 Today, we are going to begin with the fourth dimension of subjective adjustment that is personal integration. Till now, we saw the importance of selective awareness, tolerance and autonomy. Today, we are going to talk about one of the most sought after qualities of human beings that is how well integrated the personality of an individual is. How people search for consistency in the behavior of people whom they interact with. Personality characteristics, if they have coordination among themselves, this is considered to be an indicator of personal integration. So, your belief, your feeling, your action, the coordination between these elements are considered to be the indicators of the integration of an individual's personality. And therefore, it becomes rather a stable form of behavior which gets manifested when an individual responds in a given type of a situation. So, whenever you find somebody responding in a particular way, you can very easily find out that there is a pattern that you can observe in that individual behavior. If you look at the repetitive formats and that also gives you an idea about what this person feels about an issue, what this person believes about an issue and all these things gets manifested in the action component too. If you look at the extreme ends of personal integration, there could be two possibilities. The first extreme end is that you become a very integrated individual. Your thoughts, beliefs, actions are very tightly synchronized, but then it makes you a closed system. Means there is a complete lack of permeability. You are not open to any new idea. You are not able to accept any other action other than your own. You are not even open to a new form of belief that you have not yourself experienced. And therefore, you show certain degree of rigid personality components. This could be one extreme end of personal integration. The other end could be that you show great degree of diffusion and hence you show certain degree of disorganization of unstable personality components. So one end, when you are so well integrated that you become a closed system, you do not allow any new idea, any new belief, any new thought, any new feeling to pour in. You never ever think of revisiting your own components of personality. And then on the other end, you become an extremely disorganized, diffused type of a person and others will have great difficulty in terms of understanding what your ideas are, what you believe, what you feel, whether you will be acting consistently over period of time or not. But these are most sought after characteristics. After this, when we come to the third module, it is a very small module. In one lecture, we will see the whole wide range of human behavior right from normal to subnormal to abnormal. And when we come to the fourth module, where we would be talking about various components that adds to the adjustment process, there we would be talking about maintenance needs. At that time, you would talk about no 10, 12 maintenance needs, but just to tell you that one of the maintenance needs of human beings is the factor of predictability. We all want certain degree of predictability in our behavior. We also want that you should be able to predict the behavioral outcome of others. If not to complete extent, at least to certain extent, you should be able to do that. And that makes your life much more simpler. Why? Say for example, you come at 8 o'clock in T201. You know that again today we will have lecture on psychology of adjustment. You come with a particular mindset. This mental set allows you to maximally reject all other things that has nothing to do with this course. You sit here for 50 minutes and there is a greater degree of predictability. I know that you have come here, so I should speak, you should listen to me. If you have a question, you should ask, I should respond to you. These are predictable components. Imagine a situation when I do not know who are the people who would come today. Means there is nothing like registering in a particular course. Anybody can freely move into any course he or she wants to. Imagine a situation like that. When I do not know who are the students who would come today, who are the students who would come tomorrow, you do not know who are the instructors who are going to come today. Even if you make the instructor stable, you do not know whether this instructor will take up psychology of adjustment or will take up something else or think of more randomness in the situation, when you do not know whether the instructor will come at all or not. Weird type of thoughts, you also come here, I also come here, but none of us interact with each other. We only keep looking at each other, that is it. If you think of situations like that, you realize that no predictability is a wonderful component. Because I know what I am supposed to perform in front of this group at this very time, you know what your role is and therefore, defining roles of all stakeholders become easier. Therefore, people will always look for no predictability component in the behavioral manifestation. Now, if you become extremely diffused, this would mean that others will have great difficulty understanding what your intentions are, what your thoughts are, what your feelings are. Right now, you express something else, one hour down the line, you express something else or may be every 5, 10 minutes, you keep on changing your stand and people will very clearly tell you that you are not trustworthy or he or she is not very trustworthy. This whole component of trustworthiness that denominator has been assigned to you simply because you lack disability of predictability. Hence, there is always a beauty in terms of being permeable, in terms of being open individual. Once you are open to new ideas, you are open to the feelings of others, you are open to the actions that are committed by others, that is perfectly ok. But if you know become extremely diffused and therefore, your feeling, your thoughts, your actions has great degree of freedom of movement. Now, this degree of freedom does not allow them to get coordinated and this will be a problem for the individual himself or herself as well as for others because people would not be able to predict anything about him or her. Similarly, you have extreme problem adjusting with people who tend to become extremely rigid in their day to day interaction. Now, imagine a person who otherwise has a