 Hi, she was seven. Okay, so I'm gonna do a video and I'm gonna title it nice women finish last Okay, I have to do this video for y'all because there are too many overly nice females who end up Not living the life they want because they were too nice. Okay Too nice meaning being a doormat doing whatever the person says or wants Catering to their every need never putting yourself first. Okay, I Had a friend I'm not gonna name her name, but you know, I had a friend and she was very pretty she was like she used to date athletes You know Party with you know celebrities she even You know has a celebrity as one of her children's fathers Now you would think that she would be living the life But she's not Because she was too nice She was super nice and It took her years to even get to the point To like file child support, you know, and then when she finally File child support the person has many other kids I'm not laughing because it's funny I'm just saying after she finally decided to file child support Does this celebrity had so many kids already with other women who had filed child support before her She was only gonna get like barely with you know, what she should have been getting and so And then you know the celebrity was not making you know things so you know money was dwindling and The celebrity left the country so they can't get she can't get money anymore so and and you know She was so nice to You know that person and she was nice to other guys that she dated before him She was she used to date other, you know famous people. She was too nice to them and They walked all over her like they would bring their laundry Like when she was over their house, there would be other girls there and this is sad There would be other girls there and other guys and they'd you know be chilling and hanging out having a party and The guy would bring his dirty laundry Like they're not even like in a relationship there. She's just come over his house like maybe five times, okay? So he brings his dirty laundry to her and puts it on the couch and says Go wash my clothes And she gets up and goes and does it while all these other girls are just partying and drinking and you know being catered to She gets up and goes and wash the clothes That was a test to see how easily this this girl can be controlled. So she washed the clothes And okay, y'all listen. I'm there. Okay. I ain't gonna lie. I used to hang out today. So I was there so she washed the clothes and They come out of the dryer it's time to fold So she's taken out the clothes to fold them and guess what she's pulling out ladies underwear Females underwear So she starts folding the female underwear and putting them up and you know in a little pile and She looks at him. He goes and Like and fold them, you know, and she kept folding I'm looking at her out of the side of my eye like She folded them clothes up like it was no big deal And so I had to talk with her. I was like, what are you doing? Why are you folding that? Why are you doing this nasty laundry? That's just you know She's like well, it's like, um, you know, I want to show him that I can make a good wife And you know, I just want to show him that I'm domestic I'm like, no, you need to make a good maid because a wife is an equal As far as respect, you know, if you're gonna marry somebody like him and he's rich y'all gonna have a maid, okay? so She was like, well, that's just how I am. That's just how I am. I was like, well, I Said do you know I said, do you know I'm so rude to people and they still like me I tell them the truth and you know, I don't I don't let people walk over me and they respect me and You know, you don't have to do that It's just like yeah, you know, but you know and so Fast-forward 12 13 years She should have been living in a mansion driving in a nice car she should be on a basketball wives are Love and hip-hop. Okay, she should be there She is living in a one bedroom apartment on the bad side of town with her child who's Nine or ten, okay Eight nine, I don't know Seven eight nine ten one of those. Okay, and she works for Like a delivery company, you know That delivers packages Because she was too nice, you know, even when she tried to date a regular guy She was too nice and they ran over her too they were they would they would be dating like seriously dating and We would go out and hit and he he would go out Whoever she was dating and they would be in the same club Coincidence they would see each other and he would not even acknowledge her He would just walk away and be like, you know, I don't know you and then like Then text her when the club closes like I'm like you No, okay So if y'all are if y'all are like that if you're a doorman if you just let me walk all over you Just because you think there's somebody or you think that they're gonna marry you because you're submissive and stuff like that That is just not gonna happen because They have those people at their beck and call they're called. Yes women Women that says yes. Yes. Yes when they marry somebody they want a mother to raise their child They need a mother who is strong shows respect It's mentor and it's not gonna take no BS, you know They want somebody that they can be proud of okay, they don't want a doormat, okay? They're you're just there for their amusement if you're a doormat, okay? so Ladies if you're being too extra nice, you need to I'm sorry y'all Y'all know this is a week, right? If y'all are being too nice, y'all need to cut that out, okay? if a man can't respect you for who you really are and Without you having to basically put play a slave or maid or a yes woman then you're not supposed to be with that person Okay, you get out of there because you don't want to be you don't want to end up Where my friend end up, you know and the funny thing is The funny thing is