 You have 60 seconds to record your greeting, breath in the bus when finished. Hey beautiful ladies, how you doing? I'm over here with some tactical soap rubbing my balls right now. You know I do have a small dick, I can't get women, I stay in my mom's basement. But you know what, I'm looking for a sexy woman that can probably get out here and suck the tactical soap off me. Welcome, howdy folks. I'm Anthony Dream Johnson, founder of 21 Studios and the 21 convention. I'm here in Orlando, Florida at 21 Studios Global Command Center with the one and only Steve the Dean Williams from theManMindset.com Steve, welcome to Orlando, welcome to 21 HQ. Thank you sir, I appreciate being here brother. Hell yeah man, thanks for coming out. Thank you sir. We're bringing you to Orlando too, this is a surprise. Well, I'm doing a little bit of business. I have a client that has me coming down and doing some stuff so I'm just here for a few days just to chill and take care of that, yeah I mean that tactical thing. Hell yeah, it was pleasant. George, one of my guys to me the day you were coming to town, I was like hell yeah. Oh yeah, absolutely, I love George. George, it was funny about George, George came in all like, well Steven, we've got to do this. Then after I broke him down after a while he was like, yeah man screw that, yeah George is cool, I love George. I got a good crew. Yeah, you got a cool, I love your crew man. And so I first met you digitally on the Redman group, your frequent panelists we've had since I think the fall of 2018. Yeah, it's been good having you on. Oh man, it's been great man, yeah. And this is also by the way guys, another episode of Gender Wars of course you probably saw in the title. So we're going to be talking about fatherhood, masculinity, manhood and patriarchy on this show. Steve was also by the way an upcoming speaker at the 21 convention Patriarch Edition this May 3rd to the 5th in Orlando, Florida. It'll be his first time speaking at the 21 convention. He's one of only two new speakers at that conference which is otherwise alumni speakers. There's one of the few related to that event, he's not alumni. Excited to have you as alumni here soon and presented the conference too. Oh man, I tell you what man and I've never met somebody that has as much right. I'm a little bit of jealous of you because I thought I was the one that grinds and works hard but you're on your stuff. Your crew, they're on point, you're on point. I mean if you ever get down here, you've got to see how they work. They're just one constant flow and that's why I say the great thing about men is that you've got to be a flow, a current. You've got to think, behave, type, text, behave and that's what you've got with your guys. Thanks man. Hell yeah. I'd say birds of a feather flock together. Absolutely. We were on the other day on Donovan's show and I was coming up too because all of us work our ass off. Donovan and Rollo are the same way too. Oh yeah, I know. I see why Rollo wears that hat man. He's always on his grind man. Yeah, him and Tim fooling. They put all of us through them. I know everybody works their ass off. First time meeting you but it's the feel I got too. Donovan and Rollo, all these guys are super badass. Yeah and that's the thing about men and the thing a lot of people need to understand is that as a man the first thing you want to do is put your grind on. That's what life is about. That's what manhood is about. It's not just sitting around waiting for life to happen to you. It's that you go and you play more offense and defense. You've got to put your dick in the world. The tactical dick. The tactical dick. Damn right. It's sponsored by Taptico. 21 Studios here. Hell yeah. It'll increase your masculinity by 9000% as well as your testosterone and penis size. So it's just magic basically. Yeah so just think what to do to my penis. So let's talk about fatherhood and patriarchy and then we'll kind of go from there. You see your website and what you do is themanmindset.com. Yes. That's father of four. Well yeah. Well father of five. Father of five. No father of five. Oh yeah. That's some good patriarchy right there. Yeah that's some very good patriarchy. Yeah I had to get my nuts cut because I was sneezing on my woman and I get her pregnant. So I'm the ego. Can you really move a second to me? Yeah yeah. Ego has landed. Yeah I'm like a chew and she's like oh we pregnant like god damn. So I'm serious. Great. So yeah the ego has landed. But no man. For me I've always learned manhood and I've always been guiding other men. And a man mindset is not about race or color. It's a mindset. It's a state of thought. So for me I wanted to retire because I'm all about legacy. I'm all about carrying my last name. So what I decided on doing around 28 I got out. That's why you get the dean from because I teach now. So I'm out the game but I teach guys how to get women but not make it about women. Make it about manhood because women are really to us as a perk. Yeah. They're just as your journey up that mountain you're going to run into women because you'll be 75% asshole. That's right. 25% dick right? Yeah. We had this conversation. Yeah we had it. Y'all don't understand. That was just so between him and I. I like telling women that I'm only 75% asshole. What's the other 25% like you guys make it up as I go. Yeah. 25%. I'm a really nice guy. You're a very nice guy. Yeah. Well we all nice guys. See that's what a lot of guys misconstrued about men. I'm a big nerd. I'm sci-fi geeky. I watch I even watch SpongeBob sometimes. I don't miss that man. I love Squidward. I love SpongeBob. Yeah. I watch that but the difference between a man and a regular male or a regular guy is I can say no. Yeah. What I always teach people is that when you're talking you got to stand by what you say. You got to be able to back it up and know why you're saying it. See a lot of guys can't even do that because sometimes when they meet women or trying to get out there they're just trying to throw shit up against the wall. Yeah. And trying to make something stick. So I'm just trying to say look own everything. Like for instance if I asked you about how you're setting everything up you would tell me why you're doing it. You'll be able to stand by it but you'll also be doing the three things. You can speak with transparency, clear and concise and impactful. Meaning that you're not going to waste your words. You're just going to get right to the point. Yeah. Hell yeah. Yeah. Reminds me of an action movie I saw once John Wick and... Oh yeah. Yeah. Me too. I love them. You see Trailer? Oh hell yeah. Immediately. I got like the texture of that shit. But you know in the second movie there's a comment and I like Keanu Reeves a lot as the actor and then the character too. Matrix thing. Yeah. But it was very specific and it was like the villain in the movie to you know John Wick was like you're a man of... You never waste words. Right. And it's not just good writing. There's good philosophy in that. Oh absolutely. I think that's really what you're getting at here. Yeah yeah. What's that power? Yeah there's so much