 Bello and welcome again to Let's talk Toaktaakhles. We appreciate you being here. Today like I always say we have a unique special honor to have a special guest but today I really really mean it. It's my real privilege and honor to have with us today. The esteemed Rabbi Yankee Yosof Moshekovitz, the Roof from Kahl at the Dos Bob and Moss in New York. ב Mason since piggy proactive wasn't goodbye for deserve this medicine. 돌아 narrow thinking it's unbelievable the bottom line most people i think when而 Weather report everyone has financial needs every one has medicine needs everyone א oppinion warned enter into some problemол Much a lot of it for the ובספורים שכי ידןדו, ואז נגידים שלו, ולבחון, ובקרן, ובספורים, ובשכירים, ובספורים בגו ובספורים. ידןד, זאת אומרת, הטו ויגו, להוא מראה עודיינסים וקריאות ביימה, שלא יתפגו, שלא ידןד. So my first opening question would be like, How does one have toyardika children? Maybe it's too, maybe it's a broad question לא זית דמי. So the same thing here is to... What's the answer how to have a child? It's a very broad, broad question. There are things we can do. יגדן זאת זו קצחנוך Somebody asked in the middle of the Belze, שירל בלזיר, how he was a child like that. So he answered, הילדות פילד And הילדות תדוקת רימה בלאנס. produces דבני משור, קבודוס הישטלס, הישטילים בוív producers. flawless, his children are running around turning over to place. He doesn't care about his children and they grow up to be. חושב יין גלת. They have a father שמסינג במדבניג the whole time and he keeps on pushing his son נו דבן. And that child doesn't doubt, why? Cause basically what he does he looks at his father and he follows what his father is saying. נאפ פי פייסט, נאפ טאטת דבנט, על יחור דבנט. טאטת דבנט, נאפ אין יחור, נאפ מיקן אש שטיפם, מנישן אוקט, נוע, נוע, נוע. So that's not the point. The point is, be a good role model, show your innocence and honesty what you mean and what you want and it has eventually an effect on the children. אינסטינג מי פאדה, בי מי פאדה סלוואיי, היז ברודו, היז ברודו סד, That I asked, משעמייר, היז ברודו משעמייר, How you was looking to good children? To good children? It wasn't me, me. He meant others. He wouldn't be here if he wouldn't mean you. So how he was looking to good children? He said, I didn't ruin it for them. Having good children means you're a good role model, you do the right thing, you follow the rules, you follow the aluchas, you're honest and the kids automatically follow. Sometimes you'll have episodes, you have to push a little, you just touch up, say something, sometimes you don't push. It's normal, but to push and push and push when you're not up to it, it's a waste of time. Which talking about pushing, which leads me to another question, we expect today very, very much from our young children, from our children, from our teenage, mainly boys, also girls. The program is packed from seven in the morning till ten o'clock at night. Is this a little bit too much to expect? Is this justified or this is the way to compress into the day more and more and more and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more, and more. Goes to school, we're tired. It's a very good question and I'm sure there are people that have different opinions but the fact is shown when a child is busy, a child goes to school and she goes to school and she's busy with the program the whole day. She comes to home, she has homework, so she's tired and she has some time for her friends and talking to phone and just spent some time to calm down. עשי של asphalt- emergence and to have it easy. That's fine, but mainly they have to be busy. They shouldn't have time to do much on it. So I guess I門ן 갑자기, I don't know what they do and what they expect from their from the yeshiv. I don't always have the chance and opportunity to have in the Let's talk talk class podcast the roof. As a guest, so I wanted to just discuss a little like what's the roof בפני, טיפורל רוב, אולטה הים, רוב, רוגי קרדאוגן, גלנטה גארצן טוג, גפאסטן צ'ארלס, but I think and I assumed being a roof today is slightly different. So the answer to that, I differ. I must say, it's not different. מזגתך נוחה זר פשימה סייפה, הגוון רוב וקרוקה. How did you become a roof and crocker? That's how the roof pushed. That's how the roof pushed and became a roof. After he became the roof and crocker was a big, was a big stellar. There was a lot of competition. There's a lot of people up for grabs, up for the votes. And that's how the roof pushed it and he made it. After he became a roof he decided he's going to come to town and thank the town's roof for it. So the town's roof said the same thing. תמיד החכומים, there were bigger תמיד החכומים than you that could have gotten the job. The reason I pushed you in, בוקר זוקת ערוף, דב זם, אבי, סיימם ודיאלון מונס. ערוף's job is to take care of the kehle. Take care of the people, take care of the people of the town. That's the tough kid of a roof. A roof is to be warm, to be accepting, וזוקת ערוף היכדום החל לשם, קדיש השם. קדיש השם means that when a person says, wow, he's such a person, I want to be like him. When a roof is warm and caring, everybody says I want to be like him. So this is the tough kid of a roof. A roof is to make people love Toyota because they see, look what Toyota did to a person. And you can be a giving person, you can help out other people. Just as a tough kid for a roof. A past kid of a child. Sure, sure, but in any given time, today in the past, the roof is more busy with helping families than past kid of a child. Today, I don't know about the past, but today for sure, I see the wound get wide beds too quickly. Too