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I may have to post it on both pages I'm on this page and that page But I would like to you know build that page up and hopefully I can get closer to About 10,000 subscribers over there so that it's you know worthwhile for the people I'm interviewing When we launch it so if you see this video later look in the description box And you'll see the link to the study and you could subscribe over there because of course the more subscribers I get over there then the bigger names and the more interesting people the busier people the people who You know it which everybody I've already talked to is super super busy But I have a personal relationship with them, but they're the people who are unique as well But I don't have a real close personal relationship if they see that Some people gonna see it and that they can help some people then they may be more prone to being on there So I'm gonna try to make that right there happen Here soon hopefully by June we'll be ready to ready to launch Let me see here now this a Q&A make sure y'all put the hashtag Q Or Q hashtag but with the hashtag Q Before your question so I could easily identify and We're gonna go through my wife just had this left to take her mama a piece of my son birthday cake His birthday was yesterday. Thank you for the person who sent a cash out to me for my son He may show he got it now. I was like son. You don't need it. Do you like what? So I really appreciate that love it just was it's mind-boggling to my wife and to my my kids when they have a birthday and Somebody who support me bless them because they're like, oh wow So that's all the people so they actually care about us missing you and you giving them our time Like they care that means something to him So I just I have to say thank you because it mean a lot like it really be you know blow it away by that Kids father broke off our engagement and dove right into another relationship I let it be and moved on and that was over a year ago Now I'm seeing a guy and he's upset and stopped supporting the kids Well, you know, you got to just say good riddance you got to say good riddance You and you got to understand that that's his energy. That's what he's putting into the world And that's what's gonna come back to him What go around come around so the way he move in the way he acted his mindset and not in the literal sense But saying that mindset is gonna block his blessings that mindset is gonna make him bitter It's gonna make him nasty. It's gonna make him rule and Ain't nothing gonna go right in his life because of where he's operating from So you got to understand that and when somebody removed himself from your life you got to appreciate that because You don't want the lightning that strike them the bounce off and hit you and if you're standing too close to somebody that get Scrubbed by lighting you're gonna get hit too. And so when somebody who is toxic or whatever Taking dust something to remove themselves. You got to be like, you know what good riddance you sparing me To the new memos chassis the God bless you now Kimberley God bless you now Now to be in the chatting on here like this you got to be in the bless tribe or the bless business tribe I really appreciate y'all and To my patreon folks now with the patreon. We got us a in May. We got us a Thing coming up in May for a group small group the way we're gonna be in the house together having some Conversations deep conversation that'll be recorded, you know for YouTube and And and but that's I just the patreon Supporters got invited to that. So that's a little exclusive and then for bless tribe and patreon It's a group of us going to Bali next year So I say that to say it's a couple benefits to our little group So don't y'all think we just you know doing is do the do it I'm 21. He's 27. What an idea Wednesday I'll give one second real quick Real quick here. Okay, it's a love Posting this here on my Instagram real quick. Just cuz I forgot to Let folks know you guys Y'all not go live over here and not over there. I'm 21. He's 27 Met on vacay. Okay. Y'all got vacation money Hooked up out there. He's from same city. So he invited me to party with his friends. Don't know if he likes me Well, nah for one it looked like I don't see your name before Feel like I don't see your name before So now you now you 21 that that's what it is. So I'm gonna give you some grace But you ought to know better than that You ought to know better than meeting up with a man And hooking up with a man on vacation Hooked up out there because now hooked up now what hooked up mean Y'all know better than that He like you somewhat now because of the crazy stuff that we see happen and go viral on social media of how people mad And then they end up being Together people starting to men starting to believe more and in that crazy stuff Like oh this woman I hooked up with on vacation could become my wife and then we could go viral one day about telling how we met and Some men will be with a woman just for the virality possibility Because fame and the money that'll come with that fame means so much to some men that they'll They'll be with you just for that So you kind of got them, you know tread lightly and make sure Tony good evening. I didn't receive a notification notification to pay for the trip I saw your post of it selling out and notice. There's a wait list. How can I get the information to join the list? Well, if you saw that there's a wait list and that's where you would join So that's where you could join the wait list now the notification The sign up for the trip the thing with those is It's kind of like you either got if you win the blessed tribe. It's almost like you got to go and Set your notifications on YouTube To notify you whenever I post a message on the community page to the blessed tribe Which I still don't know if it'll work, but people do get them So it does work because you know, as you know, it's sold out in less than an hour and so But you may have to set your notifications and it might be like up under my video It might have a little bell somewhere where you set notifications and maybe You know on the membership page it might have where you set the notification So that way if I announce something like hey got this conference because what we doing I'm gonna do some conferences I'm planning a conference later this year The tickets for the conference may only be a hundred tickets But it'll be a hot ticket thing because only a hundred tickets But I'm gonna be doing different things different conferences So some for this group some for that group and the blessed tribe and the patreon to get notified first Before the public is notified the public only know to be notified if there's extra tickets Same with some of my book releases. So you just kind of got to turn on the notifications Went on a first date with a guy then he came with me to my place to