power in not beating around the bush. I'm going to put it all out there. Either you're going to like it or you're not. And regardless I don't care because I always put me first. I always tell guys anything you put in front of yourself you worship. Yeah. So I don't worship women. I worship me. So I mean I love myself so much. I go to the mirror. I go to the police station and be like I got someone to follow me and stalk me and I need help. They be like ooh me. Yeah yeah. Me. I've thought since my early 20s that is secret. Not a secret but a good tool for not caring about what other people think. I don't know if that's literally possible but I think you need to care about the way to effectively do that is to care about what you think the most. To value your own thoughts and your own judgment as a man. You have to. Yeah. Right. Well the thing is and I always kind of talk about Tom Brady. People hate Tom Brady because not because he wins they just can't understand the formula of success. See the thing that a lot of people hate is what they don't understand. Yeah. And a lot of people can't understand a man because a man does not play around. A man is he stands by his laws, rules, codes, narratives and principles. What you see is what you get. For instance you don't wear a mask. When they see Anthony that's what they get. You're like the 75, 25 but they still get you. Yeah. You're never trying to be somebody else or trying to portray a role in someone else because the thing that guys understand is women have met you before. They've met them before so they already know what they're dealing with and that's where a lot of guys go wrong. They lie or deceive on them. Just be honest with them. Let them know what the deal is. Yeah. Yeah. Women appreciate honesty. Yeah. That's why they appreciate dick pics. And they appreciate dick pics and really they dick on the forehead. Yeah. But that's why we're talking about tactical stuff. Jesus. Yes. At the same time I find that the red pill has really shown me that women they do appreciate that kind of authenticity. Yes. If it's deliberate congruence and you understand what the hell you're doing. Yes. A lot of guys there's a learning process to that. Yes. It took me time to figure that out too. Yes, sir. The women just look at Instagram. They love you know liars and cheaters. Yes. If you watch the girls Instagram hot ones they'll date these dudes. It's basically the same guy, a character just over and over and over. And it's like the cycle of like food pictures, butt pictures, boot pictures, boyfriend pictures. And then they break up and there's like some memes about women's empowerment or some shit. And then they date you know like oh men are assholes and liars. And so it's kind of works both ways. I think women are attracted I guess power. Well the thing I love about women is that I always tell guys go to the bookstore and go in the romance section. And what do you see? Other than the Bible romance books are one of the biggest sellers out there. It's not the book that sells it's what the fantasy that they get. Here's the woman boring life, boring husband, boring job. And then Anthony either rides in the town, walks in the town, strolls in the town, is juggling some tactical soap in town. They run into each other. Y'all don't get along. Y'all fight because you are asshole. You are conceited, selfish, narcissistic, arrogant, everything. But those are the key words to get pussy. See you don't want to be nice, kind. You know you're a great guy. That's the stuff that women do when you know you get done smashing that you should call that sucker up to be a shoulder to cry on. So they when they meet that person they want to be that woman in the story because then they feel like they're in the story. So again like you say the asshole in that loop that you were talking about they want to be a part of that because that's all they read about man. Yeah they love the emotional roller coaster. Oh yes they don't like that boring Bob Godway. How you doing? What was your last name? Were you looking for the guy? No I didn't want that. Come here often. Yeah you come here often. Yeah I'm telling you this Anthony. The thing I always tell guys how many times Anthony have you talked to a woman she said oh you're one of those guys. Oh you're a smooth talker. How many women do you have? You want to know why because women can smell. That's why I try to tell guys. Women know men and just based off of your behavior your arrogance and who you are and what you represent they automatically know that you are what I call the unattainable man. That means you're not going to fall for the okie doke. Yeah you and I love titties and ass. I mean you can't say ass without smiling. You should try to say ass. See you smile like motherfuckers. I'm more of a tittie than myself. But as I've aged I've come to respect the ass men that love growing asses. Man that's my kryptonite man. The big booty is getting to me as I get older. So I love both and appreciate both. Yeah I'm not a boo man. I just love the ass. Ass and thighs man. It's just my kryptonite. Get that thigh gap going. Oh you get that thigh. You smack that ass those rippers dog. Yeah yeah yeah. So let's talk let's shift gears a little bit and talk about fatherhood and patriarchy. You've been a father for over 20 years now. Yeah over 20 years. Yes. Yeah. You have five kids. Yes. You told me the ages once. They're a little bit teenagers. Yeah the lowest is 13 going on 14. I'm joined 15. No 16, 17, 17, 18, 18, 19, 2. What is she? You had half a dozen kids. Yeah so yeah the number you all do the math and everything. But the thing is this is one of the most important things that I want to steal in my daughters especially my sons is something that most don't do with women and that's being accountable for all your actions and responsible. Because we're dealing at a time women are not accountable for their bodies. They're not responsible for their bodies. So they want to blame everybody else but themselves. Or choices. Oh man everything they do is a choice. See I tell people Anthony sex is an agreement between two people. Having a baby is a choice only made by the woman because once the chippies on that stick and it's positive you have no say so in that. In most countries Japan is an exception to that. Oh Japan is an exception. Okay I didn't know that. Every western nation that's the case and sucks and stupid. Oh yeah but that's the thing about fatherhood and the thing that I'll be talking about more at the convention but I want the thing I want guys to know is that you don't have to be afraid to get married if you want to. I tell guys all the time don't get married. If you don't want to get married don't get married. Be you. Live the life. Just chill. Do whatever you want until you find someone worthy of you. That's the thing. It's always going to be about you at the end of the day. Worthy of your name. Worthy of your name. You're one of the first guys in the hemisphere. Maybe the first I've ever heard of that focuses on the value of your last name and the legacy that that carries. And I've been in the pickup community in the Manusphere for like over 12, 13 years now. I've never heard anyone talk about that. It's as simple as it is. Oh yeah it's simple and the sad thing is so many men their legacy and their bloodline ends with them because they just don't want to. I'm Eric. I want a carbon copy of me. I mean I want a little asshole running around and shit. That's what I want. But a lot of, again, you've got to understand what it means to be a man. But you don't have to. Again, I don't know. Listen, for me, I've done the orgies. I've done the threesomes. I screwed the woman while the guy's in the corner while. I used to be a gigolo. So I used to do a bun. I mean I've done it all. But I, for me. The hat fits man. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, see, I like this one. It's not perfect for me. But I'm just saying that I want guys to understand that being a father is a wonderful thing because I feel like I'm giving back to the world because I have daughters that are going to be accountable and responsible. So that means my daughters, and I tell my daughters, Daddy loves you. But what they got to understand is when they meet a guy like you, all the stuff I teach them goes out the window. So what I tell them is, listen, protect your body. Listen, it's got to be school, college, marriage, and kids. I'm not going to be a bastard granddad. I tell them, I ain't being no bastard granddad. Fuck that. I'm not. Nope. I ain't doing that. I ain't being one. So don't have no key. You better be married. Because don't bring no little crumb snatching kid to my door and be like, grandpa, I don't know you little motherfucker. Get the hell out of my mouth. I'll treat you like that, Anthony. I don't play that. But no, I'm serious because I want my daughters to be, see, not too many people teach their daughters accountability. Well, let's pause in. Because what it sounds to me like what you're teaching your daughters specifically is to preserve their femininity. And that has gone out the window in Decker because feminism and shit for justice. Well, yeah. Because of how it's how these girls are raised because they again goes back to father having a having a structure environment of a man that's saying, look, daddy loves you. I'm trying to keep you off the pole. Yep. Trying to keep you off the pole. And that means discipline, leadership, masculinity. All those things because girls learn from daddy because girls watch how daddy interacts with mom. But if dad's not there, all the girl sees is mom. And then she has daddy issues. Yep. And that means she's going to give that, you know, I want to have a baby because I want someone to love because only a baby loves me type thing. Well, with a masculine leader too, the mother of your children is responding to your behavior. She's responding, you know, she's being feminine in response to you or not. Absolutely. And then the daughters will watch her too. Yeah, absolutely. And that's great to be. And see being a father is a great thing because I know I'm giving back to the world. I know at the end of the day when I'm lucky enough to leave this world, my son's going to be responsible men, my daughter's going to be responsible and accountable women just like my sons. So I feel like I'm giving something back now. Yeah. Yeah. Given your legacy and ideas and genes of the world. Oh, yeah. Hey, you ever notice I have the poster of me like that? Yeah, yeah. Man, I got a new one, dawg. I'm in a Roman outfit. I got bitches around me with my feet and stuff. You got to see that one. That's coming out soon. But I want to give those to my sons. Yeah. So you know how it is like when you go those old things that have the wins worth, the picture, the regal guy looking like this. I want to pass that on from generation to generation. So they will know that this is who I am. This is where I came from. This is my father or your great-grandfather or something like that. So that's the goal. Well, I think this video is going to be a part of that, man. All the videos you've done with the On Your Own, the Red Man Group and with this. Your children will see this decades from now. Oh, yeah. Because once it hits the stratosphere, it's going to be in there. So they'll be like Access 95 back in the year 2019 of our lord. Episode three of Gender Wars. Episode three. Episode, yeah. The password is tactical. So my bad. But yeah. Absolutely, man. So you're talking about your daughters and raising them well and stuff like that. So let's talk about responsibility with women and how important fatherhood is for that. Because in my opinion, like we're doing the 22 convention for women in 2020. So about a little bit over a year from now. That'd be our first conference for women. And I want to use that conference in our speakers group. The Red Man Group and our 21 speakers and all that to build positive speeches and podcasts and content for women. Yes. At the same time, I'm skeptical of how many women will actually take that knowledge and imply it in a self-improvement sense. Because in my opinion, women, fatherhood is really important. Because women, once they get damaged, it's really hard to undo that. Yeah. So that's when you talk about responsibility with your daughters and holding them accountable and teaching them to be responsible. Yes. It strikes me as like 10 times more important, I think, than the average person takes it. Yes. Because if you don't do that, they're going to get, they're going to go in the 20s, they're going to hop on Tinder, these girls. Yes. They're going to ride the cock carousel and they're going to fuck their lives up. Exactly. And then undoing that is like, what do they say in medicine? What is it? An ounce of prevention is worth a pound to cure? Yes. That to me is what fatherhood and what you're talking about Spino speaks to. Yeah. And that's what I want to make sure. And that's like for my daughters. It's not just the accountability and responsibility. It's knowing your role as a wife, knowing your role as a woman, knowing your role as a roommate and all these other things, knowing I got learning how to serve, submit and be quiet. Yeah. Know your role at the table. Again, this is not the 1950s. Hashtag toxic masculinity. Yeah. Super toxic. Yeah. All that stuff. No, no. They're not even. No, no. Yeah. They're not even. No. I want them to show guys the best side of them and show them. You know what? I want you, if you find someone you're interested in, buy him a drink. Yeah. And as a matter of fact, if I was speaking to those women, that's, I'll tell you, these are things you need to do. Buy him a drink. When is the last time you learned about men? Yeah. See, women are so busy learning about their feelings. You know, I'm on my period and Jan said this on all that soap opera stuff that they hear. They never know about men. I always say it takes a thief to catch a thief, but it takes a man to show you what to look for in men. You can't learn that from women or you can't learn that from these guys that try to validate your feelings. No. You've got to learn men. You've got to understand how we tick. Because at the end of the day, I'm not going after your