 Hello everyone Welcome to another NARC survivor live video on my youtube channel where I post videos of or rather about narcissistic abuse to help victims and survivors to understand what they've been through and so that they can move past it and into a healthier and happier situation or environment and then in in this video. I'm going to be talking about how the narcissist feels when you're gone Before I begin, please give this video a thumbs up down below As it will help the youtube algorithm and And it will help to get this very important message out there for other survivors to see it Many of you may see these pictures on social media The narcissist always has to flaunt certain things especially their new supply They really want you to see it They want you to think That they are happy In some new situation without you This is what every narcissist wants their victim to believe and that should be really obvious because Just look at how they Set up the situation in a way where they've got to have you on their stuff They've got to leave you observing their life and of course the way that they do that is They might discourage you Leave you without any closure without an explanation so that you're looking for answers So then they already know you're gonna look to their social media to see where they went what they're doing who they're with To try to figure out why they left And it's just a setup So that when you go on there You see them with their new supply and it looks like having a great time without you Because the abuse never ends You think you were abused a lot in the relationship But they've got more waiting for you when the relationship ends as well Well, they try to punish you by using their new supply to triangle it with you So it looks like they're happy Having a great time Without you they've moved on They don't need you now They have a better life They've found a better person Also, it seems because the problem with that narrative that story Lies in how they behaved while they were with you Because if you look back and remember what they were doing remember how they were always so miserable Remember how they had to abuse you devalue you elevate themselves at your expense Why does a person need to elevate themselves at another person's expense? They can only do that If they are beneath you and they're using you as a stepping stone So that they can climb higher emotionally and vibration in vibrationally So that should already tell you Or rather reveal to you their state of mind that emotional state and should reveal to you that Even in your darkest moments when you were really going through it and they were putting you down You may have felt miserable yourself doing that time, but how you felt in that moment Was nothing compared to how they felt Which is why they were still using you as a stepping stone to elevate themselves They are shame-based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame So they're constantly trying to deflect it on to you But it just continues to eat away at them Everything they do every negative action It's because they feel miserable That's why people behave negatively Where they are trying to take something away from you even if it's just your happiness and contentment They're trying to do that because they are operating from the lower vibrations Lower level of emotions That is what results in negative behavior There is no such thing as a happy person Who feels the need to manipulate or abuse anyone? When you're happy You just openly want to speak the truth Because you want to make sense of things you want to resolve things You want things to be better you want people to be happy Narcissists are all about covering up and hiding the abuse They're all about covert manipulation Insulting you putting you down Which are all negative behaviors because they are miserable and they're of a very low energy So they're trying to extract energy from you. They're trying to extract their narcissistic supply Because they're of a very low consciousness They're like zombies. They're barely even alive They're barely even a person And in fact in my previous videos I said Narcissists are not even like real people and I've had Relationships that lasted several years with narcissists. I just felt like the entire time that I was dealing with them It's like I'm not even talking to a real person It's like a robot an AI It's like they're not even there in the mind the lights are on but no one is home and I think a lot of that It's not just because the very negative pessimistic That of a very low vibration the shame-based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame It's not just that it's also because they lack effective empathy So they're unable to share the other person's feelings or experience Which kind of leaves them trapped in a world of their own They're unable to reach anyone to connect to them and you're unable to reach them Which is why no matter what it's like. There's always a disagreement There's always a misunderstanding There's always miscommunication They always see you as a threat to someone who's trying to attack them because there is there's never there's really never They bond a tie a connection between you and them It never exists it never occurs That's not even possible All they can do is read into your emotions Because their predators they're very good at sensing your energy your emotional state And anytime that they're seeing you climbing up emotionally It reminds them of what they're missing And then they begin to envy you they envy your happiness your peace your contentment So then they've got to bring you down So that they can elevate themselves at your expense by knowing this It should reveal to you That no matter no matter what where they go or who they're with They're always going to be the exact same way They're going to be doing the same things they did to you to other people They're going to be trying to elevate themselves at other people's expense as well Although it may not be in the exact same way they tailor make these characters to specific people Whatever they think is going to work for whatever person they're dealing with So it might be something with you Help some to feel better at your expense They might not do that same thing as someone else that they could do something else instead It's just whatever works But it's always negative. It's always taking something away from your feelings or experience Because that is how they elevate themselves But even then they can never experience happiness. I