 Welcome back people. I am your host SK Gitonga and this is Unfinished, the only place where we finish and finish matters. Today we're talking about relationships and onto our next question. How do you deal with the breakup? Let me know in the comments section. I think maybe going out, partying with friends and maybe eating a lot, that usually helps me out. So eventually I'll just feel better over time. But time heals everything. What advice do you have for a person who's not feeling well? Take it easy, accept the past, don't let it get to you for some time, don't let it get to you for long. You can choose to live your life. Breakups, ouch! I guess you just have to take it. It was coming but unless you're married, if it's boyfriend-girlfriend stuff, a breakup might happen and if it does, you just take it. No need to do something stupid about it. It's bad but yeah, take it. Breakups, like when you break up with a man, you move on fast. Yeah, immediately. Let's say you move on the next day. I guess that is the best way because I've brought you in as stupid. Yeah. I'd say you deal with your emotions. Like you cry if you're a cryer. Like you see coin denial, like you're okay. Because it's a good job. If it's not one year later it will still come back because you're a human being and you have to process your feelings. So I feel, okay, I think that you should deal with it. Like you deal with it. If you're a cryer, you cry. If you're someone who gets depressed, you have pajamas all day and you wallow just to that. Yeah. Breakup is just like sipping water. You sip water and then once it's done, it's done. So you move on. You take another cup of water. Yeah. Breakup. First you cry. After maybe crying and going through everything, maybe the feelings and maybe feeling betrayed or maybe we are the one who betrayed someone. You come and learn that you are able to be there for the amount of period you're there. You are able to enjoy that time with each other. But in the end, if you like, once you just accept it, which is difficult, maybe for people who have been in love and everything, but for after some time, you know, time heals everything and time heals all wounds. So I would say that get out there. Don't resent the maybe the opposite gender or maybe a type of gender, maybe your heart in some way. So once you break up in someone, just try to move on, forgive or maybe be forgiven for what you did and just try to find other relationships because there's always something better out there. Maybe cut communication and move on to break, then your life will move on regardless. It's a good one. It's a good year. It's a great one. Find something else to keep you busy. Break up not to get me, but to keep you busy. Maybe name too many cheats from, maybe you can find a united one here. You can find your friends, maybe you can be together with your friends, maybe you can communicate with your friends. That's tough because people actually get to deal with different things during break ups. So well chilling out with friends, playing video games and maybe not looking for clinging on to your ex, your immediate ex. I think that would be good for me. So don't text them, just completely move on, do other things because there are a lot of people out there who are also looking for partners and everything. Yeah. I've never broken up. So when we get there, I think we'll cry a lot. Yeah, we'll cry a lot. And after crying we move on with left because it's tough. We cry and we move on to the, to the end of the year to try and give it another shot. But at least after learning, whatever made the previous one to break up, whatever brought the break up, at least it was lesson to the next relationship. That's when we get to this challenge, you know how to handle it now. So my unfinished matter is, but personally, I am a cry baby. So maybe as long as my stomach is full, I'm okay. And then, okay, on a like a serious note, I heal. Onto our next question. What do you consider as cheating in a relationship? Let me know what you think. Maybe texting girls. Okay, it's, it actually starts with your thoughts and then it becomes an action. So when you start texting random girls or like deeming them, that's actually cheating to me. Yeah. Cheating. If your partner is doing something intimate with someone else, that's cheating. Okay, I have a boyfriend. I have a girlfriend. If you go around kissing other dudes or sleeping with other dudes, that's cheating. But then if you do other stuff like getting too intimate with them, not necessarily doing anything, that's disrespect. So cheating still, yeah. Communication. Obviously the physical things. Also some forms of emotional cheating such as I don't know, like if you're giving someone, if it's a boy and you're giving another girl the girlfriend treatment, that's cheating. And obviously I've mentioned the physical stuff. That's obvious. Yeah. So I feel like emotional cheating and physical cheating, emotional cheating, like you talk to them all the time and instead of telling your significant other, that's some form of cheating, in my opinion. Cheating starts from flirting. As long as I see you, I'm working with you and you're looking at someone, that's cheating. When you're flirting, you're making, you're doing things that you usually do with me, but that's cheating. But maybe I think flirting is cheating. Yeah. Cheating. Cheating is very easy. If you're with a partner, there are other, there are certain limitations to what you should be doing with other people out there, which includes intimate, intimate actions with other people, which again, kissing, maybe of course, having sex with other people, that's considered cheating. But other things like maybe communicating, maybe talking to colleagues or such things, that cannot be considered cheating. So in my take, cheating is obviously getting intimate with another person who is not your partner. It's nice but it's difficult because we're all humans, we're all mystics, so it's nice, but it's not the right person to take control of. I consider cheating. It's not only having sexual relations with a partner of the opposite sex. Well, I consider cheating as, well, flirting can be cheating, going to dates with the person of the opposite gender is cheating. So simply doing anything with the person of the opposite gender who may seem interested in you, I would consider that as cheating. Well, if your boyfriend or girlfriend disapproves of it, then it's definitely cheating. In what aspect? Emotionally feels intimately zote. First of all, if you're going to confront another person, not me, you're cheating on me. If you're going through something, just come and tell me. I value that a lot. Of course, physically, if you're going to sleep with another person, not does that even mean you're a cheater, a zero cheater, should be convicted and jailed. Personally, I feel like if you're doing anything behind my back, that is cheating. I don't mind if you go out with other girls and go on dates and stuff. If I don't know about it, that is definitely cheating. We have come to the end of this show. Thank you for watching. See you next time.