early. It's nice from learning to past kid of a child. Although, wow, there is something we need to hear and look at the people who have such a problem who know the 5th Shilchanur as they say and they connect to them and they're there for them when they need them. We shouldn't need too many services, but it's very important. But I'm sure the roof has often situations that not such simple moments that people come and ask, now they come and ask about taking a flash Sometimes people come with very heavy, burdensome, emotional and complicated shawls. On one hand, a roof can say, no, 9, usa. On the other hand, there is this possibility to craft and create an answer to say a yes to something a little difficult borderline, but maybe what's easier to say a big no and get finished with the problem or to say or to work hard and create a yes and admit to achieve something much bigger. So the answer is no, you can't do it. Why do you want to do it? You can't do it, you can't do it. To make sure that you help out a person and if there is a problem, why should you say you can't do it? You can't find it yourself, if it's a shware shale, why don't you get other a bone and a lov to see how you can be mattered? I have to tell you this story. Had a yeed that he had a shidduch from Florida for himself, there was a second marriage and he wanted to marry this woman. This woman didn't have a get yet from the husband and the husband was in jail. There was no way to get a get from the husband. Besides the husband was angry at her and he wasn't going to give her a get and basically we had to make sure that this couple gets married. Somehow. For every reason. So we started looking into it, got some rebune moved out and I called the Chabad rabbi that did the shidduch edition the first time, did a lot of research until I got the husband's mother on the phone. She lived in a state somewhere out in the somewhere. And I was talking to her and I was saying, no tell me about you. Yiddish kite, you're not talking about חיוקת, פחיוקת, חסיד שיד, and she talks about that we were traditional and she says I'm not Jewish. It's my husband that was Jewish and because he was Jewish so we kept at home certain traditions. When she said that the answer was there. In English they say bingo. They don't need a get. They don't need a get. I called husband and wife they were on the floor at that time. Let's fly over. Let's do al-Qasinah. Broderment to school. Prepared music. Prepared tanghidin. We did a khepa. And with that khepa I was in the saddick edition. Zegs, bruches, xyberleinen, everything. Everything. I took one side of him. My wife took the side of her. I took one side of him. My wife took the side of her. After the khepa we danced a little. And they lived happily ever after. The extra effort made someone live a condition of a tahr. Made something happen that was impossible. This is the tough kid. The tough kid is always to try to see if we wouldn't find a way for him this way. We'll probably get to jail and get a get from him. We'll figure it out. But this is our tough kid. To get the hardest things to make sure that it's done right and then help the person. Go the extra mile. Go the extra mile and help him achieve what he wants to achieve. A combination of two answers this story and what you've said before about being a VSM with Dynal Mooners I'm sorry I'm going to touch something a little personal and a little emotional. And if it feels too I'm pushing too hard I'll back off. But I remember unfortunately the very very sad day when the Roofs of Robertson passed away and I went to the lovi. And besides crying for the 8th sim loss to see such a young hushable lady passing away leaving the world I was baffled by I was mama's emotion. I feel like crying now on the air that how the Roofs by the Hesper was able to focus and concentrate and have the poise and the clarity by the Hesper to talk about the Robertson than if there is to talk about the Roofs own situation and feelings and loss to talk to the children to talk to them to talk to the men to acknowledge and give thank you to the ladies who helped the Robertson to all her projects or Mitsy projects the Roofs stood like a CEO and covered as if you would have a list a checklist to cover every angle of the situation and my question is how does the person have the koichas and the mindset by seeing the Ababa laying in the box with the knowledge and I'm sorry I'm so graphic but I still feel like crying now how the Roofs spoke so eloquently and so detailed about every part for me not many koichas I'm sorry if if I see a deep breath but it's not a smile, not a laughing question the answer is very push it basically you do what you have to do when it comes to such a situation part of the process is to make sure by the way the youth side is now a week from tomorrow when you my tough kid as a husband is to make sure she's put away the highest level of dignity the highest level of dignity is when you bring out who she was what she was to whom she was you make sure you don't forget a detail I was worried that I will forget a detail so I sat down before I locked myself in a room and I wrote my details I made sure I didn't forget any detail it wasn't easy but I think the best honor you can give a wife is to make sure she's recognized for what she was and I think I did that I think I packed her away with a lot of honor, a lot of dignity and that's why I remember everybody and everything that she was involved in and everybody that lost and everybody the loss of everybody and the feelings of everybody wow well I think if I think if let's talk