 Hi guys, Asperger's Grove here, and today's video we are talking about how to tell whether someone has Asperger's So that'll include all of the kind of signs that you can cut up for some of the things that they might say to you But yeah, so funny thing is I have actually recorded this video twice before The first time I had my my mic here not in my hand It was all the way on the desk and the noise gatemate that meant that all the audio was like all choppy and stuff And then the second time I'll probably can set a little clip here I didn't actually plug my mic into the computer, so Just buffoon buffoon actually buffoon So about further ado here are the reason the Without further ado here are some of the ways that you can tell if someone has Asperger's syndrome patting is where someone who has autism or is on the autistic spectrum tries to pass as someone who isn't autistic or a neurotypical which is the kind of Kind of lingo that you can use So basically this is suppressing traits like stimming which is like better movements that Kind of calm us down as well as certain thought patterns that we may have Psychologists generally try to integrate us more into society and while I do think that is a good thing and I am Kind of a little bit against that, but I'll get that one. I'll go into that on another video So this passing we don't do it completely. Well our attempts to Act like we don't have autism usually Don't work very well. So we usually have it can be perceived that we have quite weird quirky traits that Usually you would just kind of accept to something to do with You know, it's just a just a weird quirky funny person, you know, but Although that is a good thing. I think it's a good thing because boring is weird boring is weird witness is not weird So these weird traits can Manifest itself as different mannerisms Maybe different facial expressions when they're talking about something that it's not really related to that facial expression So like they could be like talking about something sad and have like a smiling look on the face or They could be They could actually be quite interested in you romantically or as a friend But they might act like they're not because you know, we don't really tend to know how to How to convey that in certain points of our life, especially when you younger another thing that you couldn't look out for is physical traits So it can be anything from Fidgeting so usually when we're growing up, we have these things called stimming. So my stimming was spinning around in a circle constantly whenever I could and Yeah, so Psychologists and parents and stuff. They obviously it's they kind of want to get rid of that I don't agree of that because I think it's quite helpful But we usually tend to take on things like fidgeting like stuff that there is stimming But maybe not as powerful, but it's more socially acceptable like Just do this really gross thing where I rub my fingers together and like get all the dead skin off. It's it's a bit gross But but yeah, anything like that anything like tapping your feet Spinning having to spin something in your arms. I know there's there's like these fidget spinners now which are actually made for people with learning disabilities and Attention disorders and stuff. So that's kind of the one of the things that you could you could look out for Another thing is looking at their social tendencies. So if they regularly attend Social events or not regularly attend them, but when they attend social events, they might Leave maybe halfway through when everyone's like getting together and stuff or it can manifest itself as When you go into like a restaurant or something they may want to sit in the corner They may want to sit at the far for outside of the circle when you're having a conversation any of those Avoidance behaviors, I don't know if that's a good word to use for it, but there's some things that you can look out for another thing that is actually well documented in Documented in people don't happen there in people who have asperges is Obsessions, so these are special Interests that basically are something that you really in some persons really interested in They may do something called monologuing where they'll talk for ages and ages about a certain subject because they're interested in it Maybe not let you talk which might be quite annoying As well as spending quite a hefty amount of time Look reading around that subject doing stuff To do a bit so for example when I was really obsessed with Yu-Gi-Oh, which is a training card game and also an anime I'd used to watch it all the time whenever I could I'd used to listen to the music from from the show You still listen to like audio books on Yu-Gi-Oh Make decks and stuff during the day and like playing them with my dad at the end of the day These things are That is something that you come account for and it's It's usually like said is something that's not good, but I kind of view them as more of like a passion. So for example my passions now are You know university Taekwondo and exercise to fly that And especially YouTube videos So There's some some things that might be more characterized in people who have autism Referring Referencing something that you do not know about so if they tend to say stuff To do with a certain subject that you might not know about it and like laugh about it and make another reference for it They make kind of kind of like humoring themselves over it So for example if you are talking about I Don't know cars and they they've recently watched a video about cars They'll they'll make like a really vague reference about it and start laughing about it But you'd be left like what were you talking about and you know, that's the kind of quirkiness that you could There's seen in people who have aspergers not everybody everyone's different. We've all got different brains But that is something Stranged or mixed facial expressions. So I have touched on this a little bit in passing, but strange or mixed facial expressions Are a as a result of these social 10 social inbuilt mechanisms that we don't have Or maybe don't have as well developed when we are younger so It takes a lot of focus for us to have a good social conversation So we'd have to think about the facial expressions that we have when we're talking to someone would also have to Think about what we're talking about and listening to them and also filtering out things in the background So it takes a lot of energy to talk to people in general and we usually don't aren't able to multitask That well with it facial expressions and body language and stuff may not be actually telling of how the person what the person Is talking about and how the person is feeling So I said before about them. Maybe talking about something sad and smiling. It can be the opposite It could be talking about something that's really Happy and they could just have a blank face blank face or they may have a monotonous facial expression just in general it tends to dissipate a bit when you get older, but It does still occur sarcasm sarcasm is Really cool Well, I It's a general trait of someone who has autism is Taking everything literally so we filter out these social things these changing tones changing facial expressions changing body language Because we don't particularly Understand them without completely focusing on them. So this sarcasm is Saying something in a certain way with maybe a certain facial expression in a certain scenario It can be quite confusing for someone who has autism. I personally really like sarcasm My dad is probably one of the most sarcastic people out there and it's really funny But I know his mannerisms and I know when he's being sarcastic However, when someone else does