mean if they could they would never do the things that they do They would never manipulate abuse or behave negatively a happy person does not feel the need to do that They could just be normal. They could be open and honest with you They don't have to bring you down and in fact Just any normal person Even if they're feeling down. They're unhappy. They might just think confiding you about it They might just tell you that they're not feeling too good So that you can comfort them But also says this isn't even gonna do that Because they already know it's not gonna work for them that way They already know that if they come to you confiding you and you comfort comfort them The only thing that's gonna happen is that's gonna bring you satisfaction as an empath to know that you are Being of service to them you're helping them And then they're going to envy that And then it's gonna make them feel it even worse So all they can really do is Seek to bring you down and even when it looks like they're in a new relationship They're just triangulating you with that person Because they can't find fulfillment in anything They have to live vicariously through other people So even when they've got their new supply They have to try to make you envious or jealous To make you feel like you're missing out Because that's how they get their supply That's their idea of fun. That's their idea of happiness Because many of them suffer from sadistic personality disorder as well So they find pleasure in your pain and distress Even then it's not the type of pleasure that we experience They can ever reach that level of happiness and that's really why they do what they do So of course once you're gone Whether they discard you or you leave them They just go back to feeling miserable. They just go back to having to Abuse people put them down So that they can stay afloat Emotionally, but don't mistake that with happiness. They do not experience happiness They never get that emotion It may look like they're elevated at times, but what that actually is When they're hurting you when they're abusing you They're just experiencing Temporary relief From their shame By deflecting it onto you So that's not happiness Even when you see the narcissist ex-merc It looks like they're smiling. They're not really happy That's just a temporary relief from their pain That's all that there is So don't think that they've just gotten away with it and they've moved on found someone else I think you just forget about you. It doesn't work that way and in fact I found evidence that the things they do It comes back to haunt them The shame carries with them even if they're not conscious of it. It stays in their body Everything they do to you it actually affects them Far more than it affects you The studies there's research that proves that in fact People who bully this includes narcissists, of course They're at the risk a risk of 10 to 25 times more than their victim of Developing a psychiatric condition Among many other things such as if they haven't already developed in narcissistic personality Personality disorder sociopathy psychopathy Among many other conditions as well so Their story their narrative it just doesn't connect it doesn't add up There is no such thing. There's no such possible outcome of someone manipulating abusing deceiving harming another person And then just running off for being happy whether it's on their own or with their new supply That's impossible they walk away. Yes, they leave With a 10 to 25 times risk more than you of developing a psychiatric condition among many other illnesses and The shame that will haunt them for the rest of their lives and just endless misery So that's how it turns out for them and they continue to try to distract themselves They continue to seek relief from that emotional pain By finding new victims and abusing them. So as you can imagine just perpetuates Everything that they are trying to run away from and this is why they come after us This is why it's us running away from them Because they're the ones with the problem We're the ones who can attend to ourselves and heal. We do not need an external regulator When they are away from us, they go back to feeling miserable When we are around them, we feel miserable But as soon as we get away from them, it's like finally we can breathe We feel happy and they know that which is why they often come back to hoover us. That's why they stalk and harass us That's the whole purpose of the smear campaign It's to try to keep you down because they already know Once they're not around you Your life goes back to normal. You can experience happiness You can experience everything that they can't everything that they never will So the only thing they can do which relieves that emotional pain is to try to hold on to you For dear life and never let you go But even then that perpetuates their psychiatric condition just makes matters worse for them And it just gets worse and worse the older they get the develop more business and resentment It's horrible to be around a narcissist and old age They are never happy They're always just So negative and miserable horrible company to have so no They're not moving on They're not happy. They're not living their best lives. They're not doing any of that They've not found fulfillment in a new relationship with a new supply It just doesn't happen it never happens it never will The only one who can move on and find happiness and fulfillment is us We are the ones that can heal. We are the ones that can regulate ourselves We are the ones who can be happy whether it's alone or with someone else That's why it's them who envy us And we are the ones who are always trying to fix things for them and make them happy But no matter what you I or anyone else does it's never gonna be enough They're always going to be the same and in fact the older they get the worse they get So that's it. That's what happens when You're gone. That's how they feel That's what they go through If this video was helpful for you, you can show your support by giving it a thumbs up down below It's very important As it helps the YouTube algorithm and it will get this message out there You can also let me know your thoughts in the comment section. I do read your comments every day Hit that subscribe button and click the bell icon so that you will receive notifications for my future videos And if you would like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me, you can do that on my website. 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