 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. As you can see I'm out here at the lake today and In this one we are going to be talking about how the narcissist doesn't want you to experience life They don't want you to have any experiences in your life Especially positive experiences They want all of your life experiences to be negative To be something bad and pleasant or traumatic They want you to be completely miserable Under their control and dependent on them I don't know that a lot of you are watching this You're already going through it right now Or you have been and I can understand that yes, it is very unfair but I want to shed some light on Why narcissists do this Because it's very different to what you might think. It's not like They're doing all of these things to you And then they're going off and they're living their best lives and they're happy without you It doesn't work that way at all Because just for someone to even have the desire to do these things to us It already suggests that something is missing within them It suggests that they are not happy Because if you feel happy You desire for other people to be happy as well You won't desire to be negative or to take anything away from someone You won't desire to do that at all so this is important to remember People who are genuinely happy They feel no desire to hurt or harm you or to cause any trouble to you They feel no desire to do that at all so yes, this is important to remember and The reason Why they want to hold you back and prevent you from experiencing life It's always because of the same thing they didn't have many positive experiences in their life They may have a lot of childhood trauma abuse or neglect But they didn't have a good childhood They didn't get to experience many things when they were younger and this may have been long before you came around It had nothing to do with you But when they see you it triggers them and it brings up all of these things from the past So all of those times where they didn't get to have those experiences To where they may have been abused or neglected To where they they felt like life was unfair to them And nothing ever worked out for them and they may have actually told you that as well They always shout and yell There's always an argument. They always have these hour-long monologues About how life was so unfair to them About how they didn't deserve the life that they had they deserved so much more But it's like the world couldn't see it The world couldn't see that they deserved a better life And because of this because of all of these things that are mixed up in their heads Now they don't want you to move on and have all of these positive experiences in life Because they didn't get to have that Or they didn't get to have as many positive experiences as they may have wanted to Or they did but they still want more because they're very greedy and selfish And not only that but they may not be able to find the same fulfilment as you can And they can see that when you're going out and you're experiencing your life You're doing the things that you like to do just smiling You're laughing Maybe you're joking around with your friends It may be your family members as well You're doing all of these things That you are passionate about That you love Maybe certain hobbies or interests Relationships whatever it is You go in and you're experiencing these things And they're looking at it and it's stirring up all of these emotions inside of them All of this hatred, anger, envy and jealousy And they just can't stand it But they know how to pretend like everything is okay They can put on this poker face And act like it's not a big deal But then they will always find something wrong with it There's always something wrong with you Or the people that you are involved with Or the hobbies or interests that you like to do The things that you are passionate about There's always something wrong with these life experiences And they never give you an alternative They never say that you can just do it at a different time Or you can just do something else instead To them it's just you just have to stop And not do anything And in fact just be this little puppet on a string While they are the puppet master and they can control you Because they want to be able to live vicariously through you With you being a negative extension of them To where they can project all of these negative qualities and traits onto you That they don't like about themselves Because that's what they have to give It's negativity Which in reality that is actually nothing at all They take us all they can do is take from you And they will come around just to take your happiness and contentment They will come around just to take your peace And they will come around to take all of these experiences away from you Everything that you enjoy Everything that makes you feel good about yourself Yes Now they want to take all of these things away from you And the reason why is because how it makes them feel about themselves It's triggering them, it's hurting them It's making them feel like they haven't got enough And they can't get enough But it's so easy for you You can just go on and do whatever you want, whatever you like, whenever you want to do it But you make it look so easy too You can just go out and experience the life that you want to live You know to manifest it, you can manifest anything you want So easy It's so easy for you Because I know you know exactly how to do it And I know that you love it when you do it too And that's really what I want for all of you and that is why I put this message out there Because unlike the narcissist I do want you all to go out and live your best life I do want you to Enjoy this physical world, this physical reality Because yes of course that is what we came here to do And maybe that is because I've had a lot of positive experiences in my life At times I did have some freedom and I got to do the things that I wanted to do And of course I found a lot of fulfillment in doing those things as well It made me very happy But I don't think that that is all of it Because even if I didn't have any freedom at all And I couldn't experience the things that I wanted to I'm sure that I would still be the way that I am today Where I am promoting these types of topics And I want you all to go out and just