 She probably is what we classify as an avoidant and I'd classify myself as an anxious. I don't like the labels as if anxious or avoidant is something bad. There's nothing wrong with being anxious or avoidant. There's anxious, avoidant and secure. Secure is that you feel a sense of safety and trust in the relationship where you don't want to flight and you don't want to fight, okay? Or freeze, okay? Here's what I actually think happens and I think it's why I particularly understand my clients so well is because I tend to be, as I said earlier, an anxious attachment style. I think what's happening is that we choose partners to trigger our wounds so we can actually heal that wound within ourselves.