very clear thought about something, his ideas are very clear, his feelings are well expressed, his actions are completely non-ambiguous, but then the person is not willing to listen to any other viewpoint except his or her own. And hence, you show a great degree of resistance in terms of coming out of the shell that you have created around you. Such people also have great degree of difficulty because when you interact with others in the environment, there are thousands and thousand types of situations that you will come across. And therefore, if you know tend not to become permeable, you will have great degree of difficulty. Now, say take an example where gradually we have come to a point, I am sure when you were in your school days, probably mobile phones were not so popular, is it true? But by the time you came to little higher classes, mobile phones became a personalized asset. If you look at the whole history of how telephone sets got distributed in this country and the usage pattern of it, initially just like television sets or refrigerators, telephone also happened to be a common asset in the family. So, you would have a centralized location, may be drawing room or some other place where the handset would be kept, those were the days of landline. And it was a place of common utility for all the family members. So, if you receive a call, then it could be anybody who can come and pick the phone. Now, we have come to the point when your mobile phones are personalized assets, they are not common assets. So, if you receive a call, even your parents can say, oh it is a call for you, even they would not entertain the call. So, right from common assets in the family, we have come to a point where you have highly personalized assets. Now, think of a situation, say I am sure when you gave your GE exams, you must have faced this. Parents giving you the mobile phone, telling you that inform us, the moment you reach the center, after your first paper inform us, how good was the paper. After the second exam, before the second exam, second paper also give me a call or I will give you a call, at the end of the second paper give us a call. So, then you have well defined systematic usage pattern that is prescribed to you by your parents. You visit the center and you are told mobile phones not allowed, irrespective of the fact that your admit cards and the instruction sheet clearly mentions that you should not bring mobile phones to the examination center, thousands and thousands of students who appear in the exams, they bring. I think hardly, hardly you will find couple of students who come without mobile phones, otherwise the rest everybody comes with a mobile hand phone. Now, the fact that you are not showing that degree of acceptance to the norm, could be accepted by the other people who are managing the exams or people might show their displeasure to it. I can tell you for example, most of us have been going as institute representatives for these exams and we do not take this as an offense. I do not know what would have happened to the first person who would have received the first call that can you manage this mobile handset for me, because I have to appear in the exam. I do not know how he or she reacted, but now it has great degree of acceptance. People know that students will come with their mobile handset and you have to preserve them for certain period of time and then deliver it back to them. Acceptance increases, but this acceptance has increased because you show flexibility in your approach. What happens if the institute representatives of IIT says we are not bothered about your handset? My duty is to simply conduct the exam. What happens if the principals, the teachers of the school where the exam is being held, they refuse to collect your handsets, protect them and return it back to you. They simply say it is up to you if you want keep it here outside the main gate of the school. If you finally come back and you can locate it fine, otherwise it is your loss. That could be a possibility. When I just say that it is very clearly written in your instruction sheet, turn your admit card and it is written there. Why did you bring it? It is your headache. It is not my headache. That would be becoming a closed system. You are very well integrated. You are following rules the way it is written, but then that creates a great degree of problem in terms of adjustment. What I am trying to say is that the moment you do not allow yourself know that degree of flexibility that usually your environment demands, there will be a great problem for you. Very recently, couple of years back I am sure all of you received an email from the dean of academy of affairs saying that you should not bring your cell phones during your exams. There was a clear instruction that you should not carry your mobile phones to your classes and if at all you carry it should be put on the silent mode or it should be switched off. Now, tell me how many of you switch off your mobile phone? All you ensure is that the moment a call comes while the class is going on, you will be hurriedly taking it out and then disconnecting the call, but momentary digression from the given topic because of this sound has already taken place. I could take an offense and say that fine there was a mail long back from the dean of academy of affairs. So, I will report it to the disciplinary committee, you are not complying to the rule. This could be one way of dealing it. The other way could be that you give this example so many times that students gradually start keeping their phones on vibration mode and if there are people who are really great stakeholders in this social system who do not always attend to their phones then how important is it for you to always live with the phone where any call can come at any time as if you are running the world. But then you realize that more and more closed you become in terms of not allowing others feeling thoughts and actions to be reexamined and you do not reexamine, you do not relook at your own behavior from others context then you tend to become a very rigid individual and many a times you have to pay a heavy price for that. I will give two different types of examples and then we will move ahead. I know of a man who joined one of the surface transport system in our country nationalized surface transport systems in our country and he was very honest. He was I do not remember which section but related