 I am doing a show on love like love is the last topic that I thought I'd ever talk about because I mean I Grew up a Christian and Christians were always talking about love And I just had you know no desire to return to what I was doing as a kid And like love just seems like the the lamest of all possible talks, you know subjects to talk about like what the hell Am I doing here? They're creating a show on you know the art of loving like give me a break I mean, what is it? Is there any art to loving? I mean isn't this just the stuff of cliche, but here's why I'm doing a show on loving I realized That my whole world view is based upon love I mean I couldn't be doing this show right now if if my life wasn't filled with love like I was wide awake by 330 this morning. I was up before 4 a.m. I put in about two hours Finding shows from June July of 2018 that were no longer online and putting them online putting them on my Odyssey and on my rumble so we are now going out live across YouTube We are live across my Facebook page. We're live across my Facebook profile. We're live on Twitter We're live on rumble and we're live on Odyssey so I Had the energy to do that for two hours Then you know do a Another hour or so spiritual practices in the morning get out there make a few hundred dollars All right, and so I spend 10 20 hours a week live streaming I spent 40 plus hours a week working making money. I spend about 10 15 hours a week volunteering I spend about I Don't know 10 hours a week reading newspapers and magazines I spend probably another five hours a week reading book reviews And I probably spend another 20 hours a week reading books So the only way I get the energy to do that is because I'm constantly interacting with people who I love and who love me Like I could not stand here today, right if I you know hated my neighbors, right? That just You know that that would wear on me. I couldn't stand here today if like I was you know worn down going into The office yeah with with you know people who I didn't like or doing work. I didn't like See Message on Twitter the beef organ capsules are a slippery slope 2022 Luke takes up beef organ capsules. All right Luke Ford is here. What comes next is chicken meat Then 2024 we're talking about beef 2025 cigarettes 2026 beer 2027 wine 2028 whiskey 2029 weed 2030 cocaine 2031 heroin 2032 fentanyl so here's the proof in 2012-2013 into 2014 when I really didn't have much love in my life. I hardly made any videos Right, I just didn't have the inner strength. It takes so much like inner strength energy enthusiasm It requires something all right It requires a fire to do as many shows as I do and I could not do that If I wasn't just constantly going through the day interacting with people who I loved and who loved me Right, you think if I was surrounded by people who were indifferent to me or hostile to me Or just like accommodating me that I would then have the energy at the end of the day after getting up You know 3 30 a.m. To you know do an hour or two hour live stream. No heck no But because I'm just constantly getting fed so I don't know what your life is like, but There's just no energy like the energy you get when say you're in a workplace where you love people and they love you When you have a synagogue a minion a church, all right where you love people and they love you where you have You know social gatherings clubs pursuits all right volunteer opportunities with people you love and who love you right? That's Absolutely essential to really getting anything done in life And I realized now that it's basically the foundation of my world view People go way off track if they start searching for meaning right your meaning in life should come from the people you love And the people who love you right if you have to look for meaning above and beyond that That's a big flashing red light that something seriously seriously wrong with your life right if you have to go convert to another religion and Sometimes for the for the rare individual that's appropriate and it's something that I did but overall If you feel like your pursuit of meaning is taking you to convert to another religion, you know That's a big flashing light that there's something way off in your life I should be getting your meaning in life from the people you love You should be getting your politics in life from the people you love You should want the people you love to thrive right you should want the people you love to stay safe And you should be hostile and even hate those who threaten those who you love right? I used to think that morality right was best learned from God-based ethics as I've embodied in the Torah and You learn from people who are seriously learned in Torah, and I still love that I still enjoy that but I've reluctantly come to the conclusion that that is not the You know best most efficient vehicle for getting people to behave decently the best most efficient vehicle for getting people to behave Decently is to endow people with something to lose meaning people right people that they love right if you don't want to horrify hurt dismay Disturb people you love you will behave decently Generally speaking and that is the best guarantor of decency of morality of making people better of making individuals better communities better You know making a better world is enabling people to connect. So I was on a hike on Runyon Kenyon the other day and so runyon Kenyon is this great steep hike between Hollywood Boulevard and Mulholland Drive and as part of West Hollywood and There's a couple of benches there with a big sign up By running Kenyon in West Hollywood that these are benches particularly meant for connection Right if you sit on these benches right it's not because you want to be left alone And so I taken I take it a wrong turn on my hike And I ended up going like straight up a hill and I was just covered with vessels and cotton Like my socks and my shoes just you know covered with with this was to the extent it took me an hour They're seated on the connection bench You know taking my shoes off my socks off and they're pulling out these this was one by one But what a great idea having a connection bench right every city should do that right in in a park You know set aside particular benches This is a bench that you come sit on if you want to connect with people So coming from that place of connection that case of bonds that case of family and virtual family and extended family and You know related to family all right That's the best place for morality the best place for decency the best place to start building up social trust the best way to start coming down from One's debilitating anxiety. I struggle with you know huge amounts of anxiety like we wouldn't be here if we weren't anxious right our ancestors who weren't particularly anxious and they got eaten by tigers and We wouldn't be here if we weren't constantly making judgments like oh that person looks dumb that person looks dangerous that person looks Stupid that person looks inconsiderate that person looks admirable All right, we wouldn't be alive because our ancestors who weren't constantly making those judgments right they Tied out connection benches does the chat sound like that obvious next step from public washrooms right and Okay, look I'm all for connection and building social trust, but I am not for designating certain you know public restrooms as Cottages right this is not You know, let's not designate this this public restroom as you know a wonderful safe place for cottaging free from the the intrusive I Of the the policeman. No, I won't go that far but You look at all the pundits out there. I mean I pretty much Only listened to right wing pundits except maybe of the last year or two I saw left listening to what pundits on the left such as the decoding the gurus academics But here we speak here. I listen to a lot of right wing pundits and they are such delitons I mean they are so shallow like people who are excited about Dennis Prager and Sean Hannity and Ben Shapiro and a lot of the schlock that Tucker Carlson is You know in some ways the best of the lot, but he still puts out, you know, at least as much schlock and Crap as good stuff. I have people who are excited about this delitons, you know, Mariah I right they're missing meaning and connection in your life All right, you're trying to get a false sense of excitement from giving politics as proper do like I get to You know hang out with some high-functioning people and it is just it's just amazing, right? So much of human connection is a foreign language to me now so many normal Ways of you know conducting a life. It just you know a foreign language to me I didn't grow up dancing dancing was a sin. I didn't grow up going to movies movies were a sin I didn't grow up going to theater theater was a sin. I Didn't grow up, you know enjoying competition competition was a sin I didn't grow up playing cards playing cards was a sin So so many of the basics of normal human interaction and communal activities were regarded as sins Am I are bringing along with the crazy debilitating vegetarian diet that I? internalized right it It crippled me in many ways. I mean I am Developmentally disabled in all sorts of forms of human connection, but when I meet like high-functioning people, right? You notice that They may or may not enjoy sports, but they don't build their lives around their sporting identity Right if you build your life around your sporting identity, you don't have enough love in your life You don't have enough meaning connection to community family. All right. There's something really wrong You're disconnected if you have to build your life around sports High-functioning people and that is they don't build their life Around things that they can't control like politics. All right high-functioning high IQ successful people accomplishing a great deal May or may not take an interest in politics, but their happiness in life does not depend upon politics Right their meaning in life does not depend upon politics their identity in life does not be kept Depend upon politics their identity primarily comes from their family and from their work And so people are high-functioning like people are very effective people earning, you know Multiple hundreds of thousands of dollars right they may or may not be interested in sports And they may or may not be interested in politics All right, and they may or may not be religious But they are not deformed by these pursuits All right, whenever you meet someone who seems to form by their pursuit of sports or politics or religion All right. These are people who don't have normal human connection All right, they don't have love in their life that they not you know bonded to family and to friends and to community And so I get to spend a lot of my time in Beverly Hills and I get to meet, you know A lot of you know high-functioning very smart very accomplished, you know affluent Successful people and they are not deforming themselves. They end up painting their faces, you know according to their favorite sporting team They are not you know, resting satisfaction happiness meaning and purpose in life on political outcomes All right, they don't see the world through a narrow