 Today guys, we are talking about friends and expectations. How much do our friends expect from us? How much do we owe them? But let me tell you another thing Betty, in Nairobi, your friends are better than even your relatives. Don't put a lot of pressures on your friends. We have friends who are at a limit. You are watching Friends Vibes. All feelings are represented on SPM Buzz. What's up guys, welcome to Friends Vibes right here on SPM Buzz. My good name is Miss Kithingi and I have the gang as always. Edima story in the house. Nice to meet you. Kira the brand. Awesome, you guys. Shout out to all our gulf people. Any of you guys in the gulf, we see all the love in the comments section. Niniwa tuwangu wu sana, keep watching, keep sharing this video. We will not disappoint you when it comes to content by the way. Musi jali, musi tensata kido go. And in case you haven't subscribed, make sure you do. Now today guys, we are talking about friends and expectations. How much do our friends expect from us? How much do we owe them? How needful is it of us to support their businesses when they start the business? How much often do we need to check on our friends? Friends and expectations. Sijui ni ni muna se maji. How much do your friends expect from you kido? Of course they expect a lot from me. Yes, in terms of support. Finances, emotional? Yes, advices. Ako na emotional, wanome wa teftenangi mamba, kama mutu haki kwa hard broken na ma ni ni. Life in a move on. Mito na tuftaka ma ndaka tender. Kwa ma, ndaka nisedene na 1 million. Oni na kwa account, na chukua check, oni nmpia 1 million. So kido jai ndaka kwa bisti ya kwa mambia maize, juli jemu jali ni chapakarekta. Aa, parna. Aa, no, no, no. Jai nda. Hai jai happen. So if it is a kwa feregana, so peki a kwa. Emotional things. Emotional things, of course, there's a way I control myself. I don't allow it if you get a level mone, sasa wu na jitakam, kutana wu na zaku liya. Kuna science, kuna red flag. Tu ma message irudishi wu na tukua. Miskulu wa shiki wu me tukua. But me I'll differ with the thing, nipo wu kongena wa say. But emotionally ni ni. Ongena artu, jusa uspo ongena artun wu na patagamsia kuna depression, then wu na zain maizkulu wa. Of course, kama ni kitunaksumbu wa sana, of course kuna artun has a reach out. But he's got in my pants, wu na de am zazi. Jaftyaku. Asi na tukua wu wu na komizazi, wu na janti mam zasi wu de ma. If it's advice kama ni a financial term, so I'll make it in business. Kana e chinim, kunye breakfast wu mongi. Landwata. But I feel like we all have different kinds of friends. True. Right? There are friends who you know, you can call when you're going through something, like just mentally or anything. And then kuna ma bestu wa shere, wu na jutu, awu na shere. And they're all important. I'm not saying that all of them are important in your life. Kuna wu na jutu wu na zangelelia, biz flani, tu tege neze, kuna wu na jutu wu na zende, for different kinds, just different kinds of friends. So omawakategorize, so si miwake ke liya evi tu na jutu ini shere. Shida. No, I'm saying they're all important, but it's yeti. Umu na kiki kupigiotu na jutu, wu na takutu kumutu anisha. Ya. Personal, I feel like every friend of mine holds a different key to my life. They open certain things. There are people that, you know, niza kolkama, niko onimesota, I need some cash, you know, faster, faster. And there are others maybe I could just talk to when I'm going through a hard time. And I know they are going to give me like soba, advice and all that. And then kuna watu tu waku hangout, like they're just good vibes when it comes to hanging out, but they will never know if you're broke or not. True, true. You know, but anyway, back to now, expectations. How much are now our friends expecting from us? Edu kama wewe, bestia kwa mefungu abiz, do you feel like lazima when they want support? Let's say na wuzanga maya'i, na wuzanga maya'i ake na theriso, but kuna ule bestia kwa palia na wuzanga 280. Ya, kwa wendu bestia jenu eni, singe, support to boy waku. You are the result. Ya, support. Sometimes better support. Sometimes there are supports, so let's say mubai, there's a way you can support someone. It can be advice, and to set up biz, nipatia advice a location. Niaje unza nishi a kwa