 A very good morning, respected Dr. Anand Gokani sir, Dr. Pradireta Principal, my dear students and the wonderful faculty members. And a very, very warm welcome to all the audiences who are watching us live on Facebook. It is a matter of absolute pride for us to have a session with Dr. Anand Gokani. I am absolutely in no capacity to introduce you sir, but let me just take quick two minutes to tell the audience about you. Dr. Anand Gokani sir is a practicing diabetologist at Bombay Hospital. He has been working with children of all age groups and understanding that the root cause of stress, which is the precursor to diseases like diabetes is founded at a very early age because of which he started taking these motivational work camps back in the year 1999. And from there on has been interacting with a lot of students. He is the great grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and truly believes that the policies for a healthy living like honesty and, you know, integrity is crucial for one's success. So it is an honor and we are all looking forward to this session. This platform is all yours. Thank you very much, Agandha. And good morning to everybody here. This is a privilege which has been bestowed upon me and I'm not sure really how much I deserve all the words that you spoke about me. But sometimes the praise comes first and then you have to work to deliver the goods. So I'm going to endeavor to be as fitting and as deserving of all your compliments. Whilst I was waiting here and looking up on all the sheets of all on all the pages, the bright faces of the students of the 10th standard of El Pros International, I couldn't help but notice one thing that each one of you has got a brightness which is unique to yourself. And this brightness is what is your personal characteristic. And oftentimes when I give lectures I prepare things to speak but when I'm faced with the audience, the audience evokes some things which I was never prepared for. And today is not going to be any exception. So if you feel some things really nice, then you can imagine that it has been reflected from off your face to me. And it's only me who's privileged to have put it into words. But it's actually coming from you. So whilst I watch all your faces and speak to you all I definitely realize that I'm not sticking to any script. One thought came to my mind. I say all of you presently sitting in this crisis period at home on your computer, we have a very different kind of togetherness. But togetherness which is very distant, we are not next to each other to touch and feel each other but we are next to each other in spirit. And every day, day after day, we hit this platform to learn something, to work at something, to share views and to move forward. So it brings me to the next question. Why are we doing all this? Why do we have sessions like this? Why do we invite people to talk? Why do we study books? Why do we read? Why do we do anything? And this answer has been plaguing so many for so many years and the answers are different that every time and for every person. But there's one common word. There's a purpose. We have a purpose to be alive, to be living, to be here on this earth. And I have noticed through all my reading and all the years of my own experience that a life without purpose is a life which has been wasted. If you have come here to be like a leaf in autumn and just be blown around by the winds of change and not have any purpose in life, when the time comes for reckoning, you will find that there's no answer you can give. So the first thing that has to happen with us is that we need to derive what is the purpose of our life. And that purpose is become our passion. You don't have to look very far. You have to look within yourself, in your own mind. When you look in your own mind and you think, what gets me most excited? Like somebody would be most excited to fit into the role of a doctor. He love helping people who are unwell. It's like a jigsaw puzzle. You get all your symptoms from the patient. You put more investigations. You add two and two and make four. And with that four, you help that patient. He becomes well and you feel fulfilled. And so it becomes a jigsaw puzzle, patient after patient. And I dare say each jigsaw puzzle is not only a jigsaw puzzle but it's a full video. It's a full movie because each patient is an episode by himself. So many times I come home and I tell my family that I have a very good time at work today. And they wonder how because everyone goes to work and comes back tired. And I say, I'm not tired. The reason is that every patient of mine was like an episode of a serial. And I enjoyed myself through and through. The reason is that I followed the path of my passion because I wanted to be a doctor. That answer came to me many years back and I worked towards it and I reached where I want. Likewise, one of you might want to become an aeronautical engineer. Someone may want to become an astronaut or someone want to become an engineer. Someone may want to be a nurse or anything. You may want to do anything but that passion within you will inform you. It will be when you taste that water, you will know this is the right water for me. But how does one discover that? He discovers that by broadening his outlook. If you narrow yourself to routine, only what is visible, then you're like the horse that draws the cart who's got blinkers on the side and only sees one thing. And when he sees only one thing, doesn't know what's happening anywhere around him. I'm not talking about your visible eyes. I'm talking about your mind. Your mind has to diversify. So what if you're a commerce student? Doesn't mean you don't read science. So what if you're a science student? Doesn't mean you don't read commerce or art or literature. It doesn't mean that you don't paint or don't act in dramas. Doesn't mean that you don't travel. Do everything that is possible on earth. Put your finger in every pie. Experience everything whilst you're at this age. Because you might reserve all these activities for the age of past retirement. Say when I have holidays I'll do, when I have time I'll do. When I have retired I'll do. And suddenly you'll find that time's gone. For example, simple thing. I asked many children how many of you have read the Bhagavad Gita? We say we are Hindu or we say we are Christian. We say we are Islamic. Have we read our books? Have we understood our books? They say no, no, no. We go to temple, we go to church, we go to Dargah, we go to mosque or we go wherever. But we don't read our books. Why is the old people okay? This 75 year old man led his life haphazardly. Now he's sitting at home retired. He decides to pick up the Bhagavad Gita. And he starts reading it. And he starts, when he reads the first chapter he understands that oh, this was a fantastic idea. He reads the second chapter and says oh, this was super. And then he sits back and regrets. I wish someone had told me this when I was 12. I would have implemented it and enjoyed the rest of my life. So you'll learn, you get the key to your happiness when you're 75, when half your life or more than half your life is over. And that's the biggest folly that everyone makes is that they look, they shy away from that which is beneficial and take only what is rubbish because that is served to you by the devil and made attractive with good attractive wrapping paper. And you get drawn into it and then into the whirlpool of life. And then when you get thrown out half dead that's the time when you pick up these books. This is a picturesque example of what happens to everybody. Now when I go to read the Bhagavad Gita I also think, I said did all this actually happen? It was there one wise man who sat and wrote this whole book or were there many editions of it before it became solid? I can't answer that question, but I do answer one question. I say, I look at the cover and I see a chariot and on the chariot are two gentlemen. You remember which two gentlemen whoever's looked at the cover? Rahul? Sir, is it Krishna and Arjun? Yes, absolutely. So you look at the horses, you look at the chariot, you look at Arjun, you look at Krishna and you say, is it actually that message that is going through or is there a different message? Now you look at your own self, your own being. Your own being has five senses. We can smell, we can see, we can touch, we can taste and we can hear. I have a question. No, no questions afterwards. So when we have five senses, they are like the five horses that drive us to choose where we are going. And when we have the chariot is our body and Arjun is the mind because he's the one who's pulling the horses in the right direction or what he feels is the right direction and he's moving on and Krishna is the one who knows the full program. And he's keep on instructing somebody's audio is on. Sir, if you could please unmute yourself. Sir, if you could please unmute yourself. I'm sorry. So what I was saying is when Krishna instructs Arjun and Arjun executes it on the five horses and the carriage has a purposeful direction, it goes to where it is supposed to go and does what it is supposed to do. It gives me an insight into our human nature. We all know that a human being is body, mind and soul. And the body is what we see. The mind is all the electrical connections and the thinking ability. But what the mind thinks and how it executes that thought is all governed by the soul. And the soul is the thing that gives purpose to the mind and body. And that conglomerate of body, mind and soul is our human form. So all your children are conglomerates of body, mind and soul. But you need to know how to listen to that voice of the soul which tells you the purpose of your life. So the bottom line of this whole introduction is that you need to have a purpose driven life. Without purpose, your life is wasted. And to get that purpose driven life, you need to do several things. You need to have several attributes. So we're gonna examine these attributes because at your juncture, had someone told me these attributes, I don't know where I would have been. But I discovered these attributes by and by when I read about things, when I listen to people or when I experience and my experience teaches me to do better next time. Of course, experience is the best teacher but it leaves you quite scarred and it leaves you with lots of experience but sometimes inability to translate experience into action. So then the qualities that we need to look on when we are trying to have a purpose driven life is the first thing I'll say is discipline. If you have discipline and what is discipline? I thought a lot about what is discipline. Some people think discipline is being trapped in a cage and not being able to be free. Freedom is not discipline. Freedom comes with responsibility and the responsibility comes close to discipline. And in freedom, discipline is imposed by yourself. In imprisonment, discipline is imposed by someone else. And we want independence. We want to be free. We want to be capable of making our own decisions. Then it's very important that we do self-discipline. Discipline is the bridge. I like this sentence a lot and I want you to remember it. Discipline is the bridge between ambition and achievement. If you have an ambition and you want to achieve it. So it's the chemist. Chiran, please keep yourself on mute. I think somebody is unmuted and speaking in between. I'm sorry for the intervention. No, no, no, no problem. That's Arsha. Arsha, please mute yourselves. Okay. I was saying that discipline is a bridge. And that bridge is the bridge between ambition and achievement. And we have all many ambitions. We want to do this. We want to do that. We want to be everywhere at the same time. But if you want to reach achievement and you want to succeed in your ambitions. Then it's very important that you have discipline. And discipline means to be able to work to a certain program and stick to it no matter what. No matter what distractions you have and no matter what pulls you away from your main purpose in life. And this is the most important thing which has to be engendered at this age, if not earlier. So all the children in this group today make one resolve that hence forward we have to be regulated by ourselves. And to be regulated is not copying someone. It's not like if you regulate yourself you have become a carbon copy of your grownups. So don't cut your nose to spite your face by saying that if my grownups are disciplined or if they're telling me to be disciplined I won't be disciplined just because I want to assert my opinion. You can assert your opinion in so many different ways but discipline is something that is timeless. It's as old as the hills. If those people who had discipline reach somewhere in life. So there are many stories I can share with you on discipline but at present we'll just stick with this much. Remember that discipline is the bridge between ambition and achievement. If you want to achieve your ambitions you must engender discipline. The next thing is focus. If you have discipline next thing you must have is focus. And when I say focus I again go back to Mahabharat and if you remember Dronacharya who was the guru of all the Kauravas and the Pandavas he took them to a field and he was teaching them archery. He asked Duryodhan that there is a bird in the tree. I want you to shoot the red eye. The eye of the bird is red. I want to shoot your arrow at the red eye. After sometime he asked everyone Duryodhan he asked Duryodhan what do you see? He said I see a field and in that field I see many trees. He said in that one tree I see a bird and on that bird I see a red eye. So okay Bhim what do you see? He said I see a tree, I see a