 So there were some problems, there were some arguments and disagreements that you had with the narcissist and it got to a point where you couldn't take it anymore, you started questioning and confronted them You wanted to know what is going on, it seems like there was always an issue They were never happy with anything you did for them, they were never satisfied, they always wanted more and you just couldn't take it anymore, you got fed up and you started to catch on to their game You started to figure them out and they don't like it when you start to figure them out because the last thing they want to do is see themselves as the issue Remember in their minds they are perfect, there is nothing wrong with them, they do everything right They have a black and white mentality so if they think that way about themselves then everything must be wrong with you That's how their black and white mentality works They have to see you as the problem so they can see themselves as being perfect They have to see you as being wrong so they can see themselves as being right But when you keep questioning and confronting them it makes it more difficult for them to do that It makes it more difficult for them to deny reality Because remember they create this fantasy blood inside their heads where they're all good, they're right and you are all bad, you are wrong They have to see how that way so they can function That's how they have to be around the closest people to them But of course with friends and associates they can be very charming and charismatic They can be very kind to those people because they don't have to see them every day They don't live with those people 24-7 so it's easy for them to put up a mask in those moments because it's only for a short period of time And since they're around you all the time at some point you're going to see it The masks are going to slip, they're going to get mad at you They're going to accuse you of things, they're going to make up stories They're never going to be happy with anything you do And they have to be that way because otherwise they have to accept that they are the issue And that is something they don't want to do Because you've got to remember they've had this problem their entire lives And the entire time they have been in denial They've been surrounded by enablers, people who have propped up their false character, their false self This false image that they portrayed to the world They've been surrounded by people who agree with that People who praise and support it And the reason for that is because anyone who doesn't, they will just cut them off Without even thinking about it And you become one of those people when you start to take them out And they cut you off Because they fear that you might expose them And not only that but you become a lost cause, they have no use for you at all I mean what is the point of even being around you if you can't even validate their false self That's the whole point, you're meant to be their audience and they're meant to be the star of the show That's how it's supposed to work in this fantasy world that they've created inside their heads So yeah, in some cases you will never see the narcissist ever again They won't come back, they won't hover you They won't take any interest in what you're doing now And the reason for that is because you caught onto them, you started to figure them out And they feared that you were going to expose them So they had no choice but to leave They couldn't just stick around because you weren't going to put up with them anyway They couldn't coexist with you And the reason for that is because you held onto your reality You stayed grounded, you didn't get sucked in by their gaslighting By their manipulation, deception and lies So if you never see them again, that means that you have won You have defeated them You did the right thing, you held onto your reality, you stayed in your own frame And that's what I always tell you to do Don't let yourself get sucked into your reality Don't get pulled down into the rabbit hole Because once you do that, it's very hard to find your way out of it It's very hard for you to come back to reality Instead, be aware of it and recognize what you are dealing with And if they don't like it, then that's their problem If they can't deal with the truth, if they can't deal with reality It has nothing to do with you, it's not that they don't like you It's not that they hate you more than it is that they actually just hate themselves And that's why you will never see them ever again Because when they're around you, you are not only an object but you are an extension of them You become a reflection of everything they hate about themselves which they assign to you Because they don't want to deal with that, they can't deal with the pain and shame that comes along with it So you may think that they are running from you But they're actually just running from this reflection of themselves that they don't like You may think that they are discarding you But they're actually discarding these parts of themselves that they don't like which they have assigned to you And when you realize that, you are free It's not tied on to your self-esteem, your self-worth, your self-love And then you realize that it's not because you're unworthy or undeserving of better treatment The fact is actually quite the opposite You're too good for them, you triggered them, you made them insecure You made them envious and jealous But that's not your fault because you were just being you And it caused them to become very competitive with you But they were always trying to get up to you because they have this inferiority complex that they can't control And that is why you will never see them ever again Because when they're around you, they don't feel good about themselves And the reason for that, it's not because you're not trying to make them feel good about