 I'm Ryan. And I'm Allie. After falling in love, we decided to ride bikes across America. Collecting love advice along the way. This is Love Cycles. No flatties, no wannies, no crannies. Good morning from Valentine, Nebraska. Good morning. We got our team already. Look at all these beautiful ladies I get to ride with today. Yeah, tell me about your new bike. It's Atrex XM700 and I got a Powerback 500 Bosch battery, which I had to order. It's a sweet bike. I'm going to keep up today. I am so excited. Oh, I'm feeling great ready to get out there and ride some cowboy trails. Yeah. Dana, I feel so good to be riding bikes with you again. Yeah, I can't wait. I've never ridden with you. You've never ridden with me. That's right. Dana's ridden with me to Burning Man. We're going that way, ladies and gentlemen. That way to Burning Man. That way to Burning Man. And in Cuba. Bye, guys. Hello, team Cuba. And Trek got me riding with you. That's right. Thank you, Trek. Awesome. Thank you, Trek. Yeah, let's have ourselves a beautiful day. That was one of the coolest bridges I've ever been across. Really reminded me of the moment and stand by me when the kids are running across the bridge. Freaked out that they're going to die. So, Xanthe has gone back to get the car. They're going to do a little leapfrogging. We're going to have Dana for the first leg and I can't wait for today. I've been looking forward to this moment for a very long time. The sun is shining and life is good out here in Nebraska. This rail trail we're on, the Cowboy Trail goes for like 200 miles all the way to a town called Norfolk. And you know what that means? No cars, no navigation, just riding this trail through nature. And that puts a smile on my face. Oh, there he is. He's fast. I used to have one just like this when I was a little kid. He's a cute little guy. You got to watch out for bike tires, buddy. There are a ton of little toes on this trail and the goal is to not run them over, but it can be difficult because they're everywhere. Who's that doggy? It's a friend. Good job. Time for the switcheroo. We're trading in Dana for Xanthe. I'm here ready to bike. They're ready to bike. Dana, I have a present for you. The best chocolate chip cookies on the planet. Are you going to go slow enough so we can keep up with you? Maybe. How fast does this thing go? 28 miles per hour? 28 miles per hour. No problem. Oh my God. We found our first dollar. Look at that, baby. I've been telling Ali that one of my goals of this trip is to find like a treasure on the side of the road, like a hundred dollar bill or gold doubloons or something. And this might be at one dollar, one crisp American dollar. It's not a hundred, but you know what? It'll start somewhere. You know, you buy can of beans with this. One of my best days in my life right now, and it's awesome. And I'm on this e-bike and I can like just keep up. And I highly recommend it for anybody who is thinking I want to get back on a bike, but I'm not sure how to do it. It's awesome. In fact, if I go in turbo, I can just leave you guys. And now for a quick moment on electric bicycles. I love electric bikes. I'm just going to say that right now. A lot of people think, oh, it's cheating. Oh, you're not really riding a bike. You're on a motorcycle. You know what I say? If it gets people out riding bikes on two wheels, moving their bodies, breathing fresh air, they're a good thing. They're a great thing. They're getting people on bikes who normally wouldn't be comfortable riding a bike. Or whatever the reason is, electric bikes are opening the doors for more people to ride. And that's awesome. Xantha, for example, is not really a cyclist. And she's never been. But Dana is. And they've never really been able to share that sport because Dana is a very strong cyclist and Xantha just can't keep up. But now Xantha can. And that electric bike is allowing Xantha to join us on this tour. Whereas if she were riding a regular bike, it would have been a lot harder for her. So three cheers for electric bikes. You did 10 miles. High five. No, that was really fun. I enjoyed it. How's your booty? My booty sore. Your booty sore. After 10 miles. But I'm breaking it in. So much fun and such a blessing to have Dana and Xantha here. It's such a special thing to share this experience with with your friends, with people who you care about. So it's yeah, it's really, really wonderful to have them here. And this is the perfect place to be enjoying the trip with them because this trail is straight. It's flat. It's companionable. There's no traffic noise. So we can just ride next to each other and chat. And we've got a support vehicle that has Laquan gluten-free chocolate chip cookies in it. So yeah, it's kind of like a little slice of heaven here. We're having an amazing day. And it's really limited up out here. I also think it's very nice for Allie to be able to talk to somebody else besides me. She's been stuck with me for a long time. And now she gets to talk to somebody else. They're holding hands on the love cycle train, the love cycle train. Bye Dana. Okay, that way's New York. Herty. What was your favorite part of the day? I think it was the very beginning of the day that