 Me so guda brodlesankaraka esu and I'm standing in for k wanna me val kalu amarangi Yanojoo wa watching I'm happy that whatever you were faith you told me that you're in Kishi Taking videos of him barembara Whatever you are k salibwa watu wa Kishi So, with me are some good people here Lady and agenta man who are going to help me demystify this How are you guys? You're fine thanks Are you good? Yeah You are going to tell us who you are and by one starting with the lady, they say the lady's first. My name is Mary Auma Oginga. Tell us your social media handles. I am a teacher. Do you have names in Facebook? In Facebook, Mary Oginga. Instagram, Mary Oginga. Thank you and welcome. Yeah man. I am a rich kid. Who are you please? I am Jina Zahidi Amma. Jina Zahidi Kwa? Jina Zahusani. Oh Jimo Desi. There are people who ask me to call them Jina Desi. Yeah Usani is Jimo Desi. Does love grow old? Let's start with you. Uh huh. Love. Love me love too. I don't think it will grow old. Ikotu, ikotu like tangu penda nenam tu day one. Adi labdam zea ke love ikotu. Yeah love ikotu. Akuna termina zea katu se meti meru di chini. Kwa ko? Kwangu. It depends with the person that I am with. It depends, it depends. It depends. Mary what do you think? Yeah love me love di chini. See we live in Tulia. See we live in Tahisha. Yeah. So labda ya kuhi meru di chini sometimes. Do you have a testimony? You start from that? You start from there. Do you have a testimony of when one day your love went down or somebody's love went down on you? Yeah. I've been to many relationships. Wow. I'm happy you have. Kwanzaa kwanzaa. Biliu Tuliazaa. Ikotu tunapenda na. With time I want to share a box to you. Ah do ya kaji dimia. So I think love me love di chini. Men action na wo dem asha inga box yaa ke. Asha msu katu vizure na onatu. Susaha apakuna kula yatae. I want to measure on something you've just said here that you've been to a number of relationships. Do you see them going down the same way? Amani different. Labda ya kuhi kwanzaa like kiliu di chini after how long compared to ya piliya tatu ya nne. I don't know the number of times. Ya kwanzaa kiliu di chini after kitu 3 months in Tahisha nisukatu vizure. Akuna tu susasi akuna kule nesu aenda. Akunsa kaza tu kuna excuse mob too. Excuse excuse. Na apotu nikuna. Tuhu nika senstu red light. Tuhu nika senma apa nikujiwa ndoa tu. So nisa senma ilikwa yaa first ilikwa after how long. 3 months deka ru di tu chini. Iliyazaa je nataka kujua kilii liyazaa laikili kuwaja de first time alafu ikaza aje kudi dimia evo evo. The first time when a guy naka approach anana kusuka vizuri wne nge box nga wne nga wne nga wna susu wne nge box yake wne nge tu rada yake vizuri Hai, the third time texting nga, communication nga ru di chini beti wne nga fanya nga love nga kwa nga didina isha. Sima mbonado. Sima mbonado. Unication. 1, 2, 3, 7 stages to kudamasu wne evo. Communication. Nga ru di chini. Nga communication kusia ru di chini msi wne nkonyotu wne zahenda nga mutu. Nga fakuasaza zingine asemiata good night. Amma labda wne nge 2, wne nge yatola tall. Wne nge totally. One week nga isha wne mtu apukul. Kilii zatuko 2 sawa. Okay, tell us something. You had a question first then I come back to you for your specific question. My question is, skuizi mkdem do kuna shida. Sima chali. As in, like kama mimi. Mwaseki mini kipenda dem. Aina ajati daily conversation, daily conversation. At times maybe nga zachit nga stili mkwe kaha pa nga hapa. Hey babe, good night. Nga ajati ishi conversation. If love is there, love is there. Kwa wne nga sema, wne nga zahmenten communication nga kumbe love isha herina. Love isha didi kitamos. Kwa wne nga pukul round. See my dem. For relationship nga both parties. As in, my dem. My dem mwaji penda. Hey babe, kuna nga jini tzei. Sejuna ni play. See my dem. Ati kwa wne mkwe kwa stand. Ati kwa wne mkwe kwa stand. Irakwa was kama, lapda wne mtu online after satano. Ak online. Nga mwungi. Na isha kuna kwa good night. We check maybe lapda 3 or 4 