 وأقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأوله الحمد لله رب العالمين مهو الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وشدوا الله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وشدوا النسيدنا ونبينا محمد صلى الله عليه وعليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد إن شاء الله وتعالى I'm going to be starting a series that I will be speaking about a very important topic a topic that I personally believe is directed for myself first it's something I'm trying to advise myself بإذن الله الكريم through this series and then all of you who are watching and listening إن شاء الله وتعالى and that is حسن الخلق having good manners good etiquettes upholding good conduct I ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى since sailing from the bottom of my heart أيامن علينا بالأدى بالكريم that Allah سبحانه وتعالى bestows upon each and every one of us good manners good manners is what our messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم was upon our prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he had good manners الله سبحانه وتعالى said about our prophet وإنك لا على خلق العظيم محمد you are upon you have great manners good manners you are upon a very high level a high caliber of manners صلى الله عليه وسلم and that good manners that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم had is from the things that we need to follow him in عليه الصلاة والسلام أو الله سبحانه وتعالى أو الله give us good manners you are the one who is able to do so I ask him سبحانه وتعالى أن يهدينا لأحسن الأخلاق لا يهدي لأحسنها إلا هو to guide us upon good manners there is no one who can guide us upon good manners except him سبحانه وتعالى وأن يصرف عنها سيئة and our Allah removed from us bad manners لا يصرف عن سيئة إلا هو no one can remove us or no one can remove from us bad manners except him سبحانه وتعالى good manners good etiquettes is a true sign of a person's prosperity and a person's success if you want to know someone is successful if you want to know someone's prosperity look at his manners his manners is a it's a proof an indication for this person is successful in life and it is also an indication of the happiness of this person in this world and in the hereafter ومستجلي باتي الخيرات and you won't truly achieve good بمثل الخلق الفاضي والأدب الكريم the way that you could achieve it through good manners and good etiquettes the khay that you are looking for that you want to achieve the best way to achieve it is have good manners الدين كله خلق the whole religion is manners the whole entire deen is khulq فمن زاد عليك في الخلق anyone who beats you who goes before you in front of you in good manners who surpasses you in good manners زاد عليك في الديني this person has surpassed you in religion always remember that anyone who surpasses you in good manners who is better mannered than you are who holds up to a better code of conduct than you that person he has beat you in the religion أبو هورير رضي الله تعالى عنه he said سو إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم the messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام was asked a question was put to our messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام عن أكثر ما يدخلون ناث الجنة what is the thing that what is the one thing that a lot of people will go to jannah because of it what is the one thing that the majority of the people will enter jannah for it what is that one quality that one trait that because of a person can enter jannah أعن أكثر ما يدخلون ناث الجنة the majority of the people what is the thing that can take them all to jannah فقال the messenger then said تقوى الله being conscious of Allah سبحانه وتعالى the word تقوى الله means to have تقوى it is to be conscious of Allah سبحانه وتعالى it is to be scared of him it is to do what he told you to do and it is to stay away from what he told you to stay away from the first thing that takes the people to jannah is تقوى الله عز و جل the second one is the second characteristic is وحصر خلوق good manners good etiquettes رواه الترميدي he narrated this in his سنن وحسنه الألباني ورحمه الله ألمام الألباني he graded this to be حسن this hadith to be حسن let's ponder let's really think about this every one of you who is watching I myself included it's jannah that we want it is jannah that we are looking for it is جهنم we want Allah to distance us from we want anything that will take us to jannah and we want anything that will bring us closer to Allah سبحانه وتعالى every day that's what we're looking for isn't that not the case the messenger told us two things in this hadith that could take us to jannah that can make us from the inhabitants of jannah are we not going to take your brothers and sisters we're not going to take this on board it is تقوى الله عز و جل having تقوى الله سبحانه وتعالى and the second one is فرصم الخلق good manners let me give you a statement that would truly expand your horizon a speech that would truly touch your heart that will explain to you this hadith how profound it is you might think to yourself the prophet just said two sentences تقوى الله حسن الخلق he said something very big he said a very comprehensive speech in very small words عليه الصلاة والسلام ابن القيم is going to expand on that statement of the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم ابن القيم رحم الله he said