prism of you know Whether or not people conform to a particular religious belief system or or practice system All right, you know higher functioning people are able to have love in their life also That follow who they are right have their own pursuits have had their own opinions So I do this show because I'm powered by The people I love in my life and they don't get a veto over the topics I discuss But I carry them with me. They are with me right now I have their presence with me and I will say things that they will disagree with and I will occasionally say things that will Be offensive to them. But if I'm going to say things that are offensive to the people who I love most of my life I'm going to bend over backwards to try to Not unnecessarily Damage these important relations and I think that's that's the best way to go through life I say that because the opposite of that like not taking into consideration Your most valued love people in your life just produce a such, you know horrible behavior online And so when I just see the awful behavior online and it's just so blindingly obvious that these are not people who love Who have you know close ties with family friends community that that kind of drives me back to this embarrassing position I'm saying yeah love is the foundation right who you love that should be the foundation of your politics your morality Your your life for us your your energy. All right, if you're running low on energy if you're depressed if you if you're passive in life, right The best way to rev up get more emotional energy is to connect with people create shared reality with people Like even if you were to just march it march with people Right just marching together with people, you know fills you up high functioning people aren't too particular not too precise Yeah, well, they're not super particular about you know sports They're not hanging their life on some peg like sports politics religion You know this cultural attitude, you know this social attitude, all right They they you know see a broad Roomie, you know world out there where there are just so many different paths to thrive and so many different paths to happiness they They look out there and they see But I see right now trees of green skies of blue children crying and we think you know what a beautiful world So this guy who I'm about to introduce you to dr. Michael McGee. You're gonna think he is the dumbest gayest silliest most moronic most feminine Pointless cliche mongering and that that would be my reaction if I just looked at him and if I just listened to him, but What he has to say is gold Right, and this should be the basis for politics, right? This should be the basis for how you conduct yourself online and offline No one else is though others can support and guide us as this meeting. I think it's going for many people So for me this practice it starts with the practice of cultivating I'm loving wearing the start each day in stillness and ends in stillness with an intention to love So I would like to I uploaded a file and I would like to to What's the alternative start each day? In noise like to start each day on social media Like start each day checking your your comments your likes your mentions, right? Your direct message is your email Right between those two alternatives I think this guy is under something who basically Just read this dedication that I've memorized and I I've uploaded it for you all and invite you all to look at it See what you think of it But basically this is a dedication that I read at the end of my morning meditation every day And it's my it's my dedication to living an intentional life alone So I'll just read this for you if you all want to to join me in in this Again, this is off the prayer of st. Francis Adopted from them. I wish I could take credit for total originality, but I can't May I be a channel of love? May I heal hatred with love? Harm with forgiveness doubt with faith despair with hope darkness with light sadness with joy May I seek more to console than to be consoled To understand than to be understood To love than to be loved For I know that in giving we receive In forgiving we are forgiven and in transcending self. We realize our greatest joy So that's just an example of the kind of intentional devotion that that I personally practice that I developed Everything on this show. I mean we go the whole gambit, but listening to this guy It made me reflect one thing that we don't really have much on Much of on this show is reverence like that was the last time like reverence You know played a role in your life. I mean, I'm just thinking about women right now. I mean think about how pretty that women are think about how Delightful and charming women are think about how hospitable and nice and often sweet Women can be think about how devoted they can be to their Children to their husbands to their brothers to their family think about how nurturing they are like When you when you get to be around good women right Maybe maybe a little more reverence. All right. That's not putting pussy on a pedestal Right that that phrase putting pussy on a pedestal. All right. That's kind of the the opposite of the the reverent attitude but I mean think about experts who divert their lives to one topic and You know try to you know use their their devotion in a publicly spirited way like maybe maybe some reverence for The dr. Anthony Fauci's of the world like Fauci's flawed Fauci was wrong about this and that But overall he pretty much was was speaking from within the scientific consensus as it was known at the time So we've got everything on the show. We've got love. We've got hate. You know, we've got Scorn we've got laughter. We've got satire and sarcasm But like maybe we need to light a candle instead of cursing the darkness Maybe we need more reverence in our life I think I need more reverence in my life like Many people say I'm the most cynical person they know and that's basically true Basically the only thing that I don't mark Is the the 12 steps, but I'm not even sure that's true I'm sure I do lots of Marking of the 12 steps, but when you meet a good woman like someone who's kind to you someone who's nice to you Someone who's helpful someone who's loyal Right someone who's honest someone who's hospitable someone who's devoted like why not? Why not feel some reverence? For that and that doesn't mean you distort yourself and that doesn't mean that you act the fool And that doesn't mean that you you know turn into a wimp But how about some some reverence for some expertise some reverence for You know a man who provides for his family some reverence for people who you know make Interesting creative important technological scientific, you know breakthroughs and and improve our life I'm listening to this guy and I think he's right on Like this this show has everything in but reverence So I'm going to go out on a limb here and say let's let's explore a little reverence tonight Let's let's light a candle Right. Here's the here's the alternative to reverence from fairly holy guy All right a guy who's smarter than me more holy than me will probably more more religious than me Right more accomplished than me, you know someone who'd be a better neighbor better man Who's better talk show host than I am Dennis Prager but uh Still such a dilettante All right, it's still you know committing epistemic sabotage Just he's back from his four-day vacation in Europe the There was nothing comparable in Europe to the American left They're a handful of Come on. I mean come on seriously. Do you You think for a second that that's true Right that you you really think there's nothing comparable in Europe He was in Europe for four days and like a dilettante like a guru comes back with proclamations all right that And not really much based in reality. So how about How about we develop a reverence for reality on this show? A reverence for the complexity of reality A reverence for our own limits right Maybe embody kind of the opposite of this Dennis Prager attitude radical leftist But in the United States one of the two political parties is run by the radical left You do not have that in Europe The democratic party is the radical left. I mean Who are the communists like it was like Joseph Stalin like the the Europe really does have have left or radical parties and uh The the democrats for for left-wing party compared to other left-wing parties in Europe is uh fairly moderate You do not have the the trans activism in Europe that you have in the united states In fact in England they closed down the biggest single medical authority that was doing what is routinely done now in children's hospitals around the united states surgically removing girls breasts who say that they are boys And boys genitalia who say they're girls celebrating the fact that they are gender affirming which is Okay, so I think you know that kind of gender affirming mutilation is is horrible But it's not a dominant facet of life in the united states today. All right I mean we're talking, you know pure than one person in 10 000 Americans, you know gets this kind of surgery as much a lie as the inflation reduction act which was an inflation creation act or a creation increase act They don't affirm gender. They deny it. That's the irony. They are gender denying hospitals No, you're really not a boy. You know, you're really not a girl. That is a denial of what you really are If you don't you don't have that there Yeah, so kind of a different way to talk about this would be Yeah, there are some ways that europe is superior to the united states And there are some ways that america is superior to europe and there are some ways australia is superior to both And there are some ways that australia is inferior to both like different peoples different civilizations have different gifts It's not so exciting. Right. You're not gonna You know cruise into, you know high profile you know powerful Money-making career as a pundit, you know making such a Inane observation as I did but Think about the alternative here with this level of hot air I am sure that the levels of depression by the way if you hear noise in the background, which I assume you do It is because I am broadcasting as I tend to do each year at the national religious broadcasters convention This year taking place in florida So I flew from munich to florida actually through atlanta and Really aching to get to florida when I found out that the pilots have not arrived for the airplane It's a puzzle to me how exactly that happens Do airline schedule. It's so tight that if The flight that the the crew is on is late. You don't leave. I don't know. I don't know the answer But in any event I did get here and obviously I did because here I am broadcasting And I will personally thank those who sent in for me because they do such a fantastic job in the course of the show Oh, okay, carl jackson and amala epinobe And julie. It's sort of unbelievable unbelievable thing to me The united states is the exporter of bad ideas the the biggest exporter of bad ideas on planet earth China is the worst regime except for north korea, but that's a separate issue But in terms of damage to the world rushes up there But in terms of of destructive