months ago mkuna messages. Treadwezi. Kenza kusmusha iwi ifiiki. Ume kwa accused. Kwa this is a man's thing. Ati nini in the o mnakat communication. Kwanza jasema si pesa. Mnakat communication. Alafu yuki tu inakufatu. Apana. Apana. Apana. Una jua, una juki tu mwaza. As in, una jubia mksha kwa yu mapenzi. As in, si pyampe ane 2 times. Si ati vinyetu. Adi vinyemulianza, adi ndegiki tokas. Ina tokan ikikidasana. But kuru di, chinusho nandegi na kujia iwi. Na kujia polepole. Piala vineza kwa iwi, sila zima vinyemulianza, dumunendeli adi mwisha. So kuako, una kompe mapenzi nandegi. Na kiki takeoff. Una teksti ane 2,000 messages a day. Alafu kuna lafu kuru di chini. So yu kuru di chini ndi, sasa watu ane mazi ane tuwa. Siku nya mazi ane. Una juwa mazima na kungasim. As in, konvazation. Nani seme, mazima na takangwa pigiwe. Karibu, ina day, wana pigiwa hei bebu, me shinda jei hei. Nandegi wana nijubi ya haia. Uta pulanini. Uta pulanini. Uta pulanini. Paja de guli se mwere. Isi practical kwa the first month, the second month, ukulive 5 times a day. Ukata the fifth year, badu ukulive 5 times a day. Auta buwa ya ka. Isi seme, nikulive 5 times a day. Morning, you can just text. Good morning. I'm off to work. I'll be busy. Then at night, you can call. Ya, me seme. Ume shinda jei. Sita kia tia wa tia. Osa tan, osa sita pwana. Morning, at night. At least ni jubilo. Uwezi, uwezi kuwa wendi, uwanzi, konvazation. Bona lazima hei hei hei. Bona lazima hei hei hei. Una lazima text. Nibi ane za anza. But inafikanga temi ni una anza. Uko like, one month, you're the one who texts the guy. At night, you call. One month. Uki relax, at a text. Nona. So, shanda leizo sign. Me ni mi relax, ya a text. Nuna tu like, aako, na chudbia tu poli poli. Ile ni wendi, ununa, aku fukuza ya kwenbi wita waka. So, wana ni fukuza tu poli poli, lakina jia ni mbi ya. Nizi, kwa point moza kuwa. Like, maybe we're any moza, maybe. Nuna tu amdim, wendi na sema tia, good night. Ukuna madim mostly, like 99% madim onakongale. Uki mi texti yo morning, then u mi texti good night. Luske, ay pep, ni ani kutoka two morning, ya di temi kuna fanya ni ni, yo di temi ni kushumuna ni play, wana. Madimu poli. Okay, it's about understanding. So, umtukama o good day upon the yes. Madimu na unangai yo. Asubu ya kia umka texti dimi ya ke morning. Ha, asidemu ane leo, umtuku job. From morning to evening. Umtuku yo uki tsikwak siya rudi, ni siya maliza shuguliza ni ku elewana tu. Enona. Nitu elewana Mi leo na kumchenko. Mi leo na video, leo na video hengine ya video hengine mutu wako izi mam Jengo zamare, nasu manana mawe Suana pyana mamare. Alafu, mugene hana ulezha sayisa sa. Nisu pasikasi mu. Uza sa atahanza. Hei hu kona muna ukel hengine. Suhana ulezha ane weke yuki kwa kwa zan ninu nge-respawn nene gatoo mei biku na nakawe mafanya kwa itzaf tuyutu kwa lmuni na kwa mafanya nene ok, bacha penda another level katia nini ma kings na nini ma queens nini ni huwanza kufuta niyuma kwa mapensi nini huwanza kule gear kwa skizimadim kwa zan kwa zan kwa zan mafanya kwa zan mafanya kwa zan mafanya kwa zan mafanya kwa zan mafanya kwa zan mafanya kwa mafanya 조un ensuring pipe Buu exceptional Semione 2Shiyama 2Shiyama 126 Yata wa yu na evenly haja? Hi de, kadi kw аrvni hini jasiria hakama internet wala maka rice How many polygamas in? No You imagine them at the play Oh, okay play The play So it's sour How sister You judge them at the play At the judge But it's only at the K watermelon How do we expect to know if we do that? Why do we have to pay? What it will equal Meaning play The same thing at the At the same thing at the I expect the same thing It's the same thing at the watermelon I expect to judge them differently By the way, there is a K watermelon Okay, na, una, demana kusaspect. Aku hande, aku hande, aku hande, aku lete juice, juhu nani play. Aalafu all of a sudden, ache. Ache tu like Mkotu. Mkotu, kifanja ni nini utreti nani, wache keles li wache apu message kwa simu, wache yu simu apu whene ajali. Bi careful. Bi fuyafulu. Jue