Tachlis was established only to hear this answer in how a person should use his and decisions and resolve to do what's right I think for this alone it was worth opening this whole project I will very very moving I can't cry by nature can't you can hit me and do whatever you want you can shame me the only time in my life I cried was worth it otherwise I can't but the heart is big can I say something I heard about the roof something maybe too personal I was at the same a few weeks ago and the roof's name came up in the conversation so the person told me he decided this is a topic of monstry everyone knows that so I'm saying I'm sure it's a matter of opinion but I'm sure the roof is crying enough in the heart if the roof is not crying in the eyes the roof is crying enough in the heart wow okay let's switch to something much happier much more current and relevant I mean much more conversational I know that the roof was selected to be the more there of this next very very big undertaking in the Yiddish world this very big project of someone who is going to build and develop over a thousand homes for the Yiddish oil in how's that? Chikowi? Chikowi I know I'm gonna fail over here Chikowi Florida I was very very impressed that the roof was actually selected to be the leader and the and the person in charge of the Tachlis and the toilets talking about Tachlis, this place all about Tachlis and I think if and when this will work out in a couple of years from now this is gonna be one of the biggest Yiddish inventions in the past 20-30 years in the Yiddish housing market it can be a very big help for so many parents so many couples to have a little different style of life a quieter life and a quality life and it's very very impressive for me to hear who was selected to be in charge so I wanna talk a little bit about this project and maybe the first question should be why does the roof thing you were selected to do it? That's a good question No, I didn't and I think maybe you should go ask them I don't know I think I don't know the answer I don't know this is a long time there was a lot of talks going back and for first it was an idea about elsewhere so they were saying that maybe I'll come there but I didn't see that's gonna work out but it was a conversation but this came up I thought this was a very good idea because it's something that calls for needs but it's very well structured extremely well structured good people behind solid honest lawyers accountants and saluting a lot that have the money the money is secured I felt extremely secure with this project and they gave me the authority and they were behind me they asked me every question every child absolutely I don't but my tough kid is gonna be to hire the professionals in every detail so it's gonna come to cashers we have over 100,000 square feet of supermarkets and stores and the restaurants I'll be there ever much but I'm bringing in a meme in cashers that's also moving there and he's gonna be the cashers then we'll have a meme coming for Airef we'll have a meme coming for McFuess everything is gonna be that's my job to bring in that meme and make sure that it's maintained well kept and it's done right it's the same thing it's not like I'm the biggest meme but we're hiring in the school we have a lady her name is Mrs. Ilze she's known that she runs a lot of schools we have a lot of schools we have a lot of schools we have a lot of schools we have a lot of schools everything is brought in the right people to make sure that it's a very well established obviously they know now I'm starting to get the answer Dhruv didn't want to give me the answer but I'm figuring out myself why Dhruv was selected so really you can tell registering what's happening a little bit so it is advancing very much shockingly as of today it only launched like right before I think it's the PM time and by now we have over 600 applications like serious with the passers-by and a lot of them with the passers-by a lot of them have an issue with coughing up the money but commitments and eventually you have to give the deposits I don't think there's ever I go somewhere I went to Yesrechno-Safeteira a few people came over and said I'm coming I made Hassaner by the Hassaner wherever I go can you leave for me one house please there so this is a very strong demand and people are coming and now we're discussing about a big pillar coming in and we're coming in with 200 families there's all kinds there's Rakhmastrifke there's all kinds and I tell everybody it's not ultra and it's not it's not like cool it's not light it's a normal settled the rover has a good experience and it was made with the killer not and not light solid normal friendly normal this is my use of it's gonna be a mochleukis free I don't know if it's possible but now it's just absolutely there was no way that has to be any mochleukis we make sure that there will be a lot of rabbunim a lot of stiblich we have a lot of bavad rabbunim we have diunim coming we have magachirim coming we have Babatim coming Rakhmababatim Pushtababatim very very very honest very very normal and in the field things are things are happening things are advancing I don't expect the houses to be built ready I know it takes a long time infrastructure and everything and approvals and stuff but things are advancing people are working there things are advancing the infrastructure the roads are coming in in two months financials are secured there is money in the bank to build the first phase first phase is 300 houses and then the second phase so it's not gonna be a big difference in the first phase