enjoy your lives And perhaps the reason why I want that is because I'm not all about myself I have love to give I'm very compassionate And I also have empathy as well So I have the ability to Share another person's feelings and experience And put myself in their shoes So Yeah, I don't see people as extensions of myself I see them as separate people Not objects Not people who just exist to serve me No, I believe in reciprocation I believe in an equal exchange And you've all supported me along my journey You've all been there to support me You've all been there to support my work And to give me credit So of course I could only want the same things for you in return For you to have these life experiences But narcissists Nope They can't do any of that But they will trick and deceive you To mislead you that they can When the reality is that Nope They are not about that for real And Not sure maybe at times they may wish that they were Just so they could use it as a part of their revelation But the reality is that they can't They can only deceive you They can only give you an illusion And I will admit that it can appear very real at times But it isn't real And it's never going to be real It may feel real for you But that's only when you're under their spell When you're in the matrix Because there is no genuine or authentic connection There is no intimacy There is no genuine care or compassion They do not have your best interest in mind They do not want the best for you And yes, as I said, they will yell and complain They will argue with you They will bring up all of these things that they think is wrong with you But the crazy thing is They will never Even give you an opportunity to become better And fix the things they said they didn't like about you And that is how you know Yes, they are full of shit Everything they say, their false narrative It doesn't even make any sense Because you have to think of it like this When someone comes to you And they say that there is a problem What is the first thing that we think? Tell me how I can fix it Tell me how I can make it right And yes, they already know that They already realise that they are the problem They already know that they're wrong And they already know that if the shoe was on the other foot And the situation was in reverse And you were trying to hold them accountable for something They would only deny, project, blame shift and gas light Because they don't want to be held accountable for nothing They don't want to do the work They don't want to be better They don't want to do anything at all But as I said, they are very good at giving you the illusion of that Because of course people like myself are putting this information out there People are seeing it People are becoming wiser So they've got to get better at their game And that is when they create these networks These media campaigns These other fake narcissists that keep up to support them But if you're like myself You can see that they're full of shit They are not about anything for real All they can do is give you the illusion They're never actually going to put in the work Everything they do is outwardly focused They lack discipline and self-control They can't control themselves They can't control their own emotions So they have to control the people and things around them They're all like pawns in the chess game And I genuinely believe That a narcissist, especially a malignant narcissist They would change and control the entire world Before they even think about changing anything about themselves And I genuinely believe if they had that opportunity They would most definitely embark on that They would change the entire world Before they ever look at themselves And do the work or make any changes Because in their minds they are perfect They have this false character Who is meant to be free from any wrongdoing They can't do anything wrong In their minds And they create this false reality And they have to pull other people into it And a lot of you will already know what that is like Because you may have been pulled into it as well At one point you may have been a flying monkey Or an enabler And you may have believed that it was real But no it isn't real It's all fake They are all fake And they're fake Because not only do they lack empathy But they lack accountability They are self-absorbed And what makes a person A human Is that ability to connect And if they couldn't connect to you They can't connect to anyone else Probably the best opportunity that they ever had in their life To connect to anyone was with you And I know a lot of you already know That Out of all of the people in their life You are probably the one who cared about them the most And they may not have known that Maybe they did But they don't care They'd rather have fake people around them Who support the illusion And then together they can team up As the predatory people that they are And target someone outside of the illusion Because that's what brings them gratification That's what makes them feel alive Of course they don't feel so alive When they're surrounded by so many fake people They've got to have that light as well Where people like myself and you come in But yes they definitely don't like you Just experiencing life As demonic and satanic as that may sound It is the truth They don't want you to have your God given free will They'd rather brainwash and indoctrinate you And make you do what they want They'd rather just have this control over you As sad as that sounds, as crazy as it sounds That's just how these people live And that's just how it's always going to be with them Yes they are always going to be that way They are never going to change They are never going to become a better person And that's because there is no person Even inside of them They're just these empty shells And you will feel that whenever you get around them Yes they will try and project it back to you Reflect it back, whatever they try to do But either way that's not going to work Once you've found my information And you become wiser and you know what you're dealing with But that is all a part of the game as well That is what it's designed to do When they try to prevent you from having these real life experiences It's so that you don't strengthen your identity After you've gotten with them They want to turn you into an extension of them They