bird and I see a red eye. He asked Arjun what do you see? Arjun said I see a red eye. He just said I see a red eye. And then he said okay shoot. And Duryodhan's arrow went somewhere the Bhim's arrow went in the tree but missed the bird. Arjun's arrow hit home. Why? Because he had a task at hand and he focused on it ruthlessly. And when he focused on it he only saw that and nothing else. So if you employ that same philosophy in your life and when you have exam you only focus on exam. When you have a project you only focus on project. When you have a relationship only focus on relationship and give all these your 100% at a time. I don't say don't have many programs but at a time you give what you're doing your 100% which means what you're doing now is listening to me. Give that 100%. When you talk I give you 100%. When someone else speaks I give that person 100%. If we do that every moment in our life will be packed with meaning will be packed with experience. And so focus becomes a very important thing and focus leads to a very important philosophy and which is to live in the here and now. Now you know that many people have a habit of worrying. Your parents may be a worrier. You may be a worrier. What does worry do you? When do you worry? You worry today. And what do you worry about? You worry about tomorrow. So today you become a worrier about tomorrow. What will happen in my exam? What will happen in this project? What will happen to my life? You sit and worry. What are you doing about today? You're wasting today in worrying about tomorrow. So today's gone. Today's wasted. Now tomorrow arrives. Tomorrow becomes today. And when tomorrow becomes today you worry about tomorrow because that's your habit. And tomorrow becomes today. And today becomes yesterday. And then you wring your hands and regret about yesterday. That oh my God, my past has been so miserable. So 90% of humanity waste their life in regretting the past and worrying about tomorrow and wasting a perfectly good today. And every today becomes a tomorrow. Every today becomes a tomorrow and every today also becomes a yesterday. So if you wanna lead your life and at the age of 50 say that I have a very regrettable past and a very worrisome future. The reason is because you never use today. What if you use today? Forget about tomorrow. It has not happened yet. We don't know what will happen. Today if you give your best and your best is gonna change every day. You give your 100% best today. You'll get your 100% best result today. And when you get your 100% best result today your past is gonna be a happy one because every today which was well spent becomes a happy past and so you don't regret the past. And when tomorrow becomes today you give it the best. And when you give it the best your present is also happy and your future is also bright. And that habit shifts you from living tomorrow or living yesterday, live today. And that means live in the here and now. And when you live in the here and now today this second is your here and now. Where you are and what time it is is the here and now. And in that here and now give it your best and give every here and now your best and you'll have the best result in life. So that is the derivative of focus. So when you focus you give your here and now the best. And this here and now makes your past and future bright. So get that into your system. Give your here and now the best. Don't worry about tomorrow it not happen. When it happens we'll deal with it. Have faith in yourself. Have faith that under any circumstance if you give your best you can get out of it. And if you can't get out of it no one can get out of it. Because you have to have faith that I am unique and I am the best. And which you are. But that best is shrouded with doubt and is shrouded with all the negative things possible. So let there not be any of these envelopes that cover your inner glory and let it express. So that's about focus. Now when you focus you say focus on what? So we get to the crux which means have a goal. Which means that this juncture in your life having lived 15, 16 years you have to plan what's the next 15, 16 years going to be for you. And in the next 15, 16 years you have to establish many things. You have to establish a profession. You have to establish a family. Maybe you have to establish children. You have to establish a home. You have to live life. You have to have a circle and there are so many things to be done. How do we do that? We set ourselves a goal. What do I want to make out of myself? I know you have one goal now to choose commerce, science or arts. And that goal is obsessing your mind. I'm sure every one of you has already clarified that goal and know what you're gonna do. Once you know what you're gonna do, concentrate on it. And don't do because my friend to commerce I went to commerce because we can't be separated. You will get new friends, but follow your passion. I had a friend who followed me to medicine. Today he's a dropout. He couldn't manage it. He came in with me because he says, well, you are going to medicine, I'll also go. He got in, but he couldn't get out. And therefore it's very important that when it comes to major decisions you look only to yourself and gather friends on your journey but your journey should be well-focused, get your goal right. So important thing today, in the next one month is that you should sit down and pen your thoughts, write it in a diary, sit by yourself and write a good solid goal or a mission statement. What is my mission in life? Write it down. And once you write a mission statement it'll be very clear in your mind that this is how I see myself when I'm 25. I see myself in an office, executive owning a business or see myself practicing medicine or I see myself on X, Y and Z platform. See yourself somewhere when you're 25 and then set that goal. After that long-term goal is set, you set short-term goals and every short-term goal is a step towards the long-term goal. So get into the habit of setting goals that today I'll achieve this much, tomorrow I'll achieve that much, day after I'll achieve that much and at the end of the week I'll achieve that much and if I achieve that much, I'm that much closer to my goal. So setting goals is the exercise which derives from having focus. Now you said short-term, yeah, no questions just now. We do questions later. When you set goals, you have to have a frame of time also and so we need to have time management. If you have a frame of time that I would do this much in this time, like for example today you have to be at this class at 11 o'clock means at 11, everyone has accumulated and done it. So like that if you have a frame of time, then you make the best of your time. It reminds me of Rudyard Kipling's poem which ends with the last two lines. If you fill each unforgiving minute with 60 seconds of distance run, then and only then will you be a man, my son. This is advice to his son. But in today's times, this advice fits the daughter also and the son also that if you fail each unforgiving minute, why does he say unforgiving minute? Because time is something that once gone will never come back. Your 10 standard once gone will never come back. You can't say, oh, I wish I had a chance to do it again. I wouldn't have played the fool if I had been told that's the right time. So if you wanna play the fool, remember you're like the grasshopper and not the ant. The grasshopper fiddled when it was summer, played music, enjoyed itself. When winter came, had no food to eat. The ant collected food in summer, stacked up her and hill and at the end of it in winter, comfortably enjoyed food and security and happiness. So if you have a program which you have to fulfill, you must have time management. And for time management, there is a very simple exercise. Write a to-do list every day. Once you set your goals, you know what you have to do to get there. So you make a to-do list every day. Roll out a bed, take a paper and sit down and sit to-do. I have to, you can start with things like, I have to brush my teeth, I have to bathe, I have to dress up, I have to go to school, I have to do this homework, I have to telephone X, Y, Z. I have to buy Y, A, B, C and make this entire list. After making this list, till you get into the habit, you make a second step. And the second step is divide the page into four. In the top left-hand corner, you write urgent and important. In the next side on the right-hand corner on the top, you write urgent but not important. Then next you write below, you write not urgent but important. And the last you write not urgent, not important. Now take your to-do list and divide it into all these four squares. And now you're set for the day. Out of all these to-do things, see what you can delegate, what you can ask someone else to do it, who is equally competent to do it, but has some more time than you, and so you can use your time for something better. Once you've done that, you've ticked those parts of your to-do list and it's gone. But the next thing is that you do, you start with urgent and important, finish that. Then urgent but not important, finish that. Then important but not urgent, finish that. And then finally, if you have time to also the not urgent, not important, and if you do this correctly, you'll have time for everything. But if you don't do this correctly and waste time in the not urgent, not important, at the end of the day, suddenly realize that urgent important was missed out. And so you start wringing your hands in regret. And then one day is gone, the past is miserable, the future is filled with worry, and what you did today is only fiddle like a grasshopper. So focus is very important, time management is very important, goal setting is very important. We move on to other quality, hard work. Once you get all this focus and time management, everything, then you have to work hard because you have to finish that to-do list. That to-do list can be very long, but come what may, you have to finish it. And if you do it properly with full focus, with full concentration, with full here and now, you can do it. But at the end of the day, you sleep like a log because you know you're a fulfilled person. You have done what you set out to do. Otherwise, you sleep uneasy. I haven't finished studying this chapter. I haven't finished that book. I haven't done my homework. Why? Because I went down to play. My friends were calling me. These are the devils calling you out of turn. If you have set it as a time to play and go to play, that's a different matter. But if you succumb because someone tells you to do something and it's not in your program, then the devils calling you. And therefore it's very important that you have hard work as the frame to achieve all these things. I'm gonna give you a small story of hard work. I know some of you who made my camp, they may have heard this story, but pardon my repeating. I know sometimes repeat the same story learn different things. So I'm gonna tell you this story. And this story starts off as a small village. It's in a small village surrounded by hills which is like the places around Pune. And very beautiful place. And every weekend, all the young people would climb the hills, go to the top, have a picnic and come down. So it became a touristic spot. And therefore the elders of the village decided that this hill is so good and it attracts so many people. Why not we build a temple up there? So all the young people gathered and went up with their instruments and they cut the top of the hill, made a plateau. And from the stones that they cut, they built a temple. So the same stones were used to build the platform, the walls, the roof. And from one of the stones, they built the deity and they put the deity and this became a pilgrimage spot. Now all the villages in the neighborhood plus all the far flung places, people started coming and visiting this place. So every festival was with pomp and splendor and every weekend was fun. So the popularity of that place increased. Now on one very festive day, thousands of people went up the hill including one old man and they celebrated upstairs, did whatever they wanted to do. At the end of the day, the old man was very tired and he decided that I spend the night in the temple, I'll go down in the morning. The entire hilltop was vacated and only one man remained. And when he was sleeping, he heard voices. Somewhere around two o'clock in the night, he was sleeping and suddenly woke up hearing voices and the voices were fighting with each other. What do you think of yourself? Why are you so insulting to me? So you don't know, I work harder than you work. And the other one voice is saying, I work harder. You don't understand when people come and trample all over me, how much it hurts my body. And the other one says, you don't know anything. They trample only on weekends. For me, I have to carry the weight of this temple the whole week. And the other one says, you don't understand anything. I save you from the dust and the storms and the wind and everything. And you guys are sitting so comfortably under me. And after some time, he realized that he is talking. These are the conversation between the stones of the temple. Talking to each other, if it were ever possible. The walls were talking to the roof and the roof was cursing the floor and the floor was cursing the walls and they were all fighting amongst themselves. And all of a sudden, all of them turned to the deity and says, hey, what the hell are you thinking so much about yourself? You remember, we used to sit together. We were right next to each other in the so many years ago. And now people come and wash you with milk and rose water and put flowers and incense sticks