watch a movie He went for a kiss. I told him it was too fast at the end. He went home now He wants a second date. He is consistent with messaging calling daily Everything is going as normal Quilla God God bless you. Thank you for joining everything going normal That's that's all normal right there. Not your mistake is Going on a first date and then he came with me to my place to watch a movie if you had not talked to him at least 10 hours Before that first date then you made a huge mistake because that could have been Ted Bundy nephew And you could be in a freezer right now in in pieces So you never ever in your life Invite a man into your place to your place y'all listen to me now never invite a man to your place in under 10 dates You need to do 10 dates Really public dates. I said 10 hours just to make an exception But because she's not ready did it but you need 10 public dates a date should be two hours To four hours two to four hours should make a date the reason why it's two hours because you need enough time To get to know the person talk to the person and feel the person out But no more than four hours because you don't want to be strong head over heels or looking Dehydrated So you want to have a life have a time period and be able to okay? Yeah, it's been a great night You know, I'm gonna let you go and go about your business So 10 dates two to four hours before you invite somebody in your house Because you don't know who you're inviting Tilda welcome to the best trial occasion. Well to the best trial. I'd be missing those. I'm trying to catch those When I'm on here, how could you talk about falling from grace and God turning his back on you? Since I can't really talk about that in the sense of I'm not a theologian, you know, in the sense of me understanding that I don't believe God turn his back on you in the sense of like your ex communicated But and I think it's more so in our mind And it's a trick of the enemy and it's not God turning his back on us It's us turning our back on God Because God don't fail you God don't quit on you we quit on him And so but if we tell ourselves that he has turned his back Then we can't really receive the favor or the blessings because we don't believe and you can't Receive if you don't believe because according to your faith Will be your blessings And so that's a trick of the enemy to make you feel like you've been forsaken by God But God is there all the time So you have to understand that don't don't don't be deceived Is it necessary for a man to know the names and faces of people you've dated my boyfriend says he wants to know So he doesn't be friend them Well for one, it's like what he did walking around be friending people They walk right man. You got a friend. What's going on with you, man? You got a friend. Hey, I want to be friends It's like my goodness. Now if y'all live in pole dump Dunkerville then Yes, it's it's necessary. It may be necessary Be and that is a real concern that is a real concern and not just for him But for you because if it's a real small town or if it's a town way across paths Yes, as men we do meet men at the gym. We meet men at the basketball court You know, we meet men at networking events and it will be very awkward if a man go meet a man They link up they talking they chatting and then it's a male. Let's get up man and have a drink Let go over here to the cigar lounge and you know And just kick back and talk business and that's the man that you didn't date it So, I mean, hopefully it's only like one like how many exes you got out there sister like my goodness You got a route sheet Like what he goes wrong and then he goes Jerry did he go Larry and this what he looked like So, you know, I'm torn on that one because Real super duper confident man could be like, okay And he might be cool with the guy might know the guy and then you then you tell him Hey, man, I got used to date and then he might get his distance or he might be like, okay Well, that's cool. You owe him. He owe you. All right. Now that right there is like point zero zero one percent of men It ain't no no No That's a personal choice on that And and honestly, I feel like most men ask that question Closer to God since I believe the main way would be to read your Bible read your Bible and If you can't read then have it read to you like on the Bible app I always hit the audio and just let it read to me and I'm listening to it like that because I don't like reading But I don't mind listening Because the Bible is basically explaining the attributes of God like who God is how he moved what he do What he approved what he doesn't approve and that's how you get to know God and then with your prayer Just add on to that My husband talks negative about me and lies on me to other people. Is this something that can genuinely be fixed now? No, that's sister that right there. That's rooted in grounded in him Unless God do some to him, you know, like he really had his like come to Jesus moment like Some that really shake him to his core is not something that you could do But that's pretty and one thing we do as husbands and I think women do it too is We kind of all talk bad about our partner to somebody at some time It's human nature to have a gripe session to go and complain But you got to address that and you got to figure out how can you? Tell this to this person Like how can you express this to this person? So you may say hey listen when you talk bad about me to other people and Then they fall out with me down like me But then you want to be cool with them and we got a family union We got a party and we want to invite them now it make it awkward and then because they're being awkward down My family and friends gonna get awkward and then they're not gonna like them and now this causes tension And now we can't come together. So what's the use of being married? If we're gonna create enemies out of each other families and friends and if that don't work It may have to be explained in another way and so knowing your husband you got to understand how he learns how he Understands how he comprehends things and put it in that way Just like what a school teacher can't teach every student the same way you got to learn How is this gonna speak to him for me? It was the shoe on the other foot thing that helped me see things when my wife would say Hey, if I did what you did, how would you feel and when I seen that I'm like, whoa, hold on Hold on now. You're getting tricky now You won't post to do that now you won't post let me see what it look and feel like But that right there got me together. And so you have to understand how he Communicates and how he understands things I'm over 35 with children. Can I stay uplifted in dating with the foolish advice going on now days? Now I posted a video a little while ago That y'all have to go back and watch later when you get get a chance and it was talking about that where One of the guys one of