story. Ya, even just a story. Oneza pigi ama bestia za kwa mbi, niaje nikuna bizia mtura, kama uni mubai. And then bizia kwa mombasa, na bestia na kuna roda. For instance, bizia mtura a kwa mombasa unadvertize wapi doba na. Wala, for example, Kido, let's say for instance, let's say for example, you own a Bucharia, nanyama ya kwa AKG, you sell at 500. Then kuna mse palia across, anu wuzanga na 450. That is a difference of 50 shillings. Yes. Woi nikianda kwa bia palia kwa 450, utafil vibhaya mi kama bestia ya kwa. Ya. Okay, yes. As a friend nesaf ke vibhaya. But you see, kini kujio ni mbe Kido ni aji, nata kuku promots. Sina 500, nikona 450. Mi kama ni mse mjaanja na kama, ina shili naka pateo ni nama na 500, but mi minta top up 50 leo. Utafil appreciated. Nani uskwingi ne? Sata uskwingi, una build evo relationship. Then uksyama baiya, next time aki kama mi uja mata kama na gilta seme, next time Kido ni nga zia, 50. Ata kika mas many times. But tusa kama ni me sota mi, bade tiangu ina kwa nga 250, anyama Kido. Sata 50. Amma beti. You just tell me that. Ulazami kimi aia 450, epesa akonayo. Epesa akonayo. Ulazami kimi aia kilo. Ya. 50. But sata. Just you supporting me, because I imagine I'm here and you're going across. But sini me kupele kaha sara, kus maybe niya maiakulibaya. You didn't come to ask me that. You didn't come to tell me. Did you come to tell me? Betu nasa uli na fkianakuja saina 450, kisha kipata 10,000, nama 1,000. Dakuja niya marketa up. Serious? You may feel like you guys are put in pressure on your friends if they can't afford and they can afford something else. I feel like you guys are put in pressure. Kido, we live in anekonomi ekadogo. Nga get. So mi na feel like kusapotum sei, una foam kami through. Nga get. Una enda palia ni. Si yu kone klipfu ni liya ni Carlos experience. Aki pasyama bishtewa ke nikonakinyozi, kone enda kone uliwa suji wa api. Nikona pleze nyama kujage na kuna nyama apu. Nga checki. Kwey dem sei yu? Betu nga get ikuna na kusapot, kumaisi na nga jihu na kusapot. Sapo ni samon. Betu ni talk about friends. Sapo ni samon, I don't need to prove to that someone who's supporting him. Mi ma na mga bila pati na nambazawa tu. O pigu sibu. Nga get. Sometimes you know for too much. Betu na kusapotu rukona sema, Beti. Rafikiya kwa nafa kukamiya through to what extent to what extent to what extent. I mean I don't expect katini ki kwa na bieshara let's say for example let me say is bieshara ando gondogo you can't support your friend. Things that are below a thousand bob seriously I think you can. But I'm saying things like maybe me fungo afani chasto or something. You get. I'm far from not where you are and you are my friend. Like the kind of support. I don't need like just showing support is like by mentioning when you are just mentioning all my friend. Yeah. Yeah. Posting now we have Instagram. Everyone has Instagram. Everyone has Facebook. Everyone has WhatsApp. So just that just posting posting that support. Okay. That's for businesses. Now what about emotional type of support because there is this that goes around that says keep keep check on people that check on you. So I'm just here wondering if I don't check on you in like three months. Are you like should you catch feelings because I didn't check on you. Let's say we don't live near each other. We've been busy with our lives. If I don't check up on you in three months I'm not a true friend. I think it depends it depends it depends on you. Dynamic. It depends on you. It depends on you. Yeah. It depends on you. It depends on you. It depends on you. No, but but come on you say to me you say to me. No, we are all adults. True. Life is going on differently for all of us. Very true. Right? If you want to speak to me as your friend you can call me. And if I want to talk to you I can call you. The only I feel like problem I mean what is it called where you're supposed to be keen enough is if your friend is going through something and you know your friend is going through something you can just be calling to check up. But other than that so what in a bigger story you get but I know you're going through something something has happened in your life something huge or yeah even whether good news or bad news as a friend even if we don't speak often I have to call you and talk