 Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today. Our topic, men need this, this kind of purpose, this kind of purpose, this kind of purpose for them to be able to fully commit. All right, if the content here resonates with you and after this video, you go, gosh, you need some support in finding that guy or vetting that guy, that's my area of expertise is teaching how to vet men. Check out the link below to a free discovery call to see if working with a coach is right for you. All right, men need this kind of purpose before they can fully commit. All right, so let's deep dive into this idea of purpose. Purpose. Okay, so a lot of you that might follow the, I'll call it the spiritual community, the woo-woo community, those enlightened and powered kind of community, they oftentimes talk about a man's purpose and a man without a purpose cannot fully commit to a relationship and they're, they're saying that men are driven by their purpose. And to some degree, that's true. In fact, and let's differentiate between, you know, what is a purpose versus what their professional life is. Hmm, professional life versus purpose. A lot of people, a lot of men in particular, derive their entire identity from their professional life and their professional goals and their pursuit of mostly dominance in the area of making money, dominance in the area of making money. And so the woo-woo community kind of shift this and saying, well, men aren't, aren't identifying their personalities or they're identifying themselves with their professional life. It's their actual purpose that drives them to their professional life by making a difference in people's lives, right? And you've heard this, right? And you've been told that you should only choose men who are driven by their purpose. They're driven by their professional life. You know, I'm here to say that's a crock of shit because someone who is hyper driven by their professional life or they're hyper driven by their purpose, they don't actually make great partners. Let's take a look at James Bond as a perfect example. His purpose is to save the world. Every, every time a movie comes out, he's there to save the world. That's his purpose. And yes, he hooks up with a woman in every movie. And because he's the slob debonair alpha male, alpha male, how do I do an alpha male? You know, let me see my biceps, alpha male, that he's the quintessential guy to be in relationship with that alpha male. Alpha males and people that are driven by their purpose or by their professional endeavors, oftentimes if they're hyper focused, they have no room for a relationship. They have no reason to be in relationship because they're more focused on that than actually doing what I want you to lean into. And what I'm here to say is the new kind of purpose. If you're going to choose a man, then choose a man who has this purpose in his life and that's called a we purpose, a we purpose. Okay, so let me lay this out for you. In relationship, there's a you, there's a me and the right above it is the we. You see how I have this? There's a, there's the you and then there's the me and then there's the we. And the we is a separate entity and recognizing that when a person has an understanding of the we purpose and I made that as a heart, a we purpose, okay? These are the people that can fully commit into relationship, someone who wants to be part of a we that wants to be part of a we. This is why ladies, when I am shooting my videos, I'm continually encouraging you to understand what a healthy we looks like, what a healthy we looks like. And if you aren't following the work of John and Julie Gottman, then you have to start following their work. There's a great book I talk about in almost every video called Eight Dates, Eight Dates. This is the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship. This is the understanding of what a we looks like in relationship. So A, read this book before you ever begin dating or if you're act, if you're in a relationship right now, start reading this book. And if you want your partner to continue to have the benefits with you and those benefits are your companionship, connection and sex, then he has to read this book as well because until you've identified the we relationship, until you've identified the we, you're going to be continually beating your heads up against the wall, trying to find guys hoping that they're going to be chivalrous and that they're masculine. Oops, my camera got fuzzy. They're going to be masculine and you're just sitting back in your feminine energy being all warm, hoping that he's going to come to you. That doesn't work. You can be in your feminine warmth energy all day long and he might temporarily come back after you because men are territorial creatures. Oftentimes we like to create property. That's what people with purpose. Oftentimes that are hyper driven on purpose. They treat people like property. I'm here to encourage you to be with someone who's going to treat you as a human being based on your sovereignty, your self worth and your self love. And if you haven't read my book, what the heck is self love anyway, then you should order it. There's links below. Check out my book. Check out all the books I recommend. For 15 bucks once a month, you can shift your love life by investing in yourself and it starts by investing in yourself, leading by example and then choosing men whose purpose is also a we and not necessarily fully driven on their professional endeavors or making a difference in the world. Now, I'm not suggesting that those aren't good people to be with. People who have strong professional endeavors and people who have strong purpose in their life. But if they're hyper driven on that, if they're so hyper driven on that, how are they ever going to want to be in a we relationship? And there are plenty of guys like myself who have a passion in life for making a difference in others. And yes, I have a passion for making a living for myself and I have a passion for the identity of a we. And so there's a you, there's a me and then there's the we. And when a man has that purpose, that's your chance that he's going to fully commit to you. And if you need love and support on that, check out the link to a free discovery call. That is my area of expertise is helping you identify those men who I've driven by the purpose of a we. Alright, I hope you've had some value or got some value from this video. Please post a comment below if this resonated with you. If you have any questions, I do my best to read all of them. Okay, well, let's get a conversation going on this. I think this is an important conversation. Alright, I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do. First off, giving myself a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug of self love. I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm going to ask you to turn to someone or a pet or grab a pillow or even a teddy bear and give it a hug of love right now. Because hugs are a great source of love. And we can all use more love in our lives. I hope you like the red sweater. Thank you so much and wishing you a super duper wonderful, fantastic day. Bye bye now.