ideas, the united states Is unfortunately the great exporter of this stuff They they're they're carefree there. So I I missed the my sound link there I missed him saying that the united states is now morally behind Europe I just just imagine the the chutzpah the the guru Unwarranted confidence just the the dilettantes attitude towards telling the truth To come back from four days in europe and say oh the united states is now morally behind europe And then for 50 years prior to this denis freger was constantly preaching how the united states was morally ahead of europe There are always some ways that you know many americans were morally superior to europeans There are always plenty of ways that europeans were morally superior to americans But uh, you don't get to be a ponder with you know that kind of subtlety If you would say to a university student in germany You know, you may not be a girl you may you may actually be a boy Have you ever really considered that fact they would they would consider you a lunatic It's it's only here that i'm canada canada in the united states are in a race To dystopia it's a competition Sometimes canada's winning sometimes the united states is winning, but it is a competition As I said to the dark world of dystopia So that was one of the impressions that I got while I was injured That just imagine saying that life in the united states or canada today is a dystopia Right compared to to where where do you think it's so much more idyllic than life in the united states and canada? There are tough parts of the united states There are a lot of bad things about being in the united states or canada but can plan to life on on planet earth in 2023 Right really life in the united states life in canada is a dystopia I mean just imagine the chutzpah the The casual dilatantish attitude towards life and commentary So the you know one would have To to make such absurd proclamations along with can it happen here meaning nazi germany? Yes, it is happening here Which uh denis devoted a program? Column two programs too. Okay, so maybe Yeah, maybe let's develop something new Like let's develop reverence on this show how to become a traditional way Number one embracing ultra traditional gender roles into your marriage The man he is the provider the main breadwinner. He goes out of the house and works The woman the wife. She is the homemaker. She takes care of the home She takes care of herself and she does the cooking and the cleaning Number two and I cannot stress this enough you have to marry the right man If you marry a guy who in your dating life, he showed abusive and controlled tendencies This is a disaster waiting to happen because when you become financially dependent on this man He will abuse all of that So make sure that you take your dating life very seriously If you are not dating to eventually marry that person, you're wasting your time Number three learn to cook learn to clean and learn how to host I probably got in the kitchen at like three years old with my mom and she taught me how to cook how to bake She taught me how to clean although I could definitely progress on that Cooking and cleaning are life skills that can benefit you and your family forever Number four you have to have something for yourself As a traditional wife you are spending a lot of your day catering to others Whether it is your husband or your family and it's important to have something that is meant just for you This could be sewing. This could be painting. I don't know ice skating Find something that is just for you and put that in your life every single day And number five and I mean this in the best way possible Upkeep your beauty maintenance men husbands. They're very visual and I'm not saying Put a full face of makeup on every day, but I do mean to pull yourself together And to make sure that you look presentable whatever that may mean to you for me Full face of makeup. I love how stress is and That's just me but make sure you are keeping up with your beauty and yourself. You are fit. You are healthy Right why not have reverence For someone like this for these kind of attitudes and capabilities I mean do you think I'd have the energy to do all these shows and to do all the volunteering and all the working and all the earning and all the contributing and all the Mind-blowing cutting-edge insights like if I wasn't constantly interacting with you know, beautiful charming women Right beautiful charming helpful loyal devoted women are awesome They're a tremendous source of life and love and vitality and energy and enthusiasm And if you have the privilege of being around them Being a part of your life. I mean have some reverence for that So yeah, I know you're gonna think oh dr. Michael McGee. This is the lamest person ever you put on your show 40 But what he has to say is gold. It's gold Well, um, and I start my day with that and then I try and carry that loving awareness that stillness stillness in motion I apologize, but to be still while still moving that is everything and And then with that inspiration with that reverence with that ground in this with that getting oneself over to be a channel of love We then act with love and we love ourselves and we allow others to love us as part of loving ourselves We ask for help, but we don't advocate personal responsibility for our lives And we love others. We love ourselves. We love others. We allow others to love us So I'd like to now Read just a little bit to you about each of 31 different love practices that I have have developed and written about And are part of my course on mastering the art of loving that I gave on Thursday nights at and by 30 before this meeting So the first practice is abstaining from harm This is probably so important that I will I had it once as the four a's of awakening with abstaining being one of the four a's But then I consolidated it into one of it one of the 31 love practices This includes harming yourself and others in words or deed We abstain from good now bad later impulses and cravings such as lashing out at someone in anger Or engaging in harmful addictions Right people talk about love love love love love love love all the time But this guy spells it out. He's so specific and I love he does 31 love practices and number one Is you know abstaining from gratuitous harm to yourself to others. It's a great place to begin instead Abstaining involves metabolizing anger into constructive responses to harm And finding loving ways to see ourselves Sometimes a loving thing to do is painful such as telling someone a painful truth. They need to know So it does require discernment to ensure we abstain from causing harm Even when causing pain Sometimes we can't help but harm someone for a greater good An example might be in the extreme of protecting ourselves from an attacker Which is a rare thing that unfortunately most of us don't have the experience The second practice is compassion for self and others Compassion is acting to relieve our suffering and the suffering of others Sometimes this may just involve giving others our caring and attention and support The third practice is forgive Yeah, just giving someone a little bit of your attention right asking the security guard for her name And then saying hi to her every morning, right? Just uh these little things We'll charge you up. Well, it will increase your energy and happiness levels and will increase her energy and happiness levels This is self and others This involves liberating ourselves from negative judgments of ourselves and others So I walk around Beverly Hills and I'm constantly seeing people wearing a face mask in their car And I don't believe that wearing a face mask when you're alone in your car is therapeutic Right. I don't believe that it's doing you good But I'm not going to waste time hating the person. I'm going to respect that they are virtue signaling They are signaling that they take covered seriously and that they take their responsibilities to other people seriously And animals signal all the time signaling is an essential part of being alive virtue signaling is virtuous Virtue signaling is good, right? We want people to virtue signal and Virtue signaling that you take, you know, the coronavirus seriously and you take your responsibilities Your fellow citizens seriously and that you don't want to you know, catch something that could be very harmful to you You don't want to transmit something that could be very harmful to you And you're willing to go to absurd lengths to send out that signal about this. That's virtuous, right? You could look at it as a stupid, you know, moronic idiotic Self-destructive antisocial and you can make good cases for many of these criticisms But why not respect the virtue signaling, right? Why not live in reality? realize that the way All sorts of living creatures function is by constantly signaling Right signaling is just essential to how animals conduct themselves. It's essential to how human beings conduct themselves You want people signaling that they are virtuous You want people signaling that they care about other people you want people to signal that they take care and consideration And that they're not just going to blunder around So when you see someone driving around wearing a face mask alone in a car, right? Have some compassion and have some empathy and have some Satisfaction and joy that a lot of people want to signal To others that they care that they want to be pro-social that they want to be responsible It involves honoring the reality of things And seeking to deeply understand the causes and conditions that drove us and others to cause harm With deep understanding and the transcendence of judgment that I talked about Okay, so what causes you to do the most harm is probably your resentments, right? Your natural state Right is forgiveness, right your natural state is to let go if forgiveness is not natural to you is because you're holding on and Being warped by your old wounds and that's not doing you any good, right? Think of the analogy of the air traffic controller, right? Let's say he needs to you know land five planes But if he's all caught up with you know interactions with other planes in the past then he's got 30 planes Circling around and he said that he's trying to land and so we're all like air traffic controllers All right, if we're just living in the present, right then we've only got a few planes that we need to land But if we're walking around with rage and resentment if we're holding on to old wounds Then we've got 10 20 30 50 100 planes that we need to land and it's overwhelming It saps your energy reduces your happiness level. So Having some understanding why you hurt other people needlessly Why other people have needlessly hurt you right comes largely from resentment meaning holding on to old wounds And it comes from a place of being disconnected right hurt people hurt people People who have considerable amounts of love in their life Don't tend to needlessly go around harming people Because they don't want to cause harm to those that they love and they know that if they go out into the world Needlessly harming people that's very likely to boomerang back on the ones that they love But if you carry a sense of the people who