the men from the dark was telling women that if you over 35 you got to share a man You need to be okay sharing men and that is very very dumb is very dumb and You have to know what's for you. So Whatever you believe is for you that's for you and can't nobody stop that can't nobody block that can't nobody change that But if you allow yourself even a little bit to believe that ignorance and the foolish that's being spewed online Then you're gonna get exactly what they say you are working what they say you can and can't have So you have to set your standards for yourself and you've got to know Who you are what you are what you want? Where you going what you deserve and what you gonna get and when you know that you know and you believe that that's for you That's for you and that applies to life love and business So yes, there is hope because it's happening every day women over 35 would keep me men every day Getting married every day. So you got to understand that if it can happen for somebody else that can happen for you What doesn't mean when a man lets you meet his kids, but not his other family mom siblings close friends, etc He thinks the kids don't he thinks kids don't he think they don't know enough and then the other people He don't want you to meet them because it typically means typically there are exceptions to the rule But it typically means is they are in love with somebody else That he was with or that he is with But they on a break or he got it so under wraps and under control that he got time and space and room to cheat So it's certain stages of a relationship Where we could get so complacent and comfortable that if a person want to cheat they could cheat fully and freely Like I'm in in my relationship my wife don't check my phone. She don't bother me when I'm on the road She not blowing my phone up like she home. She locked in with our kids They doing what they do if you go on Instagram and you follow my wife on Instagram and you look at her stories You see her all over the place You look at my stories and see what city I'm in and what I'm doing and you go look at her stories You'll see she got a full itinerary Well, we're in a space in our relationship that if I was a cheetah, I can have a whole nother woman and It wouldn't even I wouldn't be able to introduce that woman to my mama and My sister because they know my wife so that's typically what that be is you really be a side woman and The own the other reason is when the mama and sister are very Controlling over protective and he's scared of them to be bringing home a different one And he really should be protecting his kids more so than a grown Adults more so than adults. So he really doing the wrong way He should be introducing you to the adults in his life before he introduced you to a kid So that lets you know he just that's not really a quality man. That's not a man you should even really be focused on paying attention to and And I'll take that back Because his mom and his sister could be on crack So if his mom and his sister shot out Then their opinion don't matter and his kid's opinion matter So that's why so I say that to say that's why I had to change that because you got to get context Now if his mom is Upstanding citizen she got a job saying what a sister like well to do family or good family or just even a you know cohesive family Then you got to look a little deeper and see like is this because he respect them And he don't want to just bring somebody in or do I need to pay a little more attention to? His time management how much time he given how he talking how he acting and what I need to do right now When do you think it on me men and women will be over? I'm so sick of it. It's ruining dating and Even marriages and these are the type of men I have to choose from I'll rather be single Sister win last day. So I'm not sure it's I don't think it'll ever be over from here But it don't mean you can't win don't mean you can't win your battles And but will it be over now? It's gonna be there to to a certain extent, but what's gonna happen though is The good God gonna raise up a Remnant, you know, and then let me well man my wife be getting on to me by that I Get me Okay, usually small part member or trace remaining a small surviving group often used in plural Okay, so remnant do fit right now a small surviving group God gonna raise up a raise up a remnant of people y'all hold on one second Hello Well, you could park it in the street. I'm doing a live right now You could just park it on the street and then I come out and move them move them around after this Y'all forgive me. I got my car parked wrong. So my wife called me to move because she didn't come back And so it's gonna be a remnant raised up So I had retired from speaking. I Had retired from speaking retired from doing events But because of the idiots is raising up now. I got to come back to work So now I got start back doing seminars now I got start back torn Going around the country doing healthy love seminars and relationships With a vest on and with armed guards because I'm bringing the message that the idiots don't want to heal But so it's been to be it's gonna be a raising of people who got some sense and Many are called fewer chosen and not everybody gonna into the promised land So what's gonna happen is the people who want to be ignorant they're gonna weed themselves out They're gonna stay and they're gonna be just fighting and tussling amongst each other in ignorance and then the people who want to be happy be healthy be whole Gonna elevate and then find each other So the the idiots gonna be left to themselves and those who want to do better gonna meet and mingle And that's how and you got to that's why you got to guard your eyes and your ears Because if the same way the way you wrote that message How would that look if that message what you wrote was a face if that message is a face How you gonna look when you go out in public if that message is a face So that's why you have to control what you could control and you got the blocked old messages You got the laugh at the idiots you got the C. They foolishness and instead of being angry with a food That's why the Bible say don't argue with a fool Because when we go to arguing with fools now we look like a fool and Jay-Z didn't know he got that line from the Bible But so you when you realize that then you like oh, you know what I'm letting this idiot change my countenance I'm walking around here a bitter-faced I'm walking around here mad faced and the good the good person over here that I can attract I'm repelling them because I'm letting the fool Make me mad and so you have to always check your countenance send it Welcome to the blessed trial God bless you now The cold God bless you just saying thank you for all you do read the books and had a mentor. I'm divorcing It's been 12 months separated. What's the recommendation for the next step in healing? I Would