kuna, kuna vile ana revenge. Ayu na ku hei. Na zaku ana revenge biba ya. tailor mamimi mahii mahii mahii mahii mahii mahii mahii mahii After some time, 2 for 2 minutes, after some time, ame Rudi ame relaxa, kutu sawa, kutu sawa. So budakia limu leza, deitu ingine wa li kwa rumzuri wa kutu poa limu leza. Unafanya nga ni ni, after ni me kupiga, unarilaksu na kujatua na suma. Miki tu ufanya, na chukwa tutu brashi ako, na na usanayo cho, na na usanayo cho vizuri, vizuri. So it happens, kuna wene, on a revenge, na ujiwa me revenge, kivingine. Na wa fanya ibo na, we keshu ya kuendele tu. Uuuh, na na pii. Like ame siya ku revenge, ya oni bitanes. Back to square one, we wa at nani wa za kufuta nyuumba, you say it depends. I want to know your reasons. It depends. Ine za kwa de, ame neza kwa chali. May be chali ane zon, a de mane zon na red sign kwa hui chali. A ma chali ane zon na vitu fishi fishi kwa hui ude. So ya tata ona, e, apa niku baya rudi nyuuma. So it depends. Si de mane zon rudi nyuuma, sana sana, nani both parties. Leku neneza kwa in abusive relationship, of which say it man kata yuuma, nene kuku wa in abusive relationship, if you're a woman or if you're a man, in abusive relationship say no to abusive relationship. So the first time maybe, oni huo de mani kwa mkali kwa kwa, ame chuku wa kitu wa kuku piga, then nuka tolerate. No, demo ona tolerate, ita kwa tu habit. So where kama chali, oni yo style. Suta mwatu kuru de nyuuma say do. A ma, oni za tika another, maybe ukali show dem chini. Ok, ona ha change, ona rudi nyuuma. Ha ya dem pia. Oni yo chali, ame kuku piga maria kwanza. Na ha change. Judem siu say ma, ah, ata change. Nita, I will pray for him, but no. The first time chali mwuku piga, they will never change. Mwatu habit. So the first time, ukia ona kitu kama yo, ona pull out. So yundu ina kwa reasonia, mostly some of us to pull out. Ha ya, maybe mwitu na sama reasonia. Kupul out? Ha ha, ebu sema yo yadum. Ya, sisot raka apu, chali apaki kutafu ta job. Ha ya, ame kaa tunu kuru na rada muta. Ani, ani misiwezi. Ya so much of ta job. Na kama wuna fanya, like kwa wei, wei siu na sama wei ni teacher. Unapewadona TSC every month. Na hei ani, ani wuna msapot. Ata hei kama wei wuna job, like labda wja choro wa. Na hei kuna job, siya na kusapot. Why not the other way round? It will depend if, maybe nima tafta job, nima tafta nima tafta ni mei choka. Enya iutu ita elewe kwa kuna tafta, sheza dwaki. Then him, piae, intu onenye ame itafu ta. Na any time ani potezi vi barua anafanya, haa chagui. Atu onenye ina elewe kwa. Lakin siya tulea na ringa, hataki pufanya kazi. Atu mi ni mili siya pana posiwezi. Auna eni chali kichuongumu ya. A posiwezi. Ka mi mi lakini, tete ya mademi. Like squeeze mostly. Semi tu 99% madem, wana se mati wana elewa. Wana nga kichu na yaku elewa wana. Waki wana tu chali wana do. Nimi miti mademi wangi, wana se manga squeeze. Ati mi eni me choka na kuteseka kuetu. Sisi zenda kwa chali wangi, ine piae ni anze pukaise. But kitambo dina kumbukaze, yoto kisema wali pota na bila kitu wame isi. Yen kitambo. Kitambo na imelwa kitambo. Sayu wezi lingan siya ekonomi ya sayi. That's why I want to play. So, sir, what will you do? What will you do, Mary? Like, kuna kitu mere, sapa very pertinent. Very important. Kwa kuna kitu na yaza wana kwa mutu, usema it's time to pull out. We were not discussing sana kwa pull out, but love kurudichi ni. But wana yaza avisi tiki dogo. Ni sense gani yuki yona kwa chali wana tu apa ni anze kuvuta nyoma. Ni vitu gani yuki yona wana zema tu. Apa siyoni ni kimek. Ok chali, ya ya. Akuna promises mingi. Batata kuna mojenya sayu. Anko mbe tu aizidu. Aizidu, kaza kini kwa umge atu sana. Nojode wukwuna, heya kwanza aja fani. Heya pili, ni mitu na jifani ya. Nali ni ambe ta kotwa kwa ta kotwa po. Ayatwa ya na yolo. Asi muna hef chwana sema. Yendo mademu utaka. Mano mezi wezi katribi niku. Lazi mu uchotu, mischalando igeba. Uchotu. Una jifaniya mu gumu. Uchotu alisema, you promise. Somebody promises you a whole lot. Kwa