themselves You did everything you could to make them feel that But they just feel frightened when they're around you They feel inferior, they feel less than They feel like they could never compare with you And you may not have been thinking like that You may wanted to have collaborated with them, worked together Towards a joint purpose or about But they weren't on the same wavelength They weren't thinking like that They were thinking, how can I get one over on you? How can I be better than you? That's just the mindset that they have, they always have to be the best And that is why if they're around you long enough You will eventually become the opposition, the adversary, the enemy, the opponent There's really nothing that you can do about that Because even if you stay down and you don't do anything Then they're still going to treat you with contempt Because then they have a reason for doing that But even if they didn't have a reason It doesn't matter because they don't hate you for what you don't have They hate you for what you do have And that's really how you got to see it because No one goes around hitting on a homeless person No one goes around hitting on the elderly, nothing like that They come around and they hate you Why? It's because of everything that you do have It's because of your light You shine it and you don't even know it You don't even know how great you are When you do start to realize it When you start to realize your worth When you start to realize just how great you are Then they're nowhere to be found They don't want to be around you now Because then you have power over them And they don't want you to use your power on them That is the last thing they want you to do Of course they admire power, they respect it But they do not like the power that you have to be used on them Because then you could completely destroy them Which is why they don't want you to have any authority over them What is the purpose in that? When they are weak and ineffective What are they going to do for you? They have nothing to give to you And that is why they want to maintain the position of authority and control over you So that you never come to that conclusion When you're questioning in front of them and you're taking your power back That is when they can't take anymore Because they realize that you are starting to realize that your power over them You're starting to realize just how great you are Instead of always validating the illusion Instead of always validating their false image, their false self They're starting to take a good look at yourself and everything that you've been doing Everything that you've been putting out And they do not like it when you start to do that They rather just live in this fantasy world that they've created inside their heads Pretending that something is wrong with you You're not good enough for them But for whatever reason they still keep you around so they can use you Or whatever else it is In fact, they needed you more than you ever needed them You had so much more to give to them than they ever had to give to you And that is why, as I always say, the victim, the target Is the one who leaves the relationship with a lot less than what they came in with The narcissist is the one who leaves the relationship with a lot more than what they came in with That is how you know which one is which And this is in every case, it's always the same The victim will leave with a lot less than they came in with Otherwise, how can they be a victim? That doesn't make any sense The whole point of them being a victim is that they've been exploited They've been taken advantage of They've been cheated, they've been lied to, they've been deceived But of course we've got these narcissists out here running around They're leaving the relationship with so much more than what they came in with And they are still playing the victim They're still acting like you've done something to them And it makes no sense, it makes no sense at all You can't just run off after you've just deprived someone of all their love, energy and enthusiasm You go and point the finger at them like they've done something to you You can't go and do that But of course as we know, or as we should know by now, this is what narcissists do This is what they do But yeah, in some cases you will never see them again And a lot of times that is a very fortunate situation Especially if they've gone before they've taken everything you've got You're blessed It's a blessing in disguise So you should be happy with that result I mean I can understand, I know you've been through a lot All of the things they did to you, they abused you, they manipulated you, all of that And you may have had feelings for them You may have thought that you were in love And those feelings were real for you You invested a lot into them So I get it, it hurts sometimes But trust me, it really is a blessing in disguise And you should be so happy that you are now free You can live your life without all of those problems that they always brought to you Sometimes you've just got to cut your losses You may think that you've lost a lot But just imagine how much you would have lost If you stuck with them for another 5 or 10 years Then you would have lost so much more It's so hot over here As you can see, I am living my best life Loving every moment of every day Doing what I want to do Living life my way As you should be too Living your passions and interests Get back to doing what you like to do And just becoming the best version of yourself Living your best life That's what it's all about That's why I do what I do That's why I'm out here every day Making these videos to motivate and inspire you And yeah, if this video was helpful to you Give it a thumbs up down below I do appreciate that And let me know your thoughts Do you agree with what I've said in this video? 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