جامع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم he said the prophet combined بين تقوى الله و حسن الخلق the prophet in this hadith combined between تقوى الله تقوى الله عز و جل و حسن الخلق he combined both of them in this hadith stop here the person who has تقوى what station does the Qur'an mention for that person الله تعالى تعالى tells us in the Qur'an تلك الجنة التي نورت من عبادنا من كان جنة is inherited by the people of تقوى الله inherits them it's theirs keep it it's yours in another ayah الله تعالى he says الله تعالى تعالى that every single person is going to go above جهنم يعني the sirat is above and everybody will fall into جهنم the only person who is going to be saved from not falling into جهنم from not entering جهنم is who the person who has تقوى تقوى is the thing that saves you from the hellfire and it is the thing that takes you to جنة next to it was mentioned good maness that really shows you the power of good maness and how high in Islam it is that's the first point I want you to point out ابن القيّن says that's point number one underline the second thing he said the reason why these two are combined and they were mentioned next to each other is because having تقوى is having a good relationship with Allah when you have تقوى you have a strong bond and a strong relationship with Allah and when you have good maness you have good relationship with the creation so one is the bond and the relationship with Allah and the second one is a bond and a relationship with the creation ابن القيّن goes on to say by coming with تقوى it will bring about for you the love of Allah by coming with تقوى الله سبحانه وتعالى is going to love you good maness it calls on to the love of Allah it also brings about for you brother and sisters the love of the creation the creation will love you it calls on to the loving of the creation the people when they meet you they will love you because of your good maness you could conduct with them the way you dealt with them and the تقوى it builds a good relationship between you and Allah سبحانه وتعالى that's why I'm saying this topic is very big it touches us all it's a very powerful topic the second حديث I want to share with you regarding good maness in Islam how important it is جابر رضي الله تعالى عنه he said رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال that the messenger said إن من أحبكم إليا وأقربكم مني مجلسا يوم القيامة أحاسينكم أخلاقا أحاسينكم أخلاقا the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم حديث حديث أفجابر صلى الله عليه وسلم he said إن من أحبكم إليا وأقربكم مني مجلسا يوم القيامة and the one that is closest to me the day of judgment the one that is most beloved to the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم the one that is closest to the prophet the day of judgment is who أحاسينكم أخلاقا the one that has the best maness the person who has the best etiquettes the best manners is the most beloved person to the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم and is the one that is most closest to the prophet يوم القيامة every single time your manners increases and it grows and it gets better and better and greater and greater even higher higher higher you are more closer to the prophet in what? in love يعني the prophet loves you and you're going to be close to him يوم القيامة the day of judgment and every time your manners goes bad and bad and bad remember you are distant from the prophet يعني you're going to be far from the prophet عليه وسلم he's going to the love of the prophet is going to be distanced from you and you're going to be distanced from him as well that's another second hadith that will truly touch every مؤمن يؤمنوا بالله واليوم الآخر who believes in Allah on the day of judgment this is something that's going to make them think the way that we deal with others the way that we are towards them another hadith أبي هوريرا رضي الله ويتعالى عنه he narrated from the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم أبي هوريرا said عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم this is the statement of the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم the prophet said أبي هوريرا he said that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم you will not be able to suffice the people in your wealth you will never have enough money to give to everybody every time person comes up to you to give them money because money is one of the ways to really bring people's hearts close to you it's a form of getting people's love and people's attention wealth is the messenger is saying you won't be able to do that for everybody everybody comes your way you won't be able to give them money because the people are more than your money however rich you are in the world you can't provide for everybody the richest person in the world cannot provide for every single person so much money you won't be able to so but what you can provide to everybody what you can give to everybody is smiling in the people's faces and having good manners with the people you won't be able to provide for everybody and give them wealth but what you can do is whenever someone comes to you smile on their face whenever you meet someone have good manners in the way that you deal with them people remember that they do they they feel respected and honoured from you people don't to remember that و لذلك the