ni isi siwengine tutaka wa api? Siwengine ambe tutatutu futa. Una daputa anata planetia kukalia. Nataka udelwin for more factors na inalid kupuldaun. Kupuwa kwa mapenzi. Nini na fanya, from a man's perspective, nini na fanya mapenzi ipoe. Nini na fanya mapenzi ipoe. Nini na fanya mapenzi ipoe. Mapenzi, kuna... Kuna kwa numi kuna ii nitu adi. Nini na fanya mapenzi ipoe. Nini na fanya mapenzi ipoe. Like puti directly kuako, kuwa wukona deme. Nini dema kifanya, inafanya wanzi, wanzi kuchokana iyo mapenzi, wanzi kusema iyo mapenzi isi oniki. Maikama wanzi kua na iyo viga nili kua na iyo kwanza. On me first, niza sema ilia aconversation, ilia communication. Aki rudisha itini, like ataki kukuminikete. Ilia kutemi nini. Una juna kumamze, kuchoshuana deme. Juna komunikation. Aki sema sayote anata kwa umongelene isi. Be, be, be. Iyo na kitu wa kwanza niya isi. Iyo na kitu wa kwanza niya isi. I'm taking notes. Na pili, ni last. Una piti wa makonji gold rights, vizuri wana ume, mostly wana chezanga inja. But miss chezangi, me ni kupenda mii, vizuri. Una sema like a kid overwant this right, ama kama peani in this right, o both ways. Iya kwanza kipe wa sana, utendo wana chezangi inja. Oh, ita, ita. Iya piti wa ina takazote. Iya pili, kama pei wa sana. Ojukuna ma demi chungumu. Mostly ma working class. Ike ma. Iyo, that is stopping for another day. That is stopping for another day. So ni me chukwa points, zakum bili kwa kama na naki snagging. Una fili tuku choka. Alafu excess of everything ina fili, ina kuchosa. Do you have some factors ina faniya dem from the girl's perspective ina faniya was tuku choka na iyoma pensi? First ni yo, communication. Iyo, akuna promises. Mi yung ina taku na ina shae ful fili. Empty promises. Iya ni anongia tu too much, lakini afani unona. Ini na tana yoni. Iyo ni nesita katana. We always say it, abusive relationship. First a tiyana kugonga. Iyo kugonga ni baya ni. Iyo sasa yo. Alafu ma demo wa minyati. Chali akimboonga tiyan na pende. Hada shemeji, kublaja kugongua fil vizuri. Jua mezoia kugongua. Na jua kuna bivi kuna ma dem, vileni piau na encourage domestic violence. Utazoia je kugongua. Kwa diwa ni chuma? Ata chuma wu choka? Kitu moja ni, kwa ma demo wa je realize kukubu abusive relationship. Baya ono na nga tuni ma pensi tu. Na iyo kitu wu eni tu. Itz eda moja kufe. Ie eni tu kama moja mumi habibi. Somtu na kupenda, na kugongua je. Wek, kwa ni wana umi wana konga wasi chana? Mineza kumoliza. Ebu se memfanu, meza pigoji oni. But for whatever reason Jeimo, na onata sasa, singini wew neza fanya ma kosa. Niku bali kugongua, kifanya ma kosa. Ie oni, kama sii wew, utakuwa unatikuwa advantage kukuna muscles, hana. So for me, for me, my take, my principle, is that kama nita kugonga kama girlfriend, kama wife. Niku bali pia, kwa mimi pia ni kifanya ma kosa, uni gongi. I think that works both ways. Sipuwa. Inafatu nangalia awe that you can solve anything, any issue in between the two couples. Okay, the next step, are we over promising wakatuwa ma pensi? Ipe na za changia iiku Fifiya kwa ma pensi, like the first days we kiyonadem, na kubamba, maybe shule, maybe job, maybe anywhere me metu, maybe church, alafu unam taka. Labda pia kuna mutu saizo, ama na play, too hard to get. So unaji leta sana, unaji leta sana. Ii, kujileta sana, adi wezi sustain. Ipe na za koe na changia iiku Fifiya kwa ma pensi, days after umempata, like five months, six months umempata, ii nia waku. But the only thing that we can stop this thing nima dem wa ziluzena. Ii nia kujilu kukachi, ema mbo, ema zemisina, duwadimisina, keja, na ishiku mezae, like na onyesha, ileshi de hambo. Ujum dema pendangi shida. Nini kujilu kwa mbe, ei, mamba umrembo, si next week mantu patana tulinkap, tundana kutolefom. Dema tatokia, but dema izitokia sana shida. Ii nia, you may use kwa ingiza kwa box, na ii na pubali, kama mim tuka mimi, ni kiku promise na kubali arrange, ii just buy because amaluo. I love that tagline. Because you are, you come from somewhere utamba here too. So, pointiako