say relearning, you know get you a coach my mentor dot life and just relearn like get a feel of this here dating scene Talk about the things that happen, you know debrief Decompress just release Learn and that will produce healing so that when you go forward You are healed and you healthy and you're not going forward broken jaded Hurting and everything else Let me see here CC God bless you now. Hey, Tony. I do not have a question. I just wanted to say your book a woman's influence is Transformational thank you and your wife took a deeper dive at my inner core. God bless you. Thank you for reading if you ain't read a woman's influence Make sure you grab and I'm promoted like I should Because I still ain't paid my publisher back for it because I'm promoted enough So but I'm almost there one more one more royalty cycle. There'll be the paid by Because you know that gay advance with with royalties So I'm actually doing good because the book just came out last year And so for the rest of my life, it'll be Rolling I am Nivia. Welcome to the blessed tribe the assistant my boyfriend and I sunshine God bless you now my boyfriend and I have been together three years and Not engaged he provides house cars and it's good to our child I gave my life to God. Is there any hope in getting married? I want to be right before God His focus is money health fitness not marriage Whoo Sister, I'm gonna tell you this right here now Fornication is the sin Okay, a lot of people call shacking up living together, but living together is co-ed roommates Fornication is the sin Because some people have to live with somebody or the opposite sex just because of where they at the environment How they housed or what have you even in some dorm rooms? It might be co-ed so Fornication is the sin and now y'all not already been in that and y'all didn't have a child and It's kind of a consequence of life And so a part of being an adult is we have to accept our Consequences and all we could do is help somebody else All we could do is learn as we learn so all we could do is say hey I don't already put the cart before the horse and This is what I got to live with until we can You know tangle and get the horses back in front of the cart and that may not happen so I made the choice I Was Ignorant to the choices and I made the wrong choice. This is my life Let me make the best of it. Let me make the changes that I need to make so if you say listen I'm no longer comfortable, you know being in for an occasion That may send him packing or he may say you know what? You are my wife you were there being a wife you my wife I don't know I'm holding off because of all the stuff I'm hearing online the stuff people saying online that marriage ain't real marriage is outdated marriage Don't benefit a man and I guarantee you that's why he not Marry you because it don't make sense for a man to put a baby in you Pay for the house pay for the cars be a good father and not get married. So it's something he listening to I'm Jaleel or Julya Jaleel welcome to the blest tribe now Mr. Tony where you start doing midweek sermons Not sure not sure I Barely got the capacity to do what I'm doing now So I don't know if I can add anything else on and you got to realize now when you go through them sermons There come spiritual warfare So I got to be ready. I got to be armored up Okay, got to be ready if I'm gonna be doing midweek sermons, but I'm not really a sermon type of person Be honest with you every now and then I read a little description talk on it But they ain't really my strong suit, but if God give me something I give it, but I can't make it like a process I can't make it like a like a routine like when I whenever I speak on stuff like that It have to be divinely inspired. I can't it can't be a job for me. That's why I can't open a church That's why I can't be a pastor because I can't just do routine messages You got to be dropped on it In a real way, is it okay to ask a gentleman To get coffee in order to continue a conversation Well, if y'all already talking And in this day and age it might not be a deal breaker. It might not be the end of the world Now it's certain men that's old-fashioned Conservative that will look at you with a side out like he gonna go now And that don't mean that y'all ain't gonna hit it off and be together But if me and like myself that if a woman asked me out If I was a single man and woman asked me out. I kind of would be a love Hold on. Oh, hold on. I ain't asked y'all. It was a reason. I know to go ask me Because now I can't now you put me in a rock between the hard spot What it call Put me in between a rock and a hard spot Because I ain't asked you out now and you see I got a mouth you see my mouth working I'm sitting up here conversing with you. So that's how I would take it So that's why I tell women don't ask no man out because it's a man who got to get on one knee So if the man got to get on one knee and say will you marry me then the man need the first start by saying Will you go on a date with me? Then he need to be able to say will you go on another date with me? Then he need to be able to say will you be my girlfriend? Then he need to be able to say will you be my wife? Then he need to be able to say will you be the mother of my children? So the man got to be the one Initiating the togetherness because when you do it the other way around what you see today online women proposing to men You see women chasing men women shooting they shot nine out of ten time They shooting the dead dog Meaning they getting the man that really Ain't worth a whole lot when it comes to being a man that can be counted on that could be trusted One out of a thousand I yeah, some women gonna shoot they shot and they gonna hit it It's somebody who in the mega ball the mega millions every time it's available somebody gonna get it, right? But but how many people play the mega millions and how many win? You see I'm saying so when you look at the odds, it's like Too good. So yes a woman could initiate something with a man and it work And we see those women go viral, but we don't see that every day and we're not seeing thousands of cases of it So when we hear about the women who shot they shot we could count on two hands out of hundreds of millions of people We could count on two hands how many women that shot they shot and it and turned into some worthwhile a Lot of times now me being a coach getting to be behind the scenes I then get to see oh you shot your shot, but this man, but your husband actually like men But she didn't know that because because you were desperate and ready this other woman. Oh you shot your shot But because you were so aggressive because you would throw yourself out then you were thirsty They let the man know he could play you because you you dehydrated. So you ask the shot your shot as a dog And so That's how it ended up working and then one out of a thousand Oh, wow, okay, you