are most important to you when you're talking on youtube When you're walking the other street when you're getting on a public bus All right, when you're conducting yourself, you know at work In worship at your yoga studio, right? You'll be much less likely to do needless harm to others Moving from judgment to discernment we cultivate the conditions for forgiveness to arise The fourth practice is protection. This includes protecting ourselves and others from harm I put this first because it includes protecting Really all of life the one life of this planet of which we are all in a circle an inextricable part the fit practice so this isn't as exciting as a Yeah, Ben Shapiro Or or Dennis Prager, you know fiery tucker Carlson monologue, but it's probably uh Probably a lot better for you All right, let's get a little from Dennis Prager today any acronyms in my name in my in my brain the so the The Background noise that you'll be hearing today and tomorrow is human beings interacting with one another without electronic devices You have to understand how remarkable this is People speaking to one another Let you know what i'm thinking the news is Not relentlessly, but it is continuously dark and The news is continuously dark Yeah Yeah, because that's kind of what what makes news but we get to choose how much news that we take into our life and and what sources and You know what what context right if you've got family All right If you got family who you love and you got people who you love you can take in quite a lot of news And it does not have a dark depressing effect on you Nevertheless, I'll give you an example of a non-dark story that I just picked up In the wall street journal the leading candidate for mayor of philadelphia Says that the police need to do their job She's a black woman democrat and she's in the lead The only group of democrats to oppose her are rich white liberals in the suburbs Okay, so I i'm censoring myself my friends. You have to understand the the amount of Expletives that are entering my brain now. I'm glad that I don't tend to you don't need to Be be furious about this to understand that other people experience life differently, right and Other people have different genetic predispositions have different imprinting from youth And therefore, you know have different opinions on politics, right? Why would you get furious about that? There's nothing you can do about it At any reason you get furious about that is if you're out of reality And you see yourself being a much more important person than you really are But we're all just bozos on the bus bro to the view that thoughts are sins Because if they are i'm doomed Rich white liberals a lot of low life group. I have to say Rich white liberals want a low life group. All right They they do plenty of good things Right. They generally speaking they take care of their families. They make innovations. They employ people Right. They do cutting edge research. All right. They Keep their yard clean Right. They raise decent kids Right this, you know, this just knee jerk dismissal of Tens tens of millions of your fellow americans It's Appealing to people who get a great deal of their sense of meaning and purpose in life from from politics But that's a distortion We shouldn't be doing that right it's It should be an interest It should not be a compulsion. It should not be a peg upon which we we base our happiness Our our identity our self-worth They're seriously they are for the most left-wing candidates for mayor of philadelphia overwhelmingly black support the woman who is Unapologetically pro-police unapologetically she in fact Yeah, blacks tend to prefer their own in-group right blacks tend to have a much stronger in-group identity than whites do then I think any other racial group in america so You know why not Why not respect that? All right, there are moronic components to that right because generally speaking if you want to thrive in a You know complex multi racial multicultural society like the united states today you will Be more effective and more happy if you don't place You know race as your number one agenda right if you value competence So i'm sure many english would prefer a white prime minister, but their indian prime minister rishi sunak Is so much more competent than the previous three white tori prime ministers so if you're selecting A doctor an accountant a lawyer Why would you not want competence? All right, so When you when you're navigating the world, right? We all have our in-group identities based on race and based on religion and based on ideology but It needs to be held in check All right, and and recognize that often other people of you know from an out group are just you know far more competent and it would Behoove us right it would make us happier more effective if we're able to You know get along with that's why the number of people is possible right you ideally want to have the best possible relations with Everyone you encounter in your life fact wants stop and frisk to be reinstated in philadelphia She's the leading candidate for mayor of philadelphia a black woman Supported by well over half the blacks, but the white liberals don't like it because they're not affected by crime If there's a more narcissistic group of morons than white upper-class liberals I don't know who they are and i mean that literally and so this is this is the title of his show morons All right, and so this is the type of thing that you pump out when you're a right-wing pundit, right? It's it's shallow It's uh, it's like a dilettante's approach to to life Right and dr. Michael McGee. All right. He's not as exciting Is that fire-breathing pundit? But what he has to say It's far more important. It's caution this entails taking care to minimize or avoid risk of harm Both the risk of harming ourselves and the risk of being harmed The sixth practice is connection This is the practice of safely seeing others and being seen by others When we connect we share with others what is going on in our lives and what we are thinking feeling and doing the response This connection helps us not to feel alienated and helps us to manage lives ups and downs The seventh practice is authenticity This is the practice of being real with others and also with ourselves While varying how transparent we are with others depending on the intimacy of the relationship Yeah, people people should have to earn some of your You know honesty disclosure and authenticity But apparently run to Santas is going to make his announcement that he's running for president In a twitter dialogue with elon musk, which I think's a pretty smart move The eighth practice is collaboration. This is the practice of cooperation and teamwork to achieve goals We cannot achieve. I don't know right this show is a collaboration. All right. I would not think nearly as clearly just on my own I have to be challenged. I have to get alternative perspectives Right. I have to you know hear about alternative experiences, right? We all will go farther. We'll all be happier We'll all be more effective All right, if we're collaborating and we will all think more clearly when we think socially as opposed to just trying to save things on our own Right. Here's a terrific conversation with renee deresta Right. It's about online ecosystems And uh censorship free speech, etc. So she is center left. She's a writer researcher at the Stanford internet observatory And she led an investigation to the russian internet research agency's Multi-year effort to manipulate american society and lead out of the 2016 election And she was dubbed by the writer Michael Schellenberger is the leader of the censorship industry but uh this center left woman has a lot of common sense and Interesting things to say. Which I really liked which was that you said there was no neutral in the recommendation algorithm So, yeah, I just wondering if you could speak to that a little bit. Just just let us know where you What's what's the one nuanced way to think about this is sort of the terribly boring kind of thing about are you Are you for free speech or against it? I'm for it No, it's a really interesting question. I've been um, like this was the thing that I actually started off writing about, right? It wasn't state actor interference. It was actually this question of how do we think about network information cascades and peer-to-peer information Transmission and if you think about the internet as a you know as an ecosystem for capturing attention And and that having attention can translate to real world power What you start to see is very significant incentives to manipulate that system to try to get attention And this was the bot's conversation was very very big part of this when I first started writing in 2015 Hey, if you make it trend you make it true right was like this little, you know phrase I used in wired ones And so everybody is trying to game that trending algorithm because everybody wants their hashtag to get that attention to You know kind of blow out their social movement or their cause or even their, you know their shoe brand or whatever and so it was just this The game that was created was really really interesting to me from the standpoint of okay Well, how do you you know, how do you use different types of accounts in this system? How does this platform engage with that platform? What do you use one for versus another? And so I started really paying attention to that Again way before it was state actors I was kind of captivated by first the anti-vaccine movement Like why were they so good at this and you know, you guys, I know study groups So you've probably got some opinions on that too, but structurally I was really interested in how they use it And then and then I says was sort of the second thing that I became really captivated by right You have this organization with the six right iconography, right? Like you want to talk about like old school. I mean, that's it You know, you're growing a caliphate. You're you're you're putting out You're not hiding in any way. It's not like Russia, you know operating as things that they're not It is absolutely transparent over propaganda and I was fascinated by You know who engaged what they chose to put out and the sort of the sort of style that they were doing But one of the real interesting questions then was why is this on twitter? And facebook had made the decision already by that point by 2016 2017 It was like 2015 actually it was like october Okay. Yeah, it's good question. Should isis be you know allowed on twitter on facebook And this is the woman from here samford internet observatory. Here's some video of her speaking recently Interesting question. It's not that disinformation serves their business models It's high engagement content serves their business models and the problem is People who are looking to manipulate the public will often use very highly engaging Sensational half truths in new window conspiracy sensational people want to go and find out what is what is And she's right right the way that you get to become a pundit or an influencer Is you know in large part telling people what they want to hear and pushing people's buttons So people like Dennis Prager, Ben Shapiro, Sean Hannity Tucker