poetry said and this poetry here is عبدالله بن عمال رضي الله تعالى عنهما he used to say this line of poetry a lot he would repeat it so many times the poetry is أفرار بر رشاي انهيينون وجهون طريق وكلام ليينون عبدالله بن عمرين he used to say بنية my brother my son my nephew my niece إن البر رشاي انهيينون good conduct righteousness goodness is شيء انهيينون وَجْهُمْ طَلِيقٌ أُولِهِ is the smiling in someone's face وَكَلَامٌ لَيْيينٌ and soft word بُنَيَّمْ my son إن البِرَّ شَيْءٌ هَيْيينٌ obedience and goodness and having good conduct with others being dutiful to others respectful to our elders gentle and kind to your youngsters the younger ones شَيْءٌ هَيْيينٌ is the easy thing وَجْهُمْ طَلِيقٌ is the smiling in their face when you meet them وَكَلَامٌ لَيْيينٌ and soft words والله brothers and sisters ألا خلاق ألا خلاق manners manners أخلاق is هبات من الله it's a gift yes no good manners is a gift الله is a gift سبحانه وتعالى وتفضل منه it's a virtue الله bestows يهدي لأحسانها من شاء من عباده الله سبحانه وتعالى من شاء منه من خلاله هذا حديث يكفينا جابر ابن عبد الله رضي الله تعالى عنه قال كان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم هذا هو المسجر كانت إذا استفتح الصلاة كبرة ثم قال المسجر صلى الله عليه وسلم كانت أحد إذا استفتح الصلاة إذا يفتح الصلاة صلى الله عليه وسلم يعني نبسني صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا استفتح الصلاة كبرة سوف يفتحها مع التكبير إذا استفتح الصلاة كبرة سوف يقول الله أكبر صلى الله عليه وسلم و بعد ذلك سوف يقول يعني أنه من الدعاء والاستفتح الدعاء التي تفتحك في افتحكاتك just before you read فايتحها one of the دعاء that the messenger used to make is he would say إن صلاة ونسوك ومحياية ومماتي لله he would say صلى الله عليه وسلم إن صلاة my prayer إن صلاة my prayer ونسوكي my slaughtering ومحياية my living ومماتي my death لله رب العالمين is for Allah alone all of that is for Allah alone no one else do I pray to no one else do I slaughter to no one else gives me life and no one takes away my life except Allah لله رب العالمين the Lord of the universe لا شريك له he has no partners in what he does سبحانه وتعالى وبذلك أمير تو and I was commanded exactly that وانا من المسلمين and I am from the believers those who submit to Allah سبحانه وتعالى the commandments of Allah and I am one who stays away from what he told him to stay away from وانا من المسلمين then the messenger would carry on saying اللهم هديني أو الله قايد towards لأحسن الأعمال أو الله قايد me to the best of actions وأحسن الأخلاقي أو الله قايد me to the best of manners and etiquettes لا يهدي لي أحسنها إلا أنت no one can guide me to the best of manners the best of etiquettes except you أو الله سبحانه وتعالى وقيني سيئ الأعمال أو الله protect from me prevent from me what evil actions وسيئ الأخلاقي and bad manners لا يقي سيئها إلا أنت there is no one who can save me and protect me from bad conduct bad manners bad etiquettes except you أو الله سبحانه وتعالى الإمام النسائي ورحمه الله narrated that just point it here the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم a man we know while he was walking on this earth عليه الصلاة والسلام all of his shortcomings all of his forgiveness الله تبارك وتعالى clearly and categorically setting the Quran to the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم ليغفر لك الله ما تقدم من ذنبك وما تأخر your Lord الله سبحانه وتعالى has forgiven you Muhammad for every shortcoming or mistakes I need a messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم there is no seal on him he is the best from the creations of الله سبحانه وتعالى he is a prophet of Allah he is a messenger of Allah he is the final the seal of all prophets عليه الصلاة والسلام he is a noble creation of الله سبحانه وتعالى Allah already praised his manners صلى الله عليه وسلم وإنك لا على محمد you are upon صلى الله عليه وسلم high level high caliber of manners you are on a high level صلى الله عليه وسلم with that being said this is the supplication he would make he would say to Allah oh Allah guide me to the best of manners guide me to the best of actions no one can guide me to it except you oh Allah oh Allah prevent from me protect from me bad manners and evil actions there's no one else who can't accept you he's the best man عليه الصلاة والسلام but he's still asking Allah for guidance he's also still asking Allah for righteous actions and he's also asking Allah for good manners and good conduct where do we stand that is the question we should ask ourselves where do we stand where are we this lecture again as I said it's a two-way thing it's going both ways it's you and I discussing it together there's no one-way discussion it isn't me talking to you but it's us discussing it with ourselves it's me thinking out loud it's us إن شاء الله rectifying ourselves oh Allah I ask you sincerely from the bottom of my heart that you give us good manners with your creation oh Allah give us good manners and good etiquettes with number one with you oh Allah إن شاء الله every single day by the will of Allah we'll be releasing a particular good manners that we need to come with from Allah to the creation each day one manners that we need to focus on إن شاء الله again this series is written it's prepared it's for me number one I am the one that إن شاء الله want to benefit from it and I want to share it with all of you maybe there might be someone who hears these words and he affects them إن