to financial handling he was there either accounts or pension or audit. He was in one of those sections of that government agency and where he could see that arrest all were taking bribe for performing their official responsibilities and he used to feel very bad about it instead of allowing others to do whatever they are doing and allowing himself to do what he thinks is good for him. What he started doing was that every time a client would come to him and because people thought that probably he will also charge him something so they used to give along with file some advance amount the way in certain offices you perhaps know how it happens. So, they would keep certain amount right in the file itself and pass it on to him he will open it and shout at the client and the content of that aggressive response to the client was do you consider I am like him and he will take that name do you consider I am like him and he will take that name and those individuals used to feel offended know they used to say that fine if you do not want to take bribe fine you do not take it know but why do you quote our name that client came to you not to us. You see your practice but then the moment you know referred to other no stakeholders in your office there is a mismatch and then people respond to you adversely. You will find know many, many people like this around you not many but in each sphere of life you will find somebody who is know whom you can predict very easily know that I know of prof he is of great repute but he had no fixed lifestyle know which is completely clock driven 5 o clock we will get up 530 cup of tea 545 walk and everything is know know timed sequentially you cannot tamper it you cannot tamper it goes up to know when you say that know in this weather know no walk but swimming in this weather no walk no swimming but yoga but everything is know very well laid out if you look at even if I look at the routine of that person know I appreciate him know it is fantastic to follow a routine but think other way around know one day you got ready for the walk and suddenly you know something happened you could not manage and you are terribly upset timetable got disturbed I have seen that person sitting in meetings and saying it is 5 o clock it is time for me to have tea with my wife so I have to go out finish you do not say it I will postpone my tea I will have it later in the evening or you say you just call your wife that fine I would not be able to come you have your tea there I will have my tea here or I would not have tea at all that could also be a possibility now if you know look at know the routine you say fantastic you have made a routine you are following it okay but the moment you start dogmatically following it there is a great trouble okay and similarly when you move to the other extent where people have great difficulty you know deciphering what exactly do you want okay and you say you can do this also even that is also possible you can do this even you give multiple options to an individual and the individual gets confused you are point blank ask what do you want me to do and you say you decide what you have to do I am giving you options okay or today you take one stand tomorrow you say that no I am too open to ideas the what we were discussing right now that you are flexible you are permeable used allow other ideas to pour in but the moment the other idea comes your original idea so is a way now you have now new idea third thought fourth thought okay so the stability of your belief system stability of your thought process stability of your action all are at stake when you go to the other extreme and hence people consider you to be extremely disorganized because you are not able to know sustain that stability in your certain psychological processes which are considered to be no important determinants of integrated personality and therefore people will say that he is not trustworthy okay people who are on the other end are usually considered to be the man of integrity but the if you tend to become man of integrity in the spirit of what is written in the text great degree of problem in terms of adjustment okay so again in case of personal integration also you realize that you have to get to know know more and more closure to the median point rather than going towards the extreme ends okay but if at all you move towards one of these extremes perhaps that extreme end is still better than this extreme end you must have a know read in the newspapers know many political leaders or many office bearers they were killed by certain terrorist organizations okay because the terrorist knew that this is a person who maintains certain routine I know for example in one of our neighboring countries their top military commander was killed in a bomb attack on his car know now that top brass officer used to follow a time and that terrorist know they started looking at his routine and realize that this 9 o'clock and his car will now come out of this gate okay 9 15 he'll reach his office again this time in the evening this car will come out so they kept on kept on maintaining these two realize that for months there was not even a change of few minutes or few seconds know it would be hardly know couple of here and there know millisecond changes okay they may he used to maintain his know routine to this extent and this made him made the terrorist organization plant a bomb with precise timing know and it exploded right when the car was on top of the bomb and the person finally succumbed to this his injuries okay now becoming know complying extremely to the routine we took one example of prof and we are taking now another example of a top brass officer in one of the well uniformed services in our neighboring country and you see what happens know but it's better to still move on the other end because then you have know a structured lifestyle you have know you are considered to be a man of integrity by your involvement the people in your community and therefore your overall appreciation for your personality your behavior that increases now we come to another important dimension of subjective adjustment that is control over your behavior and your impulses okay as you know that psychology talks about behavior in all its form okay and therefore you realize finally that most of our behavior they are holistic in nature there is a reason for you to respond in a particular way okay you get a stimulus from the