and fruit for you and pray to you. And you are no different from us. And so they kept saying this to the deity and the deity was listening quietly. After all the hue and cry died down, the deity spoke again the first time and the deity said, you remember several years ago, we were all in the same boat. We were all rock at the top of the mountain. And after some time, these people came and they started cutting us. You remember when the axes fell on us, how much it hurt? And when it hurt, you resisted and he pointed to the floor and he said, you resisted. You didn't let the axes shape you. So they mentioned, they said that, oh, this stone is so hard. Let's use it as a foundation and the floor. And then you resisted and when they made you into plates, you said, you didn't let them break you anymore. And they said, this stone is so strong. Let's make it into the wall. And you were light and you were made into the roof. But when they were hitting on me, I kept quiet and they kept hitting and they said, wow, this one, every time we hit something chips off and they kept hitting and hitting and hitting relentlessly and ruthlessly and finally they made me into this statue. Do you know how much pain I must have gone through? And do you know how much I suffered in those days? And because of that suffering, today the whole world comes and prays to me. The whole world gives me bath with milk and rose water and you guys are washed with all the effluent water. And this went on and the old man listened to this story. And when this story is heard by 10 standard students, what are they supposed to understand? That in the sixth standard, all the students are the same. You come from different houses, you all live together, all have the same intelligence, all have the same carefree, happy, abundant life. And as you grow harder, you have to work and then come all these guys with their instruments and their axes and meshes and drills. These are your teachers, your parents, your neighbors, your friends and all these people who start hammering at you and you resist it. You say, no, I won't do this. I won't do that. I won't allow you. So what do you become then? You become the floor of the temple. You become the wall of the temple. You become the roof of the temple. But that student which says, you asked me to do this difficult job, I'll do my best. I'll do it and I'll come back tomorrow. You give me more difficult job. I'll do that also and you keep doing, keep getting beaten, keep getting hammered and keep getting chiseled. And finally, one point in time, you get crowd into a deity and then for the whole life, everyone prays to you. You see this example, how it applies in your day-to-day life. This example is showing you a reason why your teachers yell at you. Why your teachers are trying to discipline you. Not because they hate you, is because they want something to be made out of you. They are the sculptors and you are the sculpted. Only thing is you resist, you will be at the base of the triangle. In life, life is a triangle. We all are sitting at the base in a childhood. Then as you move ahead, the space is less and few get eliminated. You move further up, the space is even less, more get eliminated. And finally at the apex, only one person stands and that one person is a winner. There is a winner in all of you, but you have to discover that winner and that winner won't be gifted to you. And that faith you have to have that there is a winner inside me. I'm not competing with my world, I'm competing with myself. I have to be better than yesterday. If you are better than yesterday, you're a winner, if you're not, you're stuck. So hard work is very important. Now, when you do hard work, you need to learn how to prioritize. You need to know your priorities, how to make all things matter. Now, if you learn how to prioritize, you got to know in which compartment what comes. So that is a huge chapter which you need to discover yourself. But I'll tell you that the most important things in your life are your family, your siblings, your friends, the real friends who you can give your life for, your health and your passions. And therefore, if you have these five things written in your book, my family, my parents, my friends, my health, my passion. If you have these five things written and you see what it takes to maintain these in top-notch order, maintain your health, maintain your friends, maintain your passions, maintain your family, give them your best time. After that comes the next important things. And the next important things are which car you own, which business you are in, which house you live in, which jewelry you bought and how much is your bank balance. I don't say don't look at these things, but look at these things not as important as the other five things. So work on these things also after having worked on the other things. And finally comes the lesser important things, but the joyous things, which movie you saw, which drama you went to, which place you traveled to, and a host of other things which you do for your entertainment. Now, if you put all these into different priority sections and you did the most important things first, and then the next, and the next, there's time for everything. But suppose you spent the whole day in just doing seeing movies, sat in front of Netflix and saw movies the whole day and neglected your health, neglected your family, neglected your passion and days go by. And soon you find there's no room for all those important things. Only the unimportant things took a time away. And therefore it's very important for you to learn how to prioritize. And that again is a urgent important chapter which I told you, prioritizing is putting into different classes. And that's a very important factor when you work hard because if you work hard in the wrong direction, you'll never reach your destination. You must work hard and have your goal and put the effort in the right direction. Now, when you do all this, the last quality you need, and that is honesty. You know, honesty is a very misunderstood thing. You can be one of three types of people. You'll be honest despite the whole world. Or you say, I'll be honest, but forget about the others. If they wanna be, they can be. Or you can be, everybody's doing it, so why not I also do it? If I don't do it, I'll be out of the race. Now, this attitude is what will govern where you will reach in life and how much self-esteem you will have, how much self-respect you will have. If you make a decision at this age, then standard that come what may, I will be honest. And I will not succumb to anything. I'll have to fight, I'll lay my life down, but I'll be honest. Then you made yourself a very strong foundation to live a very good life, a life where you can raise your head and meet anyone eye to eye and not hang your head in shame for any reason. I told the batch yesterday about two words, reputation and character. Reputation is what you are when the lights are on, when everybody's looking and character is what you are when the lights are off, when no one is looking except yourself and God. Believe in God is very important, but yourself is there in front of you. If you do something wrong, you know very well that it's wrong. Even if no one else has seen you. It's very important for you to align character and reputation as exactly the same. What your reputation is, so will your character be. If your character is different than your reputation different sooner or later, the reputation will catch up with the character and you will be exposed. Look in literature, look in newspaper and you will find abundant examples of such cases who appeared to be wealthy, rich and very big philanthropist after some years found to be involved in scams. And those scams when they came to light, he was reduced to zero. Great people have fallen and hit hard and therefore it's become very important to have that policy in life, honesty. Honesty is the best policy was a coined proverb which not for no reason. And therefore honesty becomes a very important attribute for a good human being. Maintain it, come what may and you will stand out. You will stand out different from other people who are run of the mill because an honest person shines in his own light. Other people shine in reflected light. So you decide you want to be a candle and have your own light or you want to be a mirror and reflect light. And if you reflect light in the darkness, you got nothing. Only when light comes on your something. So a candle is never dark because it's lit, it works. So you decide. These are important attributes for purpose driven life. Last message is at your age, try everything. Try everything good, bad, ugly, but know which compartment it comes in. After trying evaluate and accept what is good and keep at it and reject what is bad and chuck it because experience is a very important thing to gather. Your parents have experience, your teachers have experience. They don't want you to suffer. So they guide you along the line. The wise is one who learns from others experience. The dumb is the one who learns by his own experience. Life is too short to gather all experiences. So take some experience for free and move on. That's why it's important to listen to your parents and teachers because parents and teachers are experienced. They have suffered. They may not tell you, but they have suffered and that's why they tell you what not to do. Suffer different things what they have not suffered but learn from what they suffered. It will save you a lot of time and energy. Otherwise they will start from zero and reach 50. You will start from zero and reach 50. Your children will start from zero and reach 50. No one will progress beyond 50. But if you start from 50, then you got a chance to reach 100, 200, 300 and so on. And therefore decide for yourself what you want. You want to be exactly same as what they are or you want to start from where they leave and make your path higher than theirs. No parent ever feels unhappy if his child is gone ahead of him. In fact, he gets filled with pride. The day his child looks more superior because then he has been a good parent. He or she has been a good parent or he or she has been a good teacher. Only when the child exceeds their expectations and their own stature. So with these few words, I think I have crammed into your fertile mind lots of seeds so that they may grow into plants after some years. You will have to water those plants. I put the seeds. I hope the seeds will be big trees at some point in time. And I'm hoping I'm around to see those trees and enjoy that fruit. So now I can invite questions from those who want to ask. And I'd like to thank you all for such bright listening. In spite of being a long lecture, you guys have been happily nodding and accepting whatever I said. So I hope it all helps you and I'm very happy to answer some questions. So go right ahead and ask. Yuvraj, you are most restless, so you want to ask first. Yuvraj Chauhan, say what you are thinking. I can see the teleprinter on your mind. The printout is really- I literally did not, I did not even got to know like one hour just part of it. I was like 15 minutes, yes. You got 45 minutes more, so I will continue. And then I saw at the watch and it's one hour there. Wow, that's great. I'm happy for you. But now you have some comments or questions. What I- All the students- Your explanation was perfect, so I did not have any- Okay. You know, there's a- You can answer Zoom and we'll take your questions. Okay. Yes sir, please go ahead. You were saying something. No, I was saying that when at the end of a lecture there are no questions. Either everyone understood everything or nobody understood a word of it. So it could be both ways. Shaiyan, do you have a question? You raised your hand. Yes, I did feel nervous in the first, but I may go ahead with my question. So sir, I also asked you this or asked specific African Sanyasi in the camp last time. Shaiyan, little louder, Raja. It's your voice is your very far from your mic, I think. My mic is right here. Okay, so- Yeah, it's better. So last time when I was in the camp I asked a specific African Sanyasi person, what do you do when all the doors get closed around you? So I would like to orient the same question to you. To hear what you have your thoughts on it. Just ask the question again. What do you do when you feel like all the doors around you are closing? When you feel all the doors around you are closing, look back, you'll find some door open because all doors never shut. The wrong doors shut and the right doors open. And many times you realize that you are so concentrated on the doors that are shut and keep on knocking on them that you miss the opportunity of the doors which are open. So I found many times that all my delays and all my disasters were actually designed to give me something better. I'll give you one story. Many years ago I used to go in 1997 to 1999 I used to go to Calcutta every month. And every month I would go on Friday morning and return on Saturday night. And Saturday night the flight was at 8.30. So after some time I became careless. I used to receive the ticket and just put it in my bag and never look at the time because I knew every month it's the same time. Then one visit I got the ticket but I didn't get, I didn't check it. And when I went to the airport, when I went into check-in she says your flight already left. It's on the runway. I said, how can it be? She said, look at the time, it's 7.30. And I thought it was 8.30 all the time. So I said, oh my God, now how will I go because I have to get back to Bombay. Tomorrow I have a meeting even though it's Sunday and I have to go for rounds. I said, I have to reach. So