 This is why the narcissist discarded you, yes that's what we're going to be talking about in this video, so let's get into it, yes narcissist will discard you, because they are adrenaline junkies, they're thrill seekers, they're always seeking that rush of excitement and once they've been around you for a certain amount of time they start to get bored, then they don't want to be around you anymore, because they're looking around at these other shiny new toys and they seem much more exciting than what they've got with you, because the more time you spend around them the more your value goes down, and yet if they're not spending much time with their other sources of supply then their value is high, so yes that is how it's so easy for them to discard you, but unknowingly to you, many of you won't know this, but actually especially when you're dealing with narcissists, technically you discarded them first, you rejected their proposals or ideas, you didn't agree with the things that they stood for, you opposed them, you resisted them, I don't know many of you if you look back you will remember a time where you questioned or confronted them, or when you threatened to expose them, and by doing that you triggered the discard, the victim always triggers the discard, because you've got to think about it like this, if you complied with their demands and requests, if you conformed and acted the way that they wanted you to, and you continued to be their fool, their doormat, their punching bag, why would they have ever discarded you, they never would have done that, in a way we discard ourselves from the narcissist's reality, and in fact that is what I advise you to do, that is the safest way to go out, because otherwise you would be stuck with them, or they would still see you as though you have some level of value, yet they would still continue to treat you with disrespect and take you for granted, because yes that's all that they would do, just as they've always done, just look back and remember how they treated you, did they ever treat you right, no of course they didn't, so the best thing you can do when you were dealing with narcissists and this is what I advise you to do, is yes, continue to point out what they're doing, continue to question and confront them, don't conform with their rules, with their standards, and be intimidating, be a threat that may pose a risk of exposing them, yes you need to be that, but don't make it too obvious, don't do it to the point where it may cause a major narcissistic injury, because then you're putting yourself at risk of danger or harm, so of course I don't advise you to actually do that, but you need to be sneaky, you need to imply it at some level, because when you do that, trust and believe that they will notice, and they will respond by getting rid of you, by tossing you out, which should be exactly what you want, because in the end you're just going to continue to tolerate the disrespect and mistreatment until you finally realize that you have to go no contact, and when you go no contact they're not going to leave you alone, they're going to continue to chase after you, they're going to hold on to you because they still see some value in you, you need to make it so that they don't see any value in you at all, and as I said you can do that by continuing to question and confront them, and point out what is wrong with them, and most importantly just be yourself, if you want a narcissist to discourage you all you've got to do is be yourself, be true, be real, be authentic, because when you do that they will get rid of you very quickly, they're looking for someone who they can groom into being who they want them to be, a doormat, a slave, someone who will do whatever they want, whenever they want them to do it, and if you're not going to do that or be that they're not going to have any use for you, they're going to see you as a lost cause and they will get rid of you, so yeah that's all you've really got to do, and I know many people they look at these narcissists, it's like they're so big and scary, you don't want to get on the wrong side of them, but in fact that is exactly what you need to do, and after that they won't even want to know you, they won't want anything to do with you once they know you're not going to conform, which should be exactly what you want, of course I can understand many of you, you've developed attachments to them, you think there's something because of the false character they displayed to you, and maybe you want to keep them around, and yeah you may want that, because you think that maybe you're in love with them, but you've got to see them for what they actually are, and you've got to remember what they've done to you, but yes I can understand that it may hurt in the beginning, when they discard you you may feel rejected, but this is how you take your power back, by realising that it was you, and it is always you, you are always the one who initiates the discard, every time the power is in your hands, they're not just going to go out and discard you for no reason, they're not just going to go out and do that, yes they may entertain other sources of supply, but they're still going to keep you around as long as you're doing what they want you to do, then there's no motive, there's no incentive for them to get rid of you, so you have to give them a reason, otherwise you're going to be putting up with that abusive mistreatment for the rest of your life, and I know many of you don't want to do that, I know you don't deserve that, but yes this is why Narciss eventually discard their victims, and yes it is because they are adrenaline junkies and