involvement you decide what is appropriate and accordingly you respond back okay you also know midway you can revisit your decision okay whether this reaction is okay or not whether there some type of a taming is needed some type of refinement is needed in the behavior okay and then you accordingly know fine tune your reaction but overall your responses are wholesome in nature okay say for example two of you get engaged in some type of an argument okay and you suddenly blasts your adversary realizing that if you raise your voice okay irrespective of how weaker your argument is perhaps you will take him over but in turn you realize that the other person you know besides raising his voice also shows certain aggressive action which you think oh I did not contemplate it and therefore you say okay okay sorry sorry sorry this is a midway revision this is what I was saying no many a times we do that okay you interpret that this could be the consequence if I do like this you think of the possible options that you have at hand and whichever you consider to be appropriate you execute it while execution you revisit you know you appraise your own response to the situation and how the situation in is responding back to you and based on that immediate feedback you decide whether to refine your response or not but at the end of it once the behavior gets terminated you realize that this was a complete package but many a times we come forward with certain unreflective immediate responses okay responses which you know it was simply like say just a sudden spark okay and you could not know control it such type of no unreflective urges okay which makes you act and you do not know have a sense of control over it they are defined as impulses so your ability okay to modify your behavior to control your behavior and also your ability to control your impulses these two are also considered to be important denominators of subjective adjustment. Now practically it is expected that human wings should have a control over their impulse okay but unfortunately this is theoretically correct practically almost all of us fail okay some people have little strong control over their impulses and behavior some people have weak control and some people you realize that they have very hard time controlling their impulses okay perhaps after the mid semester exam or so we will come to one of the module where we would be exclusively talking about aggression and the last topic of aggressive behavior would be what usually people consider not to be an issue of clinical concern okay but technically it is considered to be a disorder it is called impulse control disorder okay usually what happens anger in most of the society has you know great degree of acceptance so say if I shout at my subordinate it is by and large accepted if I shout at my you know wife my children it is it has greater degree of acceptance okay if I shout at strangers it has some degree of acceptance okay so it is basically you realize that there is some degree of power equation and this power is derived out of many many things okay that will determine whether your aggressive response will be accepted or not but then if you are the one who show you know your incapability in terms of controlling your impulse so something happens and I suddenly blast okay is this the time to come to the class you are 25 minutes late I am not blasting this is just an example okay there is a sudden blast and then you could see those changes and then I calm down so it is like say you explode and your explosion doesn't have a control interestingly family members people in the community they will start saying he is like this he has been like this even his father was like this this is no greater degree of acceptance of behaviors like this but technically such type of inability of no complete inability of you know having a control over one's impulse is considered as impulse control disorder we will not talk about it right now because we are talking about impulse control therefore I just thought of referring to it when we come to aggressive behavior at that time we will end with impulse control disorder and we will also have the clinical criterias okay criteria 1 2 3 4 what are the criterias on the basis of which you interpret that this behavior is not anger but it is impulse control disorder okay but that we would do at that time so you realize that people have no different ways of expressing their feelings in terms of no extremants one possibility is that you have extreme construction on your behavior okay and you repress your impulses what repression is right now I will describe it okay but this would mean that you are in complete control of your impulses of your behavior no so you are on the driving seat okay and you hold the handle firmly my dear behavior you cannot take a left or right turn unless I allow you to do that that's one extreme theoretical possibility the other extreme possibility is that your behavior is uninhibited no you cannot interfere you cannot do anything you have a tendency of compulsive overt expression of your impulse okay you remember the ad control current okay say no it's like that no you cannot control at all no it's just reflects which immediately comes and you show great degree of inability in terms of having a control over it these could be two extreme forms of behavior it's very hard to find people you know who will show extreme construction of behavior but you will find repression of impulse to be very common okay but it's relatively easy to find people who have no great degree of no problem in terms of controlling their impulses many people you will find who have very very intense problem of having such controls now being both okay either you have complete control so you say this no the lights will remain all till I want them to be like that I will stand till I want you know myself to remain like this I want you know blink my eyes till I do not feel doing that complete construction of behavior would mean that okay it's very difficult okay but then taming of behavior is possible okay when I know the do's and the don'ts the moral code of conduct when I know the I am aware of the reality so my awareness reality awareness my you know clarity of do's and the don'ts and then my own urges know what pleases me if I am able to make a compatible arrangement between these three which many of us are capable of doing in most of the situation it's fantastic