she said, I'm sorry, this flight's gone. You can't do it. So I asked, I said, what can I do then to get to Bombay? So she says, I can help you check what flights left. And so they went and they looked around and they said, okay, there is an Air India flight which leaves in the next half an hour. But there's only one first class ticket in that. Now first class ticket, all of you know is the most expensive thing. My ticket used to be sponsored at 2,500 rupees, Bombay to Calcutta and Calcutta to Bombay one way. So 5,000 rupees. The first class ticket one way was 9,500 rupees. But that day I had worked very hard and I had seen many patients and I had collected my fees and my fees had amounted to 9,800 rupees. And when I saw that ticket and I said, this is my only way I can get back to Bombay, I took out all that money from my pocket and I bought that first class ticket. I regretted it so much. I said, my whole week has gone waste. Two days of hard work has gone because of my carelessness. I didn't see the 730 ticket and I should have just come an hour earlier and taken that flight and gone back. I missed it. So I get punished for my carelessness. I bought that ticket and I said, okay, I'm gonna be traveling first class for the first time and last time in my life. Let me enjoy it. So when I went there, when I went and sat down, I realized that I can have another passenger sit next to me. The seats are so big. And I was, I relaxed myself. I pulled my feet up, removed my shoes, removed my socks. Made myself comfortable. I was grimy, sweaty and very tired. The lady came with a wet towel. I took it, I took two of them. I wiped my face, relaxed. I started speaking to the guy next to me who was in a full suit. And we got into conversation. And in my conversation, I realized that he's the human resource director of a very big multinational company. And we got talking and he asked me, what do I did in Calcutta? And I said, well, I go to Calcutta to give a seminar on stress management and I treat patients for diabetes. So he says, oh, you do stress management seminars. My company needs it. My company, I've been looking to see someone. So I said, this is the capsule I offer. And they say, okay, you're done. And I got a contract of three seminars for 25,000 each in the next one month. And I got 75,000 bucks. And I said to myself, I said that missed flight was providential. I made God said, you worked hard. I'm giving you missed flight. You will see the missed flight, but I'm giving you a passenger next to you who is gonna give you everything that you want. But you have to notice it. But then if I had been a snob like most children are nowadays and sat in the seat, take out my cell phone and start fiddling with it and not talk with him, that opportunity would have gone. And I would have reached Bombay with zero conversation, not learned anything, not benefited anything. He would have gone his way. I would have gone my way. I would have been the loser. And ever since that day, I realized that every person who sits next to you, every person who crosses your path, every person you encounter is God's coincidence to make you get better. But we don't use it. We sit with our cell phones and fiddle with the past and the future without knowing what's happening next door. If you keep your minds open, your doors are opening all the time. All the time they're opening, walk through them. Whichever door opens, walk through. You will realize that your destiny is taking you where you actually belong. But we resist because our mind is the monkey. Just imagine if Arjun decided to do where he wants to go and he doesn't listen to Krishna and he takes the horses anywhere, then they wouldn't have won the war. And what if Arjun also decided to sleep and only the body went and the horses went. The horses are five senses. Where what if the taste took it somewhere else and the hearing took it somewhere else and the cart would have gone in five different directions. So our body is just like that. We keep on following our senses. We don't follow our senses. We control our senses. And our senses are controlled by our mind and our mind is controlled by our soul. And let soul be the driver all the time. So my dear Shayan, you have your answer. I hope that those don't look at that door. Look next door. Thank you, sir. Don't do that in your real house. Okay. Sir, we have a question from Palak. From? Palak. Okay, where is Palak? Palak, your question? Sir, I have some network issues. I can't turn on my video. Okay, I'll just see your name, Palak Karnavath. Yes, sir. Go ahead, Palak. Sir, I wanted to ask you that basically to achieve something, somewhere we need a lot of patience and hard work as well. So basically sometimes we keep on waiting to achieve something, but then we don't know when something passes and we have an opportunity next door. So I just wanted to know that how much exactly to wait to achieve something. Like how much patience to have. You have to only work. And your work will bear fruit. Now whether fruit will come today, tomorrow, day after, we don't know. And for that you have to have three Ps, patience, perseverance and persistence. Patience is something that you say, okay, the fruit will come one day and then put it aside. You don't have to develop it. Don't just don't yearn for the fruit before planting the seed. And persevere, sometimes obstacles will come your way, which says that, no, you can't do, you trip you up, the road is rough, potholes are there, climate is bad. All will happen, persevere and persist. Persist means don't let go, sink your teeth into something, don't let go. Then you reach the goal you want to reach. But then the fruit is so sweet that you sit back, enjoy the shade and the fruit and life is very cushy. So three Ps you need to be when you are in your situation of when will I get the fruit? That when nobody knows, that only will happen when it happens. But set your goal and walk towards it. You will reach, stop looking at that, enjoy the view on the way also. So enjoy the process as much as the goal. Thank you, sir. We have a question from Angel Bhaji. Yes, Angel. So I as a person am a very indecisive person. And I am interested in a lot of things. So how do I decide on what basis? Do I direct my focus to one phone? Okay, name all the lot of things. Say all what you're interested in. I am interested in sports. I'm interested in journalism. Which sport? Lawn tennis. Okay. Then? I'm interested in journalism. I'm interested in being a doctor. So these are a few of those things. So how do I decide? Or how do I direct my focus to one person? You divide your day into two parts or three parts and you put one hour of lawn tennis every day. So you got your lawn tennis. You set yourself a target that I want to become Maharashtra State Champion if you want. Or I'll become El Pro Champion if you want. Or you'll become Pune Champion if you want or Club Champion, but set yourself a target achievable and then play tennis to reach that target. Otherwise your tennis will be knocking a ball across which is actually a waste of time. It's not a waste of time. You get some mental peace and all that, but it's a waste of time. You ask me in my mind, it's a waste of time because you could use that time better. Then you want medicine and journalism. You see which one is more passionate. If you're passionate about both, become a medical journalist. You can train in journalism and medicine. You get into medical college, start training in journalism on the side. Learn everything there is about journalism on your own because nothing prevents you from growing. You don't have to get a board certification. You become medical journalist. You can do so much today, malpractice cases that need medical journalism. Now this whole COVID flu, you see what is written by the people, the journalists who, they are all common journalists. They're not medical journalists. There are thousand mistakes written inside. They don't know sometimes spelling or vaccine also. So if you're trained in medicine and become a writer, then it's a very different thing. You're a very empowered person. So you can do both these things. You can treat one as a hobby, one as a vocation and one as your passion. So you want to do medicine, get into medicine. While you're doing medicine, you might get attracted to doing surgery. Then you say, okay, I'll pursue surgery. When you're in surgery, you get attracted to doing heart surgery. And you feel there's a need of the day. Okay, go in for heart surgery. Side by side, you write articles. There are issues a medical person goes through. There are issues which a medical person who's senior can guide a younger person. You write articles, contribute to medical journals, medical articles, two newspapers. If you see Times of India, there will be at least one column written by a doctor who tells about the doctor's perspective about life. Sometimes they are good articles. Sometimes they're just essays which are written like a school child. Some school children also write very well. But the point is that you can do all the things you want to do. Write them on paper. And then I told you, write urgent important is that prioritize, which is your most, which is, which drives you the most. And if medicine becomes a vocation, you're made for good. Today, everyone talks of depression in economics. You know, COVID, people lost their jobs, no business, no work. They say, oh, there's a lot of recession. I say there's no recession for me. For me, I need a table chair. If I don't have that also standing also, I can do my, do my trade. A person asked me about their health. I give them advice. They pay me fees. If they can't pay me fee, I says, okay, no problem. I can still give. And sometimes they give me half the fee. Sometimes they give full fee. Sometimes they give much more than I deserve. Sometimes they say, you pay whatever you want and they'll end up giving me something I could never dream of. So my wagon moves in all same speed in every climate. There are some wagons which race in good climate and are conked out in bad climate. You choose a wagon that can move in any climate. Law, chartered accountancy, engineering and medicine. These are for timeless professions. Timeless means you don't need any infrastructure. You can practice it standing in the middle of the road. If you are doing infrastructure related things, then you are dependent on so many things. Without that, you are lost. So get yourself a vocation where if you are starving, you need to do something and you will never stop. If you are God forbid ever thrown into the world alone, you should be able to stand on your feet and your education is for that. Then you follow your passion. If your passion is journalism about medicine, then do MBBS, up to MBBS, then we take medical journalism. Write books or write articles or become an activist or become a medical lawyer. If law attracts you, you can represent people, general public where they have been exceeded upon and like that, there are so many ideas. So don't let any passion die. If you have 10 interests, take part in all 10 interests but give it budgeted time. Some things you wanna do on weekends, see on weekends only. So you've got time for everything. If you have, if you give time for everything, yep. So I see a lot of versatility in you. You will reach very far and like all your friends. And when you reach far now, take your friends along. Make them also reach far. Okay, you got your answer? Yes, sir. Thank you. Thanks, Angel. So we have a question from Ashwin. Ashwin. Yes, sir. Sir, you mentioned that we should live for today and not worry about tomorrow. Can you please explain the difference we were worrying about the future and like planning for the future? Planning for the future is an activity done today. So you're still in today only. Planning for a future is an activity. Worrying about a future is not an activity. It's a waste of time. Worrying is planning without focus. So you're not planning them. Planning is a very systematic word and worrying is a randomized word. So if you have a project coming up, then today's activity is planning for the project. Tomorrow's activity is executing the project and when the project becomes a success, it will only be a success when you planned well today. So planning and procrastinating are two completely different things. If you worry, you are procrastinating by not doing the planning. So it's important for you to plan as an activity and not worry. Worry is a helpless thing. Worry is when you wring your hands and hope that someone outside will provide you with all the answers. But planning is a proper activity and that activity is, when you're doing that activity, give it your best. That is the year end now. Okay. Yes, sir. Thank you, sir. Welcome. That was Ashwin. Yes. Ashwin, that was you who asked the question, right? Who asked? Yes, sir. Yeah. Okay, who's next? Anuvi. We have a question from Anuvi. Yes, sir. So my question is related to Ashwin's. So you said that we have to create a goal and we should know where we want to be in 25 years. And the path and... Maybe five years also. Maybe 10 years. I mean, any long-term goal would do. But the path and mapping out the road to reaching that goal is also very important. But sir, when we do the planning, we also realize that there are some circumstances that have to be considered and some inevitable circumstances which we cannot... They are the contributing obstacles to your planning. Yeah, yeah. So these obstacles and... So you have to go over them or under them or around them. Yeah, and what I was saying is that in the entire process of planning, that is when the anxiety and the apprehension comes in and that's when we realize