 I Love you and right here inside it with down feathers on that mean that shit cold And I'm the coldest listen. It's the message right here Black boy. Tell me how you really feel Cuz I just want to build with you black girl. Tell me how you really feel. I Want to keep it real with you. I want to live better eat better. I want to love better sleep better Yeah, I want to feel so aligned I'm gonna I'm gonna say the question and then I'm gonna explain why it's a question So the question is what is body positivity and is it inherently hypocritical and counterproductive? Now the reason it's a question is because Some men call it like one of the biggest lies women tell because I Can't call you fat, but you can call me short same thing I can't call you Uh fat, but you can say my dick is little same thing So it seems like body positivity is one sided So, yeah, so again, what is body positivity and is it inherently hypocritical and counterproductive? That's a good question. Okay, um body positivity I'm still forming my own definition of what body positivity is. I guess now I'm still working through that um I think And I'm gonna generalize for most people. It's you know It is a lie. I'm gonna say because we have this whole I don't even know why people like die on this hill either because we have social media and nobody is like What you see But we'll get on there and somebody will post something. Oh my god. She looks gorgeous and then I don't know. It's just I think we want to be that society where we say everybody shape everybody size everybody, you know every Little flaw you have per se. It's it's not even a flaw But because everything is so like scrutinized and we're so hypersensitive um To the point where we're even changing our own bodies. We're all starting to look the same It's like we want to be inclusive to people who Technically to even ourselves. We don't look like us. We we want to be we want to be somebody's body positive role model like we all want to We want to perpetuate this whole thing of We love every we we we just love everything, but it is um double sided. It is it is a double sided streets. It's double standard because Yes, a woman can be fat and you can call her fat and it'll be like wow Body shape Yeah, you're body-shaving her But A man is short and you will be like he's short and it's it doesn't have the same effect, right? It's like okay But in reality, that's not even something you can change Like when it comes to females and we're one where we speak on body-shaving females Not that it's right, but a lot of times something we we kind of Could have control over Being overweight we can kind of have control over that depending, you know on other factors, of course biological et cetera, but Being skinny again, we can have sort of a control over that but when it comes to men like some of the examples that chew Names or point out. It's like things that people don't have control over yet. We want to be this body positive Society and it's kind of to a detriment too because It's it doesn't Doesn't it just doesn't work like it just doesn't I think It's it's a detriment in the sense that it's making people I don't want to put this Positivity it's making people think that they can just do whatever Or like be whatever way that they want to be and We have to be like Yes, girl. Yes boy, like That's great body positivity. I'm all for it. Like whenever when amber um Forget her last name. Did her little slut walk like when ember rose when she used to do her slut walks in um I guess empowering women and being body positive like Sure, but why? I have the same question about Body positivity like I have the same question because To me it just it is detrimental to society in a sense. It is So follow up question What are your thoughts on Lizzo? On Lizzo I like Lizzo. I like Lizzo. I'm Of her for being Who she wants to be When when she wants to be that person like I'm fine with her shaking her ass Being overweight or anything like I don't have a problem with Lizzo I think society has a problem with thinking Fat people need to lose weight Or you know, like people need to look a certain ways So that they can do a certain things on social media or it's not acceptable You know, it's like the same thing When black women wear Dress fitted dresses but are curves strong and you're like, why would you wear that? Like I can't do anything about that. I what you want me to kind of in like a Brown sack. So Lizzo can have her fun She just is on the bigger side Whereas if you see koi Shaking and twerking you won't really say much about it because she's a skinny girl but I'm fine with Lizzo. I mean In a body positive society She's doing what she wants to do We're all going I'm curious why she doesn't date fat niggas She said I haven't seen the data fat niggas And I think that's some of guys' suspicions like the body positivity stops wear But I don't want to embrace women stutter Yeah, I think she makes like athletes like football players We all have just just because I look a certain way doesn't mean I can't have a standard doesn't mean I can't have my attractions You know, just because I'm this size, whatever I wanted a chubby big man Right, maybe I'm comfortable with that. Maybe that makes me feel good. I have more fluff Sure, but you're not pushing You're not pushing this idea that this Historically or typically unattractive physique should be considered attractive But you don't give that same Thing or you're not pushing for those same standards that unattractive You know because what I'm saying is like If Lizzo is on the cover of sports illustrated. It's like, yeah, girl. Do your thing But is Lizzo Fighting for A fat guy to be on the cover of sports illustrated That's what that's where the hypocritical conversation is coming from because it doesn't seem like that's the case Like yeah, a guy you should have a six pack and packs and everything but a girl is beautiful at any size again, I think I remember that one time when Brianna was a Brianna. She had this chubby guy kind of big set model some fenty boxers and stuff for her and I think twitter went like crazy Like, oh my god. She is so like sexy like he's so beautiful and stuff. I think It's preference. I don't necessarily I don't think I see it the way you see it. I feel like We like who we like. I feel like we want to see what we want to see. We definitely want to see representation Of all kinds of men and women on the covers of everything. I just think it's again society in general Gravitates towards a certain look um But with Lizzo, I wasn't aware that she only dates a certain time or Again, that's not confirmed I think I would think she would um You know, I would think she she's um a go for men who look like her to be um liked to or Seen awesome. I don't see it You don't see it. Yeah, because I guess most guys problem with body positivity and the whole hypocritical piece is like It's almost like a If you don't think I'm attractive Right, you are a body shamer So like if you don't think Lizzo is attractive, you're a body shamer But Lizzo can think whoever is attractive and she can have whatever standard she has but if a man has that same standard and It's imposed on her in a way that she doesn't qualify Then he's a bigot. He's a this. He's a that. He's a that but men don't get that name No, I think a lot of times I think we're just kind of tired of men Because women do change a lot for men I think we're kind of just over it and again hyper sensitive because it doesn't and I've seen it A guy doesn't even say the wrong thing. Maybe Lizzo isn't even his preference since we're talking about Lizzo, but in general He has a body type where he has a preference and It's a bad thing But I can have a preference. It's just That's who she likes, you know, and again That's just how society That's that's just how that's the construct that we've made for ourselves and now we live in it and now it's it's it's shaming even though it's not because Men and women have had their preferences over centuries, but I think women are more so Pleasing So we will go out that it'll it'll take more of a Like and I because I'm a woman I can't speak for men But it hurts us more or we we pay attention to it more when a guy said something We we are more likely to go change That about ourselves. Maybe we already had an insecurity about it now somebody Some guy has said something to us and now we we want to go change that whereas for men And in my opinion, it's like A lot of them don't care a lot of them are comfortable in their bodies already And they just have this Ego about it. It's like I like myself the way I am So even if you come and say something about it And I'm sure some people are sensitive to some men are sensitive about different aspects of the body and because we all have some securities, but They're not more so going to You know the extent of women going with the nice To change certain parts of them. So It's like stay out of women's business Because we deal with it. Anyway, whether you like it or not. We're dealing with it. So stay out of our business Yeah, that is it's crazy because some some like I think some things right about certain body shapes and certain body sizes But then if I were to say that it'll be body shaming and I'm just like no, it's not body shaming But you could you know do something about that that will make me you feel more positive about yourself But it's this world now we can't share opinions