you have maintained the balance you have control over your behavior okay think of situation know you are hungry okay during lunch you know you go to your hall and say you have been allotted a hall which is far off from the lecture hall complex okay and you know that there is a hall just opposite to this lecture hall complex gate but it's not that because I am hungry because I am a student because I stay in a hall therefore I'll enter any hall that comes my way first okay you decide to go to your own hall not to any other hall okay so imagine situation know you are hungry and you see know that no there is a buffet arrangement of the food okay but you don't just go and start eating there no you take a plate and stand in the queue there are 30 people in front of you although you feel the pangs of hunger you have no other choice but to stand in the queue you know fill your plate to the fullest possible extent know the dome ships because you are too hungry okay you go and sit in the moment you swallow the first bite you realize the food it completely distasteful although you are hungry you compromise and you decide I won't have it quite possible all of you must have experience situations like this okay now this is having control over behavior first I controlled my pangs of hunger second I controlled the fact that although I am hungry and others are not so still I am waiting in the queue okay next I allowed myself the freedom to know accumulate as much food stuff as I can given the you know defined shape of the plate and although I was hungry and I had the first bite I decide now to remain hungry because I do not like the food what do you consider it to be a control over your behavior it is a control over your behavior okay right now we will come to repression also but first we come to complete no inhibition uninhibited type of responses uninhibited type of response would mean I am hungry now okay I see my clock irrespective of whatever is going on I just go out the first thing that I find anywhere that is worth eating I start eating it but imagine a situation if you do like that how much people will appreciate you or I don't know if they will appreciate you at all okay there are many many many such situations in life in reality when you experience them and you realize that no your behavior needs to be under control okay you look at a girl who looks very pretty to you you look at a boy who looks very handsome to you okay but besides simply tagging that girl is beautiful or tagging that boy is handsome you do not do anything else somebody who comes and sits next to you in the class and no he stings but you don't say that fine sir unless and until room freshener is applied to this 2 t 201 I won't sit here okay please D register this student because he stings he doesn't take bath before he comes to the club you never do that you may not like say for example you may not like my appearance no you might not look I might not look appealing to you okay but the for the full semester you have no other choice but to constantly look at me for 50 minutes these are no examples that all of us are capable of having behavior control controlling behavior is not that difficult the only thing is that for certain types of impulses you need to have a much more stronger control so the distance between these two extreme no possibilities complete restriction and repression to complete uninhibited type of response okay now they have varying degree of response that is possible one you repress your behavior now second possibility that you suppress your behavior third you freely you know express your impulses are you aware of what separation repression is yes no no expression you understand no so you feel something within and you express it fully that is the free expression of your impulse if you are not very sure okay how this expression of impulse would know what type of result it will fetch you okay but you are no cautiously evaluating it and you decide that no the free expression of this impulse will not be good so you suppress your thoughts you suppress your desire now what happens in separation is that you are aware of your thought and you are also aware of the fact that you have tried to conceal it so you take a box you take your desire put it in the box and lock it and you are aware that I have this desire I have put it in the box I have locked it and the keys with me you are aware of the full fact but then you do not express it you have contained it that is separation of that this means separation psychologically speaking is a conscious process I am aware of my desire I am also aware of the fact that I am not going to express it this is separation repression would be that even if I become aware of a desire like that it is very demeaning to me okay it is demeaning to me and I will think that come on how can I think even like this am I so stupid am I so bad that type of feeling you might derive this means your in Freudian terms your super ego okay doesn't allow you to even think stuffs like that and therefore what happens the moment the desire is about to sprout unconsciously you contain it because it is unconscious so you never come to know your desire and you never ever come to know that you have contained it you've got the difference repression will act as a at a unconscious level separation will act as a at a conscious level and free expression of course is a free expression so you and the world can see it that's the difference between separation repression and expression clear so the possibility in terms of you know if you look at the full range so two experiments and what happens in the at the intermediate steps one experiment you repress your behavior slightly before that you can suppress your behavior even before that you can go for a free expression the other possibility is that behavior is held in abeyance no one day I'll show him you just think of it but you do not show it so your behavior is planned but you put it in abeyance you do not express it I'll express it one day you do not express it that is putting behavior in abeyance and behavior appropriately controlled to suit time and place so I very precisely you know come forward with a tailor made response which is appropriate in the context in a given place at the time and then I accordingly executed okay so from center point to one extreme is this possibility okay the other possibility you know would be when you complete to start going in