main, you are listing them down is that, ishida wukuwa, like you overpromise Ms. Chana, diwa ingi a box. So, una wablim, kua nevilewana play too hard to get, so you do everything. Anything. Umtumiedo, diwa ingi a box. And a box. Aksha ingi ya, ju ota fanya, ota sikusakri faisi, me pata vitulikona taka. So, aka ok. Are you guys playing too hard to get? Adina changia hi. Sasa tuki, enda iwi sana utasa, who dem me lose? Alingi a tivi boxa raka. So, let's do what we have to get. Udumumiedo, diwa kudia tuwa iwi skuwa kanda lafu, oen e tuwa, e nisawa apaana. Na siki yanga madem, aki imagine me pata ule tshalipa kakakon na do, bete buni yambie bebi kiyama na kiri zonu buklau sema. Nakilu e zitalia taa ashi. Kwa na zambia beshtia kotia kwa tanana kichale flan, niki me chapa. Sikusia nini. Buna semi, bete na dipenipiw kone rasi kiyawagani. Kwa na zakoni wali mo rafi kiyawapia prasia, na jwe mimi sipiwa ma rafiki pili ulu to influence kwa wrong decision. Sa piliwa wana t bushutule rafiki maniata kwa na kwa ambia, akona shida, bete na fenezebibirwebibirwebirru na jutu na ngali kama akona shida, yes, but is hea duakini. Anajari buni stepga niya na take, duni yoni ucha liya niki kana ee stenda tiyu kuhanga iikalona. Meri, let me ask you, 2 yas toriya playing to hard to get. How long should I keep on trying? How long? How long? Ni kuje uni reject, ama uni ambi ya ningoje. How long should I wait? Amma ndeo usi onekana wei si Luz Jumeres. Jumeres, point apa kwa ona za kana Luz? Ina depend. Nisa kwa one month evi? One month? Like kila siku? Kila siku na kuja na kwa ambi elestori etu? Ih사. Me pili kakwa ka spreng, ka k Kite kwa kwa k workedi a Photocam. One month away, mla kutupi ya misteri, one month Na shinda kwa Google deki do Mary, Mary, I'm still on you I'm still on you Took away friends for how long And they will engage you Boichel da meri is concern, visuri Kwa ata overwork Like at our promise Because una delay too much Ata one week to mister We na depend by then had them typing and attack Mibone za kujiku Aki kute saywa sana Ujambamba wasi type ya Kwa no inge box after one month Na ina depend Vilu umemsu wuka So neza kwa sija kubana One neza kuju no jukunole mo cheli hawa unge Ya na kujanga tu Ako mbiata ni nina na saka Na deo osha jwenia na taka Ata konza hawa unge Aksha ongia dota givin Na kujana kudia na kumbia 20 evi mna zungu kumna zungu 2 man 6 shisha na umuton na kumbia One neza sema One na jukunole One neza sema tu emambo Mili mma mwa fungo tu roho E apondo urafiki na isha Aksha urafiki na isha Uroa na yon doki na kubana So kiyo na salia kona wewe Niku primia tuwa nangali E ni seme ama ni si seme But jemosu na juo si lasi me piya kubali Si labda kona mwingine Ama labda anakuna tu kama brother Na juo seiziwa kona na tabia ya kuwita wa tu brother Hey bro Hey bro ni haze Na mtu anakuita bro ni crash Niki ni semo na kublog Ame sema Atisha na inakua atini Pia kikubali ya raka Na sema kuisi Pia una taka play For how long like Una taka chukue how long Ni ya kubali Uyo nili tafuta Nili jaribu kukatia Na kakubali How long Mi na ona tu inafa Kama ni mapeema Mili wu ni amazi wu na atiuki Ja na diya tafutia Onju ma boys tu neza kochno adidiya It's better piyona funguotura Una zewona wu na wu na Mi na ona ni kama tuwe Una kuwa serious in that Statement Nisha boys mapeema Uyo doktu neza sema Mapeema tu mapeema Bati na wu ma So kuna time Watu ame fikiyan atini No longer ampenda ni wilem Li kwa muna pendana Iit time tu anafaku Kwewe kama chali Dema kupendi wilem li kwa na kupenda Ama dey muna na chali A kupendi wilem li kwa na penda Una faku fanya ni ni Dwa zena wewe Mualemo Una faku fanya ni ni Kuma mbea Uni pendivili kuna nependa Ok, first of all, na fukufanya ni Ni ni li fanya Yola fi ka fifiya Una muita, una kitichini Una ongeya Yosa su na anda Una anda sasa kumkatia renyulia Ubeluli impata yu start by there Apu ndi wuna sasa kumkatia Ue ndi wosa sasa apu ndi wudema na katiya Asu zem Chali ananza sasa kuku Ananza kukusu kave This first time Ile kupata, yon do