 This single Asian-American man is wondering why he mostly only matches with Asian-born women on the dating apps Even though he's born in America. Let's talk about why the unexplainable quandaries of Asian-American life Especially for Chinese Americans. Let's get into it. Um, he says he's a 28 year old male. He lives in the Bay Area He's Chinese-American, but he's only matching with girls that were born in China Hong Kong Singapore Taiwan on the apps And he basically was like, why is that? I don't get it. I'm Asian-American. I'm born in America I feel like I'm pretty American. How come I'm only matching with fob chicks? Oh, man How much self-awareness can you lack my friend? Oh my goodness Hopefully you watch this video and hopefully it's insightful or helpful at all. Listen guys Check out smile I saws at smile I saws.com. It is available for pre-order We sold out the first batch the big next batch is coming in Andrew let me start off by this book reading an excerpt from a book by Lois Lerner Andrew This is a book you can check it out in Amazon right now called Asians don't date Rita Gao and Kai Chung are out across world roads as Asian Americans They've dated their social engineered lanes. Kai only dates Asian women from Asia and Rita only dates white men And this is an actual book that is written about social engineered lanes So yeah, I guess what I'm trying to say is it's pretty common for Asian-American guys to date fob girls It's not as common for Asian-American girls to date fob guys I know a couple Korean girls who did it but outside of that. I almost never seen it. Okay, so I guess my Questions for this guy making this post because he doesn't post any pictures of himself. He didn't post his Tinder hinge or coffee means bagel profile. He didn't he didn't show us what he looks like and what he's writing But I can tell you this that especially in the Bay Area if you are only matching with Asian-born women That is because you appear to be Asian-born now That's not necessarily a bad thing if you're one of the stylish type But you have to understand and look at yourself if you have the black rim glasses I don't know how he looks you talk about the square joints. Yeah, but if you don't even have one of the American or stylish haircuts like a two-block cut a faux-hawk a pompadour a man bun a hard part or the messy French crop And you're an Asian guy you pretty much Probably appear like a I'm guessing an Asian-born computer programmer Which is nothing there's nothing wrong with that, but you just have to understand you're not gonna get the mass pool You're not gonna attract a lot of Asian-American women that or he could be more in the church lane Like there's sort of this like church Asian guy look that appeals more to Fob women and also it depends on what type of fob women is he even matching with like the hyper stylish ones with tattoos Which are starting to like becoming I'm guessing not I'm guessing not right right right um people go on to break it down And would you agree that coffee meets bagel is more for people who want to get married though? Yes So here's the thing about coffee meets bagel shout out to coffee meets bagel by the way It is more for serious daters and people who are looking to actually date and not just for fun But with that said I think the slightly more wholesome branding and the wholesome crowd means that there is gonna be more Traditional women on that app so therefore there are more Asian-born women and women from like even other countries who are more Looking for a relationship not just to have fun Right there. I'm Derek. I'm looking to marry eventually you take me serious Yeah, obviously the other apps are a little bit more American eyes, but I'm saying clearly this guy's profile doesn't sound like a fun I'm just trying to I'm a cool guy trying to have fun And you know what the weird thing is a lot of ABC guys and particularly as the Chinese American guy thing because I think they lack The most bro coaching out of to be honest every single Asian group on an aggregate average medium basis Sometimes they will like want ABG Asian-American girls But not look anything close to like what the realm of a ABG or even a ABG s girl likes Yeah, listen, there's nothing wrong with fob women man. I will tell you this my My first girlfriend in LA was a fob and we met in the most fobbyist manner She was a fob from China from Dung Bay. Yeah from Dung Bay. She was from Liaoning and we met on we chat I was on we chat at the time and we ended up connecting and she was very pretty good Looking she had she liked to have fun. She her English was heavily accented You know, I learned a little bit of Chinese through her but mostly we spoke English because she was trying to work on our English at the time and Yeah, that was my first real fobby girlfriend and there was nothing wrong with her I think for me there was a slight cultural riff because I think she was a little bit Too fresh, you know what I mean like she didn't like go to college in America and stuff like that But