to you you get there is that normally too actually just because I didn't check up on you I don't think that's grounds for Me na fikiri ya kama nmise nkako close inna dependent e friendi enyo kwa aje because na feel like because they are friends munya tako atana dada wambia wa say manzeh edu edu nkakako poa kwa zna jadabu kumuninivi atana nilenga lakini edu nkako po akako po unmise menyako akako close na ea na ujua na kujua na kujua laite edu na kwa gahivi na kwa gahivi akako poa na get then kuna those out of friends we niata wo ukua aji aja ligi they don't know but they are your friends of course pia na just to add on what you said inna dependent pia na na echa friendship kumulem se me grow up na tanguntui sikuitesha bila kum pigia simu but kumulem kum pigia ta once a month haina no na no na mimi maisha angusai na na tumia kia take a message deshishbi anguni entare tano tron kia tare tano kimalizana imesha kumigia pakataka ni kujipende kaza but kare oh onini ma best si namu tumia kwa message amani kwa samaji namu tumia take but you see u best no i stuck a word like you friends we talking about friends now sometimes I just feel like we expect a lot from our friends because if I didn't check upon you in 3 months Inisila uja qikpe. Cert Mhm, ya, tia na mwahitia talia katante celewa. supports. Kayamaa naTE, Aga kenger gate ya, jara o uzi kweb Davis maybe they are going through something that they're not sharing. F PLA為 nii mati hatahi, In Nairobi your friends are better than me in your relatives. For sure in life, your friends are just ahead, As long as we have friends as we want them to connect, histoire na�ini, jaa, sanła naqutu§ mi va kutu§. Unafa kujo edwa kuhaji, familia kuhaji. Una getu. Ena kwaile kitu close nitu. Geni una jua, saka yamge na kwa ni kido. Una checki. But una say too close. Ata ni kiwa na shiden naizenda kwa ke. Naizenda kwa kido. Naizenda kwa naisa. Batu kia kala kati naizenda 3 months, 4 months bilata kwa ungegana kido. Kwa ungegana na beti. Ata juo jivele nendelea. Ia kini. Kuna mtu na prefaa? Aki kua na issue. Amma kitu na fanya. I involve friends. Amma friends jo jue. Dan family. Na kuna mtu na prefaa na ya say ma familia nju ki ju eni better than friends. Na kuna mtu na raga kuhendia professional. Ukuna stressia, depression me hatu. Kutendia raka taru kenai. Therapist kuhengenei. Kuntaka na kitu milita atu. Fada liu wende family ako than friends. Tata ma Rafiki si watu azu ripia, ya? Ya, is that part. I feel like it can offer kujwa your friends and the dynamics of how it will be. Like kido, kido su na jwa tu kuna abeshte, ono jutu yadu niki mumbeni MTRG, dwa tenda kum tanga zainje. Lakin ni niki ndeya msekama sule, sule ni mseta ekasiri yango yango. Asi ni yun ni mseta ni, hara ni call out. Ah, siri ni mtumoja tu. No, no, but they are friends that kuna wale. Ah, ni msema ya, that's true. Sule jutu wongia adega kwa subtitles. No. Ya, kuna those friends. Na, siri raku jya pa yagi kwa boat kasi. Besti yung kumoja li peli kwa naibasa. Also, now that's upon you, now to realize, or rather just have the ability to choose your friends wisely nia. Angalia tu, kuju, sometimes kama mchwa na kujangana kwa mbe mambuza wengine zenye ni sensitive, then maybe it means that's not the kind of person you should be telling us. Exactly. I feel, I mean, it's easy to tell who is going for you and who is not. Just for you and not. That's true, for sure. Ya, at this point it's so easy to get to know. But everybody needs somebody anyway. We are not. We are not. We are not. We are not. We are not. We are not. We are not. We are not. Masi amu owing through this, through this. As in, na feel ni kiongana e, indya feel kuna ki tivi ni tokha. Also. Then, kubaki tu nai wapa na fight nai, then napa ma mpumbiza kwa ma bandiza kwa na katia. Ya. Asi, nagataka kuha pa taluma. And so, I feel like there are people just don't know probably how to help in solving problems. Uneza kama labduni yambil, you're going through this thing, and then I don't even know what to tell you, but in real sense I'm actually quite supportive, but I don't know how to go about it, you know? But I feel like mostly when people come to talk to you, when a friend is coming to talk to you about something, you don't really need to put your opinion in or anything. Ya, sometimes they