 How do you challenge and change That negative self story that script that's there. I call it the defective story this question from runika. I hope I'm pronouncing that right So how do you challenge and change this defective story? They're not good enough the there's something wrong with me that narrative. That's there Well, the first thing I would suggest and runica you're asking the question here So I'm assuming that you're aware that maybe you're carrying a story like that The first thing I would suggest to people is to is to to find out if you are carrying the story And really what I mean by that if I'm honest is To become aware that you are carrying that story because I don't really know anyone who isn't carrying that story At least this to a certain degree This this story that there is something wrong with me. So the first thing is can I bring awareness to this? Can I find? Within myself a story of something's wrong with me One of the best things I've I've I've found for that is to find it. It's almost like to flush it up if you like Scott killaby he has this process He calls it reversing query. It's really clever What you do is kind of you're using Stuff positive affirmations in a really clever way, you know positive affirmations Typically have been about almost trying to reprogram your core beliefs or Recondition your mind or if you know if you say something true repetition and off it starts to really go in But he uses it differently. He'll he'll find like a Let's say something like Let's say something like You construct a sort of a really nice statement about yourself and you start to say it yourself So it could be something like I'm imagine a person has an issue around their their appearance or something They start to say I Am very handsome And they'll say that to themselves and that that idea is dropping down into their body and they'll actually find Some sort of a rejection against it, right? So now they're actually flushing up this defective story. They're kind of bringing it out from the shadows if you like And so the first step you're on a case finding out. Let's let's see if it's there Let's try and get to it expose it bring some light to it first of all because You can't do anything about the defective story There's a lot of guilt and shame around this story and for that reason. It's usually very unconscious So most people aren't aware that they're walking around with a lot of this guilt, but they are So bringing it up is is is the first step once that's the hardest step Once that's done. It's actually not that difficult To assume and you can get in touch with the emotions that are around it that will usually be there What you can start to do is just to do inquiry on it or to ask questions of it What function do you have? Why are you here? Is this true those types of questions? It's not so much about Talking to yourself in a positive way. It's more about just Questioning and then ultimately dropping that defective story. You don't have to come up with a new story your Your natural state of being is to be in love with yourself. I Know that's a crazy crazy sound an idea for most of us because I think a lot of us feel very cut off from that that authentic Natural inherent love that we have for ourselves But the greatest love story in your life is the one that you have with yourself or at least the one that you had with yourself and That can be rediscovered, but you don't have to write a new story. You just have to remove the the garbage story that got Placed on top of that and is is is blinding us from that It's not something that changes overnight all the time You know like what we're changing this narrative. It can take some time Especially with core beliefs that need to be inquired into again and again One great way to do that also is like I mentioned before but also you can start to look at where you're getting triggered in your in your life Using your triggers Because ultimately all of these triggers that they're showing you really what is how is it that you see yourself? So don't waste your opportunities rather than cat triggers I actually start I'm start to use word catalyst more and more now because trigger almost like it is a negative word at This point it shouldn't be but it is but a catalyst can be seen as kind of an opportunity All right, something's happening in my body right now. Let me Let me really see what's going on here try and understand it a bit more so like I hope that's useful and If you've got a question you can either leave it below maybe and I'll try and get to it or just send me an email to website and Thanks for being with me as always and I'll see you again in the next video