 You're still watching Waze. The International Day commemorating the victims of acts of violence based on religion or belief is observed on 22 August every year. It was proclaimed by the United Nations General Assembly in 2011 following the adoption of a resolution that called for a day to be dedicated to the victims of such acts. The day is an opportunity to remember and honor the victims of violence based on religion or belief and to reaffirm the commitment to protecting the right to freedom of religion or belief. It is also a time to raise awareness of the issue and to call for action to prevent such violence from happening again. Guys, what do you think? Yeah, I think religion is very individualistic and it is a human right. People should be allowed to practice whatever religion they want to. As long as it is not in danger in other people, I have the right to whatever spiritual beliefs that I want to adhere to. I know we've had some cases here in Nigeria where some people were lynched or burnt to death or even beaten. Like the Al of Fort. Yeah, so things like that, especially when it comes to your religion, we know some of these religions that they feel like you can't see certain things and because you have blasphemed, they took the law into their own hands. And in situations like that, it just, it appalls me because I'm like, wait, is this what your creator has taught you to do? You just decide, you know what, you said something, I'm not comfortable with it. I don't like it. It doesn't align with my religion. Then I'm going to beat you up and file on you. Right? And having those kind of situations here in Nigeria, I feel like the government needs to start doing something. Absolutely. Because most times what I see is them putting out a statement on Twitter saying, oh, we don't condone this behavior. You don't condone it. But somebody needs to get arrested. Absolutely. Right? Somebody needs to face the law for what they have done. Use somebody as a scapegoat so that other people would stop doing, to stop doing that. But Isis joining us. Hi Isis. Can you hear us? Hi Jennifer. Hello ladies. Hi. How are you? Good to see you. Well thank you. And yes, well done. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. So before we jump into what our news is for today, Isis, how's your day been? We don't want to know. Like Noma always says, we don't look like what we've been doing, honestly. It's been a long one for me to be kind of just, you know, ready to, you know, roll with the waste ladies. And it's good to be back. I enjoyed the teen hangout with us last week. Yeah, we all did. We all did. Well, it's good to have you. And I love that you're smiling. So keep it up. Well, let's start with you. What did you find for us in the news? My news isn't so good. However, it's something that we need to know. I actually chose this top, chose this news because it resonated with me due to the fact that we need to hold our youth accountable. And the headline is, My father's murder pushed me into crime, says a suspect. And his name is Abdulayah Damu, who is a motorcycle rider. He said that he became involved in kidnapping following the tragic murder of his father by Amrubis. Now, I know that this is really sad, is something that has happened. And my condolences to him that he lost his father through such a tragic incident. However, we need to also hold us the youth accountable. The story, I'm taking the story based on the fact that I'm looking at it from the humanistic point of view, where we need to understand that we have choices, choices, determine what we, the steps we take. And if we, if we decide to, you know, do what is right, we all know what is right, we all know what we're supposed to do. The fact that he lost his father through such a tragic incident didn't mean that he should go around and hurting others as well. So it's something that we also need to, you know, put into perspective as youth of Nigeria, that we need to step up and make the right decisions to suit what is expected of us as humans, not as citizens, but as humans. Now, in terms of education, I am looking at it from the perspective of the fact that the education sector needs to put more attention into skills acquisition. We always have this concept of individuals being functional, because that's the whole essence of having an education, being a functional individual in the society. I'm sure that if he had had some sort of skill set in one way or the other, he would have been able to, you know, survive the terrain he has found himself in, in Nigeria, because, you know, living in Nigeria is hard. You know, you can't take it from us. It's hard. So you need to have some basic skill set to survive. It's not just about you going to school, but you should have some skill set. You can be a technical person. You can be a mechanic. You can be anything so long as it puts food on your table. And again, we need to understand that hard work and smart work also pays. So it's important that we as the youth of Nigeria need to take this into perspective. Our choices should be the right one. We all know what is right. We should try to abstain from the wrong and stick to the positives and other negatives. Thank you. That's a really sad story. At some point in our lives, we need to start holding ourselves accountable. We need to stop using something as it's useful for bad behaviour. Sanzee, what did you find for us? All right. So in alignment with what today is, which is international violence awareness, they and all that. So I picked up the story about the Chibot girl that was abducted back in 2014. So she's one of the batch that was rescued sometime in August, August 14. That's this month. And so here is the interesting thing about this rescue. She says, I am still in love with my Boko Haram husband. So she was abducted about the time she was, let's say 16. She got married, had two kids, both of them died out of malnutrition. And now she has been rescued. But then she's also crying out saying that she misses her husband and her husband, who is Adamu, he surrendered earlier in the year. So she's like, if she had her way, she would want to go back to him. So now the question is, I'm not sure, there is a pattern that we are starting to see, but I think most people that started are ignoring it or like people who can act on it, are ignoring it. And the thing is the bonding between a victim and a captive. So like there's this trauma bonding that you feel that, oh, now they give me food, they give me everything I want. And so that makes exactly, so that makes them my ally right now. I think we really need to look into that mental awareness or mental health. Yeah, because it's, I mean, but also looking at the other hand, we also see that somebody can be deemed bad, but then they can also be good to another person. So it's kind of a dicey place. I don't know what's going on in her head right now, but I feel like she needs therapy to understand if that is a victim mentality or if she really loves this guy. Because I mean, I don't know, it's a dicey place. Stockholm Syndrome is a thing. And it plays out, it plays out in different ways. Absolutely. Because it's all women that are in marriages and their husbands are abusers or men that their wives are