 Hey guys, I hope you guys enjoyed part one of just a small series of the two shall become one Join us now as we get into part two. Hope you enjoy and God bless you At what point did you in your marriage with Marie and again, you know, we all know Marie and love Marie and and for those Who do know her know She's an amazing Amazing person which been significant in my own life And but when when did you realize in the point where the gift that God has given you through Marie? Was making you a better man better Christian a better was in I was first married and we hadn't been married more than several months and We were renting an apartment in Roland Heights and it was a very small apartment Marie was Pregnant with Corinne and I had to quit school. I didn't have a I wasn't making very much money We didn't have furniture we We didn't realize that we were living Very close to what would be called a poverty level. We didn't know that we didn't have two nickels to rub together We couldn't go out and do anything. We didn't have spending money for anything we Were just you know, just making it Marie was working Making, you know, not that much and and I was trying to be a student Then I was trying to get part-time work. We didn't make much money at all Didn't have anything not that materialism is important thing but at that point I was a young husband with a pregnant wife and and I got depressed and prior to Christ I was a you know, alcohol abuser and You know and people who know me now probably don't believe it when I say I didn't show emotions I I would not show emotion. I it was very close And so the only way that I felt that I could show emotion was if I gave myself an excuse to show it and as as a man and and all and in the Mexican community and every every Latino who's listening now will understand when I'm about to say The the only time that you show emotion is if you've had a little bit to drink You have permission to at that point and that may be a stereotype But it's a very it's a very very true stereotype in many ways. And so I didn't know how to show emotion I went out and I bought something to drink and and I I drank to the point where I began to Feel the effects of the alcohol and Marie again is pregnant She's down stairs making dinner for us and have anything See I shouldn't talk about it because I remember it and the emotions come up but I Went into my room and I closed the door. I decided to cry John I I Was I was crying like a baby. I mean I just was pouring out tears on my pillow and I Heard her footsteps coming up the stairs and the door was closed But there was some light I could see her coming up the stairs and the door swings open And there she is standing at the door. What's wrong? I Just cried and she came and sat next to me. I didn't even have a bed. I had a sofa bed and It was rolled out. We didn't have a bed when we got married and She sat on the edge of the sofa and she what's wrong and I said I'm a failure You made a mistake. You married the wrong man You deserve more than I am I'm a failure And I just wept She was just a young girl She put her arms around me and she pulled me to herself as pregnant my pregnant wife And she rocked me like I was a baby She rocked me back and forth and she held me and whispered in my ear You're not a failure. God is going to use you God is going to use you That's the turning point that was the turning point John when she did that because in My heart something welled up and I said I don't want to let her down I'm gonna be what she thinks I am Rest is history man That's amazing to see that and this is where I really truly believe that the to become one as you're mentioning Things like this that the Lord allowed to happen Where you saw the heart of Marie, which is actually a gift to you to make you into a better man her believing in you and You know for I'm not the marriage expert, but for us husbands and wise it sharing to each other that we believe in one another there's probably one of the most Powerful encouragements that we can receive. I think that a woman who doesn't believe in that man is Going to undermine whatever that man could have been and if the man doesn't believe in what that woman could be He'll undermine what God wants to do in her We have to have an attitude of faith with one another You know, I'll be honest with you and I think we should close this is going long But I'll tell you this John. I didn't know how to love and you've heard me say it a thousand times But that's the truth. I it's the truth. I didn't know what love was. I did not know what love was. I didn't know I'd been around But I didn't know that someone could love me. I just didn't know that I didn't believe it and so I Withheld mine from Marie. She could tell you that I I'm telling you I was very cold. I didn't say I love you I was not I was not affectionate. I was not the man you know now I was nothing like that when I got married. I was a macho Mexican man. That's what I was No emotion only anger, you know, I could show anger but I couldn't show affection and When my girl held me and wept Tell me how much she loved me and believed in me That broke me it was it was that love and I discovered that a long time ago that that love That's what God uses to change lives. See so People don't know what what I was they don't know My sisters could tell you Marie could tell you I was very indifferent and cold Not affectionate didn't hold your hand and didn't I was not affection. I was everything but that Just didn't trust anybody and I didn't even trust her and I wouldn't release any of that trust to her until that day She she broke me She broke me by loving me That changed me that and I was already we're already married. We were pregnant with our first baby John But when she did that that broke me and from then I've I've been come more comfortable with with my emotions man That I think we probably should stop here. I mean that that what an amazing thing to see And how God really shapes us and forms us to become one and The and the gift that we are to each other to our husbands and to our wives and so church family and this is I really think it was a very Heavy and deep personal. Yes So thank you for sharing pastor and and you guys thank you for tuning in and you know For some reason if there's things going on your marriage and you attend our church and are looking to work through those things We do have biblical guidance available for our church and and you know what to really hear our pastor share about the gift that Marie has been to him and and The importance of her role in his life and to even shape you into who you are today It's amazing. And so may we always be that gift to one another And as for those who are married and for those who aren't continue to pray that the Lord will What the Lord has for you and so Pastor David, thank you so much for sharing I want to invite you guys to come out and join us for services on Sunday at 8 30 a.m. And 10 45 look forward to having you come out and share a time of worship with each other and spend time in God's word And then I'm just gonna keep making this a make it quick an invitation for Israel 2023 as Pastor David and Marie would like to invite you guys to come out and join a Church and and them both to come join us for Israel trip. So want to put that out there Thank you guys for tuning in. Thank you pastor David and God bless you