last name. You're going after mine. So what are you going to do to show me you're valuable? Are you going to slay the minotaur and bring his head to the top of my okina majaro and then get your ass back downstairs and cook me a meal? That's what I'm talking about. Yes. So side note, I actually, one of my openers, the women at bars, I go up to them and I'll say, hey, I'll take a Jack and Coke. I just walk up to them. It's just stone cold. They look, they be like, what? They all take a Jack and Coke. Oh, yeah. And some girls actually, especially ones from Latin America, the Brazilians and Colombians, they're the ones who I find do that. Those ones, I like them a lot. Yeah. They're the ones that actually do that, every once in a while. Not every girl's going to do that. But these girls who are more submissive and they come from better cultures that have less feminism, they will buy me a drink. They'll be kind of struck by it. I'm like, yeah, buy me a drink. And they'll be like, yeah, all right. That's the first thing I tell every guy. When you walk into a bar, I tell them don't go to the wall because they look at the creepy guy. Don't go to the bar because that's the guy with liquid courage. Don't go to the bathroom because that's the guy that's nervous. You walk up to the first group of women and ask them, who's buying me a drink? Yeah, exactly. Who's buying me a drink? Who wants to make women great again? Yeah. That's how we're going to make you great. You want to make love great again? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, make love great, baby. Yeah. I actually wear these hats. Yeah. I ran in line. That's a lot of fun. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I got to be careful though with the red ones. Yeah. The redneck bars do pretty good. Yeah. I mean, if he was that gold with you though, I'd be a dog. Oh, yeah. Totally. But this is my brother, Anthony. Yeah. We just come from different parents. Yeah. So let's move back a little bit. So one of my questions I have written down before we started and you mentioned it briefly, but I didn't quite get the full story on it. Where did the dean part come from? Okay. So what happened was, okay, so once I got with my woman and got out, you know, I cut all the women off because I need to tell you the story of me and my wife. I met her and I tried. I was like, let's go out. And she said, no, I said, I don't ask twice. And I walked off. Yeah. Because that's who I am. I don't ask twice. So a few months later, she came back to me. So she asked me to go out. And when we went out, she handed me her wallet and said, get what we need. Damn. Yeah, I mean. So I was like, okay. All right, we got something here. And she is what I call a Laura Engels. She doesn't. She's not on Facebook. She's not on Instagram. She focuses on family. She focuses on me and focuses on her job and cooking and what needs to be done around the house. That sounds like internalized patriarchy. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah, right. So once I realized, okay, well, you know what? She's worthy of my name. So I'm going to get out. So now I'm going to start teaching guys. So as a teacher, that's where the dean came in at because I started, I guess around 1999 or 98. And I started doing podcasts. Before podcasts, they were called MP3s or something. And then I went to Lipson. And so I just kept going. But I, you know, you had to suck it. The seduction community was going this way. But I was kind of going this way by teaching guys, you know, like I'm doing right now, I'm a broken record. Just stand on your name. But I wanted to show them that you can, you can win at all things. You don't have to be, you can be single if you want to, you can be married. You don't have, you can do whatever you want. You know, I always tell people real quick, three laws. I tell them about the three laws. There are only three laws. Every man must follow. Follow the law of the land. Why? Because if you kill someone, you're going to jail. Follow the law of the street. If you're driving 35 miles or the 70 and the 35, you get pulled over. You got it. Follow the law of your job. Go to work on time. Do what you got to do. Leave. Outside of that, you can create whatever you want. And that's what they don't understand. You can create law. You can be law as a man. Yeah. Yeah, women like that. They respond to that pretty fucking well. Oh, they love it. The panties slide straight down, man. Yeah. Yeah. Fuck yeah. Let me get through some more questions here. I had written down like very specifically. Hmm. Actually, let me back up here. So I was talking to Alan Roger Curry a few weeks ago. Yeah. And that, he turns out he knew you pretty well. Yeah. For a long time. Yeah. And same thing kind of with Donovan. Donovan is bright on the show on there. Yeah. I was like, I just know this guy. So what's your, we don't got to get into a whole like, you know, back story, but like what's, how did you know Alan Roger Curry? Well, I meant, I mean, see my thing is this, I like being around men. And I, and the thing about Alan, Alan is 100, Alan straight up, Alan a bullshit Alan straight up. And what I did was I tested him. Like I was talking to him and said, man, you know, get back with me. And I was like, man, you ain't shit Alan. Because I wasn't testing. You ain't shit, man. He called me. I'm ready to cuss me out. Okay. It's cool, man. It's cool. It's cool. He's like, hold up, man. Who you talking to like that? I'm like, dude, I'm just testing you, man. I want to know that if I mess with you that, you know, you were on the same wavelength. So yeah, that's how we started. We just did something called the pussy whoop. No, the black book cafe. And we just started giving advice. And that's just how we roll. So yeah. Nice. This is, this is really funny. He called him out like this. This is the guy who wrote mode one. Yeah. Yeah, that's great, man. He's great. He's been in this building at the convention twice now. Yeah. I've seen him. Yeah. I've seen it. Yes, sir. And I followed him for years. So it was cool eating him. Yeah. Oh, yeah. You guys are both old school then. He was from the 90s too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'm, I'm, how do you think I am? Late 40s. Yeah. 40, about 47. Yeah. Last I checked 47. But yeah, I've been, I've been doing this since nine years old. I was the guy that would talk stuff to girls. And they would go, I go to their house and they wouldn't button my shirt. And I get scared and I run off. Oh, sure. I was just, yeah, I was the same guy. I was naked in the bed with the babysitter, but I couldn't get my dick hard because I was nervous. I was that guy. Yeah. But I learned from my mentor at nine. I met him at nine. My first piece of ass was at 13. She was 24. Oh, for sure. And she, she, yeah. So we can go make love great again. Yeah. So, so yeah, she was a 24 year old bisexual Mary stripper that showed me the sexual part. Let me just pause on that. A 24 year old bisexual married stripper. Yeah. Yeah. Oh yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She wanted to get that clear. Yeah. Just want to get