 Hi, kids. Today we're going to talk about a little thing called gaslighting. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community trying to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And while you're at it, follow me on Instagram because I'm trying to get to 10,000 followers and I'd appreciate it. So gaslighting is a topic that people always want me to talk about on this channel. So what better time than RiceGum releasing the worst apology on the entire YouTube platform than to talk about gaslighting? Gaslighting is such an important topic. I'm even going to be studying up on it in this brand new book, hashtag not sponsored. So anyways, anyways, I know I just made a video about this, but this is a whole new thing. And it just came out as my wonderful editor, Zach is editing my other video with my son. And you need to go check that out. If you haven't yet, it will be linked up in the info card as well as at the end screen. All right. So to catch you up to speed, RiceGum and Jake Paul and some other YouTubers are promoting a website called Mystery Box. And it's basically gambling. So RiceGum has been called out by people like H3, H3, as well as PewDiePie and other big YouTubers. And he just released his apology. So gaslighting is a technique that abusers use. Okay. This can be mental and emotional abusers. They use it to make you question your own sanity. All right. So what RiceGum is doing is he's acting like he had no idea what this was. So this is terrible too, because it's a lot easier to manipulate children. So RiceGum is trying to play the victim here. And he's like, hey, you can look at anybody or any endorsement. And what he tries to do is give you examples of other YouTubers who have done sponsored deals. So he's trying to compare these two things, right? But if anything, with all the scandals that have been going on in the last year with different companies and all of this, RiceGum should know better. He would know better. Okay. And he's acting like, well, my management just came over here and they just presented this to me. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I just need to clear this up because I don't even think it's a big deal. So the other day I posted a video where I was promoting this website, basically my management just came to me. I was like, yo, Rice, here's this deal, go to the app or whatever, you get paid, right? And all YouTube is like a common thing. Like when YouTubers work with brands and sponsored videos, like I've seen Shane Dawson, just I've seen so many YouTubers do it. So he said that he just went on this website and started doing it. And it's an absolute load of crap. All right. So when someone is gaslighting you, two things that you need to do, look at the facts. Okay. And bounce it off somebody else. So if you have somebody in your life who's gaslighting you, have a friend or a family member that you could talk to about this thing. But if you watch RiceGum's video, which my son and I reacted to, he knows exactly what that site is doing. He knows exactly how that site is working. But the way that RiceGum is gaslighting you is he's trying to make you, the viewer, believe that he had no idea that this was something even related to gambling. He's just like, oh, they just gave me this website. And then I just click on this and click on that and the prizes open up. And that's all I thought it was. You can tell because he uses gambling language, but he dumps it down to a kid's level. All right. Keemstar actually tweeted saying, first big story of 2019, Jake Paul RiceGum gambling, blah, blah, blah. But at the bottom, he said I was offered a hundred K to do the same thing and almost took the cash, but didn't. So I can't go that hard on them. So apparently they only offered Keemstar a hundred K. So my numbers are higher. So imagine how much they offered me, right? So the money was on the table. And if I wanted the money, I just had to open up a few Supreme boxes and shoe boxes and boom, I get the money. So I'm like, yo, that sounds easy enough. And here's the other thing too. One thing that I'm very surprised that RiceGum forgot to mention when he said how YouTubers are sponsored all the time. When YouTubers get brand deals almost every single time, they're given a list of bullet points that they need to discuss. All right. That is why RiceGum's video sounds very similar to Jake Paul's video. You can look at this for anything. If you look at popular YouTube sponsors, like SeatGeek, like Postbates, like Honey, you will see that the same kind of language is used because they give you certain talking points to discuss. So the fact that RiceGum is trying to act like he didn't know is absolutely ridiculous. All right. Now let's talk about the next part of this video, the next topic about how RiceGum is a little kid and refuses to take responsibility and he's basically an adult version of a tattletale. So this is what we call a deflecting technique, right? Get the attention off me. Let me start calling out everybody else who did this. Well, what about them? What about them? Nobody was calling this person out. This person did it too. They did it more. So again, he's trying to play the victim and this is something that it really bums me out and why more parents need to see who their children are watching because these YouTubers are manipulating their young audience and they know exactly what they're doing. They know exactly what they're doing when they're trying to play the victim and pass it on to these other people. Don't worry, RiceGum. Now that we're aware of it, more people are going to be called out on it. But for you, for you, the viewer, if you're watching this, the worst thing you can do when you're apologizing to people is to try to point out what everybody else is doing, right? That's something that kids do. That's something that children do. If you grew up with siblings, did you ever pull that thing? Well, well, Sally did this or did you ever get trouble in like freaking grade school and you're like, Thomas did that. RiceGum is an adult and we need to get to a point where we're starting to acknowledge that these young YouTubers are adults. They are not great adults because they are manipulating young children and that's not cool. We need to quit accepting that these are just young people who don't know any better. Thinking back, was it even worth doing this deal, like all this controversy? Was he even worth it? I don't know, man. I do feel bad. I'm like kind of defending myself and stuff, but I do know I'm somewhat in the wrong. It's true. It's true. I'm an asshole. What was I thinking? I can't really do much because I already did it. The damage has been done. You guys already saw a money hungry side of me and it is what it is and there's nothing I can really do but say sorry and give you these Amazon gift cards. I'm sorry. It just wouldn't happen again. Amazon cost $10 to $20. Just a little giveaway. It's the least I can do after this. Have a good day, guys. I'm sorry again. I hope you guys can forgive me. Let's have a good year. Yeah, no. Okay. All right. The last thing that I want to touch on that really, really is messed up, especially when it comes to abusive relationships is that RiceGum tries to make it all better by giving away all of these little Amazon gift cards at the end of the video. All right. And he does it like this nonchalant thing, but again, this was very intentional. He knew exactly what he's doing and that is so reminiscent of an abusive relationship. All right. Those of you who have been in an abusive relationship, feel free to let me know down in the comments below. Maybe you had abusive parents, right? I grew up with an alcoholic mom. My alcoholic mom would run amok, say terrible things to me, neglect me, ignore me, do all of these things, but then she'd buy me toys or she'd buy me video games, right? Some of you might have been in an abusive relationship where the person, you know, verbally, right, abuses you. Sometimes they might physically abuse you, but hey, they took you out to a nice dinner or hey, they bought you some flowers. All right. This is another technique that scummy people use to try to get the attention off of their bad behavior. And it's absolutely not cool. I know, I know that this video sounds like a rant partially because it is, but as always with my videos, I really hope anybody watching this video is taking away abuse techniques that abusers use so you can be more mindful and aware of it. Or if you have friends who might be in an abusive relationship, I hope you could take these lessons away from this video and say, oh wow, my friend might be in a bad situation. Oh no, my friend might be a victim of gaslighting. Maybe I should intervene. Oh no, my friend is saying that her boyfriend is actually amazing, even though he did this last night, this terrible thing last night, but he bought her an expensive bracelet today. All right. So I'm sorry Rice scum, but the adults in the room, we see exactly what you're doing and we need to bring more awareness of this because like one of my goals with my channel is to make this platform a little bit better of a place while also helping you improve your day to day lives. All right. But anyways, that's all I got for this video. If you've ever been gaslit before, let's talk about it down in the comments below. But if you liked this video, go ahead and give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You are all amazing and I have a bunch of new stuff over there on Patreon. If you want to check it out, click the top right there. All right. Thanks so much for watching. I'll see you next time.