شاء الله and he changes their life and the way they think the way they act the way they carry themselves and I may get a share of that reward إن شاء الله I may get a share of that good doing of theirs إن شاء الله that is why I want to be إن شاء الله I share it with you all I've been thinking over this topic too long good manners where is it to be found إن شاء الله the خلاص and the زبدة I will share it with you all another هديث that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم seated زياد من صلى الله عليه وسلم our messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he used to say اللهم أو Allah إن إني أعود بك من منقرات الأخلاق والأعمال والأهوى رواه الترميليو The Messenger used to seek refuge In Allah from evil behavior Evil conduct In appropriate speech and actions اللهم what he used to say إني أعود بك من منقرات الأخلاق Protect me Save God me From evil behavior والأعمال And evil action والأهواء And evil desires عبد الله بن مسعود رضي الله تعالى عنه He said أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم كان يقول The Messenger also used to say These are all the du'as of the Prophet عليه الصلاة والسلام And wallahi If these du'as were not important maybe wallahi محمد will not have made it The du'as are two types The du'a which is thought is transmitted to us That the Prophet said it like this عليه الصلاة والسلام Those du'a are the best du'as Better than the ones we make for ourselves The ones that the Messenger said His words are better than ours These are the du'a of the Messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام He used to say اللهم إني أعود بك من منقرات الأخلاق والأعمال والأهواء ابن مسعود رضي الله تعالى عنه He mentioned another du'a عبد الله بن مسعود رضي الله تعالى عنه He said أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم كان يقول The Messenger used to say اللهم أو الله أحثنت خلق أو الله you perfect You perfected my form In the way you created me You perfected You created me beautifully because الله تعالى تعالى He created the creation in the best form الله says in the Quran و لقد خلقنا الإنسان في أحسن تقويم الله سبحانه وتعالى He said we created the humans in the best form And I subhanallah I pondered over this verse for a while Until I came across a very powerful statement by عقيل الحملي رحمه الله Where he said That this aya That the human has been made in the best form is a reality without a doubt And he said the way to understand that is Get any animal out there The most beautiful animal that you know of Would you ever want to be that animal You want to look like that animal Or you happy with the way Allah created you If today The strongest animal The biggest animal Someone was to say You are going to look like a lion Would you want to look like a lion? And he wouldn't So a human being Has the best form So the messengers صلى الله عليه وسلم Used to say اللهم أحثنت خلق Or Allah you perfected my form And the way I look فأحسن قلق Or Allah سبحانه وتعالى Perfect my manners Give me good manners طاوس ابنو كيسان The student of Abdullah Ibn Abbas ربي الله تعالى عنه He said This is narrated by ابن أبي الدنيا In his كتاب مكاني ملأخلاق I encourage everybody Who knows the Arabic language To buy the mousu'a The encyclopedia Of ابن أبي الدنيا The mousu'a The encyclopedia Of ابن أبي الدنيا Those books that he has inside there In his mousu'a It will leave you with fascination and amazement The topics that he covers Buy it In those In the mousu'a There is a book In there Called مكاني ملأخلاق Good manners He brings the statement Of طاوس ابنو كيسان الرحمة الله طاوس ابنو كيسان Is the student of ابن أبي الدنيا He said طاوس ابنو كيسان He said إن هذه الأخلاق This manners Is what منا إحرو يمنحو الله He said This akhlaq That you see Is منا إحرو يمنحو الله عز وجل من يشاء من عبادة It is It's a gift دل الله سبحانه وتعالى Gifts it to whoever he wills And Allah gifts good manners It is Allah تبارك وتعالى Be stowing upon you his virtue يمنحو الله عز وجل من يشاء من عبادة He gives it to whoever he wishes from his creation فإذا أراد الله If Allah wills سبحانه وتعالى بعبد خيرا If Allah wills good for a creation or a slave مناحه منها Allah gives you good manners مناحه منها خولو قنصالحة Allah gives that person good manners Let's think over this This is a great tabi'ee He is a student of ابن عباس He is from the three generations that the messengers of صلى الله عليه وسلم told us that the virtue is in طاوو سبحانه وتعالى إنام ونفت تفسير He is a scholar of Tafseer He is one of the scholars who transmitted to us the views of ابن عباس in the Quran The exegesis that he gave on the Quran The commentary ابن عباس gave in the Quran طاووس has his own commentary on the Quran Go to the books of Tafseer You will find it there إن شاء الله Like Tafseer مجل طبري تفسير من أبيحات من تفسير ابن كثير تفسير البغوية ابن عطية and others You'll find it filled up in there This great إنام Look what he said So his statement has weight in our hearts and minds He said This أخلاق that you see in good manners It is A gift that Allah gives it to everyone From his slaves If Allah wants good for us slaves If Allah wants good for a person He gives him الله سبحانه وتعالى gives that person He bestows bestows upon that person What? Allah gives you good manners Good etiquettes In other words If Allah If you see a person who has no good manners Then that means Allah did not want for this person خير