 So one of the questions that's come in online. How can I generate love towards Salat and Quran in my kids? I see other older kids who are regulars at the masjid now rarely coming to the mosque unless forced by their parents. So there's a young man I know who Masha'Allah every time I see him he sits in the front row at Jama'at and every Jama'at prayer that I've ever seen him and he's right there in the front row and I was asking him about that like how Where does that desire come from or that habit and he told me that when he was little he's older now He's 19 when he was little. He said his father would give him a dollar Every time he would go and sit in the front row and he said so as a child he loved collecting those dollars five dollars a day adds up and He said but now I just do it out of habit He knows he's not getting any dollars from anyone for sitting in the front row But it's become his habit and he Masha'Allah broke it down really beautifully for me because we were talking about How is the best way to teach the religion and put a love for the religion and the practice of the faith in The next generation and he told me that he thinks three things are very important He said one is that there needs to be motivation So he said when he was little that dollar that he got for sitting in the front row was motivation But now that he's older the motivation is talking about Akhira talking about Allah subhanat Allah, but to really Make sure that there's some motivation when you're talking to your kids about their Ibadah The second thing he said was role models. He said he named specific shoe who were there in his community who inspired him and Who he enjoyed watching while they were praying and That they were the ones who had a big influence on him on the way he prayed and his desire to pray and The third thing he told me was so he said motivation Role models and the third thing he said was understanding He said it's very important to understand why you're praying and what you're saying and what the point is behind prayer He said for many kids He's seen that parents say oh Allah expects you to pray so you have to pray It's hadam not to pray, but they don't actually understand Why and what's the purpose behind it and? As far as the question which says that they saw that kids who used to come regularly and You know, maybe we're into the Quran or into praying But now they see that they don't come unless their parents are quote-unquote forcing them to What I've seen is that in life, it's we're not just on the steady course There's ups and downs that come even in our own lives And if we look at ourselves and think that right now if I had somebody who was forcing me or telling me that I have To read this much Quran every day or I have to sit for this long in my prayer afterwards in Dutua Would we rebel against that or would that be something that would make us go? Yeah, that's something I want to take on and It's important that when kids after the age of 14 what I've seen is that we need to kind of give them their space Once you've established routines for them throughout the early years what I've noticed is after 14 You're really just maintaining whatever you've taught them up to the age of 14 With all three of my kids. I've seen that that after 14. It's really hard to start Implementing anything new and whatever we've been teaching them up until that point is now what we're going to be Maintaining and I hope we can build on that, but if we are going to build on it. It's going to come from them It's not going to come from us. It's going to be completely self-directed and self-motivated and You know this I learned it the hard way one of my sons when we gave him a car for his personal use I told him that You can have the car and we're going to give you the car but Only on the condition that you go to the masjid for Fajr and Isha So if you go to the masjid for Fajr and Isha then then you can have the car and he had been going But it had been hit or miss it wasn't a regular thing He'd been going on his own, but all of a sudden I saw it take a dip. It wasn't The effect was the opposite of what I had wanted and what I had hoped for it and he actually told me He said, you know mama up until now When I was doing it it was doing I was doing it because it was a goal I was trying to achieve for myself, but now that you told me that in order to have the car I have to go for Fajr and Isha to the masjid. It feels like a chore and all of a sudden The desire isn't there the way it was before and I took it back I apologized and I said he could have the car and as long as he's not going anywhere Haram in it or doing anything Haram it God forbid he's welcome to use the family car but but that was a big lesson for me that You can't force kids to do to do anything when they're older and we're talking to parents of teens right now So after the age of 14 you have to give them the space to figure it out and hopefully You've been setting routines and giving them role models throughout their life before