that we're stuck and I think that's where an obstruction comes to your planning. So what do we do in that case? You see, if you deal with the here and now, you're not worried about the result. Suppose you're building a brick. You know, there's a very beautiful video I'd recommend you to see. You know, Will Smith. Will Smith is an actor in Hollywood and he's also a motivational speaker. I'll tell you one story. Will Smith was about eight years old and his brother was about 10, I think, or the other way around. These two young boys, imagine black community living in a crowded area. Their father had a plot of land and that plot of land had a brick wall around and he, father one day just called the bulldozer and bulldozed the whole wall, bought a new set of bricks and told Will and his brother, now you build the brick wall. And for these little boys, 11 and eight years old, young boys, the brick wall is such a huge project because they are so small, the project is so huge and they kept sitting, they said, our father asked us to do such a big thing. We can't do it, how to do it. Then Will says, I started, I put one brick and I placed it as best as I could and I showed my brother and I said, see, this brick is now perfectly straight. Then I put cement on it. Then I laid the next brick. I put that brick as best in line with the first brick and like this I taught my brother and we both sat and we put each brick, one brick at a time, as best as I could. And after some time, they suddenly realized that the wall was complete and all he did was, he didn't say, oh, I have to build a wall. He said, I have to place each brick as best as I can and he placed each brick as best as he can and to the next and to the next and to the next and like that, he finished the wall. And when the wall was built, his father said, fantastic, better than any mason could have done because the mason's end product is my wall. How fast can I finish it? So when you set yourself a goal, then don't look at the goal. Then you make your everyday program to reach the goal but don't keep staring at the goal. If you stare at the goal, then you'll be impatient to reach. You say, I have to take one step towards the goal, give that one step the best and the next and the next. And if you set yourself a timeline, every step will be placed beautifully in your given timeline and that timeline will end and you will find yourself standing on the summit and say achieved goal, then new goal, then achieved goal, then new goal, then achieved goal. And that's a life which is well lived, got it? One brick at a time, not more. Got it, sir. You do very well. Okay, who's next? So we have Aarushi. Yes, Aarushi. Here are you? Yes, sir. So people say that nature has all answers. Sir, you yourself give an example that leave, you don't want to be an autumn leave that gets blown away by the wind. So like if in life, like Osiris Alt Horace, if in life you had to follow the nature or like the lesson of one animal to achieve what you want to achieve in your life. So what would be the best animal to idealize or follow? Like the fears? The human being. The human being is the best animal that you have ever followed. I think she means spirit animals, like similar that. Means animal, animal. Yes. Lest. Sir, because human nature is very versatile. Like every human is... Every animal... Human beings are also animals only. Because we have been endowed with some... Primitive, primitive. There is no primitive animal that you can follow in one person, one animal. You can take one quality from every animal. You take strength from the elephant. You take... I give a story of Ganpati. We worship Ganpati. You say Ganpati is half human, half elephant. How it happened is a long story behind it. It's a story for children to accept. Then they say, it's not possible to transplant the elephant's head on a human being and see him survive. So then you ask the question, why was Ganpati created? And no one has ever asked that question. Why was he created? He says, he's a God, we worship him. They make so much you and cry all over the country when Ganpati festival comes. They pray to it and they do all kinds of funny things. But have you ever thought what is Ganpati's symbolically? Ganpati is fat stomach, big ear, elephant ears, such a long trunk. And what is a trunk represent? The nose, right? The trunk is the nose, right? So you've got a long trunk, you've got big eyes, you've got big ears, you've got a fat stomach. And all this, and they say the vehicle of the monkey, of the elephant is what? Of the Ganpati is what? What is the vehicle? A mouse, a mouse. A mouse is a vehicle. How can a mouse carry such a big elephant? Such a big creature. I can't say elephant, because you're half elephant, half human. Can't carry. So you look at the essence of the story, then you get your answer. That is an Arushi, right? Yes, sir. Arushi. So answer is that Ganpati's fat stomach, it indicates a huge size, which should be your wisdom. Your wisdom should be a huge size. And in order to get to that fat stomach, you need to eat more. You need to, and what is to be eaten? What you hear is what you put in. What you smell is what you put in. What you see is what you put in. That's why Ganpati has such a long nose, he sticks his nose everywhere and gets things. Got such big ears, so he listens everything and gets it in. And he's got such big eyes, he sees everything and gets it in. And all this goes in to make his wisdom big. And as you know, wisdom doesn't weigh. You can't weigh wisdom. And to show that, it shows that wisdom can be carried even by the lowly mouse. And that's why Ganpati's vehicle is a mouse. The wisdom doesn't weigh, but wisdom is huge. And today Ganpati is symbolic of what each one of us could do. Keep our eyes open, keep our ears open, keep your nose open, sniff around, smell around, see around, hear around, get everything into ourselves, expand our wisdom bank and that wisdom bank sees you through life. That's my interpretation of Ganpati. So you asked me which animal to follow. I said, take one thing from every animal. Even take cunning from the fox. Because sometimes in life you need that also. Take loyalty from the dog. Take love from the dog. The dog has only two genes, love and loyalty. You kick it also, it'll still give you love. So take these things from all animals and make yourself a unique animal. Did you get an answer? Yes, thank you. Or not quite. You wanted another answer. No, sir. Maybe Arushi, you got a better answer. Tell me. Sir, it was based on a story that my grandfather used to tell me when I was little and I just found out about a year ago that it's actually related to Egyptian mythology. So there's this king who's about to give his son the throne, like Osiris. He asks his son, if you could follow one animal for your life as a king, who would you follow? So he gives options like a lion who's study fierce, the fiercest leader that there is or the leopard that runs the farthest, that runs the fastest or the horse that is the steadiest runner or you idolize the owl that is the smartest. So he always gives sort of like the same answer. That's why. So which animal did the prince choose? Yeah, he chose the horse. The horse. Yeah, because horse is the one who leads a king into the war. He runs the steadiest and the farthest. But the king controls the horse. The king does know how to control the horse. Yes, that's what he said because. Yes. But like he put the brain above all. So like that's why. So that was what a king should do. So that's why I asked the question of what a human being should do like a normal human being because there are no. Each normal human being is a king and queen. Arushi, you are also a queen, not any less. So when you aim, you aim to the top. Don't think that you are not something that you are potentially waiting to become. If you work hard, you would become, you'll be the first of the kind. But don't set yourself low aims. You know, they say failure is not crime, but low aim is a crime. You give yourself tall aims, you may fail. Failure is even Thomas Edison failed more than 1,000 times before his light bulb was invented. So don't be afraid of failure, but he was patient, persistent and persevering. Then he got light bulb and today we take the light bulb for granted. Without that life is nothing. So you also have it in you. All of us, all of you have it. I also have it. We have to implement it. We have to find it first. It's there. Just uncover it and let it grow. Yeah. Who's got more questions? Thank you, sir. I think that was a very well made point. I quite agree to what you said about taking a little bit from everywhere. I think in life, we most of the times kind of make it black and white. That colors add beauty. Very true. Thank you, sir. We have the next question from Ishan. Where's Ishan? Good afternoon, sir. Hi, Ishan. Yeah. Hi, Ishan, sir. Hello, sir. So like my question is, does making a plan B breach doubts for your plan A? So like... Plan B only cowards make. If your plan A has to be plan A only, your 1 to 10 should be plan A. Plan B is escape route, which it tells you from plan B. Because I had heard from like many celebrities that everyone has a different opinion. So like Muhammad Ali always suggested having a plan B, then there was... What is plan B? I'll tell you what Muhammad Ali's plan B was, to execute plan A. Oh, right. Nice. Muhammad Ali never accepted defeat. Yeah. And Muhammad Ali was one of the greatest human beings in the boxing ring, not just boxer. So as a character also, he was a fine man. Yeah, he helped like he worked a lot for like defeating racism and... Yeah. He worked a lot after his boxing career also. Yeah. And he never had even one black mark on his boxing career, or on his character. He was very firm in what he did. And that's the quality we all must keep in mind. And we've gone through it already. If you've made all your points, sit down. If I were you, I'd sit for the whole of tomorrow and today, and sit and assimilate everything that you heard. And then reject what you don't like. Because you don't have to follow what I'm saying. I can tell you some things, but you may have some better ideas. But evaluate and reject. If you reject without evaluation, it's prejudice. Means pre-judgment. Don't pre-judge anything. First taste, examine, evaluate, and after that decide whether it's useful to you or not. But plan A is plan A, and plan B is to execute plan A. There are no plan Bs for successful people. Or plan B and plan C is for those who are cowards who say, okay, don't get movie ticket. We'll go for dinner. And if we don't get dinner, we'll eat on the stall, on the road. That means they'll never get movie ticket. But if you decide I want to see movie, then you don't get it in the box office window. You ask for the manager. You tell the manager, listen, I have left my studies and come to see movie today. I have to see this movie. I want to see this movie. Or wait outside and do by samdham dandbhed, you find your ticket and go. That's your plan A. Nothing should deter you. After all that, of course, sometimes you do meet with the failure. You can say that, okay, once in a while my plan failed. But if you have plan B and plan C, plan A will 100% fail. Because your grit has got a cushion is going to fall on. If your grit has no cushion to fall on, the back door is locked. And your only way out is to conquer the army and get out of the front door. Then you will fight tooth and nail. So you don't keep any back doors, don't burn your bridges, as they say. That's character. I have another question. Is being a perfectionist, is being a perfectionist more important than being a winner? Like giving a... If you're a winner, on the way you become a perfectionist. But a perfectionist by definition is an obsessive person who never reaches perfection. Perfection is a evolving term. It's not a fixed destination. Right. Today whatever you do is perfect to your best of your ability. But it could have been better by your standard. You could have been better represented in today. But whatever you did was the best. And that's why it was perfect. Tomorrow your perfection may be even better than that. Day after it may be even better than that. But a perfectionist is one who compares everyday's performance with some theoretical perfection, which will never happen. And therefore a perfectionist is eternally unhappy because they never reach that level of perfection though their expectations are there. So if you do something as well as you can, that's perfect enough. And that's why you concentrate on being a winner, you'll be a perfectionist. That kind of perfection, evolving perfectionist. And so it's a sub question. So is being a winner better than the person in front of you or is better than the person in front of you? See, if you take a traditional competition, 100 meters race for full 10 standard, coming first is called a winner. Right. But there will be one guy who trains everyday. He's coming first in 12 seconds. And you don't train at all, but you participated and you finished in 15 seconds. One year back you did the same race in 18 seconds, you're a winner, because you have conquered the race by three seconds. You compete with yourself, not with anyone. For existing in society, you compete with others, but in a sense you compete with yourself. Right. And if you have got better than yesterday, you are better than you're a winner. And all of us are winners. You know, there is a biological example for being a winner. All the kids, every human being is a winner. You know how? It's when you were conceived, 60 million multiplied by five ML, 60 million multiplied by five, whatever that number may be, that many sperms were released to go for one