anyways guys what I'm trying to say is if you're only attracting fob women There's nothing wrong with that. Yes, but you just have to know why you are so don't lack some self-awareness There's nothing wrong with having your dating photos be at omakase be at hot a nice hot pot restaurant KBBQ nice Thai restaurants But you have to understand that is more catering to women from Asia because women from Asia typically spend more Higher distribution pie slice of their time at those type of spots. Yeah Like if you're trying to attract Asian-American women or Americanized women of any sort you'd have to show yourself in more like American context like you with non-Asian friends Or you doing something that's very American you at a bar like not just at Asian restaurants doing super Asian things even though maybe that's what you like to do Yeah, I think that you know, obviously we talk about both sides of it a lot on this channel Like maybe do Asian women give Asian guys the most chances in the world before they jump to a white guys Probably not but do Asian guys also understand the game in the IQ of the gameplay and the play action and the schematics enough Probably not for sure to dude I know a lot of Asian dudes and I've seen a lot of these profiles of Asian guys That I will tell you this a lot of Asian dudes out there Just do not have self-awareness and do not understand how they're being perceived Chinese guys Especially Chinese guys, but you got to keep it real with yourself and get some real feedback Somebody said lots of Chinese born women see ABCs as higher status notice. I didn't say all but it's definitely a thing Here's what I noticed the really rich super hot for dye girls, which are like the super I'm talking about like millions millions super millionaires talking about the rich Beautiful Xiaohong Shu little red book stylish They're looking for usually the guy equivalent, but yeah, you're right There's more like it depends if they went to international school American school Canadian school half English school There's like bilingual schools now that are not politically affiliated. You have to understand that whole breakdown But I will say this sometimes fob women view Asian American guys like we're hoppas the way like an Asian American guy views a hoppa That's how they view us give spotted a few extra points Somebody said I feel like it's a girl not from the US is an upgrade to a lot of Asian American females because at least they're Proud of being Asian Yeah, that's another comment I mean, I think it's it's a mix and match but that certainly could be true Somebody said the dating apps are just overrated in general nowadays and there was a bunch of arguing over that Of course, here's the thing man If you can figure out how to have leverage on the apps and you can deal with the ghosting It's still better because it's still widening your pool way beyond who you can meet on a regular day-to-day basis, right? So exactly I agree Of course, um people, you know talking about cmb getting married like you said Andrew people are talking about Let me see your profile because how your profile looks will lean you into one direction or another because this other guy was saying Man, I'm really free spirited in my profile. I got a lot of photos outdoor I got long hair and I attract a lot of white women Exactly see you look like a free spirited spiritual free I don't even know like uh like a healer like a Outdoorsy guy dude dude non-Asian particularly white women love outdoorsy-ness Yeah, or America looks yeah, Asian-American women like to see you in the outdoors too. Yeah. Anyway guys, I will say this I think that it is stupid for any Asian-American guy, especially if you're a little bit more on the traditional side to not date fob women that is Unbelievable because I would say also that fob women nowadays. They look a lot better too or like the Like just the image is a lot different than 10 20 years ago. Yeah, I can't believe this guy is complaining, man What a fool man. Honestly, I need to see his profile, but Just this guy lacks so much self-awareness No, because he could be a nerd that wants Asian-American abg's But they don't want anything to do with him or he might want what those white wash asian girls in the white sorority They don't want him dude fob go with asian girls. They like asian food. They like asian history. They like asian music and stuff Yeah, fob women can be great man. They're like more in tune with the culture They're generally I guess they embody a little bit more like traditional values They can go to 88 prizes and concerts together. Yeah, they appreciate like the asian man even probably on a higher percentage basis, but anyways guys, uh, listen This guy clearly is uh having dating issues and he can't understand why and that's too bad But hopefully this video helped and hopefully this helped anybody out there who's wondering the same question Yeah, let us know what you guys think of the comment section below until next time. We're the hop hop boys. We out. Peace