like out of all our little group She's doing the worst and she had the baby by the celebrity and I'm not talking about just Some like one hit wonder. I'm talking about Legendary celebrity, okay And when I say legendary I mean like You know if you if I said his name everybody would know who he was okay, so What I'm saying is Yes women don't get it women who have respect for themselves stand up for themselves are strong and You know Know what they want Don't you don't have to prove your wife material unless you until you got that ring Okay, until you have ring you're nobody's wife material Okay, if they if they see in you What they want in a wife without you having to Flip over backwards then that's the man you want you don't want to have to show off and do flips like a monkey and a circus act in order to Make someone think your wife immaterial no Chances are If they're asking you to do certain things that they would never ask another woman to do you're the doormat, okay? So ladies if your man is stringing you along if your baby daddy is stringing you along if your husband What it's not gonna be a husband because? They would treat their wife like that. They have too much to lose Okay, if you're in a long-term relationship with someone who treats you like that You need to get out because they don't really love you. They don't respect you. They're playing with your emotions They're using you and you will end up in a place. You don't want to be okay, and I'm saying this because my friend She should have been you know so much And her niceness got her to where she is her niceness got her almost homeless You know her niceness got her and her child almost homeless Now there's a point where you need to draw the line with your niceness, you know sometimes in this world You have to be fierce You have to stand up you have to be strong and you can't just let People run over you. I don't care what the circumstances There's I mean a lot of people are nice because they have this hope that they'll get back with their ex No, I guarantee you if you start cutting people off left and right people will understand How much you actually meant to them, you know when you Keep begging and hold it on and holding on to a ray of hope. You just look pathetic You know and I'm just saying this because I have so many people that sometimes You know it's just they come to me and they tell me all these things and I'm like I Can see it from like a bird's-eye view and they're just in it so they don't understand what I'm seeing I'm seeing you know what you're being played They're never coming back to you your hope is It's not it's not a good thing Use that energy that you keep hope alive with To move forward in your life to learn And to stop Depending on other people to make you happy to accept you to say oh You're you're the one. No, you should be saying that to yourself. Yes I'm the one. I'm the one who gets to choose who I want You know if you wait around waiting on someone to choose you Then what does that say about you that you don't care and you'll just take anyone? No, if you if you have someone in mind or a type of person in mind that you want and You go after them or let them come after you without you having to submit Then that's how it how it needs to be you know a woman only submits to a man that she fully trusts Who who fully can take care of her? Who she feels safe with? Who she would put her life in his hands? So some submission does not mean Being a yes woman it means Being able to sleep at night with no anxiety knowing your man has your back Knowing he's gonna take care of you and your kids knowing that he's going to provide and protect you just like You know a man supposed to do okay, that's true submission, you know If you're always constantly worried about a man if he's never got any money if he's not helping you out if he's just you know Doing this isn't that and making you worry and then asks you to submit and you do that's false submit Submitment and in the back of your mind You're telling yourself that you're not worth anything So you'll need to stop that Only submit to a man who deserves it and when I say submit I don't mean bow down I mean only exhale and feel secure That a man can handle the job so you don't have to worry That's submitting like for a for an example if a man says Honey, I'm tired. I worked all day My feet hurt can you please massage my feet can you massage my feet, baby? You know and if you were staying at home all day if you weren't doing nothing if you got to sit in a lap of luxury go shopping Have lot of taves with your friends at Starbucks Order stuff online if you got to do all that and your man just got home from a 12-hour day And he's asking you to rub his feet and you say yes, that's not submitting that same, baby I appreciate what you do. Thank you. Here's your thanks because I got all these shopping bags I got us free time on my hands, you know my friends and I had a good time at lunch today So thank you Okay, now let's flip the script and the man went out to work and He said hey massage my feet, baby, but you just came home from work, too and your feet hurt even worse because you know you probably wore heels or some uncomfortable shoes and You say well, I need to massage my feet too, baby at the same time. It's like oh, no, I don't want to do that Do me, you know, that's that's the sound right there, you know, I Know a lot of people have to work. I know like it takes two incomes I might not have agreed with it because that's not how it was raised. I know some people do but you know If your man asks you to submit to him and he doesn't deserve it like in your mental But you do it anyway, you're setting yourself up for failure in that relationship. Okay, so thank you all for watching Thumbs up if you agree. I'll see y'all later. Peace