Allah did not want to gift this person to bestow upon this person his virtue عبد الله يسعودة الله تعالى عنه He said إن الله قسم بينك أخلاقك كما قسم بينك أرزاقك مقاري نريتي This is his adab بالمفرد عبد الله يسعود He said The way الله سبحانه وتعالى He has written For every person Their provision From the day you were born Until the day you're going to die الله سبحانه وتعالى Has written for him He has written سبحانه وتعالى has written for every single person, their provision, what they're going to eat, where they're going to sleep, what they're going to wear, your risk has been written for you. And Allah سبحانه وتعالى of course, he didn't make all the creation the same in the provision. Now some people are wealthy. Allah written for them that they're going to be wealthy and they're going to have a lot of money. And some people Allah سبحانه وتعالى write for them little wealth. That same way that the risk was written for everybody and the amount of risk that they're going to have. Allah also did. He said Abdam al-Mas'ud. He wrote for everybody their manners. The manners was also divided amongst the people. There is a person who is managed very low, very bad, despicable person. You can't spend a second with this person. The vulgar speech that comes out of their mouth. The way that they carry themselves. The way that they fill, they're full of themselves. You cannot spend a لحظة. A second with them. And another person. يعني صف. Simple. Easy. Easy going. Turns a blind eye on things. And it's this person who's well-mannered like that. You tend to see it's not a struggle for them. It's just easy. Because Allah سبحانه وتعالى written for them. Allah gifted it to the people like that. As Allah تعالى. He says in the Quran. ورفعنا بعضهم فوق بعضين درجاتل ليتخد بعضهم بعضا صخرية. يعني. Allah raised the people from one another. And the people are not all of one level. In their provision. You know. There's the economy class. And there's the business. There's the wealthy people at the top. And the middle class. And there's the middle class. There's the upper class. There's the lower class. And people are classed. Right? The same applies to the أخلاق of the people. So we say the one who gives. فالذي يعطي الأرزاقة. The one who gives the provision. هو الذي يعطي الأخلاقة. Is the one who gives what? Is the one who gives good manners. سبحانه وتعالى. ولي ذلك ابن القييم said something very powerful. He said فإن الأخلاق مواهب. He said that the أخلاق is a gift. It's a gift. And he said Allah gives it to whoever he wills. سبحانه وتعالى. ابن القييم said that. رحمه الله. He said that in his Kitab. الفروسية المحمدية. Page 499. What I want to say is brothers and sisters. وليهادان because of that. What is necessary? Since the good manners is a gift. الله سبحانه وتعالى gives to whoever he wills. It's a virtue Allah bestows upon whoever he wishes. What is required from us then? If that's the case. And the message is begging Allah for it. And this is how it is. Then what is required from us? In order to get good manners. And the same way that if we wanted رزق we would do is two important things. أمراني لابد من هنا. Two things we must do. And these two things are very important. The first thing إن شاء الله وتعالى is اللدو إلى الله. That we turn back to Allah سبحانه وتعالى. In what? Into making this issue easy for us. We go back to Allah سبحانه وتعالى. We turn back to Him سبحانه وتعالى. We beg Him. We beg Him سبحانه وتعالى. In giving us this. We rely on Him سبحانه وتعالى. The second one is السعيو في الطلبه. We strive in looking for it. We strive in looking for it. We look, we try to look for it. يعالي التخلق. We try to adopt these characteristics. When we get angry we try to stop ourselves. We nurture ourselves. One of the ways to do that is to be with righteous people. People who have good manners. You learn from them. You see the situations that they go through when they get insulted at. Do they respond with an insult or they calm and collective? Do they stand up and they just leave? How is the way that they carry themselves? If you want to have good manners you need to do those two things. The first one is time back to Allah and beg Him. Like the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم who used to. The second one is السعيو ومجاهدة النفس. Fight with yourself. Look for that good manners in yourself. Struggle with yourself. There are times you want to respond. You teach yourself to restrain yourself. To imprison your nefs. Not to give in. It's very hard. Especially when somebody is not being nice to you. You want to respond but just let it go. This is one of the amazing advices that I heard. Which is don't let people who have bad manners influence you and become your teacher in a way that you should deal with situations. Someone is not nice to you. They insult you. You shouldn't let them dictate for you what you should say in response. You should now shine and prove to this person that you are not going to steep to that level. That you have your own personality. That you have your own unique way of dealing with this situation. And that is not the way that they're dealing with it. So you turn away from it. It's hard. It is not easy when you're in that situation. But it is something we need to fight with and always make sure we achieve. أبي دردار ربي الله تعالى عنه. He narrated