 I've been reflecting a lot lately and I've been thinking that people hate one group of people a lot and that's evil people who do bad things. But there is a close second group of people that people hate almost even more and that's successful people. Now despite this showing that we are all very envious of people that have made it to varying degrees, I thought today I would talk about another side of that which is that you never really know what these people have going on behind the scenes. So let's jump in and I want to share a very, very important lesson and a very important story that I think can help you and inspire you today. What's up you guys? Alex Hein, author of the book Milk the Pigeon and Master the Day. Now before we jump in I have a free journaling worksheet right below this video to help you get your life together and plan out how to have an incredible awesome life this year. So check it out right below the video to free download. So originally I was following this girl online that talks a lot about manifesting, right? And you know me. I have a love-hate relationship. I've even shot videos on manifesting my experience with it but I'm pretty moderate when it comes to this principle. Now this girl was in particular going through her story of how she met the guy that she's engaged to. And she was saying, you know, I've been doing this intense manifesting ritual. I've been doing this, you know, it was like a pseudo pagan sounding ritual with like smudging and sage and journaling and chanting and dancing naked under the moonlight like tearing the throat off some child and drinking chicken's blood. And that's how she met her eventual fiance. Now she said that she did this manifesting ritual, this series of events, this process. And she logged on to Tinder the next day and this guy just gave her a feeling from the Tinder profile. And the pictures were crappy, the videos were crappy, but she just got a feeling. And they matched, they hung out and they hit it off right away and it was that easy. You know, I've had experience similar to this in my life where sometimes even when you're not even looking, you end up meeting a really great person. But there are other times in your life where you're really, really, really want a relationship and you don't meet a person. And I thought I would use this video to talk about something that people get really, really depressed about and really behind it is the survivorship bias. So a very simple explanation of the survivorship bias is that let's say, for example, the entrepreneurs who become successful are more likely to share their advice because they are successful. And therefore we are only likely to hear the advice from successful people, not from the unsuccessful people. Now what that means is that, for example, 100 entrepreneurs can do the exact same habits, exact same rituals every single day, read the same books, have the same mentors, do the same shit, and yet only two will succeed. And those two that will succeed will say, oh my God, you have no idea manifesting was the key to my success. But you don't see is that the other 98 did the exact same rituals, but they failed. And so the survivorship bias is that a certain percentage of people, the ones that make it are most likely to then go on and say, these things worked. And in reality, they may not have actually been related to their success at all because tons of other people did it and they didn't succeed. Now you might be just like me. You want to get better. You want to be, you know, be someone who reaches all their goals, you want to be a better improved version of yourself every single year. And in reality, you might be doing a lot of the same things that I did. And maybe you don't have the results that you think you deserve or you were hoping for. You know, maybe you are someone that your primary focus is love and relationships. And you're doing the same rituals of that manifesting girl, that manifesting vibration dude, and it's not happening for you. And you think that you must be doomed or there's something wrong with you or the system works. But for you, it doesn't work. And you're wondering what is happening and what has gone wrong. And if there's something wrong with you, news slash, there's nothing wrong with you. Here's another good example. I don't know if you guys have seen that story about Jim Carrey, where he's interviewed on Oprah and Oprah is asking him about that story where he wrote a XXX million dollar check, put it in his wallet, and he said, by this day, like 10 years from now, I want to be getting that much money. And I think that was actually the time when Dumb and Dumber came out and one of Jim Carrey's big breaks. And he talks about that check, that blank check he wrote himself for whatever million dollars, I think 10 million dollars, something crazy, put in his wallet, and sure enough, 10 years later, it happened. Now, I don't know about you, but I've done all of these freaking rituals too. I've written the amount of money I want to make every single day in my book, in my journaling, in my goals, the kind of girl I want to date, all these kinds of things. And yet, I saw dozens of my friends build businesses and we were all over the map in terms of the success that happened, or the success that didn't happen. And I'm sure many people were doing Jim Carrey's same advice, just write down a blank check for 10 million dollars and leave it in their wallet. Hell yeah, I wish that happened to me. And yet it didn't. And in the same vein, you know, those phases of my life where I've wanted so badly to have a relationship and it didn't happen, and then other phases where I did not want a relationship at all. And I met great women that I wish I met at another time in my life. The point of me sharing this is I don't want you to feel bad if things are not working out and you feel like you're doing everything right. And you really are being honest with yourself and now bullshitting and you're taking action because I don't think most of us are really taking action to the level that we think we are. But if you are and things are not happening and you feel like there's something wrong with you or you broke the matrix and it's never going to happen. Remember that there are probably a lot of people doing these principles. And some are having success and some are not having success. And the principles all help and they are one version of the truth and they all will work. And if you keep doing them, something will happen over time. But just because all your wildest dreams didn't come true doesn't mean they're doing something wrong. I mean there's a reason for that quote that's saying that acronym, your mileage may vary. We do the same habits, we do the same rituals, but one person gets a lucky break, the other doesn't. One person develops an illness, the other doesn't, who is never even health conscious. There's a lot of variables in life. And I think the main thing is to not be so stressed about, is there something wrong with me, does it not work, why is it not happening? But every day to make sure you're being honest with yourself, am I doing those tiny daily rituals, those tiny master the day daily habits that I know are going to improve my life and the rest is really between you and God. And I want to say that in this video to give you some peace about your life because those icons you admire are probably not that much more special than you are. There are just other factors that maybe enable that success. And who knows, for you that may happen in the next year or five or 10. But again, that is between you and God. All you can do is focus on your action. But guys, that's what I have for you here today. Don't give up, don't think that you're cursed. They just might have been lucky, right place, right time. Keep trying and keep chipping away every day those tiny daily habits. Again, before you go, I have a free journaling worksheet right below this video to plan out the most epic year of your life. And I have two related videos for you right over here.