 و أقولوا في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكريم المنزل و أقولوا قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهادي و لا أتأوله أسأل أسأل أنا أعتقد أن أقوم بعمل أبوه who has been Muslim for two and a half years هل سيكون أفضل أن أعمل أبوه or someone else who is more grounded in knowledge الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على عبد الله و رسوله نبينا محمد و على آله و صحبه أجمعين أعتقد أن عندما أحاول أن أعمل أبوه أنه مهم that you look at a wide range of factors و أن أقوم بعمل أبوه كثير من الأشياء في هذه الأسئلة ما أخبره هو أن هناك أبوه المصطف الهادي who has been Muslim for two and a half years هل سيكون أفضل أن أعمل أبوه or someone else who is more grounded in knowledge حيث أن ذلك لن يكون أفضل و أيضاً أنه يجب أن يكون أفضل أول شيء ما سنرى هو أنه سنرى أبوه المصطف الهادي لا أعتقد أن المصطف الهادي هو أبوه لكن المصطف الهادي سيكون أفضل من المصطف الهادي هو أبوه كثير من المصطف الهادي هو أنه يجب أن يجب أن يقوم بعمل أبوه every day في الحقيقة أنك ترى أن هذا هو أبوه بصبر Next أولاً أن المسليسة onto the knows من المصطف الهادي أجد صائح хватي و يجب أن يكن هوامذ جيد و نعاوين الأج Hitler معغي أنا أفضل رجال 형ance ليس لدينا كثير من السنة، لأن شخص يمكن أن يكون مسلم just two months or six months but could be really have become very firm in the religion and very dedicated to practicing and very consistent and trying their very best and learning actively surrounding themselves with good people. ليس لدينا كثير من السنة but it's down to or even down to the amount of knowledge per se but more to do with what they are doing with that knowledge and whether they're implementing it and whether they have the signs that they are actively trying to seek more and actively trying to grow within the religion. The second consideration is their character because there are people who are people of knowledge, they're people of goodness, people who are practicing the religion of Islam but in terms of character the character might not be the right person to marry so that could be down to the kind of softness of character, gentleness, patience, forbearance, kindness, consideration and things like that. The next thing to consider which I believe is extremely important is to consider compatibility. So compatibility is a very general word which basically means that the two of you will inshallah work you know the relationship would work you would be good together and that doesn't mean you have to be the same. It just means that you have to be comfortable. So the fact that you mentioned that this is a revert Muslim brother suggests that the person writing this question isn't a revert. So again you know the culture you are coming from within Islam, your family's cultural background, how much would that suit this revert Muslim brother would he manage it okay would they be really understanding and kind of make him comfortable or would he feel really out of place. Would he be expected to do things that he couldn't do. Again there's no fast you know perfect answer to that question for everybody because different families have different sort of expectations are your expectations consistent with this revert brother. So what you hope for and what you would love to happen and what you would want is that consistent with what where he is and where he wants and likewise the other way around in terms of your lifestyle in terms of your sort of goals whether it be financially whether it be children whether it be seeking knowledge whether it be traveled so on. Are they compatible with this brother so compatibility is really important are the two of you generally compatible in terms of you know your general sort of character culture and expectations and so on. That's also really important to look at to make sure you can be different but the important thing is compatibility. So I would say that those three things there are others but those three things are a good place to start. I would also urge you that if you do want to marry this revert Muslim brother who has been Muslim for two and a half years. I would honestly suggest that the communication is between him and between your father. If your father is not available for some reason then for him to have appointed someone to take that responsibility from your close relatives like a brother. For example. But ultimately if your father is around then it is his responsibility to talk to this brother. Don't reach out to him by yourself. Don't communicate with him by yourself because ultimately that's not going to bring you any barakah. It's not going to bring you any good. So my strong advice would be that if you want to approach his brother for marriage that you ask your father to approach him. And Insha'Allah this will be something like a way also to a safety net or a safeguard for yourself to make sure that you're making the right decision to have someone. Look over that decision and concur that this person in their religious commitment and in their character and in their compatibility is someone that would work for you. And my final piece of advice would be that if it does go ahead and you have the permission of your wedding, your father primarily, whoever else is your wedding to go ahead with the marriage that I would suggest that you do the niqah relatively quickly because delaying the niqah is something that we see from a lot of brothers and sisters that causes a great deal of trouble. Because there is a pressure on the couple to talk, to chat, to be free with each other, but they haven't yet done the niqah. So I would say to do the niqah as quickly as possible would be the way to go about it. So that would be my advice on that particular question. And Allah has said which one was best. If you have any questions you'd like to see answered as part of this series and you can email us at questions at amau.org