we all came together and there was that awesome bridge and it sort of set the intention for the day that we were on the cowboy trail and we're just going to like ride this awesome trail together. And it was so fun to have Xantha there. That was really, that was a highlight. Allie got nachos, Xantha got pizza, pizza, pizza. We are hungry and happy. Buen provecho. Good morning, Zebra. Good morning. I like your shirt. I know. I've been telling Ryan I own two biking shirts. One and two. He's no whammies, no crashies. It is a surprisingly cool morning. Yesterday was about 90. It was pretty hot. We were in the humid zones, but today feels great. And I think that's mostly because we have a pretty strong tailwind. Hopefully that sticks with us for most of the day. Our goal is to go another 65 ish miles. Another beautiful day in Nebraska. As we go, go, as we go. So it is about that time. We've known each other for over 10 years now. I look up. Yeah. I look up to you in so many different ways. And your relationship is like a model relationship. When I think of like what I want to be when I grow up, it's your relationship. One of the most important things to me is family. I mean, you know Ryan how close I was to my brother and you know, he got really sick really fast. And I learned so much about Xantha, like watching her, the compassion that she had, like just sitting in that room with him for hours after hours after hours. I mean, I was working and running back and forth, but it was like the fabric of who she is. And so I think that I learned a lot about her, how deeply she loves and you're going to cry. I know because that's how much I love you. And we have such shared values of like love and community. And if you can find someone that like shares those values and has that passion, like I am just like, just like hold on with all your might. And also when we first got together, both of us were, had been in previous relationships and we were a little heart wounded. But we made a conscious decision. I mean, every single day, I would say, I choose you today. Like I want to be here today. And we did that. And so we really do choose each other every day. And I think that keeps it, it makes all that other stuff fall into place. Like you got to be kind, you got to be patient, you got to be all those things. But if you every day make a choice, like I choose this person today. And so the love comes more easily, the forgiveness comes more easily, the patience, all that stuff. We're not one, we're two very separate people, but we are together and we're in it. And I never have a question about it. And having that feeling that I never have to question is such an awesome feeling. I hope you can find it. When you have confidence in the relationship, it frees you up. I think to be more who you are also like, like this sounds all like you said model relationship, all like unicorn glitter and bolder woo-woo stuff. But we still have to work at it. Like we have to like give, we learn more and more about each other, like the depth of who we are. And you know, there's sometimes when Xanthe just needs some time, it doesn't mean she doesn't want to be with me. It means she wants to be with her. And I'm the same way. And we have to like nurture that and allow for that space and let each other grow individually. And I think when you were talking about transcending, that's kind of what that is. It's like we are growing together as a couple. It's almost like its own entity of we just get, it just gets richer. Like that's the only path our family and our friends have. It's like a whole community growing together and we're like in it together. Talk a little bit to what it means to choose each other every day, but also know that you are fully committed and there is no choice. Sometimes the only thing you have between the two of you is the commitment. And it's hard. On some days it's hard. And so I still choose to stay and I'm never going, but it's a really good question. But sometimes it's the, I want to be with this person, but I need to go do this, but I'm choosing to stay committed and in love and being with her. I think it's empowering whenever we have choice, right? Like choice is freedom. You get a freedom of choice. So for me, even if I have this commitment and I'm like, yes, I'm committed to staying here. We're married. Like we're doing this. I promised you, I gave you, we do this when we put our rings on now. I know you're got manhand from your wasp bite, so yours isn't on, but we put on our rings and we say, I give you my heart. I give you my love. I give you my word. And I think it's in that importance, right? Like we've promised. I treat Dana better than myself, not all the time, but sometimes. And but I'm choosing to treat her that way because she's going to choose to continue to stay with me vice versa. I think. Yes, we have the commitment. Like we're going to be here, but the empowering part is to say, not only have I given you my word and I commit, but I choose it. I want to be here. This is where I want to grow. Awesome. Let's bring in for a little. After a long day of riding bikes, we all sit on the bed and watch Karate Kid 2. Good job, everybody. Good day on the bikes.