want you to become just like them So that they can project and assign all of their negative traits and characteristics onto you And then leave you to deal with that Because otherwise the only other alternative is to let you be yourself Let you to experience just real life And not constantly under their control Or around their friends or flying monkeys And that would be very difficult for them It would make them very uncomfortable They would feel very threatened by that Because they can't do that They can't experience the same things as you can They're not as powerful as you are And they can't get the same fulfillment as you do So automatically that's going to put them at a disadvantage That's not going to be any good for them So of course they have to try and control you And prevent you from having these experiences And not only that but it's also so that you don't catch on and realize That all of these flying monkeys, these enablers Their friends All of these people are fake and full of shit None of these people are even real or authentic Everything you see is a false character And if you think the false character is bad you don't want to see the real one Because that's even worse That's when you would see just how dysfunctional they really are Just enjoyed a nice walk here by the lake You know how I do Now I'm going to get in the big boy over here And it's very wrong It's very cruel and vindictive Everything went wrong in the narcissist past It created the person that you see today Made them who they are They didn't just magically appear out of thin air Past experiences are upbringing Or parents or environment yes These are the things that make us And if a person didn't have many positive experiences in their past and their childhood Then that makes them who they are today And some of them yes they are very envious, jealous and competitive They can't find any fulfillment in their lives So of course they have to come around to try to take your happiness and contempt away from you The only thing that you can do is try to go along with it And act like yes this is something that I want as well I want you to control me, I want you to I want to do this if you want me to do that It's kind of like reverse psychology and it lets go of the resistance And when you do that either they won't come around you so much anymore Or they may distance themselves Or it just won't bother you as much Once you let go of that resistance I wish I could say that you could just fight it And just do whatever you want to do Just share your love and compassion with the world I mean of course that would be an amazing thing if you could do that That's what the world needs But with narcissists and all of this control it's not going to be so easy for you to do that The more that you try to fight it, you fight for your freedom, your individuality That's just going to make it even worse And I'm sure many of you have already experienced that Where you tried to go out, maybe meet your friends And it may not have been anything bad Maybe you just wanted to go for a walk in the park And it's like you couldn't even do that You couldn't even experience the hobbies and interests that you wanted to The things that you were passionate about Just little things like that you couldn't even do Because it triggered the narcissist It reminded them that they don't have an authentic self They don't have any innocence of value They get it all from the flying monkeys and enablers And their false image and reputation So it doesn't do anything for them Unless it's something where it's like an achievement Or you have a connection that makes them look good Or maybe you have a job or a business and you're making money And you spend it on them If there's something in it for them Then they might actually let you go and do that If they're getting something out of it But otherwise it's just not going to happen It's just not going to happen at all And yeah they will only help you with things that benefit them Even though of course yes they do know what you really want to do They're not stupid But they see that as a threat to their narrative, their image, their illusion They see it as though that threatens and exposes them And it puts them at risk of rejection and abandonment So that's why they don't want you to go on and do that And if you have gone on and done any of these things You will have already experienced the wrath The narcissistic injury Where they may have lashed out at you They may have physically abused you Or it may have been more covert It may have been It may have been more under the radar But either way It is still abuse, it's harm, it's mistreatment And of course they're doing that because they feel hurt Because they didn't get to have the experiences that they wanted And the reality is that Once you've experienced all of these things You will see that it's really not It's how they are portraying it to be It really isn't at all All of these things they don't want you to do Your passions, your interests, your hobbies and interests These friendships and relationships Whatever it may be I mean Yes these things are important in life And we did come here to experience the physical world The physical reality But that is not the be all and end all I mean it's not like you're going to do those things And then it's going to completely change your life It's not like that at all But you have to remember that What they have, this is a trauma response The responding to a past trauma Where they didn't get to have or do something And it bothered them greatly It really affected them So they're looking at it like it is the be all and end all They're looking at it like it will completely change your life And you will be over the moon on top of the world That is the way that they're seeing it Because remember the very gullible it's very easy to sell them a dream They have all of these fantasies mixed up in their heads And they see things in their heads as being far better than they actually are in reality So yes That's just how the narcissist views it They see it as though If you go on and you experience these things Then they're going to be left feeling like they're left behind And they're missing out on all of these things So these are all of the reasons why They really don't want you to experience life They want to control you, they want to keep you