actually shot your shot at this man And he actually liked you and y'all hit it off and And it actually worked out But you went in the pants And he got on the dress. He ain't him like me now, but he got on the dress Because he want because he was cool being pursued But i'm trying to tell you not a man like that. I know that Want to be faithful That want to be You know real in a in a marriage Do not like for a woman to shoot her shot And I know that's against the grain of what's being taught today by The loud women who shot they shot But what the women don't understand a lot of times is they don't understand men And they don't need a lot of time to know the man that they got But telling every other woman do what I did not realizing that 99% of women who follow that lead don't end up hurt and embarrassed So i'm telling you The bible say a man who finds a wife for a reason The next scripture could have said a wife who finds a husband But it ain't say that for a reason So listen to me now Sometimes just let that conversation go and and and if you let it go a lot of time that made the man want to chase you That made the man want to You know get to know you All right, so the things that you and your family for giving us your time I truly enjoy your channel. Can you come to pg county maryland dc air the host of comfort, please Lord willing. Lord willing. I done did them up there in dc and I like that, you know area um But sometimes they charge too much for y'all hotels up there and then to I'll be about to get in the wreck on y'all rolls because sometimes just the roads just kind of weird to me You be driving down a runway driving the wrong way and It's just kind of weird to me and it'd be a little tight up there So sometimes the area just kind of confused me I'm about drove into the white house one time. I'm like my goodness. I'm about to get shot and kill Trying to navigate these roads But I might do that when I get back on the road. I just got to figure out the time You know when I could do it maybe in the summer I'll be I start touring and just doing a little small stuff But the other thing too inflation The inflation is so high these hotels They they didn't They were jacking up these prices So back when I was touring Man, you get a whole ballroom for 1200 dollars Now they try to tell you 20,000 So it's it's a little crazy right now. So I might have to do a crowd fund for the tour Do a crowd fund and if you and if you uh In the crowd fund for 25 dollars, then That show ticket to the event or how much ever it had to be Well, look at what they charging or I need to find like the little co-working spaces that have a room that'll seat like a hundred people But then they can't shut it down to their members So I'll be in there doing a seminar and the members walking through the bike and cutting all through slamming their dough And so it's like you kind of forced to do the hotel and they want to arm and a leg And then I'm gonna tell you another thing they be lying to the black event planners All the time the hotel in certain areas the ones I like to use They don't like to see no whole bunch of color walking in there because it throw off they vibe So they typically be predominantly white. So when you write in I just wrote in the one And tried to get a date and he's like, oh turn it old dates on hold. It's like, bro He ain't got no money yet Then how you holding the date? It ain't gay, you know the positive time. I will know like round June I'll tell you I already know what that is because he was a british man And I'm real country. So he probably think I'm a country bumpkin and dumb So he probably thinking man, you finna have people coming in here with hats this big and blue and yellow and red Weaving loud talking and out here snapping and smacking on bubblegum and cussing out our staff They'll have a stereo type on you. So it make it hard for me sometimes to get a ball roll And you literally have to have somebody of another race right in And they'll tell them a whole nother price lower and And if I got the time to get me a lawyer and sue I do it, but I ain't got that kind of time But it's real I hit on now. It happened to you And the time when they'll let you have it easy Is when you don't know what you're doing and you're going to pay that astronomical price that they're going to charge you But I remember in new york one person got quoted 20,000 And then somebody else got quoted 5,000 They quoted me 20,000. Then I had somebody else right in they quoted them 5,000 I said boy look here How do I go about acquiring a business loan? Do they go off for your personal credit or business credit? Now you got people out there teaching about the business credit and all of that You know and that this individual out there. I wasn't paying too much money for it But to be honest with you now You need to get on the sba site sba.gov and stay locked in stay tapped in because I know people that Is you're at now getting hundreds of thousands of dollars from sba Now the thing is is on some of the loans they not accepting new applicants But they apply it back in the ammit and then getting increases now So in the sba, that's that's a real deal now. So They they help small businesses and have small business loans and it's legitimate And a lot of times a lot easier Because I have people that literally just Was able to just put in a business name put in the idea and get some money Sometimes they'll just do it because you got a million people applying so they don't have the the the manpower the woman power The staffing to go through With a fine tooth comb all of it. So First go to sba.gov and then from there start to look around But you want to go to somebody backed by that government Because the government got that printer So that government ran off them three four trillion gave sba Some billions sba say sba was out there making that thing rain So all the all the scammers The scammers got at least a billion dollars Because sba was so loose with the money I literally walked into the jury store to buy my wife's earrings The jury store was full of sba loan scammers men buying $25,000 watches But had on $10 fake diamond iran for klares Had a hundred dollar camera talking about hill photographer 12 all the jeans but buying a $25,000 ice stock Cartier watch God spending $250,000 on the necklace And the streets dried up the streets were dried up drug game went on and weren't making that kind of money Know what it was sba loan I say wow And then the legitimate people We don't even go look and check Because we pessimistic and thinking it ain't nothing out there for us So listen i'ma tell y'all something Whatever you want start googling it Google it and read click on every link on that first page and start to dig around And anything you want to find nine or ten times it exists You literally could google business grants for black women And you'll find web sites that'll give you all kind of