that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said. There is nothing. The word ما is a negation. شينا is an indefinite. I want you to ponder here. The word ما in Arabic is called a nafia. It's a negating thing. It negates. We're saying there isn't like negating. And right after it, there is an indefinite word. There's two types in the English language. There is an indefinite. And there's a definite, right? Like the word, the article ذه. It's an indefinite word, right? Sorry. It's an indefinite word. When you say ذه تري. And it's معرب. We know what tree you're talking about. ذه تري. ذه تري. Okay. But if you say a tree, it becomes indefinite now. We don't know what tree you're talking about. So the article ذه and A changes whether it's known or it's unknown. In the Arabic language, there's a type of تنوين. تنوين. The تنوين is 10 types. One of the types of تنوين. The أن نون. That you study in مدرسة. There's a type of تنوين called تنوين تنكير. It's called تنوين التنكير. It's an indefinite. It's an indefinite تنوين. It's an indefinite تنوين. Look at this حديث. We have an indefinite حياء word. But before it, there's a negative. Or a negating term. A negating word. Okay. We have the word which is مع which is نافية. It's negating. And right after it, we have an indefinite. Which is مامين شيئين. In the Arabic language, there's a principle now. According to the scholars of the Arabic language and also the أصوليين. The scholars who discuss أصوليين. Which is what? If there is a a negating term. If there's a negation. If there's a negation. And right after it is an indefinite. This shows generality. They call it. This is general now. It's not specific. It's general. What benefit does this have right now in the حديث? It has a big benefit. Which is. مامين شيئين. There is nothing whatsoever. أثقلوا في الميزان That is heavy on the scale. من حسن القول قدن good manners. So there is nothing. Nothing. The حديث is saying nothing. خنده يار. The heaviest thing on the scale the day of judgment is good manners. That's what the حديث is saying. The heaviest thing. There's nothing heavier than good manners. I want you to think here. How powerful it is. There is nothing else. The number one. The first thing that's heaviest on the scale the day of judgment is عصر الخلق. أبو داوه narrated this حبيث. ترميدي narrated a slightly different wording. Which is مامين شيئين. Again the generalization is still there. The generality is still there. مامين شيئين. There is nothing whatsoever. يوبع في الميزان that is placed on the scale. أثقل من حسن الخلق that is heavier than good manners. وإن صاحب حسن الخلق and the one who has good manners لا يبلغ به درجة صاحب الصوم والصلاة. The person who possesses good manners لا يبلغ به or she will reach درجة صاحب الصوم والصلاة. You are going to reach the level of a person who prays a lot and a person who fasts a lot. You are of that level. You are with a person who is praying قيام الليل who is fasting Monday and Thursday. You are with those people. All because of what? All because you have good manners. حسن الخلق Good manners. وإن صاحب حسن الخلق The person who possesses good manners has good أخلاق لا يبلغ به درجة صاحب الصوم والصلاة. The person who reaches the level of a person who prays a lot and a person who fasts a lot. This and the Hadith that Imam Abu Dawood those two wordings when we bring them together what comes out of it. What comes out from this is that the scale, the day of judgment the heaviest thing on that scale the day of judgment is having good manners. The day of judgment your actions are going to be weighed and scale with your ملقينة. You are at that moment in need of everything that can make your scale heavy because it's your key to جنة. This is the door to that. It's the key to جنة. You're standing there يوم القيامة في عرصات يوم القيامة and your deeds are being weighed in front of you. What you want the most is to have your scale heavy something to push it down to make it heavy to make it heavy so it goes so it takes you up into جنة. أبهرير ربي الله تعالى عنه he said that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم has said أكمل المؤمنين إيمانا the believers who have the most complete إيمان يعني the person who's complete his إيمان is complete يعني إيمان is كامل it's not he has إيمان إيمان is categorized into three based on the famous hadith الإيمان بضعن وسبعن شعبا إيمان بضعن وستون شعبا أعلاها قولوا لا إله إلا الله وأدناها إيماطة الأدع عن الطريق والحياء شعبة من الإيمان والحياء شعبة من الإيمان والحياء شعبة من الإيمان خون دهيار the prophet divided the إيمان into three there's a bare minimum that makes you a believer it just gives you إيمان to just your base and the hadith also mentions someone who's not only he's actually grown a bit more he's come with which is a bit higher he's come with obligatory things and there's the highest level which is the third one which is إيمان which is complete this person has come with the and then gone into the the the sunnah and the the wafilm his إيمان is complete the messenger told us in this حدي what is it that makes a person's إيمان complete the messenger said أكمل المؤمنين إيمان the person whose إيمان is complete is أحسنهم خلوقا the person who has the best manners the best etiquettes the best code of conduct وخيروكم خيروكم لنسائهم and the best from amongst you is the one who is the best to their women to their to their