that clear. Yeah. Make love great. Yes. Yes. Damn. I got some crazy ass stories too, but that's pretty wild. Yeah. Oh yeah. As you probably know, I married a hooker accidentally. Right. Right. Right. Right. Yeah. Yeah. How do you find it fatherhood and patriarchy different? Or how does it differ from raising daughters to raising sons? Oh, it's totally different. It's night and day. I'm hard on my sons. I'm hard on them. I am totally tough. You see the thing I don't, the thing I don't want to do with my sons, as I don't want to do the T ball parenting, where I'm going to pitch the ball underhand twice. And if you miss it, we'll put that shit on the T and you get to hit it. Then you get a trophy. Yeah. Fuck no. This is the thing you're going to do. Put your ass up. You're going to be, you're going to learn your respect. You're going to work hard. I will not accept anything less than a B. You know, you're allowed to defend yourself in school. If someone's bullying you, you're allowed to kick his ass. And I'll take you out for tea and ice cream. But there's so many things that I do with my sons and different from my daughters. Now, again, I am a little bit lovey on my daughters because I feel like daughters need dad's love. Yeah. And I'm a little bit lighter on them, but I always tell them there's only one man that loves you is that's daddy. But this is the truth. Now, but this is the truth of the matter. And I tell guys all the time, I can tell my daughters every day to close your legs and behave yourself. Be a good girl. Be responsible. But the key and the problem is that they run into someone like you, everything they think about goes out the window. So what I have to focus on is protect your body. That's why I pushed accountability and responsibility because I need you to be on birth control. Now, listen, I'm not saying you're not. You're going to go out there and you're going to meet assholes. And unfortunately, when you meet an asshole, everything dad says to you is out of the window. So I just need you to own your body. Protect your body. Let's say that to my boys too. Now, again, for my sons, hey, look, you go out there and smash. You know, you go like Godzilla. You do your, but protect your, protect. Yeah. Hey, look, hey, I don't mind you getting women, but one thing you're not going to do is you're not going to cry. You're not going to be a victim. You're not going to blame people because, you know, my kids are biracial. So you got to understand some people are going to like you. Some people are not going to like you, but I try to instill this. I don't give a fuck attitude because I want them to have more power over themselves because at the end of the day, you're a Williams. So as a Williams, this is how we behave. I don't want no pity parties. I don't want my daughters. Daddy will hug them. Daddy tell them I love them. Again, I tell my sons I love them. Now I'll kiss him on the top of the head every once in a while. But when my sons, man, I'll fuck them up. I'm just kidding. But like they come around the corner, smack him with a pillow or I'm sleeping or something. He'll jump off the counter and he'll jump like the side and he's always wrestling. You know, because I got saying nature, you got a rough house with your boys and, but you got to make sure they know life doesn't care about them out. When they get out in the world, it's going to be, it's dark world, man. They got to get prepped for it. It's a very dark world because a lot of, a lot of young boys are coddled. So they don't really see what the world is like. So when they get out in the world, it's so much pressure. That's when they either want to commit suicide or they want to do something because they can't handle the truth. I'm always going to be honest to my, always with my sons honesty, man. Good fuck yeah. So there's a good question that we had written down that I want to get through with you on this. How do you just, from your experience, you know, when you're younger and what you do now, how do you discern a high quality woman for whatever that's going to mean? Let's just, you know, kind of take in the abstract. How do you discern a high quality woman from a high quality actor? Okay. There's a lot of girls who want to, you know, make shit up. Well, no, they always remember every, when you meet a one for the first time, you meet a representative. Understand this, women are walking lies. That's the first one of the game. The makeup is a lie. The push-up bra is a lie. The tight pants is a lie. The fake hair and all that other shit they want to wear. Photo shop. All the photo shop. They take that angle shot showing the part of their body and then they like a big ass fat moose on the bottom and they lie. But see the great thing about it, they didn't used to lie. That's the shock. See, when I was in the game back, when the computers started, they had some called AOL and yahoo.com. I remember. Yeah. So we were going there and we were cleaning up, man, them bitches was flying us everywhere. We were on tour. It was a fuck tour. But they didn't realize they could lie. But anyway, get back to your answer. Is that, again, there are certain things, and I'm going to be talking about that in May, but there are certain things that I teach guys. I teach them a blueprint. And this is a blueprint that every man can use to really peel back. Because what guys understand, most guys meet the woman and then they get in a relationship with the woman without understanding what they want. So what they do is, they allow the woman to lie because they all walk in lies, but the thing is, is once she meets a real man, she has no choice to be real because I'm not going to put up with anything less. What did I mean by that? First thing I tell them, Anthony, I'm a drama-free man. You bring drama in my life, you're gone. If you raise your voice louder than this, you're gone. If you even think about throwing something at me, you're going to do a lot to stay because I have the thing that you have that most guys don't have, and that's options. Women are not used to guys having options, so they will change their behavior. See, it's always behavior modification because you train them on how to treat you. So I'm not putting over the lie. Again, I know the lie is there, but once I peel that lie back and I can really see it for what she is, then I'll make that determination at that point. And you use that to then build a zero-tolerance policy for a lot of the stuff. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. No tolerance. See, I'm going to be breaking that down. See, there's three types of tolerance, Anthony. There's high tolerance, low tolerance, and then there's no tolerance. Most guys have high and low because they muddle. You know, some things they stand on. Some things they don't. But as a man, no, hell no. Yeah, you got a boundaries. Oh, Super Boundary. Yes, sir. Hell yeah. Shift gears a little bit more here. What is your top movie, one or two? Your top movie and book recommendation for how to be a man, for an expression of masculinity and art like that? I would say I'll give you two movies. One, I always say the Matrix. And the other one is Revolver from Guy Ritchie. And the reason I tell him about Revolver because Revolver changes the... See, I always say if you took the Matrix and Revolver and put those two things together, it is going to open your eyes to a lot of things that you can't even understand that's going on. Because a lot of young men don't understand their mindset is really controlling themselves. It's like in their world, it's like a car that's controlling you. But with Revolver, what it does, it teaches you about the ego. It teaches you how your mind manipulates you in ways you don't understand. But the Matrix, again, goes to the red pill, of course. When you unplug, you see... I tell guys, the Matrix is a movie, but it's kind of real. But it's a movie. I mean, you're not going to go down and fly like Neo or nothing like that. But when you unplug the world... You don't see green lines. You just see the world in a whole different point of view that you've never seen before. You see through the bullshit. Damn it, y'all mean. See through the bullshit. Yeah, I mean, baby. Yeah, 21. That was a 21 joint right there. But you see through the bullshit. But the Revolver also goes deeper in the ego. Because it's always like one thing they say... In this movie, it's Revolver, the movie? Yeah, Revolver from Guy Ritchie. And when we get down... I'm going to show you a clip from it. It's about chess, but he's learning about the ego. We are our greatest enemies. You're never going to understand where the greatest enemy is. It's inside of you. And so many guys are out there looking beyond themselves. And everything that... Let me give you an example. I'll tell you guys a quick example. I'll tell you guys, okay, think about this. When you want to eat something... Anthony, when you get hungry, isn't it odd something pops in your head that says, okay, Anthony, what do you want to eat? You want a hamburger, hot dog? Do you want Chinese? You want fuck? Fuck? Fuck yeah. What do you want? Subs? It gives you options, okay? That's when you're in control of you. Because your mindset is working for you. But for a lot of these guys when they meet a woman, you're not good enough. She's too pretty. Oh, you're too fat. You can't do this. What it does, the mind tries to hold you in a comfort zone area. And what I'm trying to teach guys, even with this Revolver, is that once you can expand your mindset, you will be in more control of yourself. Because when you ask yourself, do you want to eat, you never hear something like, Anthony, you're not good enough. You can't get this. No, you get options and choices. But Revolver does it. When we get on, I'm going to show you that. But it's really deep, man. It's deep, man. I haven't heard of it. I'm excited. I'm familiar with the Matrix, obviously. I have the whole thing. The Matrix and Revolver come together. It's tactical soap, baby. Fuck yeah. Let's move on to the convention coming up. So let's meet first time at the 21 convention at the Patriarch Edition, of course. First time we've ever had that. First time. So who are you excited? I mean, there's a lot of speakers coming out. We've got the regular speakers, 13. We've got workshop speakers like Donovan. We've got Cortez coming out. Who are the top two or three guys you're most excited to meet? Or a couple, even more than that, whatever you want to go for. To be honest with you, I want to meet everybody because you see, we talked about it on another show. It's like we crash landed here. And on this platform, we came up, see the problem is I came up playing a man. I was driving a ship. Anthony was chilling doing this tactical soap thing. We crashed here. It's all my fault. Right, right, right. Exactly. Exactly. But the thing is, I just don't want to be one because everybody has something to offer me as a man. See, as a man, you got to learn how to humble yourself. You got to learn how to put your ego and self-importance aside and learn from other men because you don't know everything and everybody has different points of views, different lifestyles and they come from different areas. So it's not to me, it's not just one. I want to shake hands and meet everybody and soak up all the information I possibly can. So that answers all of them, man. I want to be them all, man. Yeah, and be a student and learn from them. You got to see that's the thing about it. As men, we're always students. I mean, we are teachers, I do that myself. I don't know, it's actually rare at the events I get to watch the speeches. I catch like a little bit, five, ten minutes here and there, but most of the videos are done. I actually like an audience member or a fan. I watch them, usually front to back. Cool. The content is fucking awesome. It's interesting because I know that I'm at the event and producing it, putting it on, picking you guys out of speakers and watching you guys speak. But when I actually watch the content, it's fucking awesome. I was like, I only got a ticket to this damn thing. I was like, I already got it. That's my bad ass, man. I tell you, man, and I've told you this and I'll tell everybody, man, it is a real honor and a privilege just to be here with you right now because you're fucking Anthony, man. You that motherfucker that you know when you first started, you had no hair. He's like, how y'all doing? I'm Anthony, how y'all doing? And look at him right now. That's the radical soap, man. That's all he is now. I've watched your progression and I've always watched from the sidelines and see where you at and the thing about it what they understand as a man, this is just the beginning. They don't even, you're ground zero, and that's part of being a man. We are infinite. We're always learning and we're always growing and I love this shit, man. It's been quite a trajectory. I started this company in the 1921 convention and all that. Now I'm 30 so I'm just barely getting into manhood. It feels good. Hidden 30 actually was kind of interesting. Rolo suggested to me and he told me you're not really a man, you're 30. And I heard that at 29, I was like, motherfucker what? But now that I hit 30 I feel what he was saying. The way women treat me is different. It's stupid. 