 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd today We're gonna be talking about how to approach a girl at a bar, which most guys admittedly Really do not know how to do I see a lot of guys doing wrong things with my students with you know People watch my channel and just guys who were out in general most guys just stand around and they do it wrong They do come up creepily they make the girl feel awkward. It's uncomfortable You're gonna be learning how to do it in the right way It's gonna give you the highest chance of success meaning that you're gonna be able to have a good interaction She's gonna like you. She's gonna want to get your phone number date you and maybe even possibly go home with you that night So what I'm gonna be talking about first is how a lot of guys approach in the wrong way I'm teaching you the right way to approach and then I'm gonna teach you how to start a conversation after that And also kind of obviously there's gonna be a lot of times where this doesn't work out and that's totally fine You know people sometimes they don't like each other or sometimes they're just it's not the right moment to talk to that person Okay, how do you walk away and still kind of keep and save face? All right, so before I get into that if you guys are interested in getting a coach by me one-on-one Fill up my form down below I teach you guys exactly how to do this in the right way and if you're the average I watching this channel I think you could definitely benefit a lot from that This is the number one thing that I see guys get results with so if you're interested in that fill the form below Okay, so the first thing that I'm gonna tell you is how most guys do it wrong Most guys when they walk up to a girl they do a bunch of different things Okay, they had to run up to her they just get you know completely drunk And they'll just walk up and they'll be like hey, how's it going? They'll get like way too close to her They do a lot of really bad things, okay? So if you're going out the way that I would recommend doing it is a lot of times women are Well, they're gonna be they're gonna be everywhere, you know, they were at the bar sitting down The best time to talk to a girl is when she's usually standing up I like to tense talk to women that are standing up a little bit more Because that way she is the option to leave if she wants to also to I generally don't like talking to girls that much on the dance floor If you're on the dance floor, you should dance and see if she wants to dance with you But if she's just kind of standing around at the bar, that's a great place to start now If she's at the bar sometimes what a lot of guys will do is they'll walk up and they'll kind of like tap her on The shoulder like this and then she'll turn around and then start, you know, they'll start talking to each other Okay, that's not a good. That's not a good way to approach I would recommend that you actually don't tap girls in the shoulder and get them to turn around Because she is trying to order a drink or she's trying to talk to somebody you basically are interrupting her now she has to turn around and Maybe her friends are staring at her Maybe the bartender is waiting for her to order a drink whatever it is There's a lot of pressure on her to like end the interaction as quickly as possible So I wouldn't come in from behind Also, I when girls are kind of like approaching you and they're going somewhere and you try and stop them That can work sometimes if they're they want to stop But if they're trying to go somewhere and you're holding them back from doing that then it makes the interaction There's probably going to be a very short time limit on this interaction The best way that I think to go and start talking to somebody whether it's at a nightclub bar or social event Is to come in from the side Meaning if she's kind of I got the bar you come in alongside her Maybe order a drink or whatever with her to and then start talking to her Okay coming in from the side is a lot easier She has all this room over here So she can leave if she wants to and you always want to give the girl the option to leave at the beginning if you Pressure her or you corner her or you put her in a spot? That's kind of tricky like the best example is when she's like standing up against a wall or something like that And you come in right in front of her. She doesn't have a whole lot of options to leave She feels trapped so women are going to worry about their safety first and the first thing you want to do is Make sure that they're not afraid of you Okay, even from a purely selfish standpoint, this is gonna make it a lot less likely She's gonna want to give you her phone number or something like that. So Basically what I do is I come in from the side and when I come in from the side I'm kind of like talking like this now if you saw in my other video where I showed you to a video of me talking To two models in Los Angeles. I'm kind of leaned back and I'm very relaxed Okay, but coming with very relaxed body language. I'm smiling. I'm like having a good time I come in maybe just slightly higher energy levels than her Like if she's with a friend or something like that and they're talking they're having a good time I don't want to come in and being all low energy. Okay. I want to come in at their energy Maybe take it up a notch because when people are out, they're trying to have fun So I walk up kind of relaxed a little bit higher energy level than them And then so a lot of people wonder what's the first thing you usually say? Okay? It really depends on the situation. I have no idea what I usually say Okay, but most of the time if I can't think of something cool or something funny something observational I'll literally just say hey. How's your night going? Very very simple. It doesn't really matter what you say It's how you say it and how you follow up. Okay, usually people if she was down to talk to a guy that night She's probably gonna say something like oh when it's going good How's yours and then you can say something funny like all you won't believe what just happened to me And then ask her like where she's from what she does and then these will branch into