start by hands Kwen ni yenda, lazima hands all the time Weakuna wile sasa wuna sasa usem Ii atu ni wile Kipenda na wile tuliko, tunapenda na Ie ndi wna zima hands Mine zanza Nama kali sya chini Tunu ongeya Nishi daga ni li fanya Kwen ni wile uli kuwa absente Nishi witu ziki fanya nika Nisi wuna zasa matu Ili anzaivi li anzaivi Tunaka chini tunu nasa million zaivi na ikanda Labda wendi uli kusu seme A long list, a long list of I'm sorry I'm sorry isiku Ndi kujibu vibaya I'm sorry So for you, long apologies Una lailo tu chini na wuna kubali makosa Niki kukubali tunu makosa Kiki tunu na fanya nga Relationship in Adaisana Hakuna mutu anta kukubali pride Mista kiku kubali makosa Umini nipiata kiku kubali makosa Una wana So muna jipata ni water Mkoju Nani wotu ina isha Tell me something Jimo Mademwona kwa na kiburi Kiburi? Explain A timi kama ajani text Misha isim text Igun do mademwona kwa anga Una skia na sema mostly Na tika ma mimi Una sema tika ma Boiza ajaku text Seme tu boiza text Mua na text Amya boiza Julie kwa Kamна na mawa Wa zii kwa Una niko kiburi Mademwona kiburi Adaisana Una nika tunu Una na kujunia Wona na kuminikasima Una na naa Do ubaya humania Una naa maimi Una naa maimi Una nika tunu Una naa maimi Una naa maimi Una naa maimi Una naa maimi Kwa nani ni himbe chi yeu ujaneni? Because huna fukfani ñ kitueni uta maintaining forever? O si ñ kitueni uta maliz? Si ñ yondi waza Plastic Life Tu lisa man? Nga ni yunishangazani Suki yaw kwa hizan whoona ñ The first one month atakuttex Tata kwa naku sumwa na my text is all kahaniu Because he was atakawe ngei box? No! Okisha kwa tubi pamo idea Atakuttex ñ ati we huna jamis kuongiwa communication Wukwangu komunikation na first to kimiit wukwangu komunikation? Ya, uli kuwa parot, radi uli kuwa na chokana hei Adumumei chokana sumu chelia wunga asana Kama single to wunga asana Gearbox? Angi kubali Nge kubali, that's what you call asana Sondi anasema, onasena meri anasema Kama uli kuwa wei wukomunikation Lai kuliv tu lai fula wukwe ril at the start Kama wei simtu wunga asana Usiji 2k lai exasa wanzi kujwa wunga asana Ukimkati alafu, badai wuna asana Usiya chetu kunga yaa From the start wunga mei nijue Kwa mimi spendi kunga asana So nisi punga yaa Kata pulizu randu uta nikati yaa Kwa ena Juma demo na kata se Watu kwa mii miazi Watu jo opiol Watu na penda kunga asana Kuna jama alikiwa na sema Kuna dema alikiwa na complain Awa wali marika So uja ma alikiwa na wunga I love you, I love you Wakuwa kama ama pensi nichanga So after 5, 6 years That I love you was no longer there So udema kama uleza What is the last time you even told me I love you? I told you I love you Yua baki na iyo Kama kuna siku Nita kwa asasa siku pendi I'll tell you But sit nisi kwa miya 5 years ago I love you I still love you There are stages of love Kuna uja ma uba zenga Uyum henga mautuli sema Anaitwa San hen drink Ali pen down Stages of love na takatua na briefly Ali sema the first stage Anaitwa The merge stage Anase ma India sasa honeymoon So anase ma easy stage Ina kwa tu anapenda na sana Waku anapenda na hadi Ina kwa ina fika place Kwa wakukaribu wa taku share mind Ati there is a chemical reaction that happens Adi una kwa addicted to somebody Adi wasi advise dem Wale ma dem wa sana-sana Bado ni wa changa Ukimu advise ati usually nimbaya Na kuna when do you enemy You can't advise them So in the stage first Anaitwa Anaitwa the merge stage Or the honeymoon Muna jiyo na kama perfect merge Muna taka kwa pamoja All the time Muna taka kwa Like muna loose mind Nata kwa advise in 1-1 Just 1-1 advice Yenye unize advice mu tu Uadvise dem Uadvise dem Wale anapha kujikontrol Kwa ii Kwa ii stedi ya first Stedi ya first ii ya kuhu Penda na hadi amtaki kufseparit You can't have enough of her Kenye na zambia ma chali Nihwa nbi aji Auna advise Wale wambia ma dem Nihwa wana loose mind zazingina So ma dem Mwate mwate Mwate presya mingi Ma dem wana kwa From the start Ma dem wana kwa Both parties wana kwa wana presya mingi Of which ma dem pia mostly Kenye na