Carlson are amazing at making people feel good You feel like you're getting something profound when they speak now find examination much of what they Say and claim and you initially take in as profound just turns out to be You know silly nonsense Is happening here. What is the truth of that? We're also in you know, it's impossible to divorce the technology from the society And so we also are in a time of very very low trust in government and institutions And there are some very legitimate reasons why trust in institutions and government are so low But what that does create is even more engagement in the social sphere even more receptivity to To the the kind of information that People are receiving in those very kind of peer-to-peer type channels And what social media does want to do is keep users on site keep users feeling engaged And so this led over time to a creation of series of first people being assembled into particular networks It started with people you may know and algorithms to shape the way who people knew and who they talked to And then we moved to much more of an interest-based network where it's not who you know Or are three degrees separate from but it becomes much more What are you interested in and who are the other people that are interested in that and that So how about an internet? It has structured along the lines of who do you love right? Who's your tribe? Who's your extended family? All right, or some kind of vouch system where people have to vouch for you And then you get certain privileges, right? I feel like you should have to have a lot of people vouch for you just to get a driver's license I think you should have to have people vouch for you and be willing to pay the consequences For you to own a gun For you to you know engage in any sort of activity that could be you know very dangerous to others You should depend on people vouching for you Maybe we need a more tribal approach to parts of online life, all right, where Different different channels right different forms of social media are Suited to the people that you love right the people who speak a similar language to you to your people to your in-group So who do you love? I think is a pretty good guide as well for how to conduct life on social media and how to conduct policies for social media You know allow people to affiliate with their in-group allow people freedom of association Instead of censoring them that shift into interest base That's where you start to see the kind of unintended consequences where at times platforms began to recommend and to build networks around interests That then you know kind of veered off into some unfortunate and unexpected areas So for the bad actors whether they be state actors or or individuals how much worse do we think ai is going to make this like Should we be quaking in our boots here about what's coming? I think again to use the metaphor of the playing field. Um, you have just introduced a new type of technology So i'm at stanford internet observatory and one of the things that we do is we assess whenever there's a new platform That comes into the ecosystem how do people react to it tick tock for example, you know What how did tick tock change away from the kind of big three models of of where? Where people connect and how they get their their information and what content they create tick tock So a lot of our smartest most influential people are on the left like this woman right Our almost all our institutions are dominated by the left. That doesn't mean we don't have anything to learn from them Right. I feel like this woman has a lot of interesting perspectives even though she's a lefty Really significantly shifts things The creation of what we call sometimes the alt platforms the sort of right leaning social media platforms shifts things again Some users kind of migrate in that direction Telegram again, this is a global ecosystem This is not we talk about it in the context of the u.s culture war a lot, but it's really quite global When facebook decides to moderate russian state media on facebook while they turn to telegram When telegram geo offenses them while they begin to make other domains and use anonymous channels. So you start to see this Anytime there is a Shift in the ecosystem the adversary will adapt. We call it regulatory arbitrage is kind of the metaphor that we use for it So when you have ai or generative text and images and video specifically You change the kind of content that can be created who can create it how much it costs to create it and so the real shift comes not so much in The novelty of the ai but in who uses it and how so again so my I guess my Program platform policies for social media Would be Who do I love protecting people I love so no doxing right doxers would be banned No threats of violence. They would be banned people who encourage dangerous behavior such as like drinking bleach Uh, they would be banned right so It sounds like the lamest thing in the world But my politics my social media policies are based on love right keeping the people I love safe and allowing them to thrive and to speak speak freely but here she is Talking on the academic podcast decoding the gurus Right before the bodycloth attack Facebook already made the determination that these accounts were not going to be allowed on the platform And it had you know, what I don't know if it was called dangerous words then but that was also Construct around certain types of groups who were harmful who should not be on the bar But twitter was having this question about one man's terraces and one man's freedom fighter And if you take down isaac what comes next And so I thought well, okay, maybe maybe we can draw lines around terrorist organizations Is that is that uh, is that a thing that we can all agree to? How do you moderate? Recognizing So any time you see a feed It's ranked even reverse chronological is waiting time is the most important factor It's probably the most neutral in my opinion But everything else that happens on your twitter feed or your facebook feed is ranked according to a recommender system a curation system Deciding what you're going to want to see an engagement. And so again, there is no neutrality. It just picks one of these posts But I was really Really good point. There is no neutral. All right, so It is a responsibility To think about who do you want to promote? Because the easiest way to engage is to enrage And so if you're a social media platform, do you want to just promote those who? Enrage and engage the most They also struck by the fact that if they change that in any way, you know, I'll hell would break loose, right? Because somebody would lose right some group of pages some style of content with lose at some other one would Win right we would sort of rise to the top would get that attention would get that engagement And so it turned into these battles and then of course it became partisan right this question of um when uh Facebook and twitter and youtube to to to a large extent created moderation framework called remove reduce inform remove was became down Right, it's it comes down. It's gone reduce was it gets throttled in distribution in the right You know, there's not as many recommendations. It's not curated into a feed That's how reduce works and then in form is puts up an interstitial literally the content gets labeled Sometimes now but not in the very beginning the content being labeled will also trigger some sort of down ranking All right, so there's ways in which these two things work together But I thought okay, so here we have remove reduce and inform. This is great We can minimize the use of remove right minimize censorship maximize for expression We can use reduce for particular types of you know, time-bounded situations right where We're in a much better place than we were in in 2020 remember in 2018 We had that sense of the walls were closing in and no more, you know, pre-speech online and now we've got Rumble we've got odyssey All right, we've got you know multiple platforms where we can speak freely And then if we want to speak on youtube or facebook as i or twitter as i am right now Then we have the option of modifying our speech to make it more socially acceptable But if we want to speak out, all right, we can go to You know, right-leaning social media platforms with less censorship Maybe a rumor is going viral Maybe it has the potential to have some kind of harm again harm in the real immediate sense Not in a hand-leaving fake sense Maybe you could throttle it in that moment while somebody tries to figure out what's going on and then inform I thought this is fantastic And I think this is a lefty, but that's a great point. Harm has in a real world sense You know encouraging people to drink bleach as opposed to harm in the hand-wavy, you know woke sense Right, that's a pretty common sense of call Useful observation. I think this is counter speech and this is kind of textulation Right, you're telling the audience here's a disputed thing. It's staying up and you see it We're not taking it down, but here are like other facts that I want to consider So I started advocating much more for inform So looking at Laura Ingram right now, she was one of the first voices who said that Donald Trump could win So in in june of 2015 Laura Ingram pretty much led the way among all pundits saying that Donald Trump could very well become the next president of the united states She was about the first pundit to take Donald Trump seriously as a presidential candidate Particularly as who bit started in 2020 really sort of leaning into informers is really your best bet here But then now it's all called censorship, you know So now it's uh, you know, I mean everything everything is censorship. It's a very it's a very frustrating Conversation I think particularly as somebody who has really really tried to drill down on the answer to the question Like what is the best possible design in a system with no neutral, right? What and I really have tried to engage particularly with critics particularly with you know Friends on opposite sides of this with the question. What do you want? Right because you have to be able to answer that question. What is right? What do you want? Right another way of saying that is like, what do you love? And that way of understanding that is whom do you love who do you want to protect? And who do you most want to thrive right? That's a great basis for politics for morality and for making You know social media policies The values that you want to encode into the system into this platform design into this ranking or curation system That you think is the correct thing to do because people who just bitch about censorship all day long Who just say that like a label is censorship. They have no positive vision for you know How you do handle things like what happens when somebody's putting out content telling you that you should drink leech Right, which is a thing that really happens. I'm sure you've seen some of these communities like the like Yeah, someone who put out content saying you should drink leech. I would be happy to ban from my social media platforms Okay Elliot black. What's going on, bro? Oh, blessing bro. How are you doing? Who do you love