 Dear student, based on my 40 year experience as psychologist, talking and handling and interacting with young students like you, who are appearing for various kind of competitive examinations about one of the very important topic called self-esteem, I am of the opinion, we need to understand what self-esteem means and how we can raise our self-esteem. In a very standard way, self-esteem is how we value and perceive our self, we value and perceive our self is very important, it is based on our opinion and beliefs, whatever opinion we make and whatever belief our self-esteem is basically based on that, our self-esteem. Whatever self-esteem can affect, whether you like or you value as a person by others or not, how others are perceiving you, self-esteem will help you in making good, fast and more accurate decisions about your life, about your plan, about your career, about your preparation, which you are appearing for, many of you are doing for the competitive examination, forthcoming UPSC examination. Self-esteem will help you in understanding your strength and your weaknesses. Once you understand your strength and weaknesses, I am sure you will agree with me, then you can build up those own strengths and in cash take advantage of those strengths into your journey ahead in life. A weaknesses, once you know to be supported to understand the weaknesses also, once I know my weaknesses, when you know your weaknesses, you know that these are my weaknesses, let me work out so that these weaknesses should not come in the way of my achievement of goal in life. So, these are the connotations, these are the auschutes of the self-esteem which I have just shared with you. I will discuss with you the 10 very important mantras which can help you erasing your self-esteem level. The first one is that learn more about yourself, that is try to understand what can make you happy, what can make you sad, you are the best judge to decide. You know, which things make you happy, which things make you sad, which things make you sad. No one else can tell you, others can just make a guess that may be right sometime, but largely that is not right, but you know what is going inside you. So please first mantra, learn more about yourself. The second mantra is that create a positive story, that is you have positive examples in life, you have done something, there are so many positive episodes in your life, try to think about those, those are your positive stories, those positive stories will help you in building your self-esteem in yourself. The positive stories happening which happened when you were a small child, when you just went to the college, you know from the school, so there is some positive incident that can happen in your life, remember those, try to recollect it, that will help you in building up. Life can be a positive thing, it has happened in everyone's life, but at a lot of times we have to go around with negative things, we don't go around with negative things, we have to do positive things in life that will help you in building up your self-esteem. The third point is accept and don't compare, I say accept and don't compare, comparison can only lead to negative thoughts and comparison will try to bring a self-talk, your mind will talk chalti rahegee, ye kar leta, mo se ye kar diya, nahi, yo nahi kar paya usko scept keze, yo kar paya usko scept keze, jab usko scept karege, to aapke mind main thought process ke andar, it keep on hitting you, it keep on talking self, aap self-talk kar rahegee ke aapko bataa rahe un cheechon ke baare main, aur un cheep ke baare main, unko scept keze, kami hai, har kisi mein hai, much mein bhi hai, scept keze uskinda, strength bhi hai, much mein, tum mein bhi hai, sum mein hai, usso scept keze aur usse ko in-cash karne ke koshik keze hai. Fourth is, volunteer, being service to others is very important, put yourself, when you put service to others, you are not only doing the service, you are also getting the self-team, apni berth, aapki ka berth hai, aap kya kar scepti hai, aapko iske baare bataa laggeega, aur jab aap, apni aapko service, dhusha ki service mein dalte hai, you help other people, you also learn about their perspective, what is going in the environment, that environment, things which is happening in the environment are making you more richer, I am more efficient, so that's my fourth mantra. The fifth mantra is, celebrate your success, you have success, no matter how small it may be. Hamein lagta hai, yeh choti si baat hai, chota su toh baan hai cheep kya, achip toh kya, success toh hai, celebrate kyo na kare, usho udhaas chodi hoon gaya mo, usho toh hai mai happy na choni. So celebrate, celebrate with the self, celebrate with the family, with the friend, that's very important to set your self esteem up. Six mantra, create a list of attributes you like about yourself, just make a list of the attributes which you have in you, which you like the most, which you admire in yourself, think over it, then you write those attributes, make a list in a black and white in front of you, then that will give you reminder, that will help you. Baar baar aapke mind mein wo uthain gyi chee jaye, wo aapko apne apne mein, ek confidence level ko build karne mein, help kering, self esteem aapke upar koi shoot hoge. Seven mantra, recognize your skills and develop them. You have skill, those skills requires your development. Self-development is the best way. Taking information from the environment, sabse pehle apri skill, apri competency jo aapke naan dar hain, unko recognize kee jos mein kya hain. Or ek target ek goal ko ponshren ke liye, kaunsi competency, kaunsi skills aapko chahiye mein. Kya gap, kya, what you have, what you want to be, see the gap, understand the gap and try to build up that gap, that gap will help you, building up your self esteem level. Eighth mantra which I want to give you is, no self-critism, more self-compassion. Why to criticize self? Most of the people I have seen who have low self esteem, they start criticizing themselves. No reasons. Why you are criticizing yourself? That means you are becoming your own enemy, aap apre dushan kut naan rahe hain, dosara koi nahi aapka dushan. Compassion kee jie usko enjoy kee jie apri, apri indar kee jio ko attribute ko dekhye naan ke usko. So avoid. Take a oath, it's kind of oath I would request you to take, just know. I will not do the self-criticism, what for? Because when you start to do the self-criticism, your self-esteem will get lower and lower and lower and reach to the bottom level, which will not allow you to take good decision, you know. It will not allow you to achieve the targets or the goals which you are supposed to achieve over there. So this is my eighth mantra. My ninth mantra for you is, identify, I would say, nine major successes. That means divide your life into three different compartments, means from the age of three to ten, for example, eleven to fifteen, sixteen, or sixteen to twenty-four, twenty-five. And see, identify three good things, success we have done at that age, up to the age of ten. So, I have done three things like this, I have done three good things. Eleven, fifteen, which three things? It can be four also, but identify three good qualities, good things which you have done it, success which you got it, and then think about for seventeen. Identify the nine different successes in your entire career till now, up to the age of twenty-four, twenty-five, twenty-six, what you are at this moment. And last mantra is, believe in yourself, it is your responsibility to take charge of your concept. Nobody will take charge of your self-concept, you have to take a charge of yourself. So accept that and believe, have a belief in yourself. Vishwas kiji apne apne indar, yeh self-concept apku help perega. Yeh das mantra, my dear students, if you will follow it strictly, make your lifestyle, I am sure with the confidence I can say, it will help you in building up your self-steal. My dear listeners, students, I am sure if you follow these, with my vast experience, working with young people like you, I am fully convinced that these mantras, if you follow them strictly as your lifestyle, make a lifestyle the way you have the lifestyle, you eat at fixed time, you go for dinner at fixed time, whatever you do it, you plan your study whatever, similarly these should also become a part of your lifestyle. This will help you in building up, at the end, good luck.