just need a listening. Ya, we just have to say I'm here, that's it. Hey, but also maybe sometimes a dream to labdana taka umuwa, umpea opinion. Maybe it's just best to ask someone, how do you think I can help? Eh, how do I help her? But all this basically ita rodee, we where na wubeshti ako ura fiken yana fikiya wapi. Ya, muna jwana. Ya, muna jwana, Aj and nani jwana Aj, that's why unneza naka wubeshti ako nu liye kwa ke. Nata he ya, riyam. Hey, is naka wambia? Ya, muna ja kida naka wangaw na, wubeshti ako. Bro, oki breakout ya dem, dem nanda naka wubeshti ake. Ya, alia wuku wa na fanya ni ni ni niga get Na toizo ni ni wuku Maata, maata siip dempe Yata ma astiip dempe Una men wu have friends that they go and talk to Ya When a... Anam skiza too like u just ya naitoa tu kuwarahu And sometimes it helps just to speak out Ya, bata also don't put... Don't put a lot of pressures Unma fangfu wa wutu mea ka limit Kama kumaret Tuna hangout baka sa flani kama ni mtua nafanya kazi ni manager md ni ni kuna masaya kumpegi ya simu then kuna wale suza kama kina edu wana kwa na 2 online 2d4s reza mpegi wana muna yo bao asi ke simu ka kiki tema nasana kwa friendship ni limit boundaries too much yeah yeah that's all saying don't expect too much from like actually because you're my friend now everything has to stop and end when when you might want to do anything because people have life but over a maisha we have to I'm living differently than you kuna wengini piwa na kwa kana entire tolumen 30 because ni li kufanyaivi yeh kuna kwa umfanyaivi at this in sometimes I know at the other hour too wefanya, wefanya just stand away mani na na eh no friendship you're not supposed to do things expecting it but in return exactly or rather like just the same thing in return una fanyanga tuju you care about this person na yata rudisha tum kono ilia wakati ata izaku rudisha yeah and support like venyo nezakumum support they will be supporting you differently they will be supporting you differently I'm sorry for this case because friendship is at risk meka tu kwa nyumbo mekularisia kwa na uvakado na greens sa kedogo meseji mengi ani ache bro ebun sedia na punch how easy kwa sa punch kwa ni ni kwa simu kwa na weki kwa inaba ingi aata se na mengi na simu 20 muna kwa sana na bestia kwa jia punch alafu na you know the other day I put up a post on Instagram it was just a post kusema like you know happiness begins with you like you're responsible for your own happiness then this guy came and said wongo this is a lie your happiness is dependent on other people that surround you ati your boyfriend relies on you for happiness I'm like ati you as a parent your children rely on you to be happy I'm like bro you're putting up a lot of responsibilities on your friends and family on other people excuse me imati in such a person wom tu wezim fraisha kila wakati and there's one thing kwa na kwa na maisha muzuri i life usi waya expect a lot ya loa i expectation loa i expectation in the 2 chinis kwa chinika bistahi kipi apili so ataki kumes usi sh2k ya so just kwa li wacha kwa kati nili sayi dey duna tao sayi duma nilazima nipati e tao suji maka pana and I don't think we are being hard on anyone I just feel like when you put a lot of your expectations in people you get disappointed you fall into depression you hate people then you become now you're not moving so what you think about is how disappointed you are thank you thank you you're welcome alright guys please let us know on the comment section how much do your friends expect from you how much in terms of supporting their businesses in terms of emotional support just being there for them let us know in terms of supporting them please let us know on the comment section how much do you think but thank you guys for watching but please support America Shalib Shalib Shalib Shalib Shalib Moha Newton Newton Sponyo Kwa bia unisa kwa pali Nituwa deatment Tuko Kwa bia bro Tuko Yurok bro Shalib Wachua Bungoma Wachua Bungoma Shalib Actually by the way na kumuka last time alibai tickets za comedy Shoflani yandjugush Di Tiu Suport ma fansu wengine kama kumivo Sindio mam, Sponyo wei tu wa US Alright guys, I think we are done with that Guys, make sure to interact with us down on the comment section This was a Friends Vibe Until next time, it's goodbye