man? Who do you love? I don't know. I feel like I'm Dennis Prager and like I'm looking up I'm looking at Brutus with a knife in his hand and like What happened bro You too Brutus you too Yeah, bro, you you're really picking a stand against your old mate Dennis Yeah, I mean I just ignored him You know basically for the last seven years and then after the trump indictment I thought yeah, let me go back and just check out what he's saying and it was just so repellent to me and just I wanted to figure out You know what was going on and so yeah, that's why I keep Keep returning to to what I see is the low level of most right-wing punditry Yeah, but I mean that audience does play to sort of a kind of a mid-tier IQ. It's not going after the You know a Luke Ford Stratosphere scratch for IQ, you know, yeah Yeah, it is at the end of the day a business, you know, and he's got to like He's not going to win any viewers by you know bringing on psychologists to talk about the nuances Love practices, 31 love practices bro. Isn't that great? This guy's got 31 concrete specific love practices Yeah so Yeah, at the end of the day, he's sort of circumscribed by his career Yeah, he works in a particular genre and so it's it's wrong to expect, you know, someone in a particular genre to do something that is You know outside of that genre Now you sure there's not some sort of personal venom uh On your part That's sort of being expressed through your sort of twisted and tawdry history with Dennis Oh That yeah, everyone would have to you know make up their own mind like I I strive to be fair and And I'll have to have to leave it to other people to figure out but but I tell you what I did for a year in therapy I talked about Dennis Prager quite a lot and then And then in something like uh may of 1999 My therapist said to me. Do you want to know what I think? About you know my relationship to Dennis Prager and I said, yeah She said well, I think because he has such an influence on your life You are determined to have an influence on his life And I remember hearing that and go oh wow And I never needed to talk about Dennis Prager in therapy again So after that pretty much it never came up in therapy for over the next Over the next like 14 years Yeah, she nailed it You know I have I have sort of a similar relationship with laura ingram Because laura ingram was always sort of on my drive time news You know this was back in the days of the third the gulf war 2003 ish gulf war And she was the one berating me and castigating me into accepting this the necessity of the us going into iraq and If you're opposed to it, you know you're a coward and a cuck and a traitor. Yeah, you know So I always have a sort of this jaundice view of laura ingram And I heard she's an absolute tyrant and absolute bitch behind the scenes So that's the gossip there, but I think if you're a national figure I think you know I do have a little Let me ask you a question like let's say you instead of having you know a handful of A handful of millions of lists Yeah, right. Do you think you'd be able to cycle and psycho psychologically withstand the stress? Oh, I think I could I mean I couldn't I couldn't do as many shows on 31 love practices But you know, I'd have to adapt to that To that genre, but I'd like to think that I do something that's that's still smarter than You know what passes for right wing punditry today Just like there are plenty of cartoons that work on a 90 IQ level and also on 130 IQ level same cartoon But there are different messages in it like a like a scott-annes cartoon, for instance No Yeah, she's become a meme lately as a Yeah, you haven't picked up on this you ever notice this whatever them sort of uh, sort of uh, different people have different gifts sort of across the Yeah, subway People will flash to a Scott God Adams Image which I think is incredibly funny Uh, yeah weird times and like I it's just fun to try and keep it's trying it's it's it's hard to keep pace. You know, it's just hard to keep pace Yeah, yeah, what do you think about? This this idea that's I think relatively new to me that the the sanest basis for politics is just thinking about who do I love And how do we keep them safe and allow them to thrive? Hmm I haven't given much thought Yeah, I think that's the difference between I sort of have like this sort of I think about principles and ideals And I'm like I'm like What are the best ideals? What are the best principles, right? And it shouldn't be Adhere to those but you have a certain You're presenting an alternative view, which is like Who are the actual people? Right? Who are the who are the flesh and blood people? Who do I care about how and should I put those people's lives foremost? Yes, that we're saying yes, that's exactly what I'm saying interests Frequently, I have a principles. I used to primarily be interested in principles now. I'm primarily interested in interests Yeah, I mean I think yours is the more um ancient think the more Instinctual the more Uh possibly more realistic view Yeah, hard-wired and I think yours is the more, you know elevated uh perspective Yeah, yeah, and You know, I'm not trying to argue for one or the other. I'm just trying to say these are two, um Dominant themes in these with respect to these questions and You know, obviously I would immediately gravitate to what I think I would think the beliefs that I hold, you know, this sort of this this dogged Uh adherence to elevated principle is the right position, but I haven't really given much consideration to the alternate view so Uh, it's interesting to it's worthwhile meditating upon And the other thing that struck me recently is I've gotten to interact quite a deal with you know High-functioning people who aren't you're well into the six figures and I'm just struck by how Little need they have to hang their life on any particular peg, you know, be it politics sports religion Culture war, you know, they've got so many things going on in their life They, you know, usually have families. They have children. They have hobbies. They have work that absorbs them They, you know, have vacations community As opposed to so many people I know who are absolutely deformed by their their fervent pursuit of religion or politics or You know sports or something else like that It just seems like the more the more dogged the more fervent someone's Someone's commitment to sports politics or religion usually the more deformed they are as individuals No, I completely agree like the keyword is practical like certain people that ultimately Uh Are able to sacrifice their ideals in favor in in service of the practical Are those that went out the long way because practical is what ultimately Practical considerations are ultimately which drive The world on the ground, you know in the most fundamental material boring sense, but you know people love if if you're if you're a if you're Marginal person with sort of extreme political views You want to transcend the political, right? It's very very attractive to sort of like present yourself as being sort of pure and idealistic and of the mind and Uh beyond such mundane considerations But in and in doing so you neglect the practical and by neglecting the practical you become very marginalized purely Proportionately to how Thoroughly you neglect the practical Hmm. I would I would praise it like this. I think The most idealistic thing you can do is to put your family first But for most people like that is idealistic So whatever you need to do to keep your family safe To keep your family provided for and to create as much opportunity as possible for your family And for your descendants for your nieces your nephews your grandchildren That to me strikes me as incredibly idealistic And principled putting your your people first Yeah, but what if okay, just to be the contrarian here what let me take kind of point What if you're putting your family first? uh impels you towards Doing unethical things that you can profit from but that are nonetheless are nonetheless uh Yeah, that's profitable unethical Yeah, that's a terrible way of putting your family first because they're going to be negatively affected So let's say you're you're in some scummy type of you know, uh, subprime lending or you're you're pushing opioids Now you're engaged in legal behavior But it earns tremendous social appropriation Like the the price that your family and your ancestors and people close to you will have to pay Like if if you're you know a generous donor to do a synagogue or to a charity But it's revealed that you've been engaged in really scummy behavior But everything that you've touched will be hurt So that is not a sustainable way of loving your family except in certain extreme situations Yeah, if you're in an extremely dangerous situation Um, you know cutting ethical corners to provide for your own You know makes more sense than living in a you know relatively prosperous safe country like we have today Yeah, I agree. I agree for the tour intention and it's like it's important to Keep that alive keep that awareness alive Well, I think most like I know fathers better than mothers, but I you know most fathers. I know are in the workplace They would rather undergo almost anything But to be publicly humiliated You know due to the negative effect they would have on their family like almost no You know high achieving father that I know of would want to be engaged in anything that could lead to the humiliation of his family And so most high achieving men that I know, you know, aren't really particularly interested in Cutting corners that could you know lead to their family's destruction and humiliation You're right and that sounds true to me. Um, so I I don't think It just shows you what a struggle life is like we're in this we're locked in an iron cage together luke. Yes You know what I mean? Um Yeah, I mean, I think we agree more than we disagree. Um Excuse my cough coming back Uh Oh No, I don't know how much I just kind of ask you about Virtue signaling so my mind was changed on this when I heard this philosopher talk about how virtue signaling is virtuous And I was like, oh, yeah, animals signal right animals send all sorts of messages and signal And so virtue signaling was always a phrase that I used to put people down And I completely changed my mind about it in the last few months. It's like, oh, wow virtue signaling Is virtuous. So I'm sure that kind of sticks in your crawl somewhere It does it does I feel like Um, well does it often smacks of hypocrisy. There's like this um I would put it this way. There's a lot of people that there's a lot. Let's let's let's just call them affluent liberals, right? who have considerable Uh wealth and savings in the stock market, right? Yeah, and so They're they're all too happy to cash those dividend checks, but at the same time There's incredibly, you know, uh Visciferous in their denunciation of the sort of Ethical corners that have been cut by these same companies that pay them their dividend checks right, this is the sort of fundamental Uh conceit of This particular segment this particular Group that is prone to virtue signaling, right? They they don't acknowledge the interconnection of things Yeah, most people don't want to