zasema Mi kama, for example, Kenye na zasema, kama na kupenda Auna geni emphasize your points If I truly love you Auna geni go emphasize Auna ni diya kufanya All these things to prove the lab So ma baki tu constant ma pensia Ndele dogwa dogwa Apu tu Where advice chali? Your first stage Aya kwa wana chali Mwate mwate mwate mwate Nani chali analete Isi reaction zote kwa dem Ya jizu promises Ziniata mwambia mingi Mingi Ita kwa ni wate mwate Mwate mwate mwate Adi parenta kwa mwambia mingi Ata auna pia Aski Isi anunu ho chali na fai kushu Isi promises zake Aya ni aiai ke tu ki dogwa tu I'll run over these several stages Because time is on note on our side There is a doubtful or denial stage So the doubtful or denial stage Muna anzaku realize kumbe We are not that like one Una anzaku tafuta spesia kwa Apu anzaku tafuta spesia kwa Labda wile li kwa nasema Kwa wile Wile mli kwa mna takama Ame kudisa pointa Na una kama Vitu mlu li kwa na una Anata kwa fanyange Laika me boekanazo Ame kwa me had enough of them Then there is a stage called dissolutionment That is the stage 3 Kwa dissolutionment stage So stage Una ona just the ugly side of this person Laika ma li kupenda na iyo hea Na sema na iyo hea wezi Change your style We will go to UV Sasa labda apundi wata ona You are too slim anata kumto Ame jenga You are too thin anata kumto Vitu voivu ama You are too huge anata kwa Reduce weight So easy to kwaizo Like sasa understand Ana ona too just the negatives Ana ona too vitu Ufaikunene Ufaanya Then there is a decision stage Decision stage Ni wile watu sasa Ame fikiana Ame fikiana apa So una decide kama Wacha ii relationship Ama This philosopher na sema There are three decisions U toke Ukae na uangali e tuivu You don't work on improving it Ama Ukae But muwazeku improve So lastly Lastly the fifth stage Inaito a whole hearted love Ni kama me decide ku stick together After all this So after this Na Like Ume jua kumelan kufu miliana Ume jua kumcorrect Ama Ume jua ku Communicate after Mekosana So this stage ni osasa Mna zaku penda na sana Alafu U jama li kwa na sema Easy stages are cyclic Kama teacher Una understand what cyclic is Like Ezi kuwa straight line Uende usema Situ me fika Easy challenges Zinarudi tena Zinarudi zikirudi Zinarudi zikirudi Zinanda zikirudi So na takap Advise ya ko Especially in this negative stages Una zafanya ni nindi U keep on to start with you Mary To keep on like Easy times Tsungumu The second Third and fourth stages Kidoga ona chuki ana First Mi nasema tu Understanding Tu na kachindi Tu na onger Tu na nga liya Mistik zetu Na Wono yubili unam korektsi Unam korektsi Yuki Yuki liya U na kitimana korektsi Kole poli Una yubili kukorektsi Muntukole poli Dina le tanga understanding So una Tu na kalisha na chini Na kukorektsi U li fanya makosa Mi ne fanya makosa Na duksha korektsi ana Yolo Sosa tu mi kuwa Sosa tu mi kubali ana Yolo lovin nonena Inanzanga kureis Say something bro Mi nasema Both parties mi ki Wano ani wiknesi yango Umu Mi ujiamsana Ama demo ujiamsana So kama ni boys ana Umu demo ujiamsana Na jubu ani zbongana umu dem Kama ni demana jubu wiknesi yango Ni kunyamba sana Na jubu ani za reduce Si ku reduce bata na za Fanya kitu Mi si jamzunimu ni yamban So both Tuki elewana vizuri Apondo ma pensi na kufi chtiti Elewana tu vizuku elewana Na kuheshimi ana We have a Facebook page and the question was posted there at the Facebook page kwa kwa ni ni mapenzi hua ina poa, kwa ni ni na fika mahali, kwa ina fika place, akuna ata ma good night, akuna ata kupendana, na uki slide apu kwa Facebook page jetu na isa tumak comments, na isa comments, ina few, we are reading them on there, we are reading those comments on there, I want before we go to Facebook your comments on when to say go, when to say isa sa ata wezi, wacha tu ikai, I know you are one point you can say it again and again because I'm not satisfied with it like I'm not I can't have enough of it, when is the time muna isa sema, a isa sa aiazi wacha tu eende, utafute mutu, mi piyantafute mutu, so