in the box If they could they would just lock you up and throw away the key And just leave you there to rot But then if they did that, that wouldn't give them too much supply as well They need you to be doing things sometimes Moving around And attempting to progress If you're just laying on the floor half dead and they're just poking you with a stick That isn't too much fun for them They need you to be animated, they need you to be alive They need you to be trying, attempting to achieve something They need you to not give up completely just so they can stop you and hold you back Because that's what they really like is the change It tells them that they have power If they can change one thing to another If they can make you from going to do something to then doing something else If they can take a powerful, successful and confident person And just turn them into a shell of who they used to be And know that they did that, they controlled it They were the cause of it Then that tells them that they are powerful They are God They are the Almighty, the Omega And that is really how they think And it's so sad This is really one of the things that brings me the most pain It's just the fact that that loss of potential How people were limited, held back in life And for no good reason other than someone's stupid traumas That they could never resolve They could never deal with And because of that Now we all have to suffer We can't go out and experience life or find fulfillment We can't do what we want to do We can't even enjoy our lives in peace Because of these narcissistic people And it's like we can't get away from them no matter where you go they are there They're in the workplace They could be at the beach, they could be in the mall In your home They're just everywhere in this world And they always want power and control As a response to their traumas They can't control themselves So now they have to control you And they're not going to feel secure or comfortable Unless they have full control of you And it's so sad Because I just look at it like If you never had this control If they were never constantly trying to gain power over you Just imagine what you could have moved on Had achieved with your life And that's why it bothers me so much How These people just have an inability to self reflect and deal with their own traumas Because they're so weak All they're concerned about is the processes going on in their brains And that rush of adrenaline and that dopamine fix That they get from controlling you And holding you back It gives them a thrill, it makes them feel alive Because yes, they are sadistic They find pleasure in other people's pain Seeing you move on and living your best life That does not bring them any pleasure at all Unless they can take credit for it But even then a lot of times they will still want to destroy it They don't want to see you go on and do that So yes, I understand And it does get to me, it does upset me To see these things Because yes, we came here to enjoy And to participate in this physical reality That is the whole point Because some people can't get the experiences or the fulfilment that they wanted Now they want to take it away from you And Yes, as I said, it does bother me It upsets me It's unfair It's wrong It's abuse And abuse is bad No one has the right To harm another human being or living thing And I genuinely believe that, that's why I am a vegan myself I've been a vegan for quite a few years now Of course, I'm not perfect But I do the best that I can And what I believe is that No one has the right To control Another human being or living thing like that No one has the right to Intervene and harm them Because you've got to step back and think Why are they doing that It's because they're hurt It's because they've experienced trauma And they were too weak to deal with it But I am glad that I have this platform And I can come on here every day To share these messages with you Because I know that brings you Comfort That's really what we need It's just that validation That we're not going crazy I guess these people Are in sync And what they're doing is very wrong It's not right at all I don't know for myself It wasn't too bad for me I was controlled a lot in my life But I managed to get through it And experience things that I never thought I could I dealt with it very well But I know it's not that easy for a lot of you And it really works you out It really gets to you And I do feel your pain I do take on the emotional side of it And it does hurt That's really the reason Why I started this channel to begin with Because everything that I experienced I thought there must be a reason There must be a purpose for it And all I can really advise you to do Once you're deep into the relationship Is You really have to find a way to get out of it Safely You need to find a way to go to contact But also by gradually No longer being of any use to them Just letting your supply fizzle out Because then they might just discard you If you use the grey rock You just come across as boring and interesting Although sometimes they may ramp up the abuse Just to try and get a reaction out of you Because they are going to miss that supply And it may make them mad So it is best to consult A licensed therapist or coach Before You go on and do that And as you may know Yes, I do offer one-on-one coaching sessions And you can book on my website It is www.narchsurviver.co.uk You can also email me as well Coaching at www.narchsurviver.co.uk And there's better help Which is A licensed therapy service That I recommend and have used in the past That is www.betterhelp.com.narchsurviver So there are all these tools, these resources That you can use to Learn more and to protect yourself Because I know what it's like And it is very important that you get the help that you need As I've said before in my videos Life is meant to be enjoyed Not endured It doesn't really matter What religion or spiritual belief I think it's always the same We came here To enjoy this physical world This physical reality You didn't come here just to watch Everyone else having fun You came here to participate Yeah All of your goals and dreams All of the good things that you want for your life I genuinely wish And hope That you will get to experience those things I really do wish that for you And I most definitely believe that