think about unpleasant things and Most people don't want to think about, you know, the ethical shortcuts that they might be taking Right. So yeah, people just want to get all the cream, but you know, they want the cow for free Yeah, yeah, they're all too happy to eat the They they'll eat the beef, but they don't know about how it got there You know Here's here's something else I've been doing when it bounced off you and instead of instead of doing shows some days I've been going back digging into My records and my archives and in about the time and space that I can produce like one new show I can dig up 10 12 shows from 2018 and put them online again So that's uh instead of producing some new shows. I've just been Uploading a whole bunch of the old ones Well, those you should play on on on Sabbath on Saturday Oh, right, right, you know, so can you like program them to play like as a um Yeah, there is that that is a function. Um, but does that validate does that That's a a good question. I'm sure there'd be some rabbis who'd say yes and some rabbis would say Oh, no All right, here's another question something that I heard. I thought I want to bounce this off Hell yeah, so I heard in one of my 12 set meetings that forgiveness is out natural state when we've released old wounds That makes sense to me. Yes Um, you you want me more than that? Uh, yeah, so Your forgiveness is sort of like Uh, you can only truly forgive if you let go At a very deep level, right? And so it takes a long time Depending on how fresh and how sharp the wound is, you know, it may take a super long time to be able to reach That level of detachment Yeah And you can't really Decree from on high how long that should take for a particular person Right because you don't really know their backstory But ultimately they do have to if they want to be free if they want to sort of You know live life In a more polite sense, they do ultimately have to let go of that stuff But it's easier said than done and I think yeah I think you have to sort of be aware of that There's another good sentence. I heard uh blame is a good place to visit but you don't want to live there and so Like some people think oh, you should never blame But like if you're hurt, you know, if you're wounded if you've been victimized You should absolutely, you know spend some time in blame You know if you're fired if you suffer a significant loss, you know, if you're You know publicly humiliated or You know your life has fallen apart in some way, you know blame Is usually an essential place to visit I mean, it's how we all Instantly actually yeah, that's where you start like you you don't get to we don't get to transcend blame Right blame will always play a significant role in our life You just don't you just don't want to live there So I think either extreme is wrong, you know the extreme that you should never blame You should never get angry. You should never have resentment. All right. That's stupid. All right. It's not realistic But you know on the other hand you don't want to hang out there Yeah, blame should be like an invitation to introspection You absolutely should feel it because it's real in the present, but Over time, you know, if you like You know, and not to be too cliche, but if you put yourself in the other person's shoes You try to see yourself through their eyes, you know, it sort of does temper your resentment Um Yeah, yeah, so like, uh It sort of goes to a Sort of background point like You know, you know, we talk about IQ all the time and in our little corner here and But well, we don't talk about Or sort of IQ is a function of the intellect, right? It's how quickly we process information but underneath it in uh underneath the intellect, there is this vast reservoir of feelings of weird strange feelings and these feelings are often negative and We don't have any, you know What we need is knowledge about how to Traverse this ocean of feeling And if we're going to talk about You know sort of any sort of long-term resolution or some sort of uh Quote-unquote healing of the situation we have to sort of address feelings in a A way that's not the simple like I feel this therefore it's true, but you know People do need a way to navigate their own personal feelings Their personal negative feelings Yeah, and you you are so there's a time and a place to express it I mean as you pointed out many times on the show anger Has given you the energy and the strength to get things accomplished So I mean anger can play a very important valuable role in our life when it enables us to get something done Immediately like, you know anger over things that took place, you know five ten fifteen years ago It's obviously not terribly productive But if anger enables you to successfully resolve something today Then anger plays, you know an important role Yeah, anger and all kinds of negative emotions can be you know in the proper contact can be positive You know discussed self-discuss can be very positive, you know So You know, I I I you know, I can't I I can't even count the number of times That I've radically changed course because I felt disgusted with myself Yeah And but you know If you have a culture where love is love and love is the only thing Right and all other things are just alien and foreign and they're just not natural I don't think that leads anywhere. I think You know, I think every human motion comes from somewhere. It's real if you're feeling it It's real at some level. It doesn't mean it's the ultimate reality, but it has to be sort of wrestled with Yeah, I mean it's what's enabled us to survive right the reason that we have any capability including emotion Is because it's enabled our ancestors to transmit their genes Right those capabilities and emotions that diminished our ancestors chances of transmitting Their genes, right? We're much less likely to have that. You know, we wouldn't be here like judgment All right, we're only here because our ancestors applied a tremendous amount of bigotry and prejudice And judgment particularly against outgroups because those of our ancestors who weren't constantly judging constantly anxious And didn't have negative views of outgroups. They didn't survive All right, we're only here because our ancestors were bigots And when they saw a man laying with a man they felt disgust And like if you feel disgust today You know, you're you're basically expressing this sort of primal judgment That may have been adaptive Yeah, yeah So, I don't know bro. Love is love, but love may not be the right answer all the time, bro All right, all right, I think that's all I got, dude Let's let's learn more about the 31 love practices here by dr. Michael McGee the night practice is trust This includes trust in ourselves and our own goodness It includes trust in the practice of love and it includes taking progressive steps intelligent steps of progressively trusting in people who prove themselves to be trustworthy The tenth practice is assertiveness This is the practice of asking for what we want telling other people what we don't want and setting limits on others as needed The 11th practice is affirmation We affirm both our own and other people's innate goodness. We freely give praise where praise is due We affirm the good qualities and behaviors of other people The 12th practice is nurturing We nurture the growth well-being and vitality of all of life Including nurturing ourselves and nurturing others Nurturing comes in the form of guidance support encouragement and believing in ourselves and others The 13th practice is acceptance This is a practice that springs from our practice of appreciation And so this uh online 12 step meeting is getting progressively Like zoom bombed. All right. So all sorts of disruptors, you know are Plucking into this meeting trying to blow it up We accept ourselves and others for exactly who we are and we accept the way things are In all things we say I consent Through acceptance we create the conditions for healing growth and constructive change The 14th practice is consideration We consider the feelings wants and needs of others We think through what would be beneficial and what would be harmful to others We practice being as mindful as possible Of the consequences of our actions on other people The 15th practice is empathy We inquire deeply into the experience of another to understand their beliefs thoughts and feelings In this way we help others to feel known The 16th practice is kindness This is the practice of an attitude of unconditional friendliness towards ourselves and others Even when we are upset or angry not not an easy practice Of the 17th practice of generosity in which we freely and joyfully give of our time our attention our talent Or our material resources to benefit others The generosity of love gives with a full and open heart without expecting anything in return Hey out bells in the in the chat art has been an important part of this community for many many years He says that baked Alaska is headed back to jail. Ethan Rouse seen drinking at his bowling event Needs daily calls from Luke The 18th practice is helpfulness We help each other to become to bear and overcome life's difficulties and challenges We help others with that which they cannot do for themselves The 19th practice is humility So there's just so much goodness so much greatness so much wisdom that that's available in in people and packages and presentations that You know, it may very well make your skin crawl like I was not at all receptive to anything this guy had to say But I just kind of let it wash over me and then I thought wow These 31 love practices by dr. Michael McGee. This is really fair dinkum. Good stuff, mate Practicing humility we see our place in the largest scheme of life holding ourselves is no more or less than any other person We maintain an abiding sense of both our infinite sacredness and our insignificance Yeah, that's beautiful. All right. We're both sacred and insignificant And chat says bank. Alaska is going to jail for 30 days for missing a bouncer not for january 6th It's in arizona The 20th practice is respect. We show ourselves and others respect So this this uh twelves that you know zoom meeting is getting bombed But come on if uh if the january six protesters and if the people who went Off the off the derrick off the off the beaten path either, you know with the outright politics or antifa politics if they didn't imbibe And practice dr. Michael McGee's 31 love practices. I think their lives would be considerably better. Hey if I had Paid more attention to dr. Michael McGee's 31 love practices. My life would have been better conditionally out of our commitment to being respectful We keep our own self-respect through the our practice of integrity The 21st practice is patience seeing that all things happen in their own time. We are patient with ourselves and others so this reminds me when I was trying to moderate a discussion with jim goad and I think the the weekly sweat people put out the the invite they publicized it So I was just like you know kicking dozens and dozens of people off the off the live stream to try to maintain some water in this We practice we also practice humility Acknowledging that the world does not revolve around