29 to 30 you think it would be a difference but you feel it. You feel it from the inside out too. Not just the way they're responding to you. That's the man mindset. It's inside out. A man doesn't have color. He's not a race. He just is. But what he is is all things. He's the son. You are allowed to be arrogant. You are allowed to say you come from Mount Olympus. You are allowed to say you're, you're allowed to do and say whatever you want because you create your own laws. Yeah, you create your own life. Your own life as well, absolutely. You might meet Socrates tonight You know what? That's what I told you. You don't watch Billions on Showtime. Socrates reminds me of the top guy sidekick with the little mustache. Socrates the coolest fuck man. He loves growing that shit. I know the goatee. But he just triggers the shit out of people. But he has a saying that he's not the only one in the history that said it and he says pretty consistently that you are the author of your own life as a man. And that's what he wrote the book recently is book the map. Your personal guide to the marketplace. But it's also, it's like, how do you author your own map? How do you author your own life? How do you navigate through that? I think you're doing a really good job of that too with the man mindset. The thing that I'm trying to show guys is that a man mindset is broken down into your king, your man, your warrior and your lover. It's something that women don't meet because your king is your last name. Your king is your sperm. Your king sets all the rules. Now your man is the representation of the king. So that means when a woman meets you she meets your representation because she's not worthy yet to meet the best part of you because she hasn't shown you her value. I'll talk more about that in the thing. This is pretty good. But your warrior he's the thing that goes out and expands your realm but also protects you. That's the one, no drama. Offense and defense. And your lover is the one that you may send a dick pic and she might send some titties or something like that. Maybe a book coming out about that. We don't know, but that's your lover. Make love great again. Make love great again, man. I'm just realizing we're sitting here. It's like the dean in the dream. Fuck yeah. So final thoughts when we close out. What are some of the fun, not fundamentals but what do you what is your topic? Do you have a topic picked yet for the Patriarch edition? My top, I really don't have a name for it. Before we get into it, the reason I ask is because I want to, I'm assuming that the topic you pick is going to be one of the most important things to you about fatherhood. Because I'm going to show these guys a blueprint on how to make sure she's wife worthy and how to throw that bitch back into the ocean if she doesn't do what you want to do. If she can't submit, serve, give you sex, and shut the fuck up and do what you want to do, that mother fucker, excuse my language, but that bitch is gone. You're in good fucking company. No if, ands, or buts. This is not a doctor feel moment. You don't need marriage counseling because once you learn about you and how I break it down, and we're talking about that behind camera, how I break it down, I'm going to show them a blueprint that I use that I teach my sons that my father's taught me, and I'm going to show these guys out there that when you follow this blueprint you can't go wrong because it is always going to be about you because like I said before, she's going after your last name. She's going after your ring. So you don't have to kiss her fucking ass. She's taking your DNA. Yeah, she's going after your DNA. Fucking make love great again. See, he's just taking my shit from me. We do a recut, cut, cut, cut, man. God damn it, Anthony. But she's taking your DNA as well. Our names are so similar. See, we come from a different mother, but we are brothers, like I say, planted man shit. This planted man stuff. But I'm just saying, man, at the end of the day these guys have to do something they're worth first. Once you're able to do that, then she is going to follow your lead because she knows if I don't follow your lead, I'm gone. If I don't shut my ass up, I'm gone. If I don't submit to you, I'm gone because men have options. And that's what women don't understand. And it makes her happy to follow your lead anyway. This is what she wants. They always say real quick, it goes back to nature. Lines don't Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. They're just fucking lions. So when a woman sees the behavior, but remember it's got to be constant flow. The way you talk, the way you text, the way you approach, the way you go on a date has to be what I call constant flow. If you don't have, see a lot of guys don't have flow. A lot of guys say Anthony. And that means like congruent. Yeah, congruency, yes. I call like a riptide or a current. A lot of guys out there say, be a man. But their texting is coming from the north. Their behaviors are coming this way. They're thinking that way. They're just a constant blur of mess. What we're trying to do is we're trying to get it all together and get you in one direction. I really like this analogy. Even for me, this is useful. Because I'm not done yet in my grown-up. Nobody is. I'm hearing this. I'm going to put this to work. It's the congruency, because once you become one with yourself you will then be more transparent. You will be clear and concise. And everything you say, do, text. And even if you roll up a fucking note and put it on a goddamn dove, it's going to be impactful. It doesn't matter what you do because it's coming from the man. The king. The warrior. Everything that you are, man. That's how dope this shit is. I've come to the conclusion that you can get away with if a woman perceives she was alpha, she sees as that alpha king or whatever in her head, you can do basically anything. There's very few things you can't do and you can get away with it. That's not a good way to put it though. You can really do anything you want. I think it's coming from what you're saying though. And then women interpret that as alpha. A lot of guys have what I call world as flat thinking. But they don't want to go beyond the edge because a lot of guys, it's not really the fear of failure. It's the fear of success because a lot of guys haven't been beyond that point. But once you go beyond that point and connecting what you're saying, see, women have met us before and I always tell guys they go into the future. They go into the past and in the present like that, meaning that I meet Anthony, like a woman meets you. Your behaviors, automatically she goes in her files. Okay, I met a guy like that. He was an asshole. He was a jerk, but I couldn't stop thinking about him. I cried about him. I tried to do everything I can. And then she goes, that's her going into the past. Now she's like, okay, well, I know I can't get away with the bullshit with him. I can't say, well, can you buy me a drink, Anthony? And I'm like, bitch, take this so I can get the fuck out of my face. You know, it'd be like that. She can't do that, you know what I mean? So me up, baby. I've been sitting so down. They don't know. We just fucking with you. Even though I was showing you before we got on here, you didn't see that part, but I sent this girl a dick pic last night and you sent me like her tits back this morning. And that's one of the things that there's always this debate about it and like the manuscript and shit. It's like, or dick pics, bait or alpha. It's like binary like childish thinking. It's like you can, if you're alpha and she believes you're alpha, you can do whatever the hell you want because you know what? I'm leaving this because he's taking my shit because I was just about to say something. You're stealing the show. Give me some love. Give me a high five, man. That's my boy. Listen, you're absolutely 100 mother fucking percent right. See, this what people don't understand like the three laws. As long as you follow the three laws that I said, you can do