it who doesn't usually use sarcasm, I always have to ask Are you being sarcastic even though I can tell there's a little bit of change in their voice? but if they generally are a bit confused when you say something sarcastic or They ask whether you're being serious or not That might be another sign But however, I find it very frustrating because some people they say something sarcastic when they mean it to be partly and True for partly partly not sarcastic as well that really screws in my head So if you do that please stop doing that is really it's really annoying It's not that annoying, but you know exaggeration Being bad at small talk People of autism may not like small talk. I think it's really boring. I can do it and I generally don't like to ask I don't like to do small talk because if I'm not interested in the answer to something I found it very boring I don't want to ask the question But if you want to get to know people in this society you need to ask them kind of thing So you go to someone. Oh, hi. How are you doing? I'm good. Thank you What course at uni do you do and at what year you're in that kind of stuff where where you live in and It may not be very comfortable. We're doing something like that Or may just find it quite boring Another thing is not understanding social concepts So these can be Things like dating friendships family The kind of set things in society that we have and we abide by so like all you you love your family all the time I'm not saying that I don't love my family because I really do I think they're great But I Generally when I was younger I generally Struggled to find the the line between relationships and friendships With people so that would result in me friends owning a lot of people and also the opposite having when I think you know This person is interested me, but they're not I know people in general have difficulty with that, but I Find I think it's something that maybe autistic people may struggle with more So if you find that they're a bit hard to tell what what their motivation is in a certain scenario That might be something to look for but definitely ask them because you know You don't know with someone who has as bad as unless they tell you Because we don't give any social cues or little behind-the-scenes kind of messages. It's Not something that we generally do intelligence or excelling at a One singular or two or three subjects in particular Now this can be due to interest But there is studies that have been put out showing that people with as per just have a higher level intelligence Then the regular person Now it doesn't mean that we're extra extra extra super smart like Einstein level But it does mean that we generally have a high-level intelligence So if they are excelling in a certain subject or they're very interested in a certain subject at school That might be another trait but Also, there's different things in our Language and our way of communicating that you might be able to look for especially when we are younger and One of the things that was shown that is that we may use more and Trying to think of the word See this is what I'm talking about like vibrant dialogue rather than this Yeah, I could have just said conversation or talk or something and so this can be anything from saying You're getting weaker What rather we might say something like it's hindering my performance or something and That might be something to look out for as well as Our accent so I'm from Yorkshire I do have a little bit of Yorkshire my accent and but generally people won't be able to tell whether where I'm from because We usually tend to put on more of a A different kind of accent and I've definitely seen it in some of the people who have as per just It doesn't happen with everybody But that is something that You can look out for if they have some kind of like a little bit more of a posh accent for where they whether from or You know just kind of a weird accent or something. I don't know. Yes Look out for it. You'll be able to know. I mean So nearly about to wrap up the video one of the last things is not being able to concentrate on things When there is a lot of background noise so if you tend to meet up with the person and in parks or in busy bars or Like public or anything like that If you find that after maybe half Sorry about a half an hour If you find that it's had they kind of drift off or like start daydreaming about halfway through the conversation It's hard for us to filter out sensory stimulation. So anything like bright lights noises different touch Sensations and stuff like that. It overrides our ability to concentrate on a single Person so just imagine just all of the The background noise and everything as well as the person's voice melded together It's gonna be hard for us to concentrate We can do this for a certain amount of time, but then again, it drains our energy a lot so we might tend to Our concentration might tend to wane and a certain points So if you find a person that you're talking to Kind of generally doesn't sometimes doesn't seem like they're interested or maybe starts getting anxious or something in public Situations that might be another sign to look out for Okay, so the last thing is One second to last thing is rudeness And as I said before it's hard for us to grasp certain social con concepts and rules We tend to we tend to come across cross may be more rude and polarizing when we're when we're younger Generally because we we don't think as much of how the other person might react to something that we say so I remember when I was when I was younger and with my friends they'd They'd tell me to like swear at one of the The other kids which was like when I was like six or seven or eight or something And I just like straight out just in the middle of scouts not scouts beavers or something like that It was one of those adventure type Clubs and I just called them all bitches just many times in a row because I didn't know what it meant And then when I was told off for it and said that it was a bad word I wouldn't understand because you know why would you it's only a word? Why would you get upset about that? So I'm not saying that you should compromise for someone's rudeness if they're an asshole tell them and Don't kind of Not do anything about it if someone if someone with asperger's Autism has a go at you or says something that might have offended you or something tell them and Obviously if they don't do anything about it, you know There's ditching because they're obviously an asshole, but it might be easier to get to trigger people when you're artistic So just kind of take that into take that into mind when you when you're talking to someone the last thing is the if you were talking to someone and they usually say things like oh I didn't really fit in at school very much or I was bullied a lot at school and Or have bad memories at school. I didn't like school very much There is a higher Rate of bullying with people of asperger's as well as autism in school especially when we're younger the lack of ability in social situations is really like You can really tell this is why it's easier to diagnose someone when they're younger Because these symptoms symptoms don't like that word these qualities are more prevalent in people that age and Therefore they're more like to be bullied because people bully people based on differences in personality and stuff like that Especially when the younger kids So if they have said anything about being bullied or being not understood very well That might be a good sign that they might have other autism Had autism have autism so this has been How to tell whether someone has asperger's or not. 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