lists and grants that you can apply for Money that you don't have to give back And it's those who seek shall find And I did that in my life over and over again What are your thoughts on a married man that bears to just be his friend says I stimulate his mind He knows his limit great convo thoughts A man like that knows that if he If you stimulate his mind That he gonna stimulate your mind And he know that if he stimulates your mind long enough That eventually you're gonna let him stimulate your body Because your heart Will be deceived You're gonna eventually fall for this married man and you're gonna love him and you're gonna trust him And then you're gonna get laid down You're gonna get laid down and plucked up And then don't let his wife be no savage Because she gonna find about you and she gonna snatch wigs And you could lose your life dealing with a married man I'm trying to tell you because I'm gonna tell you like this right here. It should read gas can put hands on you Because of our wrestling matches and play fights I already know she'll drag a woman from east to west Because of my wife then bot gave me the business I don't feel that strength. I already know it ain't a woman. But Leila Ali and Clarissa Shields that could really handle her Looks could be deceiving now. She's pretty but when I tell you that woman's strong And aggressive I would hate to see uh everyday woman have to tussle with my wife I ain't gonna tell you no lie I'm not gonna tell you no lie Only an MMA fighters and boxers the only people I'd be scared for her with but just an everyday woman It had to be a woman who grew up fighting every day of her life She was telling me about you know This girl picking on in school because she was light-skinned and she was new to the school and the girl thought that she was trying to Take her boyfriend and she was telling me Girl kept balling girl kept balling hadn't messed around and grabbed the girl by her head and found my head into the wall girl was leaking blood I say man That's right. There'll happen when you're dealing with a married man because i'm gonna tell you the married man who will deal with you He knows his wife ain't cool with that Because he knows he would not be cool with his wife being best friends with no man Who's stimulate her mind? So you have to ask that man Would you be okay with your wife having a friend who stimulates her mind if he say yeah He lied through his teeth You need to know right then I hang up the phone and run because it ain't a man in this world That'll say they're okay with another man stimulating his wife's mind So if he not okay with another man stimulating his wife's mind Then what would make him feel like it's okay for him to get his his mind stimulated by another woman So when a man do that we will only do that when we ready to cheat That's the only time we'll do that when we ready to cheat When we is open to cheating and we want to ease into it. So it's so it looked like The cheat and snuck up on us Well, God bless you now What are your thoughts on a married man? Okay, that just came up Oh, look at this little rock john musing Hey, tone different question. What is your thoughts on metaverse? Basically, it's another form of virtual technology similar social medias like they're trying to decline our humanity and real reality Yeah, you definitely don't you definitely write about that what I show about to jump in now Because so well, well The people gonna be We got to occupy the space because other if you if you don't occupy the space then The devil gonna occupy the space So so I'm I'm I'm gonna be in a metaverse with me a seminar hall And so the people in there could buy a ticket come on into the seminar And we sitting in their virtual reality and we have another seminar And because I said that every speaker and author and coach who watching this finish start getting nails together You got to have your money though They call money to get in metaverse ain't free But yeah, I felt like that too is we're gonna have people at zombies walking around It's sad, but I I'm getting in fight the good fight I've been getting a lot of guys approaching me at the gym They compliment me on my hair and workout routine, but that's it Could I be giving off a not available vibe? No, you're not giving off a not available vibe. That's just your typical man It's just typical man. Just ain't gonna just shoot no shot. Just right away. He got to kind of Sell a little something get you feel your energy And it's gonna be hard for you because you're sweating you're tired. So you might be oh, thank you Thank you. I appreciate that But if you see you see one that you like now, you might have to oh, thank you. I think I really appreciate that and um So you work out here all the time you might have to just follow up with a little question Just because it go ahead and drop his guards. Okay. She cool. She conversational, but most of the time one of them gonna be like Oh, okay. Thank you. All right And then it's like, okay. Yeah, she ain't she ain't with it She ain't with it Till the already seen he by just putting on the screen to get a little screen time How long I've been on the 50 minute. I'm about 10 more minute come a wife and made it home So I mean go ahead Talk her head off or let her talk mine off. I gotta go moody call around. She mad at my part one of car too far over Why are some men bad at talking to women does that mean they are not interested When they are quiet on dates? Well No, he could have a halitosis So I used to be real quiet because I had a tooth growing in And then other time I felt like my breath was stank So that made me real quiet. You see what I'm saying? So I say that to say we got to consider all the angles And then just sometimes a man might be quiet because he was on a red pill channel or Alpha male strategy channel and it said let the woman talk be quiet Don't say nothing be stoic be solemn face be quiet Let her spill all the beans let her tell her all about you It's gonna make her weak it's gonna make her vulnerable and then you're gonna see everything you could do the gain control So it's always about three sides to it Text cocoa, I see what you're saying, but we can't use that word on here on youtube How can I join your patreon my patreon is um Gotta go to my page Put it in the chat Gotta go to my page and then you see the different little tears, you know I'm gonna show you. I appreciate you for even caring for you masking While I was in my a crack for a meeting and he blindly made his location indefinitely To my phone, how can I stop the urge of viewing? Messages messages were discussed and found some stuff. Hmm What you need to do go to back go back to school and go work for the FBI Well, you could crack people phone social media legally My goodness, what's the reason came up on you a joke? Oh I'm baffled I'm flabbergasted You need to teach a class Not literally not really but my goodness. I've