them But you've got to look at it like what is better for your health? What is better for you in the long run? What's gonna serve you the most? And when you look at it like that it really is a blessing in disguise When you look at it like that you will see that you're not losing anything The only thing you're losing is the problem While you were with them you were losing everything You were losing your money your time your energy Your confidence in yourself You were losing all of that You weren't gaining anything from being with them And that's why you got to see it like that. It's a blessing in disguise It's a step in the right direction Okay, so yeah, I can understand rejection can be painful When they discard you when they don't want to see you again I know it hurts But you just got to remind yourself of everything you were given to them And how little you got back from them in return Just remind yourself of that because then you will see that you don't need them They needed you more than you ever needed them Okay, so That is the message for today. I hope it was motivational Inspirational, I hope it guides you to the right direction to take action in your life To make things better for yourself Instead of dependent on someone who Should not be dependent on Because look at where it's got you It hasn't taken you to a good place Some people are just not meant to have power over you and your life Yet we give them the authority We let them make decisions because we think it's in our best interest When they're only thinking about themselves And that's why we always get the short end of the stick Because this person doesn't have our best interest in mind And that is why You do need to take back your power You do need to take back control over your life Because that's the only way that things are going to get better They're not going to make it better for you Just look back at what they've done You're only going to get more of that. It's only going to get worse So remind yourself of that All right, thank you all for watching And do appreciate you all I'm just going to enjoy the rest of my day At this river here Please give the video a thumbs up if it was helpful Share the video, subscribe For coaching You can book a session from my website. It's narksviver.co.uk And check out my Instagram as well. It's narksviver youtube All right, thank you all for watching and I will talk to you soon