for you it's communication ika tike, lafu violence kugongo, aia wiki fika, akuna ata kuridiu suna sema tu, kwanza violence iki fika apu, mi wu nume kanyanganu meende, iki fika tu kwa violence, akana imagine bila ni ma demo squeeze especially wana irobim ko, niororo, lafum tu wa kujia gonge, kwenya umekua, to all women, iki fika tu kwa violence, kwa e kanyanga tu kwa kubu, before e kwa e kitu us, na ii o violence ikshanzia iwi yo, the next step ni nanduma na tunapatana tunapatana isi utuna wana kwa sebabu ali tolerati yubu violence for the first time, na iizu liza suwadi, kusya isiki ya umama umama moa asi chanoa nyeri wana wonga wana ume, violence iki kwa women peki, akata wuki ono dem na kuna vila na zaka chikua kitu apu gonge, jikanyanga kubu apu, aso ni imagine, mi na toka injina, atiwata wana joko injati, eh jemu ali pigu ali, wuki usia imagine iwa, aso ni aibu ono na ni kwa wezi kubali, sauna se matyota ni wumili e, na next ita kwa ni kukua tu, sauna kwa wumili e, dem na kuhu e, joe okendo kwa injo semenili, toka joo dem ni imkali, wezi kubali, sauna ikshia kwa tu ni vita, kwa dem ama kwa chali, wei enda tu, iki kwa ni vita. Wei ni nini wana zasame, buse mapatia kwa ni nini wuki ona, seme iilazima isi etu. Kama demata iikuni isiki asana? E kama kusiki. Kama kiburi ake bada na panda tu? E kama kuna kiburi ake kata ki kuru di chini, bada wana jo na tu iikuni. Batua mewaka. E. Na chuki anga yo kuhu insana. So, data kadema rudi chini na wei utaki kuru di, wei isi kumo jasi would sacrifice wei yo PSI kuhu rudi chini like kuseme, in yosiku yango ya kuru di chini, wacha ne, is there day you can say sorry wei wei, kusana kama wana ume and on behalf of all men, you represent them here now. Is there day you can say today I'm sorry, I'm really sorry? Ni kitakayo kitu na seme sodi. Ngingumu sana chali aseme sodi. But it depends. It depends on the moment you na seme sodi. Na jo piya ni madem, kwen ni lulu? Sia tiki kira, wei bumi ya kwausa bada na, kwen bi ya kibbe kwausa tu na kubali. Lekini ni kwausa ni gumu sana mkubali. Ami mkubali na, inafonu tatu na temu mkubali. Okay, tuta, some of us book, but I maybe, tutawunganisha next week because we'll be going on with the, such a discussion next week. Especially on when to say go. When to say like now it's enough. I can't have enough of this, like I've had enough. Like now, last week, I separated Vilemeria Pamesema. Ati kifika maviolence, kifika war. So we will know when to say, let us quit. For the safety reasons like now to make one a news mingi. News mingi nani ame ua nani, nani ame ua nani. So before we reach kwa ua nani ame ua nani. I think there's a point to nafa kujua, kama vidyana kuatahi, mefika, mefika. So let's call it quits. Let's call it quit. Thank you for your time. I think we learn this thing so that we can like be improving. Vile comes with them, Fey was here the other time. We should be learning from this thing so that we can avoid the mistake. Somebody called Mahatma Gandhi said, only full weight to learn from his own mistakes. You can learn from others' mistakes so that you improve on it. Till we meet next time, my name is Soguda Bradley Sankarakayasu and I'm happy that I had good discussion. For everybody who made this possible, including my people at the gallery, I can hear them, the technical sound team, the Stellas, Patricia, my variable director, Liz, and everybody including my co-presenter, Faith and Val. Thank you very much. I can't forget Manu. Stella, I'm told, I'm reminded that the lady from the Imbara-Ambara land is called Stella Umuenga. Have a nice time till we meet next time. Big up. Big up, big up. We will call you specially for that. We will give you special time. One day we will call you here because you are a comedian, you are an artist, we will give you special day. Kujetu. One day we will call you big up. We will call you big up. We will call you big up when we meet. So for now, thank you very much and big up to everybody. Thank you. You can wave. You can wave to one hand.