other different subjects like oh cool How did you get into that sort of thing now? You're learning a little bit more about her passion learning a little bit more about her Mixed in a little bit of teasing. That's a typical good bar Conversation okay, where you learn a little bit about somebody you tease you have fun you experience each other a little bit That's a great way to start okay now a lot of guys when they come in some of the biggest mistakes that I see in this area We've talked about what and how to not walk up and approach the girl We've also talked about what to say when you go up and do it and doing the correct fashion now Let's talk a little bit about like where things tend to go wrong Okay, so I see the number one problems that I see is guys out of run out of stuff to talk about so if you're running I have to talk about I have a video and how to never run out of things to talk about With someone that you're talking to whether it's a girl or really whoever honestly like I have topics for girls as well too But a lot of times they don't take the interaction anywhere or they don't know if the girl likes them and they the girl Just kind of gets bored and she leaves okay the way that you prevent this from happening is make sure the interactions leading somewhere Okay, and by leading I mean actually lead her somewhere dude like if she's there And let's say you're at the bar and you're talking for a little bit just say hey cool Come meet my friends like if she says something she maybe she she might like one of your friends Or she might you know it might be cool for just to her to meet people people are usually out to meet people Move her to someplace else if you just stand there and talk and expect some magic to happen. Usually that's not what's going to go down Okay, so that's how I recommend walking up and talking to a girl Remember by language is super important come in from the side Don't corner them make sure you give them the option to leave at all times and also don't come in with a lot of hesitancy The big thing that I see guys come in with is they come in with like hi like my name is Lloyd and They kind of like shake their hand or whatever like the girl women do not like guys who hesitate for a lot of reasons because They usually label them as creepy the reason why they label them as creepy is because it seems like they're up to something But if you come in secure confident, hey, how's it going? My name is Lloyd nice to meet you. Yeah, how's your night going? Awesome. Yeah, my night's going great. You won't believe what happened You check this out and then so you just start rolling in it and you start talking Okay, that guy that confident guy is actually going to make the woman feel a lot more relaxed and the guy who hesitates and is unsure of himself Okay, a lot of people mimic how your behavior is so come in with that high level of dominance and security Be assertive not aggressive and a lot of times it's going to be a much more successful interaction Okay, so even if you do all of this, right? There's going to be a lot of women that don't want to talk to you And that's okay. It's not because they don't want to talk to you because of you It's just because maybe they're talking to their friends right now. Maybe they lost You know, maybe they're going through some some shit that happened earlier that night Maybe they're just in a bad mood who knows it doesn't matter and it's okay If a girl doesn't want to talk to you at that minute, it doesn't mean she doesn't want to talk to you forever It just means at that time. She's a little bit busy and whatever happens do not react negatively Okay, even if she comes out and she's like, oh get away from me Like the appropriate response to that dude is you laugh if a girl does that shit to me I think it's hilarious man. Like what could I possibly have done in the first five seconds? Just like my haircut just like my beard You know, it's like you got to laugh things off Take things with a positive spin because if you react negatively You're gonna get yourself into a negative state and maybe that girl that you talk to next who will like you You're you're being all negative Nancy you're being all downer, you know, you're she's not gonna want to hang out with that guy She's gonna want to hang out with your best self So make sure you keep your best self ready for the girl that does want to talk to you And if you walk up and you do it in the manner that I'm telling you You're actually not gonna look like you got rejected or you look like she didn't want to talk to you or whatever Which I know a lot of guys are concerned about they're concerned about what other people think of them So if you come in with the right way, you come in like that very relaxed Whatever she does you're positive you laugh it off a lot of people see it as a positive like I remember I walked up to a group of girls the other day and I talked to them and like it was it was whatever's but they didn't really want to hang out with me And I just kind of like walked back to my friends and they're like well, how was it and I was like that sucked They're like what they're like dude. It looked like it was going really well Look like they like you and I was like, well, they didn't kind of didn't want to talk right now It's all about the way that you handle it if you handle things with great positivity Great positivity Relaxed body language and you're assertive and you know you're coming in dump not hesitating not insecure Then a lot of people are just going to assume that all your interactions are really good even though you didn't actually get what you wanted So remember that when you're going out hopefully this helped you guys if you guys are wondering about more tips on how to do this I recommend you check by Facebook group if you want to be trained by me in person where I teach guys Exactly how to do this in person. I mean this is my bread and butter man. I've been out a lot I've approached like thousands of women slept with hundreds of women just from the bars, too Not that I'm bragging about being of those crass things, but if you're wondering how to do this probably your guy Thanks a lot you guys good luck out there