our expectations of how things should be or when things should happen The 22nd practice is accountability. We hold ourselves accountable for our actions. We move from victim to survivor and driver So one way to be accountable if your actions is just think about what would happen if my words of my deeds were Fairly presented on the front page of the new york times. It's my favorite, you know my simple moral test We take complete responsibility for our lives. We also hold others accountable for their actions. We live an excuse free life Yeah, that's an excellent love practice right hold yourself accountable hold other people accountable The 23rd practice is integrity. This is the practice of doing the next right thing moment by moment So I wanted to live for god. I wanted to fight for good values, right? I wanted to be a soldier in denis pregas cultural war Right. I had such, you know lofty ideals and ambitions for myself when I became excited about god and ethical monotheism and Taking back this country from the satanic, you know pedophile democrats when I started listening to Dennis Prager in my 20s But I was so deeply flawed and I was so empty inside I was such a mess in my own attempts to you know, just be at ease with myself little I with other people But you know, everything I touched I sabotaged You know, everything I touched I I dirtied so It wasn't until You know, I developed that love and connection in my life that my nervous system started to come down a bit and I had I had more of an ability to you know, live a little more integrity I just reaching directly for integrity Just reaching directly for ethical monotheism for orthodox Judaism for for pragerism, you know for for self-help for the you know The seven habits of highly effective people the the four affirmations or whatever none of that did me any good right, it was only when I developed genuine friendships and community that uh, I calm down enough to to then naturally start Getting along more effectively and happily with all this and day by day Even when no one is looking We maintain our respect through our integrity and make ourselves trustworthy with others The 24th practice we're almost done is repair. This is the practice in which we seek to make money And provide restitution for the harm we have done The 25th practice is courage courage is doing what is right and good what it is loving despite our fear Courage it helps fortify our integrity when there is a risk of harm And the chat says nick went has texted baked and told it f off. So I think baked and Nick and cozy tv have broken up and What else do we have here? Oh god, Winston has joined cove cozy tv It's interesting The 26th practice is discipline the the d-word discipline is the capacity Even when we don't feel like it I think somebody Jonathan, I think you might as on Yeah, I think I think we're getting attacked. So I'm trying to kick people out as we go along. Okay Okay Are we getting zoom bomb? It could be see Alan doesn't show up and all kinds of stuff falls apart. Oh, there you go. Okay Discipline involves consistency and persistence in the face of medium and temptations So yeah, people who know me well a remark that I lack this kind of discipline They used to get ish word is eats zites flesh. That's the ability to just you know, sit in this chair You know day in day out, you know getting getting the humdrum things accomplished But you know, I always was chasing drama and excitement and attention So I lack the discipline to do the basic building blocks of a substantial and decent and adult life The 27th practice is contentment Contentment is being happy with who we are with the people in our lives and with our life situation just as it is It is a practice of reverence for this moment for others and for ourselves just as we are Yeah, reverence. I think we need more reverence In our lives and on the channel. I like this talk about reverence. I've forgotten the importance of reverence When we are content this moment is more than enough And as they sometimes say enough is the peace It's 28 practice. Okay. How is this posture? So you'll notice the head's tipping back which is compressing his neck So I would expect that this guy has considerable back pain And because he's tipping his neck back he's putting pressure on his larynx So I would also expect that this guy That loses his voice fairly easily So definitely benefit from some Alexander technique lessons is gratitude This is the practice of being thankful to others for how they have so yeah, notice how stiff, right? The back neck relationship very stiff The head, you know, very stiff Right when you're stiff in your body, you're going to be stiffer in your thinking and in your emotions Right when you're at ease and flexible in your body, you're much more likely to be at ease and flexible with your thinking and with your emotions Benefit in us and for the good in our lives The practice of gratitude also stems from our practice of appreciation The 29th practice is hope One form of hope in particular mature hope sees that in the long run Bit prevails over evil and things will eventually work out somehow some way And yeah, it's easier. I guess if you're religious and you believe in an afterlife Hey, if you guys watched blackbird on apple tv, it's a compelling TV series based on a real-life story about a guy who's offered a deal to to get out of prison If he can only get this other guy to confess to to various murders So excellent very compelling show just started watching it. Hope sees there is good even in quote unquote bad situations Hope see the path to a better future The 30th love practice is endurance endurance And up else says I think Luke would have trouble calling Ethan Ralph needs to be in a situation where he can't be charmed Ethan calls Luke the block father. That's big in the Lucas bit. So You can never you can never help anyone unless they They want won't help. They want genuinely To to change so remember George Gilder the author right written a lot of Famous books on men and marriage on google on blockchain technology on capitalism, but I was talking to him before an event and I noticed he had considerable voice train. I asked him If you ever looked into the alexander technique and he said well, I've had that practiced on me well Having the alexander technique practice on you does nothing for you It's gonna last and do you any benefit like having you know The 12 steps practice on you instead of going to do you any benefit having psychotherapy practice on you Is that we're going to do anything for you right until you internalize these things? and You know develop a yen for them, you know coming from inside of you Right, you're not going to be transformed. It says the ability to withstand hardship and adversity It is the capacity to keep going when the going is rough Our live gets us a grit our love gives us the grit to persist and prevail The 20 the 31st practice the last one is devotion out of reverence We devote ourselves to the people in our lives to our life purpose and to our love based principles and to the practice of loving So you can see that there are many ways to love many ways to love There are many ways to benefit yourself, right? So he gave 31 concrete practices to To have a more effective and happy life. I really like them Okay, uh the freak says nothing in any of these points is anything more than the book of Proverbs I'm not sure that's true. But even if you're 100 true people need things in different language So I grew up the son of a pastor and so I was always hearing about God God God God God And so I needed different language about God. I needed a new approach about God Not just the various religious approaches and philosophical approaches and theological approaches Like I had those up the yin yang, right? I needed the 12 step approach where it's like God with skin on it Where you can talk about God in language such as you know reality, right? So getting in touch with reality, right that that resonates with me more these days than like getting in touch with God Because I've just been bombarded over the course of my life with so much God talk Even though I very much believe in you know a creator of God who controls and runs the universe But I need new language and so even if all this guy was saying What were basic proverbs that he gives a new language That he comes from his own experience and his own education and you know new new ways of packaging You know say timeless moral principles. That's incredibly vulnerable Uh bell says quality clickbait run. DeSantis is not running with ilan mascus's vp But run DeSantis will launch his presidential bid with ilan mascus on twitter and What's the alexander technique the alexander technique? Is different from any other technique that you may have studied It is a technique of subtraction Meaning there's a technique of noticing how you interfere with your best functioning It is a way of noticing how you respond to a stimulus And then a way of letting go of those responses that don't serve you so for example If someone said something caustic or critical in a chat and you know, I lost my temper Right there probably wouldn't serve me right that would be a reaction that that didn't serve me If you know, I have a if I have a boss and the boss criticizes me and I You know storm out of the room right that wouldn't serve me So we all have all sorts of reactions that that don't serve us I have a very You know needy boy inside. He just wants to be loved and just wants to You know have sex and just wants to You know make out and just wants to lie in bed naked with women and just you know wants to be adored by pretty women Right, that's just under my surface and if I allow, you know that side of myself to run the show It's not going to get me anywhere good. So that's Another example of a response to stimuli that doesn't serve me so If I're in an office with attractive women, you know, obviously if I say inappropriate things or I hit on them Or you know, I stare at them or are all of those, you know, instinctive responses are not going to serve me if I'm You know on public transport or walking down the street and you know, I'm leering at women or I'm you know following women or I'm you know trying to pick up on women who have absolutely no interest in me That would be a response to stimuli that doesn't serve me Now however deep the hunger may be in me at that time So we all have hunger and desires and impulses That don't serve us and so the alexander technique is a way of noticing our reactions to stimuli And learning to let go of those reactions that don't serve us Lionel nation runs apps to generate Professional thumbnails will I hear it look forward to it as well? Belong as mask as vice president would kill anyone's Presidential bid do I believe that Jesus of Nazareth walked the earth? Yes. I do believe that there was a historical Jesus I don't believe that he is you know part of a triune guide head And I don't believe that he is the messiah Lionel's thumbnail apps and events my dear boy have views up 108 percent Helps that ads have returned to his videos 10 times the promotion by google says up bell All right. Thank you up bell always great to hear from you. Take care. Bye. Bye