thrill seekers, yes it is because of that, they're constantly looking for entertainment, new excitement, shiny new toys, a bigger better deal, but they also need that primary source of supply at home who's waiting for them, for when they get bored of their toys, they want to keep you as a toy on the shelf, so yeah you have to be the one, you have to be the one who initiates the discard, and when you do that, they will leave you alone, then you can move on with your life, so yeah that's really it, that's what you've got to do, and I'd like to hear from you down below in the live chat, let me know those of you who have done that already, or if you're thinking about doing that, I'd love to hear from you, and if you have any questions as well, let me know right now down below in the live chat, let me know what you think, Druid VW says, I came from the mother of all narc-ness, and I am nothing like them, it's not an affliction, it's a choice, yeah you're right, that's completely true, and a lot of us, escape goats, empaths, yes we do come from a family full of narcs, and the only difference between us is that we made a different choice, we took a different path, we chose to be good, we chose to be empathic, and the family members they take notice of that and what do they do, they escape goat you, they abuse you, they blame you for everything, but you know what, that just pushes you in a good place even more, and it pulls them down even more into their own misery, into their own abusive ways, let me know if you've got any questions down below, I will answer them for you right now, no matter what it is, I'll give it a try, the Goose as Lou says, if empaths come from narc-families, how is it my ex-wife's entire family are nothing but narcs, and she is a narc as well, you know that can happen sometimes, it all depends on the choice that you're making childhood, and when the entire family is full of narcs, what they tend to do is they find targets outside of the family, and then they'll team up together against these targets, so that's then how they get supplying, and also narcs can be together where one of them can be dominant and the other one's submissive, and they can also change roles at times as well, so that is how they can still continue to function, but at the same time they do need light, they do need love and genuine passion, and they get that by finding a victim outside of the family, so yes that is how they do that, and it creates this illusion as though the narcissistic family is so functional, as though they get on very well because they have a target outside of the family, so it can be quite difficult to detect at times when they are doing that, unless you are aware of the victim and you've seen them being abused, that it's pretty obvious then, Keon Golden says when you cut them off they get mad, yeah they do they get really mad, and then they plot to destroy you, which is why you just need to be a nuisance, you need to be an inconvenience for them, you need to deliberately act out on purpose, because that's really the only way you're gonna get rid of them, it's either that or you just randomly disappear one day during the love bombing phase, but then you'd have to know what you're dealing with from the beginning, so that's a lot more difficult to do, but in fact narcissists are actually experts at doing that, they can love bomb someone and then disappear the next day, and then you'll never hear from them again, but of course those are more the player type narcissists, John Tracy says you're here that's how I found these channels, their actions made no sense, I think that's all that's how we all find these channels, I mean that's how I did in the beginning I found Sam Vaknin's videos after searching energy vampires on YouTube, and yes the reason why I found that is because it didn't make any sense to me, I could never identify as an energy vampire as someone who's deliberately seeking to drain the energy from innocent people, I mean of course that is a very strange and unnatural thing to do, but of course that is the way that these individuals are programmed, they're raised to be this way, they're raised to value themselves on what they do and their achievements instead of their core, their character, and because of that of course they have no innocent value, they have to seek their value from outside from other people, and they do that by draining your energy, because that's the thing, you know when someone has a strong inner sense of value, they don't need anything from you, narcissists they come around and they love bomb you, they devalue you, they discard you as well which back supposed to be a punishment, but all of these things are meant to drain your energy, that's the whole purpose of it, and of course they have to drain your energy because they have no inner sense of value, if they did they would feel no need to do that, which is how you know that any narcissist you're dealing with is already very insecure, alright that's it for this video I'm going to get off now, but I hope you enjoyed this topic, I know a lot of you have gone through this recently, and I hope that I have done enough for you in this one to give you that support that you need, but you know if you do need any support you can book a session on my website it's narchsafiver.co.uk so you can book with me through there, and I am available on Instagram as well it's narchsafiver YouTube and Instagram, yeah that's it for this video, I will have a premiere in a few hours so you can check that out as well, but thank you all and if you enjoyed it please give it a thumbs up down below, and I will talk to you in another one very soon