a very very weird fashion more loose much more loser completely lost that would be the full range once again you can realize that the more and more you are you know at the convergence of the two extremants where it meets that makes you much more stable much more adjusted and we now come to the last no determinant the last dimension of subjective adjustment that is self realization self realization basically refers to the fulfillment of one's potential what I am capable of if I am able to achieve it that is self realization given the individual limitation in the social situations this process to becomes too intricate no because you have your individual limitations you also have certain social restrictions that are put in front of you and therefore you realize that conformity and compliance to socially prescribed forms of behavior okay if you exhibit that if you comply to the social protocols if you have confirmed to the social norms you realize that you enjoy great degree of social acceptability society is happy because society becomes more and more stable okay but when you realize that the very fact that society demands you to do certain things in order to maintain the stability of the system if you realize that the demands are exploitative it exploits you remember to study we took the example know of a boy born in the family of a cobbler okay who is told it right from your early days you have to learn nothing but the skill of mending shoes okay if that boy feels that this is my this is exploitation why I should do only this and why not other things okay then okay you need to go out of that what you the limits of the social acceptance now you realize that the demands restricts realization of your potential you are told that no no no girls from this family never go out to study okay a sad fact of India perhaps you know it that for most of the boards in India right from Central to State boards you will find that the toppers are mostly girls but when it comes to know professional courses after plus to you realize that it's mostly boys who are there so where are those missing girls then this means that there were few academically bright girls students who were not given the privilege of continuing into other courses where boys who were initially lower than them in their academic performance got a chance to do but that's the sad reality and if you realize that the demand is guided by the social domination of some type then adjustment would mean which might not be socially and legally accepted at times okay legally it will be accepted socially will have tough time that you should try your level best to break the structure and come out of it okay one should not succumb to know such type of structural know equations that are put in front of you by certain you know social systems or stakeholders in the society that you have to comply to this only and your can compliance conformity adds to the social structure that is not know the way of life because it inhibits know you the opportunity of realizing what you are otherwise capable of okay so refusal to conform in such scenarios would be considered to be a sign of mental health that I am mentally sound which know might be that others are not because they are still trying their best not to allow me to know realize the potential that I have in me okay so even though I am born in know the family of a cobbler and for last three generations of the recorded history that I know is that my family is into mending shoes I decide to be the world greatest open heart surgeon I will also meant but I will know a stitch the hearts of others I don't become a cobbler that could be a possibility okay now in terms of action you say see I also cut you also cut I also stitch you also stitch now but one is know one has lower social recognition because one is a cobbler and other has a very very high social status because one is a doctor and doctor also of a very very what you call high precision in terms of performance of the medical act you become a open heart surgeon okay so all those society will start saying that no no you are breaking the barrier okay one of the novel laureates in physics when she went to the university in Europe she was the only girl in her university at that time imagine no the European society at that time okay even when we are sitting here in the class you have only two girls here out of 59 registered students okay this makes you realize that you are in minority okay although okay when it comes to know succumbing to certain type of pressures you say that no we are equal okay even though I might be two or I might be only one but I am know an independent entity in this class and therefore the privilege that is given to rest of the 58 or 57 students comes to me also in the equal proportion okay so when you fight like this demanding that know this is no due to me and you have to give it to me although it is at the cost of maintaining social structure psychologically it would be considered to be completely same behavior although socially it might not be appreciated so there is a difference now here no now in terms of no extremes of behavior one possibility is that you have complete realization of your potential it would be you know something like a humbra mass me type of thing no I am the divine I know what I am capable of I can do right now right now that's no one end of it the other end is that you achieve minimum in your life in terms of what you are actually capable of so although you are capable of getting a plus according to the gridding system but you are happy a fine year life makes sometimes even if should also come to one's life okay your instructors your friends your family tells you you are capable of getting a plus come on you try to get D and you say come on F D is better than F so I am happy with it that's being no satisfied with minimal achievement in one's life okay now if you can go for complete realization of one's potentials fantastic nothing like that unlike others where we were saying it no they tried to converge okay come to the median point and that would be you know an indicator of your adjustment here if you go for complete realization of potential fantastic here you can go to one complete end okay but very few people would be able to attain that level but then do not come towards this extreme no do not move towards this side of the continuum where you are happy with the minimum achievement that you get in your life