women a person's أخلاق is determined by the closest person to you that's when it becomes more clearer the hadith by the way ألمان متين مدين narrated it رحمه الله and this hadith أبو حريرا just narrated it from the prophet alone our mother عايشا narrated it with him that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم إن من أكمل المؤمنين إيمان أحسنهم خلوقا وألطفوهم بأهله أنا مهجر يعني the last part of the hadith he says وألطفوهم بأهله he is gentle to his family ألمان متين مدين narrated both of them on the authority of عايشا and also on the authority of أبو حريرا الحليمي الحليمي رحمه الله he said دل this has shown us this hadith has shown us على أن حسن الخلوق that good manners good code of conduct good etiquettes is what إيمان it's إيمان وعدمه نقصان إيمان and the absence of good manners and the absence of good etiquettes is the reduction of a person's إيمان وأن المؤمنين يتفاوتون في إيمانهم and the believers the believers their levels إلا إيمان is based upon what based on their أخلاق وأن المؤمنين the believers يتفاوتون في إيمانهم the people are not the same in their إيمان فبعضهم some of them are what أكمل إيمان the iman is complete than the rest of the people ومن ثمان because of that the messengers صلى الله عليه وسلم كان المصطفى صلى الله عليه وسلم he said أحسن الناس خلقا the people's the iman we're all the same our iman is different some are higher than others so the question here is who had the best manners نبي اللهي محمد so his iman is higher than us how is connected here ومن ثم كان المصطفى أحسن الناس خلقا and because of that he said the messengers صلى الله عليه وسلم had the best manners for everybody else because his iman is the highest than everybody else لقوني أكملهم إيمانا وخياركم للمساءهم and the best from amongst you is the one that is the best to his spouse or his partner his wife أي من يُعاملوهن the one who deals with his spouse بصبري his patient على أخلاقي they're etiquettes and the way they deal with you you show patience and endurance you show that and how do you deal with it طلاقة to what he smile in their face والإحسان excellence you overlook their mistakes أبو هوريرا رضي الله تعالى عنه narrated and this is found in مسنة دي لما محمد and Bazaar narrated it okay but this is not the wording of Bazaar Bazaar narrated in a different wording I'm going to first mention the wording of the iman is Muslim and then I'm going to mention the wording of Bazaar because we need to know the different wording so we can take out the gems and the beauty in these Ahadiths أبو هوريرا said and this is found in أحمد and Bazaar but the wording is slightly different أحمد narrated this wording that the مسنة صلى الله عليه وسلم has said إِنَّمَا بُعِثْتُ لِوْ تَمْمِ مَا صَالِحَ الْأَخْلَاقَ the مسنة صلى الله عليه وسلم he said I was sent out إِنَّمَا again the word إِنَّمَا I wasn't sent out for nothing except that's what it means the word إِنَّمَا that's what it means it means I was not sent out for anything else the only thing I was sent out for was لِوْ تَمْمِ مَا صَالِحَ الْأَخْلَاقَ I was sent out I was brought out to do what to perfect to complete صالحة الْأَخْلَاقِ good manners and good conduct Bazaar's wording إِنَّمَا بُعِثْتُ لِوْ تَمْمِ مَا مَا كارِمَ الْأَخْلَاقَ which is roughly the same I was sent out for no other reason except to perfect people's code of conduct their manners and their etiquettes and the way they carry themselves the way they talk the way they act عليه الصلاة والسلام الله سبحانه و تعالى He sent نبي و الله يمحمد to call the people تواد إِلَا مَا كارِمِ الْأَخْلَاقَ to good manners و محاسِل للأعمال and to call the people to excellent actions and to warn them from what brothers and sisters it is to warn them from what سيئ الأخلاق bad manners عليه الصلاة والسلام and bad actions and the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he called to good manners verbally he verbally صلى الله عليه وسلم verbally he called the people to good manners and he called the people to good actions physically صلى الله عليه وسلم we've already mentioned so many hadiths where the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم verbally urges the people to come with what good manners good code of conduct carry yourselves well behave in a nice way and we've just taken some of those hadiths and in terms of actions then shows us how الله praised the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم code of conduct that his actions is of high level so that means we need to follow him قد كان لكم في رسول الله أسوة الحسنة إنه مثل صلى الله عليه وسلم is what it's a high example عليه الصلاة والسلام ساعد بن هشام بن عامل and he said أتيت عائشة I came to عائشة فقلت I said to her يا أم المؤمنين the mother of the believers أخبريني تاومي بخولوق رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم تاومي the messengers صلى الله عليه وسلم is madness تاومي the professor I said an etiquette how was it like what did عائشة say this is the prophet the closest person to his wife what did she say قالت كان خولوقه القرآن the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم is madness and his etiquette was the Quran then عائشة went on to say أما تقرأوا القرآن do you not read the Quran قول الله عز وجل the statement of Allah have you not read it where Allah said وإنك على خولوقنا عظيم and Imam Ahmad narrated this in his مسند have you not read this verse she said to the سعادي بن