you can And let that be a part of your healing Just to turn it around and to tell yourself To believe that yes You can experience those things And you'll be surprised sometimes It's like against all odds Just that belief Will carry you through to where you need to be I may have been in the same boat as you Just a few years ago Before I started this channel At that point I had given up on my life About one year before I began the channel I was suicidal I thought it was all over for me And then something happened I came back And then something inside of me changed I believed that It doesn't matter About what is going on outside of me It doesn't matter what anyone thinks or believes Or about how anyone wants to control me As long as I believe That I can change my reality And I can make things better I know that just that belief Will carry me through to where I need to be And I know that that is something that no one can control I know that And I want you to be aware of that as well Our beliefs do control Or rather create our reality Whatever you believe about yourself That will in time Be reflected back to you Which is very important For myself I wish I knew that information A long time ago But I can't do anything about that now It's completely out of my hands But what I can do Is continue forward with this belief And that is what you can do as well Your belief will change everything Just believe in That you can achieve something It will change everything for you And I know it's easy just to say it Rather than to actually go out and do it Of course I know that as well But just look at my success With my channel I've got over 165,000 subscribers Over 40 million views And I'm not saying that I'm special Although yes I am We all are But I'm saying that you can do it too Whether it's YouTube or you want to do something else Whatever it is You can achieve that It all starts with your belief And believing that you can Your beliefs create your reality So yes The narcissist No They don't want you to experience life Because they never got to experience the life That they wanted to experience And that's all there is to it But me Yes I want you to experience life I believe that You can have these ideas Or fantasies These goals and dreams There is a reason for that And Maybe that's what you came here to do And you should Take the steps to make it happen Don't just suppress these things Inside of you These desires That is the worst thing that you can do As long as you do that You will never Accept it It will never Become a reality If you want it to happen for real You must accept But yes You want it And then once you've done that You don't have to hold on to it And become miserable No You can let it go Let go of the resistance And accept what you want And then let it go Always be in the way that you expect It could come in a very unpredictable way And it could come at any time So you do need to be ready as well It could happen tomorrow Next week It could be one year, five years Who knows I can't tell you when it's going to come I can tell you that it will come In time If you just hold on to that belief You believe that it can happen You let go of the resistance And then you let it go You just wake up in the morning And you think about it Let it be the first thing on your mind Just think about it for a few minutes Just imagine what it would be like To have that freedom, that reality That dream, that goal Just let it sit with you for a few minutes And then let it go and go about your day And then maybe do it again at night Before you go to sleep Think about it again for a few minutes What you want And then go to sleep And you may even have dreams about it It will begin to become even more real And then for whatever reason People and things Situations Will move Into the position that it needs to So that God, the universe, karma Whatever it is will bring you What you want Yes, this love, this passion It cannot be controlled It cannot be contained And it will Go where it needs to go And no person Can stop that No person can get In the way And myself, I am proof of that As you can see with my channel, my work I've helped millions of people around the world And guess what? It all started with a belief Just a belief created All of this And I'm sure that a belief Can create amazing things for you too But sadly There is some Negativity in the live chat here As I can see I was a bit distracted with the message I troll here when I'm going to Hide As I said, no negativity No negativity is welcome here What all about positivity And optimism About believing in ourselves Believing that things can happen And fortunately our light Our positivity will always attract Negative people Who aren't about anything Who haven't had any positive experiences In their life They haven't had any fulfilment They're just constantly wanting The very greedy and selfish From you And of course We do not need these types of people In our lives So Anyone who puts these negative messages Or comments on my channel They do get hidden And I've already hidden Probably hundreds of people already I've got no time for them at all I've done the work I have healed to some extent So There's no tolerance for that I just don't want that negativity around me It never leads to anything good But thank you for the donation there So what? I appreciate it Just sitting in the car And thinking about what I'm going to eat now But I really enjoyed Sharing this message with you today And my hope Is that it has brought positivity And light to you And that you will go on Manifest something amazing in your life And when you do, send me an email I'd love to hear from you I'd love to know that I've made a difference A positive change in your life I'd love it if you could come to me And tell me that But yes That's it for today There is a premiere starting in a few hours I may join you there But that's it for this message If it was helpful Please give it a thumbs up down below It helps to support our community Let me know your thoughts down in the comment section And read your comments every day Share Subscribe As I said, one-on-one coaching sessions You can book on my website It is NarcSurviver.co.uk And on my Instagram as well New pictures and videos of my travels Every day on there Every YouTube and Instagram Other than that, thank you all And you all have a great day