 or compare as nod knowingly, but the nodding isn't because of empathy or connection or understanding. It is, I'm about to tell you a story far worse than yours, which kind of then makes you feel awful for sharing your story with them at all. And what happens with comparers, they are too lazy and too uncomfortable to make a new file for your story. So they have to file it under an existing file of a comparative story that they already have a category for. And what it means for them is when comparers do this, either when we do it to others or it's done to us, it means that your pain is too intense for them. So they have to hijack it by comparing it to someone else's pain that they've already kind of made peace with. So your pain isn't allowed to be personal and your pain and my pain guys is deeply personal. That's what these comparers do. They make your pain be depersonalized.