سعادي بن هشام بن عامر عائشة said to him عائشة said to him have you not read the Quran where Allah says وإنك على خولوقنا عظيم what does it mean that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم is madness and his etiquette was the Quran what does that actually mean what does that actually mean ابن كثير is going to explain it to us when the when the when the وإنك على خولوقنا عظيم when it came to it ابن كثير commenting on it by the way as a side point some people they fall short in this explanation of وإنك على خولوقنا عظيم and the hadith of عائشة they say that the prophet is the walking Quran and this is something we should avoid saying because the messenger is created and the Quran isn't created so if you say that the prophet is the walking Quran even though you don't intend it and I know the person doesn't mean it but it can't give the impression that you're saying that the Quran is created it could lead to that the Quran is a characteristic of Allah and Allah's characteristics are not created سفة تلكلم it's a characteristic of speech and the speech of Allah is not created the early group became misguided on that the جهمية and the معتزلة and their likes so just say what عائشة said which is that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم is the man is is the Quran عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم إبنو كثير is going to expand on this for us even more how could someone manage to read the Quran إبنو كثيرا رحم الله he says ومعنى هذا the meaning of this and knows عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم that the messenger عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم صارم تثالو وقرآني أمرا ونهيا سجية له وخلقا طبعه the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم the commandments that we find in the Quran and the prohibitions that we find in the Quran have become natural to him wherever the Quran tells him to do it's natural for him he does it without صلى الله عليه وسلم and finding any hardship in it عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم staying away from what the Quran told him to stay away from it's easy for him عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم it became what سجية it became part of him became natural for him when he does it that's what is meant by it وإنك العالى خلقا عاضي from the things that he took from it is من الحياة and the prophet was very shy we're gonna touch on that إن شاء الله القرم how generous he was عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم والشجاع how brave he was عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم والصفح والحلم how he was an example in forgiving forgetting forgiving someone حلم forbearance عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم is harming him harming just forbearance وكل خلق خلق جميل وكل خلق جميل every good man is عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم for front I mean scholars they weaken this they are they are but it's it's worth mentioning even though in the they mention it and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in and in سنقوم بقلص الملكة القرية والتجميع سلى الله عليه وسلم وحيداً ان يتسأل الناس وأنهم يقولوا لماذا تضمنونها؟ ما تعتقدوني منني اليوم؟ ما تعتقدونيي ذلك؟ كيف تعتقدون أن يكون لديك today؟ عندما حلت بمكة، فأن يقوم بمكة أخا كريم والبن اخا كريم و يكون أنها قرية of a generous, kind brother. من قرية of a generous, kind brother. ليومحمد is a generous and kind brother. و كانته في أبك و يسلام. فهما يصبح نفسه إذا صرقه ، يقول لهم انه يسيطبقه. اتربه. أنت مستخدم. أعتقد أني يدعم بطاقة He has the power. He is now coming to Mecca with force. He was hiding when he was running away from Mecca.ه رسل storytelling. وقته ، كل شيء يأخذ منه ، لقد رأيت مكة as an old person 53 years of age لقد رأيت at an old age ، عليه الصلاة والسلام ، عليه الصلاة ، ولكنه كان قوي ، قوية وقوة لقد رأيت فيبولا ويك ، صلى الله عليه وسلم ، 53 يأخذوا من قبيتك أن تكونوا فيه for 53 years of your life now that you've come back what would you do and the people who took you from it some of them are present and they're alive what would you do how would you possibly respond the messenger of Allah عليه وسلم يقول إدهبوا فأنتموا طولقاء go you're all free i'm not going to blame any one of you so this shows us how the messenger of Allah سلام كان حلمة for all parents and whatever is done to him you overlooked it because he felt عليه الصلاة والسلام it was about the mission عليه الصلاة والسلام i'm going to stop there in sha Allah anything which i have said that was wrong but incorrect is from me and shaytan he's messenger of free from it سبحانك اللهم والحمد أشد والله إلهي الله أستغفروا قوة وقوة السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته how can you do a two second action right now that will give you a share of the reward of everything we're doing on this youtube channel simple like this video and click subscribe why it will allow youtube to recommend our videos to other users and imagine the huge amount of reward that could be waiting for you on a day of judgment if you did that with a sincere intention of spreading the deen of Allah you'll be rewarded for every single person who benefits from one of our videos as a result of your like or subscribe that's an easy two second action that you definitely don't want to miss out on do it now قلق like and subscribe and don't forget to make that intention