egg. And every sperm swam for its life. And the one sperm that reached was the winner. And that sperm became you. So in a sense, every human being is a winner. He competed with those which never became. You know, go to look at it that way. If you go to biology basics, every human being is a winner. If it was some other one, you wouldn't have been you. You would have been someone else. So when you take that into mind, you say, I'm competing with myself only. Whatever I do better today, I'm a winner. You may not compare with someone else who's maybe got five years more experience or you spend six months training. It's like, you have to think, I have to give my best as whatever best I can. And that's it. That's for marathon is a very good example of that. Everyone doesn't why to come first. They all run together, but everyone is worrying. My last year's time was four hours. This year my timing was three hours and 57 minutes. I feel so proud of it, but they are far from the guy who came first. Because the guy who came first is a professional runner. He comes from Ethiopia, he ran only that race. His whole life was dedicated to that. This guy is a chartered accountant who runs the marathon. And so for him, his improvement in his time only is good enough. So like that, you race with yourself. Let every day see you better than yesterday. Then you reach somewhere, imagine in 100 days, if you become 100% better, by 1% improvement every day. Find like that areas in your life where you're weak and go exercise that muscle, make it strong. And before you know it, you will be a fantastic human being. You'll be everywhere, all over the place. Thanks, sir. Okay, who's next? Shayan Bhattacharya wants to ask something. Sir, we have Rahul Pataskar. Yes. Where are you, Rahul? Sir, this is Rahul. Sir, how to have long-term distance? Like today, if I think about my future, for the things I will do in my future, I feel energized, but then as I'm passing on that, I'm not much serious about it. Yeah, one second. You're not, yeah, yeah. Okay, say it again. Sir, how to have long-term distance? Like today, if I think about my further things, I will do my future, I feel energized, but as time passes, I feel that I'm not much serious about it. So how to have dedication on such a thing? You feel you're not very serious about it. Yeah. Is that what you said? Yeah. Means you have a long-term goal every day? Most of the time. No, because you're not balancing your life. You can't be obsessed with only one goal all the time. Anyone will get tired. If I practice medicine, I enjoy it, but after eight hours, nine hours, 10 hours, 12 hours, if I have to continue to stay in the hospital, I start getting fed up. And then the guy, if I have to stay a whole night, next day, I don't want to see a single patient. The patient irritates me. That doesn't mean I got fed up of the profession. It means I overdid it, which means you have to balance between all the things that you like. What you're doing is focusing on one thing, and that one focus is not allowing you to unwind, to go back to that again, then you get tired. So it's very important that you take five, six items and budget your time such that you got a variation in your skill set. So you need to be able to take, let's say, six hours of studies or six hours of school and then two hours of homework, then one hour of sport or two hours of sport, then half an hour of, half an hour multiplied by three into meals, and then half an hour of television, then sleep for eight hours. And next day, you're back to gaining whatever you want. So get a variety of things into your program, so you never get stale with one thing. Sir, how do 100% in what we are doing in the present? How to give 100% to what you're doing? In the present. No, I didn't understand the question. How to give 100% to do what you're doing the best? Means I give an example. How will your connection not good? Hello. Back to you. We now move to Atharva's question. Atharva, ask your question. Where is Atharva? Yeah, sir. Yes, yes, Atharva. You said that you should make various goals in life and then you achieve that goal. You make one goal, you work towards it and you only focus on that one thing you're doing. But isn't that like tunnel visioning? And isn't that like bad in a way? You don't tunnel vision. You set a goal and you start focusing on it and every day becomes a step towards making that goal. On the way, you see a lot of scenery. You should take in all the scenery because that scenery is presented to you. Like you take a ticket from Pune to Bombay, then you don't just stare at the board in front of you and say, oh, I'm going Bombay to Pune. I'll open my eyes only in Pune. Or if you are coming to Bombay, I'll open my eyes only in Bombay. Till then I'm in the train and I'm on my way. You look out of the window, you'll see planes, you'll see meadows, you'll see trees, you'll see buildings, then you'll see hills, then you'll see rain, you'll see rivers, you'll see waterfalls. Take all that, all that you get in because that's the journey. And in that journey, in your mind you'll say, oh, these waterfalls look so beautiful. I wish I was trekking in these mountains. So a new passion is built in your mind because you actually saw it. And then the next time you will say, I'm not going to Bombay, it's a very crowded city. I think I'll go to Khandala and I'll do some trekking. So you go to do trekking. So you got a new passion and you go and do that. And like that, if you on the journey to your main goal, a lot of new passions will be aroused, which become complimentary to your main goal. And so you're not tunnel vision, you're very broad vision. But your purposeful work is always tunnel. Your purposeful work is what you're doing at that moment. So if you're trekking, you're only trekking. That time you're not thinking, tomorrow I have to take a train to somewhere else. So if you do that, whatever you're doing at that moment with tunnel vision, in the broad part, you will be broad vision. Because you know that when you focus on one letter, you can't read everything around it. When you're reading also, you're focusing on word by word. Then only you can read. So without moving your eyes and without changing your focus, you can't read the sentence. Like that is to read a book is your goal. But to read each word, we'll have to have focus. Like that you do. Then you're not tunnel vision. Yes, you have another question, Atharva? Yeah. Say your mind. Don't have to worry. You're not right, not wrong. No, I forgot. What do you want to say? So we'll move on to the next question. Okay. We have a question from Nandini. Yes, Nandini. Good afternoon, sir. So how do you think we can manage work, like studies and everything else, considering how overwhelming everything is and still keep our mental health intact? Because just thinking positive, that a lot of people say it's not really... No, sweetheart. You don't think positive. You have to act positive. You have to think positive means you should focus on... See, if you're in a window, you can look down and focus on the mud or you can look up and focus on the sky. Depends on where you're looking. So that thinking positive and thinking negative are where you're actually focusing. But then by sitting in the house, you don't reach the sky. You have to actually work to reach there. So thinking positive is an attitude which you build up that you always expect. See, tomorrow is not happened. Nobody knows what is tomorrow. And if you expect tomorrow to be nice, you'll be happy till tomorrow. And then tomorrow, whether it is nice or wrong, nice or bad, will happen, we deal with it. But today, if you expect it to be bad and cry from now till tomorrow, you have wasted a perfectly good 24 hours in the anticipation and then to your surprise, tomorrow is not as bad. In fact, it was good. So you say, I wasted 24 hours in fretting for something that never happened and the joy of being good will be only for one minute because you have already formed a habit of worrying about tomorrow again. So again, tomorrow is it, but today was nice, but tomorrow is gonna be miserable. So that becomes a negative thinker. A positive thinker is, we'll deal with tomorrow when it comes, this moment is nice. And it's up to me to make it nice or bad. So you are the one who generates. You decide what has to be done. And sometimes you get challenges thrown at you. You use your mind. So never ever in your life say overwhelmed. Overwhelmed means the situation got the better of you. You are smart enough to get the better of any situation. However, challenging it may be. If you meet up to the challenge and give it your best, you can't get overwhelmed. You may not win as much as you should, but you definitely don't lose. And therefore, don't ever feel that you are small because you may be small in age, but you can always gather more and more experience, more and more wisdom, more and more knowledge and move on and become more and more experienced. Because there's a giant inside you waiting to be born. You have to sometimes labor to get it out. That was Nandini's question, right? Yes, sir. So Nandini, you're not on the video. I don't get to see your face. Sir, actually my connection is really poor. No problem, don't worry. Sorry, yeah. But you are not going to think ever that situation around you is going to overwhelm you. Challenges will be thrown. Challenges are thrown to people who are capable. If you're not capable, challenges avoid you. So if you are capable, you get challenges. You have to work hard and then you will see that that challenge gives you an impetus to go higher. So... Sir, but like there are so many people with mental health problems. So even they try to come out of it by acting positive or thinking positive, but then it doesn't really work every time. No, mental health is a very complex term. There are certain things which situations make. That's where all the things like love and hate and all that comes in. Now, if you love someone, it's a feeling. That's what God gave us, that ability to feel. Now, if that some love person is sick, then you feel grief. And if you're serving the person and not getting better, then you get grief. And if you don't serve that person, then you get guilt. Now, all these things are not... These are the features of human nature. And human nature is not bereft of feelings. So if you have feelings, it's a good thing. It means you're alive. So you will feel dejected sometimes. You will feel happy sometimes. That's the humanness in you. But don't cling to negative emotions. Every time you feel negative, every time you fail, you have to say, okay, I'll grieve for a week. See, I'll tell you something. When I did my MD the first time, I couldn't put in the best effort because I had other things on my head. And the first attempt, I failed. When I failed, I came home in my life. I never failed. And I sat at home and I said, my whole life has crumbled in front of my eyes. Three years of hard labor. And the net result is I'm still an MBBS. And I not got my MD. So for a week, I just roamed around like a zombie. Didn't talk to anyone, didn't eat properly, didn't do anything. After a week, I decided that if I sit like this, my life is being wasted. I gave myself a week to grieve. Then I had a cold shower. And I decided that from today, I'm gonna give this exam another assault. And this time my assault will be so ruthless that the exam has to be vanquished. And I sat down and I studied for 18 hours a day for six months. And I studied with only one focus that I have to conquer the exam. And then the second time when I wrote the exam, it was so easy. I went through sailing, but because it was the second attempt, I didn't get a gold medal. But the first attempt itself was a half-hearted attempt. Then I realized when I said the second attempt that this attempt was so much more knowledgeable and so much more better prepared than the first one. So it made me a more mature person. And today I feel, had I passed the first time, I wouldn't have made such a good doctor. Because I never read my books that thoroughly. I would have got the degree and remained that same mediocre person. Second time I read the book in detail and so it made me more knowledgeable. So every event that happens at that moment may be bad, maybe grievous, maybe bad, sad, whatever you wanna call it. But in the long run, it contributes to the greater picture. You know, there's a saying that God is a weaver and you are the tapestry and you are sitting behind the tapestry. Sometimes he's filling the black threads and you say, oh, curse, I'm only getting black, black, black all the time. But you are not seeing that sometimes he fills the gold threads. That when you come in the front and see the tapestry, you realize that you need the black to appreciate the gold. And in the end, the tapestry looked very beautiful. Black on gold. So you are a tapestry in the making. So you don't get discouraged, never feel overwhelmed. Just say, okay, make better attempt and conquer the same thing. Okay, thank you, sir. Thanks, Nandini, all the best. So Yuvraj has a question. He's unable to raise his hand on Zoom, so he's- No problem, say Yuvraj. Yuvraj, you can ask your question. Yuvraj Chauhan. Yeah, go ahead. Sir, I basically had a question like, how do I control my anger? Who are you angry against? Who are you angry against? Someone who does not do- Do you- Someone who does something which I do not like. And what are the things that you don't like? Making me- Get up in the morning. I don't know, sir, but I'm not able to control my anger. No, you're a young man and your hormones are racing inside. Now, your hormones are like wild horses. And there's a saying that you must be 15, 16 years old. How old are you? 15. 