abusers. And they stay for a certain reason. Sometimes you try to get them out, they come out and it's like, oh, I really want to go back. It's actually Stockholm Syndrome, where you think you've invested a lot of time here. It's not just investment, you think you are in love with your abuser. You feel like they are your protector. And sometimes even when the abuse is still ongoing, you feel like they are doing it out of love. I also think that sometimes it is because you see it when the human brain and the mind is the way it works. Sometimes when you are in a situation, it tries to protect you. So your brain is telling you, you're isolated from everything else. It's almost like this person is focused on you. He's married to you. He comes home to you. There is no other person you're talking to. This is the one person you're bonding with. After a while, your brain begins to tell you something different. And it's almost like a fine line. I honestly, I agree with you. I mean, there's a lot of therapy that needs to be done, you know? Yeah, sorry. I mean, I know we need to move on to the next story, but I kind of had a thought right now. Do you think this is what we experience in Nigerian politics? Well, we obviously know someone is bad. But because the person, hold on, but because the person has been good to maybe a family member or a friend, the friend comes out telling everybody that, oh, he's been kind to me. So that makes him good versus the entire millions of people who know this person is bad. Isn't that Stockholm Syndrome in Nigeria? Yeah. You can tell the difference between being having a bond with someone or whether you are in bondage with that person. So there is a difference. You can't really tell. Yeah. Yeah. It's messed up. It's messed up. Yeah, general, what about you? Okay. So this one is Nigerian students facing hardship in Northern Cyprus. It's a really, I don't even know what to make of this. So apparently, this global non-governmental organization executive committee revealed that Nigerian students in Turkish Republic of Northern Cyprus, they have issues with the CBN money transfer policy. And a lot of them have not been able to pay their fees. They've not been able to pay their rent. Of course, when a lot of them are probably minors, especially those freshmen or people just doing undergrad or people getting money from Nigeria. So when there are folks from here sending money to them, it doesn't get to them on time. The universities are complaining because their system is not like here. There's nobody for you to go and beg. So it's led to a whole lot of them feeling abandoned, feeling homeless, being homeless. Because you also have to understand that in some of these countries as students, you are unable to work. So of course, if you can't pay your rent, you would probably have to leave your house and then you can sit for exams. So again, this is rather sad because I can imagine how much it would have taken them to go all the way. So that kind of place to go school just because they want a better life for themselves. And the problem is not that there are no funds for them to pay. The problem is the funds are not getting to them on time because there is some policy in place dealing with remittances from out of Nigeria. So it's almost like, okay, so is there, I don't know if this is out of place, but it would be really nice for the APEX financial institution in Nigeria to look into this matter. I mean, it takes a whole lot to take a child out of the country to say, okay, you don't want to go study abroad. And then some of the reasons why these students go is because you don't want to do five years for a three year course. So that's still going to happen to them if they go abroad. And then if they keep having this kind of issue, because it means that you'll probably have to defer your admission until you're able to pay, make up, and so it almost feels like a mess. But I'm hoping, I mean, this report says that they have reached out to the government and they're hoping that the government can wade in and then, you know, foster a much more, you know, a much more open relationship with the country and then address this issue for the students. I'm really hoping so for their sake. We're hopeful, Nigeria's hopeful. Anyway, so for me, my news is, so in Nigeria, there's a survey that was carried out when we said in Nigeria that they have reasons why husbands beats their wives. So the report shows that 40.98% of adults in the northeast agree to beating in their marriages. Now, out of these 40.98, 23.17% are women who support beatings from their husbands for the five reasons which, which they mentioned. I'm just going to rush quickly, list out these reasons. You have burning the food. So when you burn food, that means you're entitled to beat it. When you argue with your husband, when you go out without telling him, when you neglect the children, and also when you refuse how sexual intercourse with your husband. That's the craziest list ever, like in the list of lists. That's the craziest list. Like, again, culture plays a very key. Culture, you see, you cannot, you cannot give what you don't have. You're a product of conditioning. You're a product of narratives. And unfortunately, if you do not know better, you think that is the right way. This is what some of these, they've seen their mothers, their grandmothers go through it. So they assume this is the natural thing. So if you go talking to them and say, this is downright crazy, they're going to look at you like you're the crazy person. Like, what are you saying? Oh, these are the women that don't sleep in husband's houses. That's the next thing you're going to hear. Again, in the West here, outside of even education, that you would even think, oh, you know, people are quite exposed in this part of Nigeria, you will still be surprised that some people still believe that it is okay to have physical violence in the homes, like suffer this kind of violence. They'll tell you, if my husband is talking, I'm not supposed to be talking. Like my husband has the, he owns me, the minute he married me, he owns me. So he has the right to beat me. In fact, there is a weird one I saw recently that a woman that a husband does not beat, the husband doesn't love. No, that's crazy. Because you see things like this, we often ask women, or we often ask, why is it that we have more women who are single these days? And the truth is, most women are becoming aware. There is international girls there and all that. So there is a lot of empowerment and, and you can't empower someone for them to fall back to this harrowing traditional beliefs or whatever it's called, right? So at the end of the day, like, I can't imagine myself, even, even if I was in Northern or Southern or wherever these laws are happening, I can't, I can't go back to that. I would rather stay single than get myself entangled with a man who would beat me for burning food. Like, hello. Hi. That's crazy. There needs to be more awareness so that a lot of people know that this is not the way to live life, right? There's so much more to life than all of these that is happening in marriage. There's not so much more to marriage. Yes. But anyway, let's go on a showed break. We'll be right back.