 It looks like Pete Davidson is finally considering getting the help he needs after putting up a series of alarming posts that has everyone worried sick about his well-being. I can't imagine having to deal with all that's been thrown his way, especially for the public eye, to witness everything firsthand. That's right. People are absolutely shocked about what's going on with Pete Davidson. But if you understand addiction and mental illness, it's not all that surprising. What is up, everybody? This is Chris from The Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health and it's about addiction recovery. And I try to teach people how to improve their mental and emotional well-being. This channel is also for people who may know somebody who has a mental illness or is in recovery from addiction or battling addiction. So if you're into that, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So yeah, I'm going to be talking about Pete Davidson. I'm going to be talking about his mental health. I'm going to be talking about his addiction. I'm going to be talking about borderline personality disorder. Before I get started, I want to throw out a huge disclaimer. Okay? So at the time of me recording this, Pete Davidson over the weekend, he put out an Instagram post. It seemed like he was suicidal. I'm glad that Pete Davidson's okay. That clip I just showed you, Pete actually just went back into rehab, which is awesome. So, so, so happy that Pete is okay. All right? I'm a recovering addict and alcoholic and I'm glad that Pete's getting help. But this video, this video is not for Pete Davidson in any way, shape or form. This video is for you. Okay? This video is so you can learn from this, whether you're struggling with a mental illness or you can be educated about what mental what mental illness and addiction can do. So you're a little bit more cautious when you're dating or with the decisions that you're making. All right? And by the way, by the way, here's tough love, Chris, real quick. If you're offended by me talking about this subject, you should probably leave right now because I can already see the comments because I already get them and people are like, but did you get permission to talk about this subject? Listen, this was some of the biggest news this week that was exposed to millions upon millions upon millions of people. So you must be crazy if you think that I'm not going to address this so people can learn from the mistakes and possibly save some freaking lives out there. All right? So yeah, those of you who aren't caught up on the story, like I mentioned, Pete Davidson made a post over on Instagram, but to go back a little bit further, Pete Davidson has been in and out of rehab. Pete Davidson was also diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. So he struggled with addiction as well as mental illness. He got engaged to Ariana Grande. That was something that they ended not that long ago. But Pete Davidson was also with Ariana Grande when Mac Miller passed away, which brought on a lot of stress and Pete Davidson was engaged to her. And there was a lot of public backlash, people blaming Ariana, people blaming Pete Davidson. And I made some videos about that if you want to go check that out. Okay. But anyways, we need to talk first. Let's focus on something that we call dual diagnosis. All right? Some of you might be sitting here and you're like, what's this guy's credential? My credentials is a whole lot of life experience as well as some professional experience. All right. So we need to understand what dual diagnosis means dual diagnosis or co-occurring disorders is when somebody has an addiction as well as a mental illness, you need to work on both of those, right? But I remember months ago, Tristan actually showed me this interview, I believe, and this clip really freaked me out. People know you went to rehab at some point, correct? I mean, yeah, I feel like I'm always there. You're very open about it. Yeah, for sure. But when I was with you the other day, you definitely seem like you're comfortably drinking a little bit. Oh, party's back on, Pete. Party's back on. Yeah, no. Party Pete's back. Yeah, I found out I had a mental disorder. I thought I had a drug problem. I've worked in addiction treatment for years now. And this is a mistake that so many people make, so many people make. And I don't even think that it's the treatment center's fault. Most of the time, clients that I've worked with, they twist what people are telling them in their head. They're like, oh, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. My problem isn't the substances. My problem is mental illness. No, your problem is both. Okay. Like, harm reduction is a topic I've covered a long time ago on my channel. But for most people, for most people, the only way that they're going to stay well, stay clean, stay sober and live a long lifetime is when they're abstinent. Okay. But Pete Davidson justified in his head, oh, well, if I just take care of my mental illness, then I can still smoke pot, I can still drink and all of those other things. Right. But 99.9% of the time the person spirals back into an addiction. This is why abstinence is typically the solution. All right. So with Pete Davidson going back into rehab, I hope that he learns this. I hope that he understands that he needs to stay abstinent. But there's also a lot of work, a lot of work that you have to do when you're struggling with borderline personality disorder. All right. Next, let's talk about his engagement to Ariana Grande. Like, you guys, you guys, this is why people need to understand mental illness and what they are and what the symptoms are and what is good and what is not good. All right. Like, I apologize for those of you watching this who struggle with borderline personality disorder. A lot of you might agree with me, but I do mean absolutely no offense. But again, like what I'm saying is very, very real. And what that is, is if you are struggling with