never heard nothing like that Doesn't know you got in the password and got it. Okay This bad for business right here though because every man who see this see that I told you see You can't even trust these such as such as it what I try to tell you They insecure they hacking your phones You can get even in all kind of content Jasmine, what is the difference between co-dependence and real love boyfriend and I both suffer from mommy and daddy issues? So you got to go to therapy now But old therapy words You know in in life coaching we don't deal in like terminology Those words co-dependency is not a life coaching word. That's like that's a therapist word and so you know you have to You got to sit with a therapist and get that stuff because I'd be the miss explaining it I could kind of think I understand it, but I may not understand the clinical definition of it and so Therapy ain't gonna cost you that much, you know, if you got a job your insurance might take care of But go in and have you some sessions, you know, how you session two three four twelve And talk through those things, you know, especially with them heavy with them heavy issues like that Ray Ray used to the old when I'm on the old system. She posted a question nine million times in here now Biblically women aren't allowed to preach or teach to Then does that go to what extent does that go? Is it just talking about the gospel? I want to spread light love peace and forgiveness How if I can can I do that? Since you got to talk to God now you got to talk to God because listen I'll be saying my stuff and then the theologian the bible know it all is on youtube be Be ripping me to shred that by And the bible did not change words and he's trying to change the word of the bible But see listen, you have to talk to God, you know and get that peace in your spirit About your ministry and your calling and the thing about it is a lot of women preaching. They ain't being struck down It's a lot of women preaching and they they life is flourishing. They life less they leading people to God. So it's like You you serve God in spirit and in truth and you got to understand the context of what stuff when stuff was written So it's like couldn't no woman do nothing in the bible days But we in a day now the well God had to raise women up because so many men then lost their mind And just so like in the bible how I say if if you won't praise them God have a rock cry that rock will praise God So if the men going astray and won't do right God ain't just been to let the the world go to Hell in a hand basket with gasoline draws on He's gonna raise up women and if the women won't accept the call he's gonna raise up cheering to be preaching So it's like listen if you call you call and we can't we can't argue with what God doing Because we don't we don't know how God gonna move through each and every individual at the end of the day everybody got their own judgment day So I can't tell you based on my interpretation of the word what you need to do and not do with your salvation and your purpose and your ministry and your calling because then Your blood could be on my hands and the millions or hundreds or thousands of people you could have reached All that's on my hands because I took and used my influence to shut you up and to sit you down because of your gender You know because of something that I misinterpreted in the word you said I mean so and that's what a lot of people doing because A lot of pastors what you got to realize A lot of a lot of people who Talk about the bible can't even read and comprehend Had a had a D in in in English class in comprehension class But trying to be an expert of A book that was translated from a whole another language And that come from a whole another context and they literally want to be an expert on it and couldn't even get through English class Reading a book that was written originally in English But they doing it for power and for cloud and so you got to discern the spirits and you got to understand What is your message? What's God message to you and what you need to do with your life? How do you reply to show you not bitter with your ex or six months if he is testing asking you not to hate him He ended things been silent since then is it best to just ignore Yeah, go on about your business or you just text one time. I don't hate you be blessed and don't don't respond again Hello, mr. Tony. I have a question. How do I get my favorite father to want to be a hit all the life? He uses that just to see me. I love him, but I have been cutting him off because I want him to change Uh Well, you got to ask yourself is your daughter been benefiting from him seeing you If she benefiting from him seeing you and she getting joy is making her life better than You you sacrificing yourself that little bit of time that little bit of energy you talking to him You know along and he didn't grab you and you know It's naturally nothing off. He just talking to you flirting whatever okay But if he also talking to his daughter spending time with her He could just be cordial with you just so you don't put him on child support Just so you don't ask for no increase if he on child support Or you know, he could just be being cordial and you taking it more or he could be shooting a shot but It just really could be ego just to see if he still got it and so you could keep politely curving him And speak truth to power in a way to where you say listen this really about your daughter Like you really need to be more focused on her than me. She needs you I'm grown you grown. She a child. She needs you And just keep echoing that keep saying that keep saying and the one day it's gonna pierce his heart and he gonna realize Man, you know what you write my daughter need me You done you gone we over let me focus on her So sometimes you got to speak truth to power and you got to be that voice You got to be that voice Can you give advice on how to let boy move on from a situation if I've been trying to move on five months? But I keep going back, you know the young lady I coached today who she had videos on situations ships On her channel, but she a new youtuber, but she took my youtube for beginners course I told her shoot a hundred videos and I put a page on the community youtube community page because she took my course So I try and support the old people who took my courses when they go and activate on what they learn And uh, she had some videos on situations ships But since all I mean when people say how to let go how to move on It's no it ain't no secret sauce to it. You got to put one foot in front of the other and you just got to do it Like nike say nike send me a check You just got to do it says ain't no secret sauce to it and there ain't gonna be no mantra There's gonna be no chanting. There's gonna be no You know prayer prayer help you give you the strength but at the end of the day you got to take action You got