whatever you want as a man because a man never apologizes for what he does. So if you want to send a dick pic, you can as a man. If you want to ask for a number, you can as a man. Matter of fact, and then you know what? I tell guys all the time, you know, I don't buy no bitch a drink or take him out to dinner the first time. They ain't worth that shit. But as a man, I will, this is some smooth shit I do. I call a bitch up from the north side of town and one from the west side town and I take him out to dinner. Why? Because I'm going, I want eye candy. Wait, at the same time? Fuck yeah, of course, man. That's the three sims and shit. Look at this. I am, it's about me. See, most guys make it about sex. But see the thing is, now this is about to give you some love again right here. But the thing with me is when I meet a woman, I'm not going after the pussy. See, I always ask my guys this, how many pussies does a woman have? Most guys will say one pussy. I said that's the problem. You're going for the one between her legs and there's one between her ears that has access to everything. I'm not trying to fuck her because when I meet her, I'm already fucking her and she doesn't realize it. I already got my tactical dick on her forehead and she didn't realize it's going on right now. I do something similar, so I'm following what you're saying and I'm realizing I already do this too. That's what you say. Before I meet girls and even after I fuck them just to fuck around with them but there's kind of some truth to it because that's what you're saying. I tell them I'm going after your soul. This is really important for guys to understand. Get your crayons out. When I say get your crayons out, write this shit down, get your crayons out. When I was a little lad, when I was like 7 or 8 years old, I used to watch a show on PBS by a guy named Bob Ross. Bob Ross is the white dude with the afro. He was a painter. He would come on every Saturday, Sunday and he'd be like, hey, make them nice little clouds and shit. The reason why I tell Bob Ross when it comes to sex, is because he's a lover. So now we're talking more about a lover. The thing what guys do is they don't paint a picture of what it would be like to be with them. What they will do is they will draw a stick figure, draw a little circle in the line and all that stuff. For me, when I meet a woman, I want to make sure I hit five things. I want to make her smile. I want to make her blush. I want to make her laugh. I want to make her think and I want to make her react. It's like a battle plan. Remember, it goes back to your warrior. Your warrior is always thinking five moves ahead because he's trying to expand. So you remember, see everything connects and like I said, we get deeper in that, but I'm just saying that when I meet a woman, that's what I want. I want to paint the picture of what it's going to be like to be with me, the key word. Me, me, me. This is all about me. Where she's like, wow, I didn't know that. And that's what I'm saying. For instance, I know I'm running my mouth, but let me break this down. I always tell people, okay, I can set a date up with a woman on Monday for Saturday. And by Tuesday, I'm getting her to play with her pussy. Oh yeah. Right, why? Because I'm not wasting my time. I'm being clear, concise, and I'm not asking her dumbass questions. I'm making it about me, bitch, because I know if I get hold of that pussy, I'm going to give you the crumbs to the gingerbread house. I call it Hansel and Gretel. They see the gingerbread house, they're like, wow, it's a gingerbread house. They taste the gingerbread house. Damn, that shit is good. So if it's good on the outside, how good is it on the inside? And like vampire movies, I always tell guys this, the only way a vampire can enter a house, he's got to be invited in. So I make her make a conscious decision to allow me in mentally. Once I'm in, I become quicksane. What is the rule of quicksane? The more you wiggle out, the faster your ass sink in. Oh, I got you, bitch. I bite your neck and take you at the goddamn tree. Biting them in the neck is good. Yeah, man, from the jungle. You know, that kind of shit. I'm a huge fan of sucking girls' necks and biting other necks. I do this at bars and shit, man. Other girls will look at me, I'll just meet some girl and be doing that within a few minutes and other girls will be like, what? It's like a vampire shit, but they love it. They've been reading about it and shit. They're not used to that. They don't understand as a man, you got what I call a shift up. See, most guys are one trick pony. You know, kiss her neck. Kiss her breast. Yeah, exactly. What the question is, what do I want to be? Do I want to be shift up and be dirty, nasty, freaky or naughty? Or do I want to shift down and be romantic, seductive or sexual? It's my choice. But they're not prepared for that because they're thinking that I'm him and that's the worst thing about it. When they think that you and I are like the regular people, their walls come down because they feel like, you know what, I don't have to protect myself because he's a normal guy and that's where they get fucked up because they're like, well, Anthony, okay, you know, Anthony's a good looking guy but he might be like Bob yesterday who just kissed my ass so I don't have to worry about him but then you're like, what's up girl, I'm Anthony Johns. You know, she's like, oh my God and she's already done. It makes you stand out, you're right. Yeah, you stand out, yes sir. Well, I'd say we wrap up. This has been fucking awesome having y'all man, having you here. Yes. I'm excited to hang out with you tonight. We'll get Socrates out. And I'll fuck you, fuck it. And keep having the Red Man Group of course and I'll be at the 2011 convention. Yes, and I just want to say, man, thank you, Amelia, man. I just love being around you and being around men and I tell you, man, the guys that you have are fucking great men and this is a great thing. It's a great tribe. Hey, it's the Gingerbread House dog. I'm in the quicksand already. I'm trying to get out but I'm falling in though. Thank you man, I love you man. I really want to find out about you at themanmindset.com. You're on Twitter, what's your Twitter handle? The Man Mindset. Anything else? Well, YouTube is not the Man Mindset but they can get access to it from my website. But I also got a dating chat. I'll bring them bitches, Anthony. I'll bring them bitches. So I'll bring you the bitches, man. Let's eat. With that said, guys, you can meet Steve, the Dean Williams and myself and over 15 other speakers at the upcoming patriarch edition of the 2011 convention, here to the 5th in Orlando, Florida, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. You're gonna want to get in on Thursday night and leave on Monday. Get your tickets now at the link below underneath this video or at the21convention.org. That's the21convention.org slash patriarch. I'll see you guys next time on Gender Wars and on the red man group is Steve, the Dean Williams. Steve, I'll see you soon. Thank you man, much love to you. This is my brother from another mother, man.