15. The 15 is a peak of adolescence. You're able to hear me? Yes, sir. Yeah. 15 is a peak of adolescence. And there's one book which defined adolescence. It says that you are painfully astride the barbed wire fence that separates boyhood from manhood and don't know which side to step. So sometimes you think I'm a boy and you say I'd go on the boy side. Sometimes you think I'm a man. We want to go on the man side, but you go to neither side. You're sitting on the barbed wire fence. Now, imagine a person actually sitting on a barbed wire fence and where it pokes and how hard it pokes. And that person not going to be an easy tempered person. So if you want to harness your anger, which is your power, it is the power of water. If you want to harness that, you know, a dam, you dam up a water, you dam up water. It is all accumulated on one side. If you don't open that dam, then when the water pressure exceeds certain power, it will break the dam. And after that, there'll be death and destruction, correct? But if you open the dam periodically and let it come out, that water generate electricity. And that is a good harnessing of that power. So like that, you have your hormones playing havoc in your head. You need to sit down and realize that you are a man in the making. You're not already a man and now you're a boy in the end of boyhood. Enjoy the pleasures of both. And once you enjoy the pleasures of both and realize that you're more calmer in your head and not react because the conflict is inside your head. And when you're conflicted, you don't have much energy to bear anybody else's interruption. Like if you're confused, whether you're a boy or a donkey, suppose you're confused, am I a human being or a donkey? And someone on the road get angry with you and calls you a donkey. You will explode and you will go after the guy and beat the hell out of him. Why? Because he confirmed your worst doubts. You were always conflicted in your mind that am I a human or a donkey? Am I human or donkey? And I think I'm a donkey, but I don't want to be a donkey. I want to be human. And that guy called you a donkey and says that guy confirmed my worst doubts and I don't like it. So I beat the hell out of him. Or you'll call him back a donkey. Because by bringing him down, you elevate yourself. So first thing, make sure that you're a very fine human being. You're not a donkey. So after that, if someone calls you a donkey, then you say poor chap doesn't know what a donkey looks like. Because he doesn't know. If he calling you a donkey, he doesn't know what a donkey looks like. So just feel sympathy for that person and ignore him. Then you don't waste your energy and your mental energy in being angry on him. So anger expressed is destructive and not expressed is destructive yourself. Because it's like saying, I'll throw this hot coal on your face to burn you because I'm angry. But don't throw it. When you say it, when you don't express it, you don't throw it. So when you don't throw it, you're holding it in your hand only. And when you're holding it in your hand, it's burning your hand. It's not doing anything to the other guy. So anger is self-destructive. So at that moment, you say whatever anyone says, whatever anyone does, it doesn't matter. Finished. When you say it doesn't matter, you stop reacting. You react only because it matters. So if you take a deep breath at that moment and say it doesn't matter, move on. I know what I'm doing. And just keep doing. But first of all, know what you're doing. Like, can I say something? Like, I read Sath, like I heard Sath Guru. He said like, I don't give privilege to anyone that he can control my senses. And then Buddha once said that anger is like gifts. If you buy gifts, if you buy gifts and you give it to someone else, then the gift is of someone else. But he doesn't, if he refuses, then who is this the gift? It's, there's an issue. Anger is gift. That man will, like the person who is trying to anger you will bring the gift to you. But if you refuse that gift, the anger will affect them only. When you get angry, the person trying to make you angry is victorious because he has made you do what he wants you to do. Which means what, what you just said earlier that what you have, what, I mean, you said the, what was the first thing you said that, that I don't give anyone the privilege to make you. Yeah, I said, don't give the reins of your happiness into somebody else's hands. So he can't make you decide whether you should be happy or not. To be happy is your personal response. So you should not give that privilege to anyone else. And the second thing is exactly what Buddha said that you don't give, you give gifts of what you give. You know, there's a saying that, you know, Germany was divided into East and West Germany. And that time Berlin, Berlin had a wall. And there was East Berlin and North Berlin, East Berlin and West Berlin. Now West Berlin was the progressive country and East Berlin was the suppressed country. So East Berlin was always angry with West Berlin. So he said, if we are angry with them, we'll make their life miserable. So what they did over the wall, they used to throw garbage. The entire city's garbage, they used to throw over the wall into West Berlin. So West Berlin in turn would respond by throwing fruits and vegetables across the wall. And these guys said, these guys, we are throwing garbage and they're giving us fruits and vegetables. Why is it like that? So the one day when the wall broke, this East and West guy started talking. He says, you know, all these years we threw garbage on your side and you threw fruits and vegetables. You know what the West Berliner said? He said, you can only give what you have. So you have garbage. So you gave me garbage. I had fruits and vegetables. So I give you fruits and vegetables. So you decide what your culture is and give according to what your culture is. The other will give according to his culture. You are not responsible for his culture. So control your culture. Decide first, what is your culture? Yes. Yuvraj, you got your answer? Yes, sir. Who's next? We'll take the last three questions, sir. Is it okay? For me, any amount is okay. For you, you are the timekeeper. Sir, we'll take a question from Asmita. Yeah. Good afternoon, sir. Good afternoon, Asmita. My question stands as should we do what we love or should we love what we do? Because in other, there are a lot of things when you need to keep in mind. It's just not, people say that you should go after your passion, but then there are many other things to keep in mind because they are supposed, for example, we are living in such a generation where we've been given everything and our aspirations for a good life is extremely high than what was for our previous generations. So- Sir, one minute. Asmita, what is a good life? See, is it material comforts? I think it varies from person to person. No, you are the person. Okay. Asmita, you are the person. I think my good life for me would be where I would be satisfied with the work I would be doing and I would have experiences that I would want. So is it for you a good life that your father has a Honda city and you want a Mercedes? Until you get a Mercedes, you are not going to have a good life. Is it like that? Sir, it's just not about cars. For example, I really want to travel the entire world. Very good. And for that, I need a pretty large amount of money. It depends how you want to travel. You want to backpack across the world, which I would do if I was your age. It doesn't cost money. It costs time and that time is very invested. And if you have friends, you can always live with friends. You need one friend in Europe. I had that. I go to one friend. I wrote to him. I want to stay with you. I stayed with him. And after that, that friend gave me a reference in another country. I stay with that friend. That friend gave me a reference in another country. And like that, I stayed in people's homes, learned their culture and finally traveled the countries. So it also depends how you plan. Your passion is to travel. Within your means, you travel how your passion takes you. You can travel first class by air and live in five-star hotels for which you will have to have a fortune. And at the end of it, you will not know that country because five-star hotels are exact Xerox copies all over the world. You can't get comfort to a beyond a certain level. Whether your bed is as soft as feathers or it's an air bed. If you're tired, you'll sleep even on the pavement. If you're not tired, you can be sleepless even on the softest bed. So the important thing is travel. Travel you must do. If you like travel like that, 90% of the times you should do the things that you love. But if forced to do something which you don't then love the things that you do. Because when you love that thing, you'll do it well. And if it has been thrust upon you, rest assured that that unwanted thing has a role to play in the bigger picture which you may not have seen, but someone has seen. And therefore do it. But do it best. So should we depend saying that our entire life is planned before us and something good is always supposed to come? It is planned, but it doesn't happen automatically. You have to slog for it. It is planned. It is not gonna happen automatically. So suppose you're gonna get X, suppose you say in your destiny is 50,000 rupees before the end of this year. You say, wow, my destiny is gonna give me 50,000 rupees end of this year. I'll sleep, I don't need to work. Then nothing gonna come. Because it's a promise, but that note is not yet given to you. But if you follow your destiny and do everything which you have to do and do it well and give every moment your best the end of the year in the most unexpected way you'll get it. That's your destiny. So destiny is one thing, but your hard work has to be supplemented. So there's no escape to that. And if the obstacles is okay, the obstacles only make you shopper. Better run out. Thank you. All the best. So we'll take a question from Gayatri. Yes. Sir, I just wanted to ask, people have different definitions of success for what it means to them. I just wanted to ask what it means to you. To me, I gave a lot of thought to it. And I looked also along the way to what is success because one thing I know for sure that to my mind to earn more money is not success because some money comes and money goes is money is never featured in my idea of success. But my idea of success, for example, today my idea of success is that I have, let's say, 120, 130 or 150 students may have benefited from my time and then I say I have succeeded for the day, for the hour or for the next. And then after that, whatever next demands come on my way, if I can do it successfully or do it to make more people happy, I'll be very happy to do it. So at the end of the day, I'm thinking that if one life breath easy because you lived is to have succeeded or if you have left this place with a healthy child or a productive child, or if you have left this place with a thing of beauty like a garden or something created by you, then you have succeeded. So success to me is not simply material success. That is also by the byproduct, but real success is when you feel internally fulfilled. When you feel I set out to do something and I did it, that fulfillment is success and success, big success is made from small successes. So every moment should be a success. And if you can do that, then you've got a successful life. So if you set out to do 10 sums in your mathematics, at the end of one hour, you finish the 10 sums all correct, you have succeeded. Then after that, you may become a PhD in maths later, but that 10 sums getting correct is contributing to the PhD. But if you don't and give it up and crib and crawl and say that I hate this maths, you're neither a success, you're a loser because you didn't do what was supposed to be done and you didn't do anything else also. So you have to give everything that is thrust upon you your best. So it goes back to the previous answer that aim to do everything that you love, but also aim to love everything that comes your way. So then you'll be successful. I refer you to Google, go on Google and type definition of success by Emerson and read his thing. It is fantastic. Every word is fantastic. Okay, sir. And emulate it. That's what I'm trying to do. Okay, sir, thank you so much. Thank you. Who's next, Sugandha? Sir, we'll take a question from Mania. Mania? Hi, sir. Sir, it's not something you talked about in this session, but it's something I often think to myself or ask myself. Yeah. We take birth, our parents raise us, do their best, and then next we do our best, work hard, study, get a job, and everything. But we already know the end. What is the end? Everyone is going to die someday. No, death is only to the physical body. If your deeds are alive, today I'll give you an extreme example. I say Matma Gandhi is still alive. Every banknote has his picture. Every street has a, every city has a name to his street. And today his name is still being used. He has gone and melted with dust, and God knows how many times he was born and reborn and died. We don't know. But his name is still alive. His memory is still alive. His soul is still alive. All our souls are alive, but our souls have not achieved their purpose. Once they achieve their purpose, you have etched yourself a position of immortality. So if you think that destruction of the body is the end of everything, then this whole journey is amount to a dash. Have you ever been to a graveyard or ever seen it in a picture? Yeah, in that they write the name of the person on the tombstone. There's a name on it, and underneath there's two dates. If not, don't go to graveyard, open the death column in the newspaper. And they will write over there, so and so, Mr. or Mrs. so and so. Underneath they'll say 1912 to 1920, right? 