and second phase but it's gonna go one after the other they can build around 30 houses a month that's how they set up which means in three years they can probably finish the whole project the goal is that summer new school year of Toshin Paidalit that we should be able to move in and the rule is that you can move in single family it has to move in between 150 and 300 families at a time because that way we can open the Moses and we have full classes a lot of thought went into this it's not an overnight story it is amazing I want to point out that I did a little homework before our interview I saw a clip of how the OOV is explaining how the registration process works so the OOV is talking about that you need the names, the name of the children the occupation of the father and the mother few more general questions and the OOV is taking the time to explain why we need every part of the application now usually when I fill up application to go to Haider school or to get a job I don't get a chance to ask the people why do you need all these questions they tell me you want the job, you want the slot answer these questions if not thank you have a good day and I see the OOV talking the mother to explain that we want to know what people are doing because in case we can benefit and we can assign them certain jobs we want to know how many children what age is because we want to make sure the moises are all lined up and accommodating everyone we want to know what the mother is doing maybe she needs help we want to know what the financial situation people are maybe they can contribute or maybe they can get help and I was waiting for them and the OOV should trip and say we also want to know if you fit but I lost the battle the OOV one it's really amazing how pure and tactless and honest the goal is and I can't believe how the OOV is really not not making any conditions as long as someone is fine and loyal and has a decent interest in living their usual life how how do you have the courage and the broad mindset to so serious about the goal and not trip as I said we decide typical questions that most shevers and moises and careless are asking people it's a very very good question it's a very fine line tell you which one I'll answer that question it's not my tough kid to make a selection is the tough kid of the person putting in an application to decide if he belongs here wow the message that we put out wasn't that we don't want you the message that we put out was a clear statement who we are now you decide if you should come if you don't come so you start presenting the positive we stay positive and you hope to attract you know you know and it called everybody called everybody called everybody everybody came and said so what time a person comes in and says so I'm a tough kid so I'm a tough kid so let's be a message so the other person said you be a message I need to say is if you put out a message who you are then everybody can come if you feel that you will I had somebody to call me yesterday he's a achiever kind of family he considered himself but his children and his wife nobody knows yet I said listen you have to make a decision if you want to come I didn't say you don't belong here you have to make this is going to make you just speaking Moisés you just speaking Kehle you decide if you can just remember it might be a culture shock for your kids decide I wasn't going to tell him don't come that's not my job he jumps to accommodate and to make comfortable the people who decide to come who saw what the Kehl is going to be all about and they decided to come so let's work them up wow amazing I wish you have much more time I know you have to go soon back to Monsi to run maybe the roof can give us a nice concluding message and to have the audience let's talk to Achles take away something from this amazing warm and personal interview so it's also like the beginning it's so broad in the toilet but we're about to do Kabul satire and the biggest part is the biggest part of Kabul satire means that we accept the ways of the toilet and what Hashem wants us what we should see in the toilet in today's days such an open world and truthfully the open world is much more exciting much more tempting than the toilet sadly that's what it is so you know it's more fun there's more light blinking there's more something that pulls you in at the end what do you have when you hold out two hands and you say okay which hand do I have the quarter which hand do you have the quarter and then everybody starts guessing and then he shows it's empty that's the same as that he pulls you in we get so pulled in and when we start believing that this is the truth and this is who we are and this is what we should be we should accept the toilet accept the toilet follow the instructions that's what we know I can't do anything this is the toilet you can't say but I saw on instagram that somebody wrote that you might not sorry so the same thing is if you pull to that direction you'll stay empty handed if you pull to that direction you'll benefit and not only benefit your children will see you and see you how sincere you are how normal you are you're not into nonsense and garbage you will have anachas wow you're all the amazing I want to really thank you for doing the big effort I want to make a small revelation that I know the rule of Bochashan for almost 40 years and we had a chevris 2++ yes look what became out of the roof look what came out of me but your keeper is coming in a few months it's also a matter of opinion ok thank you so much I really appreciate you being and let's talk to Achles