very strong symptoms of borderline personality disorder and you are not working on them, you're not going to therapy, you're not treating your illness, you are, you should not be dating. You shouldn't be dating. Like, the other thing is Pete Davidson never should have been dating Ariana Grande too, because there is a reason why we tell people do not date your first year of recovery. People are in an extremely, an extremely vulnerable state. All right. I stayed single and celibate for a year and a half because I knew, I knew that if some woman broke my heart when I was in early recovery in an early fragile state, I would have relapsed. That was a fact. Right. And you see this constantly. Like all of you addicts and alcoholics watching this video who are in recovery, let me know down in the comments, have you either a relapsed because you got into a relationship your first year or B, do you know people who have, all right. Like one of the reasons that I didn't get in a relationship my first year, year and a half. So I saw all of my friends relapsing and dropping like flies because they were in no state to be dating. So the other thing is that I want you guys to understand what borderline personality disorder is like. Like when you see somebody, when you see somebody with borderline personality disorder, just start dating somebody for a short period of time and they get engaged, like you, if you understand what borderline personality disorder is, you're like, this is not a good idea. All right. So part of this, part of this, and this is nothing, ah, this is hard to, this is hard to phrase properly, right. But Ariana Grande did not understand borderline personality disorder. If Ariana Grande understood borderline personality disorder, if she understood addiction, when Pete Davidson proposed to her, she would have said, no, she would have said, absolutely not. You are too early in your recovery. I think maybe this is part of your, um, your, your mental illness and your, um, dysregulation with emotions. By the way, that's not how I would say it to somebody, but she would understand why Pete was so infatuated with her. Okay. This is a very, very common symptom of borderline personality disorder. They don't just like somebody, they fall in love with somebody. All right. And the same thing is like when their relationship ended, because you feel so hurt, like borderline personality disorder is a mental illness that involves extreme emotions. All right. So you get sad. All right. People with borderline personality disorder get extremely depressed. Okay. You don't just like somebody. You fall in love with somebody. You get infatuated with them. All you can think about is them. Okay. So this is why it's an issue to date somebody who isn't managing their mental illness. Again, I am not saying, I am not saying that people with borderline personality disorder cannot date or should not date. That is absolutely not what I'm saying. But if you are not treating your mental illness, if you do not have your symptoms under control, if you are not working to a place to get your symptoms under control, you are damn right that I'm saying that you shouldn't date. But if you want to date, if you don't want to be alone, if you want to find a relationship, that should give you motivation to keep working on yourself. All right. So I'm going to tell you a quick story. I'm going to tell you a quick story. This is a 1000% true story. And this is why people need to understand borderline personality disorder as well as addiction. Okay. Long, long, long, long time ago when I was working in treatment, there was a young woman who was hooking up with different guys and it's like, okay, cool. I have no problem with people hooking up. Go for it. But something I always tell people is like, listen, when you're hooking up with people, you can't just say like, oh, I don't want a relationship. You know, it's, you know, that's that's what I'm telling people because when you're hooking up with other people who are early in recovery, you got to understand that you're putting them in a very vulnerable state. So a young woman slept with a man who had borderline personality disorder. And guess what? He fell in love with her. And he told her how much he loved her. Okay. And she said, no, sorry, I just wanted to hook up. That's it. This young man attempted suicide. Thank God. Thank God. He survived. But that's one of the reasons why you need to understand what mental illness looks like because it is extremely selfish to, to put somebody in that situation when they're struggling with a mental illness, as well as early addiction recovery. All right. So one of the reasons for my channel, one of the reasons why I talk about these big, huge news stories is so people like you can get educated. All right. Because like I said at the beginning of this video, potentially we can save a ton of lives just by raising some awareness. So if you would like, please share this video so people can take the context of what happened with Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande and hopefully learn and understand when they go out there into the dating world. All right. But maybe it'll also help somebody, you know, who is struggling with a dual diagnosis to better understand what they need to do if they want to stay clean and work on their mental health. All right. But again, I will end this video by saying I'm very glad that Pete Davidson is getting help. But from somebody, for somebody like me who has been clean for over six years and working in addiction treatment, I do really, really, really hope that Pete Davidson comes out of treatment with a completely different mindset than he did this last time and he understands that he has to stay abstinent. He should stay single until he is in a better place mentally. All right. But let me know your thoughts down in the comments or if you have anything that you can relate to as well. 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