1912 was born, 2020 died, and in between there is a dash. And what is his whole life amounted to one dash? His whole life was that one dash. Between the time he was born to the between the time he's dead. Now it's up to you whether you make that dash your story or you leave the dash as a dash. So a real success person never dies because he lives in the hearts of many afterwards because you did something good for them. Their memory continues and moves on and on and on and you get etched into immortality. But if you lead a life which destroyed people or killed or made some misery to everyone or was still didn't do anything to anyone and just existed, then that life is a wasted life. So that choice is ours. Destiny provides a platform. Hard work is our choice. That choice was given to human beings. Animals don't choose. They do whatever is supposed to be done. We got a choice. They said, let me see my best creation. I'll give him independence and see how they play with themselves. Now, by the time you discover everything life is already over. So it better you discover from those who already discovered. Take that advice, move forward. You'll reach higher than them. We don't take that advice and I'll experience. Dad smokes and he stopped smoking because he got a bad cough and someone told him that that little scar can turn cancer. And then when you turn 15, 16, one day he sees a cigarette in your bag and he says, but you should not be smoking. So why are you not smoking? Why are you smoking? And you said, you smoke, so I am smoking. And he said, if only I can tell you how much I suffered when I smoked, then you will learn, you will learn by yourself. You will smoke till you get that. And then when you get that, you suffer. And then I wish I did. But if you heed his warning, you save yourself. And when you save yourself at this age, you're good for many other things. And those other things will take you further than he went. And that's the whole essence of learning from others' experience. Foolish people learn from their own and intelligent people, wise people learn from others. Take the benefit, read books, take successful people's books and read, see what they did to become successful, and do that. And that's how you grow. That's why it's important to read. Read, see, look like Ganpati. Good. Did you get your answer? Yes, sir, I did. Thank you. So should we take the last question? Yeah, I don't mind whoever. If there are questions, I'll take them. All right, so we have a question from Dax. Yeah, they all must be hungry now. I see some have already asked for this. Dax, yes. Sir, I have a question. Yeah. As you said, it is important for us to make goals short term or long term, whichever may be, may be and adhere to it. So how do you get the motivation every day to get up and work for it? No, it may not be a minute-by-minute thing. In between, you will stray away from the path. But net result should be that you stick to it. If you can't stick to it, then it's not your passion. That means your goal is wrong. Then your goal should be according to your passion. And your passion is something that drags you to do it. Like, if you get passionate about reading and if you reach the part in the book where you just don't want to leave it but it's time to go to school, you will go to school. And when the bell to go home rings, you will actually come running back home to finish that book because that's your passion. So you've got to have a passion that makes you drive to work every day to realize it. Otherwise, it's not your passion. It is somebody else's passion. And you can always reserve the right to change your passions as and when you get more inputs. But to get more inputs is to read more, listen more, think more, talk more, see more. And that's how you get more inputs. And that will shape and nurture your passion to its fine detail. And that's why it's important. You have a passion. It may change. Tomorrow, your passion may be different. That's your birthright. But not to have passion is a dead person. Sugandha, any more questions or everyone's hungry? So there are three more. See, I don't mind taking them, but it's already crossed one. And I think I don't know if you are time-barred. I am not. So we will just take these last three. No more questions. Yeshraj, Soham and Manas. Yes. Raj, your question please. Yes, sir. So as you said before that, we should work hard. We should do our best. But in my case, it's... Is it Yeshraj talking? Yeshraj, yes. Yeah, OK. So but in my case, what happens is I am ready to work hard. I am ready to give my best. But I'm confused that where should I give my best? Where your passion takes you. You have to give your best where your passion takes you. And your passion is there in front of you. You have to... It's like what you enjoy doing most. Now, sometimes what happens? Like, I wanted to do medicine in school. But medicine is not a subject in school. Biology is a subject. In biology, I used to get middle marks. You know, I'll tell you stories one day when we meet about about my massive disasters in biology. But I had to go through biology to get into medicine. So I didn't leave biology because I hated it. I didn't hate it, but I wasn't good at it. I finally did biology, got the marks I needed and reached medicine. And that's what I wanted to do. So on the way to doing what you want to do, there may be many pitfalls. There may be many things that you don't like. But you have to ask yourself, is it necessary to reach my ultimate goal? And if it is, then give it your best. Again, go back to that old question. Most of the time, do what you love. But sometimes you have to love what you do in order to do what you love. So adjust yourself at that time, put yourself through the mold and learn it. Difficult things must be conquered and made easy. This computer, your teachers will tell you, I've never been on a Zoom meeting. After they coached me on the telephone, my son coached me just to get onto this meeting. And yesterday I did a meeting, I'm better at it today. And I dare say I have lost the fear of this Zoom meeting now. So it's a thing that you have to learn even if you don't like it, because it helps you to reach where you want to reach. And where I want to reach is to be with you guys. So that's how you have to do everything what is presented to you every day, because it's part of the big picture. Yes, sir. Okay, sir. Thank you, sir. All the best, yes, Raj. Thank you, sir. Soham, you can go next. Sir. Yes, Soham. Sir, I have a question which is related to my life. So actually, it has been years that I have been talking good to people, behaving good to people, but at the end of the day, I always regret that because I don't know, it seems like the people I talk to are wrong. No, the problem is that you expect them to be good to you. Yeah, that is a problem. I found that problem. I'll tell you one thing. You must have heard the story I told about the Berlin Wall. You be good to people is your culture. You can only be responsible for your culture. What others are good to you is their culture and it's their shortsightedness. So you don't, doesn't mean if they are not good to you, you don't have to be good. Remember one thing, you're the man who generates the sound and they are sounding boards who send the echo. Sooner or later, your echo will come back. You don't echo what other people are sending because you are generating your own sound. So if you go to the hills and scream and abuse, the echo will be an abuse only. You can't get back God's name, but if you scream God's name, you'll get echo back God's name. So what sound you send forth, that sound will come back. Therefore, if you want people to be good to you, you continue to be good. And if they're not good, it's their problem, not yours. Because your culture is to be good. So never regret that you are good. Because in the long run, your account books are written by someone else. Sir, but actually, like when I behave good with people, I regret at the end. And when I behave what my mind says, it might be good or bad, I don't regret it. Like it seems better than being good always. So your mind tells you to be bad sometimes. Yeah, many times actually. Good and bad is your decision. No, you put acts as good and bad. All acts are acts. They are not good or bad. We decide they are good and bad. So if you do an act, you know, there is a saying, if you read in Polonius's advice to Lirtus in Hamlet, and it says over there, never, he tells his father, Polonius is the father and Lirtus is the son. He tells his son, never enter into a fight. Okay, he's telling him to be good. Never enter into a fight. But having entered, make sure that you beat the hell out of the other guy. This is not Shakespeare's language. This is my language. Shakespeare's language is having entered, make sure the other know who you are. So don't fight. But if you have to fight, then make sure the other guy knows who you are. Which means controlled energy, controlled strength. It doesn't mean that you should lie down and say, come beat me. It's not like that. Don't enter into a fight, but if having entered, make sure the other guy knows what you're doing. So you never mess with you. So being good is not a sign of weakness. It's a sign of strength because a man who can be good in the face of adversity is a strong guy. So if you have strength, don't waste it. A bad guy will respond to adversity with anger and therefore he'll be bad. So that's not what you are. Sir, sir, should I do what is good or should I do what my mind says? You do what your mind says and your mind will always make you do good only. Okay, thank you, sir. All the best. Sir, as much as we would love to continue this session. No, maybe we can now finish. We'll take the... Manas has been waiting for long with that last question for today. Manas, you can go. Last question. Yes, sir. Okay. So, sir, actually I wanted to ask that it happens many times in life that we do not expect something but that happens. So it might have happened with you also. So how do you tackle it when something unexpected happens in life? Unexpected happens, always unexpected happens. We can never predict what is going to happen. But whatever happens, you have to deal with it. You may have plans for yourself but God has different plans sometimes. And therefore it just happens. My expectation for Thursday was on Wednesday, it rained heavily. So I said, today is my day of relaxation. And although I do tele-consultations with telephone, I said, I did my work by morning. I was enjoying the rain outside. I asked my wife to make another cup of tea. I said tea on a hot cup of tea with so much rain is nice. And whilst I was having my tea, suddenly I hear a huge crash downstairs. And I look out of the window and I see our old 50-year-old Gulmohar tree has fallen and crushed two cars and is lying across our compound. I'm the secretary of the building and therefore I have to spring into action at that moment. So all my plans of watching Netflix and enjoying life with nice rain outside, hot tea in my hand all went down the trail. I went downstairs and I start supervising the clearing up and start making telephone calls, calling people and so on and so forth. Now this is how life behaves. You have some plans, life has other plans. You have to learn to meet each challenge with the same gusto as if you only invited it. Give it your best and then at the end of it, you're only more experienced person. So unexpected things happen and as you grow, they'll happen more and more. Don't expect only. You plan and do whatever you can and whatever God's plans are there, they may sometimes cooperate, sometimes they won't. So there's a saying that, you know, they say life is not an even play field. We say, oh, that guy was cheating. There were stones on the my side of the compound. Life is not an even play field. You have to still win. Therefore, learn to play on uneven play field. And who said life is fair? That's the second one. Now everything is not fair in love and war, in life itself. So you will find someone doesn't work and gets everything and someone works hard and gets nothing. In the long run, everything evens out. So don't compare yourself with others. Life is not fair in the short run, in the long run it is. And then if you don't listen to both this, you know, there's a third sentence. And that third sentence is, it's your life. Do what you like with it. This is when a parent teaches the child. He said, who said life is fair? Life is not an even play field. Then he still doesn't listen. Then he says, it's your life, do what you like. So Manas, it's your life. Do what you like. You want to fight, you want to weep, you want to cry, it's your life, do it. But you want to live, you want to be happy, you want to become experienced, do it. All the best. Thanks a lot to all of you for listening. I've had a very nice time and I hope you all also learned. Maybe at some point in time, maybe December, we'll all meet again in real time. Till then, I think this is a bad, not a bad substitute. Absolutely, we have reached out. Thank you, sir. Thank you. Thanks all of you. Thank you so much. It was, it's always a pleasure to listen to you and on a very positive note. Yes, it's our life and we make the most of it. Bring this session to an end. Thank you. Thank you, students. Thank you, audience for tuning in. Thank you so much for the wonderful session. Thank you, Sugandha. Thanks to all the people behind the scenes who've done so much to let this happen.