 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel? I am Lloyd. I am not the single guy But I have a very important question that I'm going to answer right now, so let's get to it the guy writes Hey, Lloyd. I have a question for you. I have an answer for you I've been using dating apps a lot and most of the women I message are not responding I get left on red very frequently I know part of this is a numbers game But whenever I get left on red, I feel really down and feel like giving up. How can I deal with this? So this is a great question just because I get it a lot, you know If you're a guy, if you're a person, if you're a living being who has a phone You're probably gonna get left on red at some point and it's okay. It's not a big deal In the grand scheme of things somebody not responding to you or you know, somebody just not replying back It doesn't have to be responding. Sometimes people say they get left on red and they don't even ask a question You know It's not that big of a deal. It's more your interpretation of it So I'm gonna give you a few things man I'm gonna give you number one the mindset shift that you need to have to get over this because literally your ability to deal with Discomfort rejection to deal with things not going exactly your way will determine your success and not just dating but in life So dealing with this is gonna be incredibly important for you And the next thing is I'm gonna give you some you guys some quick tips on what I generally think Happens when guys aren't getting or they're getting left on red a lot. Okay, so we'll cover the quick tips first And then I'll give you the mindset shift, which is really the more important thing after that So some quick tips. All right, if you're getting left on red a lot, especially well If you're using dating apps, you're gonna get left on red. Even if you do everything, correct People are, you know, very fickle. So that's just going to happen But in general a few things that I've seen guys do that make it more likely that they get left on red Is they send large blocks of text large blocks of text, you know, the girls reading it And she's like, oh, okay, I'm gonna have to write all this in response. Otherwise, I'm gonna look mean So then she waits a long time to do it and then she just never gets around to it Okay, so I would make sure I would recommend that you break up your text into smaller sentences and try and keep it a little shorter and You know that that generally does help The other thing too is that a lot of times guys respond or the really boring You like things to respond with like things that are not going to help them Actually make progress with this person or they're not they're not interesting They're not exciting and again if you're on a dating app, but she's gotten like messages from like six or seven other guys And you're just giving her like bland generic like I'm not even gonna say small talk But like you're giving her just like yes or no answers. There's no substance to it There's no excitement then you're probably going to that's what you're gonna get, you know Every now and then try and mix it up. You like hey random question. Are you a gymnast or like you'll never guess what happened to me You know little things like that can add a little bit of flavor to it and make it more likely That she's gonna respond and not leave you on red But if it's a long if it's boring if it has no substance to it There's nothing interesting behind it, then you're probably gonna get left on red a little more Okay, those are small tips, but in general I would say even if you do everything right you're still it's still gonna happen To you so what do you do in these circumstances? Okay? The first thing is that you don't beat yourself up The second thing is that you realize that getting left on red does not necessarily mean it's a rejection. I Know that's crazy to say a lot of people think but if she liked you she would definitely get back with you Dude, you should see my phone, bro Like I'm busy all the time and so sometimes if girl that I really like messages me and I look at him like Okay, I'll get back to her and then I forget happens all the fucking time can't tell you how often it happens. All right That's why sometimes, you know, I'll if a girl does it to me I'm not too much you bothered by it, you know, not too bothered by it You have to cultivate the same mentality, bro Right now you're in a position where you think naturally you think as you are Women are just not gonna like you. That's why when they do nothing You think they think the same thing about you think they think you're worthless You think they think you're a loser or you're ugly. You're not attractive, but they don't like you That's not the case Or maybe it might be the case in very weird circumstances But I know women and I've seen this happen time and time again and usually it's not that usually it's like Yeah, maybe they found another guy a little bit more attractive than you Maybe it just wasn't enough for you typically with a dating app Typically with dating women need something a little bit more than just four pictures from you just four pictures You know, that's a lot of times all they have to determine who you are and where you're coming from And what kind of guy you are and because of that they don't think that that's enough of a reason to text you and that's okay Just because they don't know you well enough doesn't mean that you're going to that that's who you are as a person Okay, stop thinking about yourself as like oh my attractiveness is literally Determined whether this person responds to me or not not true Not true My guess is bro You need something in your life that you can feel good about that you can feel important about maybe it's an activity Maybe it's a sport. Maybe it's your career if you do well in that if you're moving forward in your life You're probably gonna build more confidence in that and you know deep down inside You're an awesome guy and that way no matter what any girl does to you whether she leaves you on red or not You're still you're still an awesome guy and it wouldn't bother you as much Okay, so if that's the case I would recommend that you find something in your life to get yourself more fulfilled And you might not know what it is yet But just going out and doing things helps the other thing too And that's the last thing that I will leave you guys with is Even if you do see it as a rejection even if you asked her a question like hey, are you free Friday question mark? And she doesn't answer You think how could that be anything but a rejection? It might be a rejection Okay, she might not be interested. In fact, it's probably likely that she isn't interested that doesn't mean it's over That doesn't mean it's an outright rejection I know this because I've had women do this to me tons of times I ran into them at a bar later or I don't know some time in the future and then we hooked up And then we got together. I've had this happen so many times to me, bro That I know if even if I like send a message and she ignores it Like there's still a pretty good chance that she might be into me Maybe she's busy or maybe her ex-boyfriend came back in the picture or I don't know I mean she maybe she had a bad mood that day that happens all the time with women So I don't judge myself based on it. I assume the attraction I keep doing whatever it is I was gonna do for it and I don't let it affect me because I know that if I let these little things affect me It's going to affect my life. It's gonna affect my overall Experience as a man and as a result, I'm not gonna be as successful in my dating and professional life Hopefully some of these things that I've told you will make it easier for you the next time you get left on red Okay, my other My other a little quick tip too is you can be texting multiple women at the same time that way One of one of them leaves you on red. It's not that big of a deal But if you find yourself getting left on red by all of them Well, it might be time to get some personal help or some coaching or something like that and figure that out But with this video, you should be able to have a mentality to deal with it yourself So thanks a lot you guys if you made it and consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week if you're interested in getting coached by me personally There's a link in the description box below. Thanks a lot y'all. Good luck out there