 What if I told you there was a secret question that could unlock desire, intimacy, and trust from any person in the world that you wanted it from? Volez vous coucher avec moi. No, not that question. Come on guys, you've seen this video, you know better. I'm talking about these kinds of questions. Have you ever wanted to be famous before? Do you have any idea how you're going to die? What is one thing that I had to know about you? It's like, listen, you had no Lamar, you know, you don't do X. If you had a death in the family, who would affect you the most? Alright, so here is the scoop. The New York Times was the first person to report on this, but psychologists have been trying this method for years and years. You get two people together, two complete strangers, and have them answer 36 intimacy building questions. Now they begin kind of tame like, do you want to be famous and end up really extreme like who's death in your family would devastate you the most. Now it takes about 45 minutes to get through these 36 questions, but once you do, they found that almost always there was a strong sense of familiarity, intimacy, and even a feeling of love amongst these two otherwise complete strangers, and almost always they wanted to see each other again. Name three things that you think that we have in common. So how does this information relate back to you getting anybody that you want to love you? Well, the art of conversation is known as an art for a reason. People genuinely don't know what questions to ask or how many questions, plus it'll help the fact that we've been told over and over again that it's rude to pry. I'm going to repeat this because I said it in the last video and genuinely it is the most crucial dating advice I can offer anybody. People genuinely want to talk about themselves. They want to share, they want to open up, and yet they want to listen to and they want to empathize and find out about you, but most people have no idea how to broach intimacy building questions, which is why this experiment is insanely genius. Now there's three different ways to kind of tackle this thing. This way would definitely work for me. Come with printouts. Print out the questions on a sheet of paper and say, yo, I've read about this online, you ask me these, I'll ask you these, and let's go. And then just see where it takes you from there. If you want to be more sly than that though, try to memorize like five to ten questions and just slide them in casually in conversation. On the flip side though, if you just happen to see someone that you want to strike up a little conversation with but you don't know how, try to memorize your favorite question and go in with that. Now the pickup artistry community or the Pua community is a multi-million dollar industry where men teach other men to pick up women using psychological tricks and jazzy one-liners. You kind of remind me of a candy bar. Half sweet, half nuts. Are you a chicken? Because your style is impeccable. The only STD I have right now is sexually turbulent desire for you. And yeah, while awkward and creepy can work for some, I kind of feel like vulnerable and honest works for most others. I do want to note though that while this experiment does say it will create a sense of love between two strangers, it does not specify what kinds of love, agape, storge, faleo, or arrows. If you guys have no idea what those four things mean, go in the info box below and I'll explain. And as an extra fun little bit, I'm actually in New York right now, so I took my camera out and I asked some of the beauty con festival goers some of these questions. I'm Sandra Deluxe and the thing I value most in a friendship is probably the silent moments, knowing that we could both be comfortable silently together, knowing that I can freely be myself and they can freely be themselves and that's special to me. One year ago, actually two years ago I decided I would start my channel because school was so monotonous for me and I was like, this isn't a great way to be living. Now that I'm doing what I love, I still am trying to reach for this milestone of a vision that you have for your life. So for me, I would like to just spend every day eating really healthy food, doing yoga, being with my golden retriever, with my fiancé and just kind of relax more, not work so hard, damn. So if I could gain one quality or ability, it would definitely be the ability to remain cool as a cucumber in any situation. I always respect people who can just remain completely level-headed and not freak out when stress is testing them. Yes, because I'm a very shy and anxious person, so if I don't rehearse, I'm a stumble all over my words, so even just now I rehearsed. I feel most grateful probably for my mother. So cliche, but honestly I feel like I would probably crumble and fall and die without her. She kind of is like the glue that sticks everything together. I put myself out there so much and she kind of rails me back in when she's supposed to. If I could change anything about the way I raise, it would be my environment because I was raised in a rural part of my country, which is Jamaica, and I would rather be raised in the countryside where there's calmer and more collective people there. So a friendship, I think it has everything involved. We trust each other, we love each other, and no matter what distance or anything, we always have each other's backs. I would like to be famous as a singer. So my worst memory was one time I was in a pep rally and they made me get the baseball bat and put my head on it and spin around and lots of people do those. I got barbecues and whatever, but I had to do it in front of a crowd of like a hundred people and I busted my ass. I fell and the whole crowd gasped at the same time simultaneously. Actually, yes. So someone has read my palm a long time ago and they said that I was going to live a really long life. So I'm suspecting maybe I'll just die peacefully in my sleeve and that's like the best thing ever, right? I wanted to know if asking these questions could again create a strong sense of familiarity and intimacy. Would this person walk away and say, that is my ideal match? We are star cross lovers and I feel like I've known her my entire life. And of course, would he want a second date with me? Now if you guys want to watch how that date went down and how I was able to segue 36 crazy questions in a 45 minute conversation, you have to go over to full screen to watch it. My show, Shambhuti, is your perfect date, is now in season two, baby. So you can binge watch the entire first season and of course the second, no, the second season has three episodes up right now. If you are an AT&T customer, you get one year for free. Everybody else gets one week for free. Go to full.sc slash Shambhuti to watch it. And you guys, you have to watch it. Shannon had a lot of, a lot of questions. Thank you to everybody who took part in that questionnaire. I fell deeply in love with all of you guys. And thank you to everybody who has supported my full screen show again. Go to full.sc slash Shambhuti to go watch Shambhuti is your perfect date. And next week we're talking about the Oedipus Complex, which is a theory that every man has a repressed desire to date his mother. We're going to explore that next, but first up I have one bonus question for you guys. Okay, would you trade a year of hellish nightmares for a year of wealth? My name is Shambhuti and I have over 10 years of experience as a sex and relationship educator. Last season I gave you some universal bonding tips. This season we're going to try 10 different experiments on 10 different first dates. The question is, which one's going to work for you? You can become someone's ideal match by mimicking their parent. No, looks are not enough alone to make you feel a true connection with someone. I'm Shannon. Nice to meet you. Woo. So I'm stroking the bottle and as I'm doing so naturally the lemon bursts and squeezes. So juicy. What's your most treasured memory? The day I got divorced. I'm joking. I'm joking. Oh, sorry. I wasn't listening. One more time? I'm sorry. I'm so distracted. This is dating etiquette 101. Pay attention. It's the beauty inside is everything. My hypothesis, 80% of my subjects will say yes to a second date and 8 out of 10 of my experiments will be a success. I think the experiment's working. Watch closely and one of these theories will work for you. Let's show you how to be the perfect date. I get it girl. Get it girl. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.