 So I mean all of the speakers basically talk about as a man, you want to be masculine, you want to be result driven, you want to have a purpose. But meanwhile, you want to be playful with women. So for me, having a sense of purpose within me is good, but it kind of hinders me from being playful with women. Because when I'm interacting with her basically, I'm here to do what I'm doing. And then it's like Johnny said, your bigger, dangerous creature coming up to a woman, you kind of creeps her out. So is there any thing or advice, something I can do to maintain a playful vibe while not losing a sense of purpose? Yeah, I'll jump because I have the mic and I was asked. Quite honestly, I cannot be playful when I'm terribly serious. And when I'm taking myself seriously, I'm not very playful. And so in that regard, if I want to actually slip into a playful mentality or flirt and play, I think of a little boy. Particularly myself as a little boy, how would I have interacted with the ideal little girl, the teasing, the playfulness, the tension, the push-pull. And then the real honest, innocent desire to enjoy the moment without expectations that it's going to lead somewhere sexually or something else. The other is, I'll play like, what would her cat do? And one of the things is I'll knock kind of a cup towards the edge of a shelf or a table and push it right to the edge. And then be willing to kind of push a little bit more just to develop tension and see if she course-corrects. And then ultimately, if she doesn't, I'll be willing to push the thing off the damn table even if it's filled. Just to be playful and then sit down and jump up and go, now that's why we can't have nice things. And again, but I can't do that when I'm being really serious. So being able to handle the dielectric tension between two kind of polar elements of being terribly serious, directed and focused and dedicated to that, you know, driven. And then being playful and being able to throttle back and forth. I'm just not all go. I do throttle. It's almost like driving a car where you can actually use a stick shift, you know, work to clutch, work to gas, and actually run that machine. And that's typically how I approach it. That was for Sakhti's and Johnny and Eric, I think. There is, or used to be a very brilliant psychotherapist named Eric Byrne who wrote about something called transactional analysis. There's a book called Games People Play, which is a wonderful treatise on this. It explains that everyone tends to be in one of three different states through which they'll move during the course of their interactions with other people. They'll either be in parent mode, adult mode, or child mode. Some people will immediately go into child mode when someone else is in parent mode. The parent mode person takes responsibility for everything and becomes driven by, you want to call it, the super ego. They expect things from the other person and criticize them and try and control them. And sometimes the oppositional, defiant nature of people will put them into child mode. So, na na na, not listening to you or whichever. Generally speaking amongst my peers, whether male or female, I try to spend all of my time in adult mode or in child mode. I never ever go into parent mode. There's no value there for me, no interest in spending time with people who make me feel I should go into parent mode. And I spend no time with people who go into parent mode around me because I am not willing to have someone try and raise me. When I have to be serious, I'm in adult mode, but it's a very lightweight thing. I don't take things that don't need to be taken seriously, seriously. Life is actually very lightweight. There are a few things where a decision you make is either going to cost someone their life if it's a wrong decision, or tremendously set you back. And generally, most decisions are reasoned, rational, will likely have the outcome you want. And if it doesn't look like that's working, you simply go back and course correct. As soon as I'm with people whom I trust and I feel confident with, or in circumstances where I know that whatever happens, I'll grab the reins if I need to for a few moments, course correct, and then be able to return to it, I spend my time in child mode, being playful, being light, attentive, frivolous, sometimes glib, because why not? I know that if the bad shit comes down, I will instantaneously transition to taking care of things as an adult does. But the rest of the time, I treat things very lightly. Anyone who spent any time with me will tell you, I'm constantly joking. I don't take things seriously unless it's absolutely necessary. And it's very rarely, absolutely necessary. This doesn't mean I'm trivial, I accomplish shitload, I take care of all sorts of people. I'm constantly doing the best I can for everyone. But I do this without it being heavy. Do you follow? I think you really got to respect the fact that in my view of the world, I think laughter and playfulness is one of the highest states of consciousness that you can reach. And the ability to understand that and do your own stuff and get it out of the way. And when you do that, you open up other space for other people, because when you have your shit handled, there's a certain level of fulfillment there. And when you're fulfilled and you're handling the stuff that you need to handle, it's good, you have more abundance to give, you have more laughter to give. When you don't do the shit that you're supposed to do, then you get caught up into the rat race and life becomes serious, becomes stressful, and then it's hard to find that laughter in their playfulness. So the more you take care of your shit, the more you look forward to bringing one of the highest states of playfulness and laughter upon mankind and womankind. You're doing them a service. It is one of the most healing things that can go on in a person's life. And so when you really look at it like you're bringing them such a gift, because so many people are stressed out in life when you can get them laughing, when you can get them to say, hey, life's not as serious as you think it is, because it's a nightmare to think that life is serious, especially this day and age. We're all being tested right now to come up with our best forms of self that we'll be able to laugh at this and understand that, you know, it's just a big cosmic fucking joke on some level, but it's not. The faster you realize that laughter and, like I said, playfulness, you're bringing such a wonderful treasure and gift to a person that they appreciate it. That's why a lot of women like to hang out with me, because I get them laughing. I get them out of a short circuit that seriousness that they have. And that's how I personally look at it, is I want to help them and heal them. The best way to do it is to get them to laugh and to look at it through humorous eyes.