 Hello beautiful moms. Happy Mother's Day. I hope your day is off to a wonderful start. My name is Candice and I have a word that I want to share with you. It's out of Psalm 34. We're gonna start at verse 4. It says, Listen to my testimony. I cried to God in my distress and he answered me. He freed me from all my fears. Gaze upon him. Join your life with his and joy will come. Your faces will glisten with glory. You'll never wear that shame face again. Pop over to verse 12. It says, Do you want to live a long good life enjoying the beauty that fills each day? Then never speak a lie or allow wicked words to come from your mouth. Keep turning your back on every sin and make peace your life motto. Practice being at peace with everyone. Today I want to just address really quickly our mom shame that we can deal with from time to time in motherhood and I know even just like even now with quarantine the stay-at-home order times are tough it's hard and and we can we can have these times of of shame creep up. I mean let me tell you a little funny story. So my daughter who is seven she is now being homeschooled so now I'm a homeschool mom and I think it was the first week and she said to me mom you don't teach as good as Mrs. Block and she basically fired me. So I got fired from my job as a homeschool mom to which I replied you know what you're right. I did not sign up for this and I'm not very good. I know Mrs. Block is better but I I mean that funny story but I mean we can have these moments of shame but I want to highlight really quick there is difference between guilt and shame. Guilt focuses on our actions. Shame focuses on us. So guilt is going to say what I did was wrong but shame is going to say who I am is wrong and so you know we want to grow and learn as moms and we want to walk away from situations and go hey you know I should have done that better maybe I should respond differently but we don't want to walk away from these situations going I don't know if I have what it takes I can't cut it I'm not a good mom and it's more about us and who we are and so we want to take this shame face off and so one way that David says to do this is to lean into God and to gaze on him and so for me as a three on the enneagram I want to achieve I want to do I want to go get it you know I want to get the laundry done I want to get my kids through the day of the schedule do all the things and I might feel accomplished but I don't always feel joy and I got to tell you there's a really big difference between the two of them and so we want to lean into God the other thing that is super helpful in here that that David talks about is to never speak a lie or allow wicked words to come upon your mouth and so what I want to address really quickly is the self talk all those messages that are flooding our heads those thoughts that are coming into our minds those messages that we're feeding ourselves about ourselves oh they could be so destructive and so I want you guys to just really be aware of those thoughts and it's simple it's so simple it's almost too simple but be aware of them and change your thoughts and say wait hold on it's not about who I am it's about maybe choosing differently about what I am doing and so the other thing that David is saying is keep turning your back on every sin and make peace your life motto practice being at peace with everyone I don't know this life motto thing makes me think of like all these signs that you can walk into houses with is like live love peace you know always trusting God this house is built on trust you know all of those things I love that it's like we need to have this peace motto sort of broadcast or at our home and I don't know about you but I think that peace is very hard to be at peace with everybody else when we're not at peace with ourselves it's like that same idea about loving others as we love ourselves I'm not sure how easy that's going to come when we don't have peace with ourselves so finding peace with within ourselves is key I'm going to give you a few tips okay so the first thing lean into God it sounds so simple but when I try to achieve achieve achieve it's not as good as when I lean into God and I just second thing journal I journal I write out my thoughts I write out my feelings I give it all to him I just speak it all I gaze on him I meditate on his word I get into his word another thing is to read a book okay one book that I would highly recommend just that focuses on our thoughts and cultivating a life of joy it's uh it's called the four eight principle it is based out of philippines four eight whatever's true whatever's noble whatever's good you want to think on those things and so highly recommend that book I read that in my 20s and it just truly changed my life and my outlook on joy and thankfulness very specifically so again lean into God gaze on him it says right here gaze on him join your life with his and joy will come amen joy will come for you ladies I believe that happy mother's day enjoy your day enjoy your kiddos and happy mother's day