 you feel like returning to the narcissist. Once you have managed to leave, once you have managed to remove yourself from the situation, you should not return to the narcissist. Once you have had some time to heal and improve your life, you should never go back. They will try to get back into your life but they will never hold themselves accountable for anything that they've done. They will always leave you feeling validated. You may want to return to them for closure but you will never get back from the narcissist. They are far too insecure to ever give you the closure and validation that you need and by withholding it from you, it then gives them the ability to control you. People who are insecure have an obsessive need for control if they were to give you the closure and validation that you need, they would be allowing you to have control over yourself which then puts them at a disadvantage because they don't have control of themselves. The narcissist cannot compete at a fair game. They have to weaken you and put you in a unfavourable state or condition because they are very weak insecure people. They have to bring you down to their level and even attempt to put you beneath them to level the playing field so that they are able to compete with you but if you are thinking of going back to the narcissist don't expect to receive any closure or validation. Going back to them will only put you in danger. It will only increase the possibility of you suffering from pain or distress. It will only increase the possibility of something unwelcome or unpleasant happening and you will basically be given them permission to abuse and disrespect you because that's all they're going to do. They cannot value or respect you because they don't value or respect themselves. They cannot see the value in you because they have nothing of value of their own so they don't know how to treat you which means that they're only going to toy with you. They're not going to treat you with any value or respect but you can value yourself. You can respect yourself by not going back to them by realising that you deserve so much more. Self-love is your greatest defence against the narcissist. When you realise how important and valuable you are you will never desire to be around them. You will never decide to be around anyone who doesn't value or respect you and you won't need their closure or validation because you can validate yourself. You can see the value in yourself and that is what will stop you from returning to the narcissist. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonate with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you're delighted to meet, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coach the inquiries you can email me and I'll travelcoachin at gmail.com. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.