to know what's best for you. You got to know right from wrong and you got to do what you know Can't nobody make you do nothing. You've got to be able to do it Bertacon Welcome to the bless try god bless you. Hey nice. I'll be going at one hour. I got to get on going come a wife and Got on home and I need to go out here and move these cars off and I need to uh Go on here and get my little conversation in But hey god bless you thank y'all for those y'all sitting at blessing and uh, somebody sent me a cash shop God bless you really appreciate it In the description on here, I put the The link to the podcast channel. So I'm gonna be building that up. So for the release And it and the podcast is different now It's not your typical podcast So I'ma be and so you're gonna have to get deep though really watching it understand what I'm doing on there Because it's a study. It's a study So the questions I'm asking it's been two or three interviews that I don't interview people and they have responded I've never been asked that question And that's why I'm doing a podcast because a lot of people doing podcasts But they not I don't feel like I've been getting the questions asked that I need asked But me being a life coach for the last 15 years all I have done is ask questions for a living so The questions I ask even on coaching sessions. Some people be like, what does that have to do with anything But it have a lot to do with everything And so that's the point of this is I'm studying people you need greatness, but we get into some Some roots or some things and when you listen to it and you hear you're gonna be like, oh, that's in me Oh, I'm going through that. Oh, I went through that. Oh, that produced that and I didn't realize that and so we're gonna be going now Hey, so God bless you. Thank you and remember the the cold for the academy It's happy 15 You're gonna last long next month. I have to come up with a different one But um been trying to help because I realized the financial situation had changed Joe ain't giving them stimulus checks out Oh, I ain't see the super stick christine Let me scroll through here real quick because I got them going in order Christine God bless you now. I so appreciate you Uh, we were welcome to the blessed tribe now Yeah, David welcome to the blessed tribe God bless you Seeing that question now Now I'm gonna tell you my my unprofessional non clinical definition of this hill is when you think about the maturity continuum you have dependence Then you have independence. Do you have interdependence? And so and in the middle of independence and interdependence Some people a diversion will be co-dependence So to be co-dependent it means like you can't be a part To me, it means you can't be a part Like it's unhealthy because you can't go have your friends They can't go have their friends or you can't have it your friends But they can have their friends and you can't have your family and they can have a family And y'all isolate yourself and you become dependent on just you too and you cut off your friends You cut off your family You may crucify some of your dreams and your hopes and passions And you live in and through the person you with and that's co-dependency to me Whereas interdependent means that you two Independent people who are whole healthy happy, but you come together and you compliment one another not. Hey, you look pretty But meaning you add they add you compliment each other not like just not complete each other And that's interdependence and that's where you want to get to So my wife she said to me At some point. Oh, she said to me. I said, baby, you know, how do I love when I'm over here doing my thing in this city And you over here and you doing your thing She said look normal. She said a little healthy You know a little healthy. I said, man, I don't want to be looking like no bad Like no bad father like no bad husband because I'm out here working on the road with the podcast She was like, no, like that's what you're supposed to do. Like that's your purpose. That look it look healthy You got a life. You ain't just up under me and vice versa And so that's interdependence and that's really where we want to get to um Let me get on down there Per ton. That's some new members tonight Island girl. God bless you now. God bless you Now look at her now Yeah Yeah, send an old message in right for the buzzer. God bless you now. Yeah funny topic by man in the dark today I recently walked away from a man who wanted me To share I probably would have settled for it had I not been listening to your videos Just wanted to say your work is not in vain. Thank you. Hey, god bless you And thank you for even admitting that you probably would have settled for it because I'll be honest with you It's probably a million women Because of idiot man who's saying stuff like that and some women say stuff like that too It's probably a million women in our country That will settle and will share a man. Well, it's a lot of women that sharing a man And that just you know, it's weakness is it's weakness meaning insecurity You know ignorance loneliness desperation low self-esteem You'll never have to shout nobody out because if if you can Get pregnant from two men At one time then you should have to shout no man That mean meant to be shared now a man could get multiple women pregnant But you see the women get pregnant by one man Which mean that they body ain't meant to be shared either And the man body ain't meant to be shared in this day and age because the world is populated We already fruitful back in the day the man had to share Because he had to populate the world adam had to Do what he had to do his sons and they sons and they sons they had to populate but now we populated And so y'all go back watch that video I posted earlier today. I think it's titled should a woman have to share a man And that just it's foolishness now. I'm gonna tell you as a man. Yeah, that's that music till your ears It's like oh man. Yeah That music till your ears as a man when you're thinking carnally When you're thinking with your flesh It sounds good to have multiple women because it's if oh this this this woman off on monday Then the next woman on on monday this woman off on tuesday another one on on tuesday So carnally and from the flesh That'll sound good to any and every man But when you think of it spiritually when you think of it from A view of Healthiness building a family setting an example for your children Yes, it's it's really not healthy. It's one of the worst things in the world Rans bliss. God bless you now God bless you and to the moderators. Thank you to the moderators I'm not sure, you know if y'all had Delete or whatever, but thank you to the moderators that made it on here tonight. God bless you. I really appreciate you All right, y'all. I'm gonna get going now. God bless you and we'll talk soon Yeah, it's a new system on here still I'm getting used to