 Hello family, welcome to another Narc Survivor live video. In this one we do have a very interesting topic. You won't believe this shocking truth about Narcissus. And this is something you may not have heard before. Although it is something I've heard other people brush on already. And I have spoken about it once before in one of my past live videos. You won't believe the shocking truth about Narcissus. But you should believe it. Because keep in mind I have been researching this disorder for over six years. And I've been making these videos for five and a half years. I am a Narcissist expert. So yes, I do know exactly what I'm talking about. And I can tell you that from the moment the idealization phase ends, the sexual frustration begins for the Narcissist. Yes, they become sexually frustrated. And the reason why, even if they are still having sex with you during that time, they still become sexually frustrated. And they have these insatiable desires that they cannot fulfill. The reason why is because in their minds it's like how someone with Narcissistic traits thinks. If I'm attractive, if I'm desirable, if I'm beautiful, handsome, sexy, then why do I have to pull back on the false character? Why couldn't I have continued with that to get the validation that I need? It's how they think. And it makes perfect sense because it's like, yeah, why couldn't you continue doing that? Why did you have to go to the devaluation, insulting, putting people down? And of course the reason why is because the false character is fake and they can't sustain it. Over time cracks begin to show and you begin to see who they really are. So then they stop wearing the mask. But despite that, this still goes on in their minds. It's like, if I'm really that sexy, if I'm really that beautiful, then why did I have to stop using the false character? Why was that no longer working? Why did I have to go to the devaluation? Even though, yes, it may make them feel powerful and in control, but that's not what they really want. They want that diamond supply that they get from having sex with you. That they get from portraying themselves as handsome, beautiful, sexy, whatever it is. But not only that, they actually have to give it to you. They want to clap your cheeks or they want you to clap their cheeks so that there's a climax and then they get that sexual validation that they're looking for, that they really want, because that is what they really want. And of course, I can go even deeper into this to really confirm that this is the actual truth because they just become even more bitter, angry and resentful as time goes on until they end up discarding you. And then even when they discard you, what do they do? They run off with a new source and they flaunt this new source in front of you. Why? Again, because they're seeking that sexual validation until they then realize that it doesn't work that way. Things go wrong with the new source and then they come back to hoover you. And if you take them back in, you might have makeup sex and you'll find that that's quite possibly the best sex you've ever had with them since you met them, because again, they were sexually frustrated and they're seeking that validation which they can only get through sex. And even when they run off and they try to find a new source, they try to find someone to replace you, all they're doing is they're going off and they are looking for you in someone else. They're going off and love bombing this new source and having sex with them because they're seeking that sexual validation when they can only get that from the source, not the new source, the source. And that source is you because you were the source of where things went wrong. I mean, you didn't initiate it, but it happened while they were with you. They had to pull back on the false character and they had to go to devalueing you and that really mixed things up inside of them. It's sending message to them, telling them that this false character isn't going to work on you anymore. Being beautiful, sexy, handsome, that's not enough. And it made them feel very insecure. That's why they then became very dominating and controlling. But that's what they really want is your sexual validation. When you see that they're getting really angry, really bitter towards you, they're putting you down, notice how that's typically when you stop validating them. You stop having sex with them. But it's not only that, it's because they did these things to you. They didn't treat you right. They abused you. And then they feel a lot of shame because yes, it doesn't matter how they portray it on the outside, deep down they know that how they've treated you is wrong. They try to justify it, but look at how they hide it. Look at how they keep a code of silence because they understand that what they did to you was wrong and they don't want to feel bad. They don't want to feel like a bad person. They don't want to feel the shame. They want to feel handsome, beautiful, sexy around you. They want that sexual validation. And that's something they will only get from you by having sex with you. Now that's how you may notice that if they hoover you, you have make-up sex, you take them back and it's like the moment it's all over following the climax, you can see it on their face. They're happy. They're relieved. And you may not have seen them like that for a very long time, but you can tell that something has changed inside of them because believe it or not, when they do have sex with you again and you just kind of overlook everything they did to you, you accept them sexually, you see them as attractive and desirable and you're satisfied, it does something for them. It relieves their pain and distress. It temporarily relieves their shame and makes them feel much better in that moment. It makes them feel good about themselves because how they're making sense of it in their minds is if I was that bad, if what I did to you was so wrong, then would you have sex with me again and if I'm not attractive or desirable, would you finish, would you climax, would you orgasm, would you be happy, would you be smiling, would you be laughing with your arms around me? That's what goes on in their mind and then it makes them feel much better about themselves and I don't just have to say this, I mean I'm sure many of you have experienced this already. I know that I have in my experiences that when they are very angry, very frustrated, they're very bitter, very moody. Yes, believe it or not, that is in fact sexual frustration which is very common among narcissistic people so remember they are very self-absorbed and they lack empathy and they have this strong sense of entitlement. They feel entitled to your body, never mind what they've done to you so they expect you to give it to them if you don't. You don't give it to them how they want it, when they want it, then they get even more mad but then when they do get it and you validate them, it makes them feel better about themselves and it relieves that frustration and that's really what it is. Many of you may think that you're not good enough, they hate you, it's actually all them. They just want that validation which they can only get from having sex with you because it sends this message in their minds how they make sense of it is that if they were really such a bad person and that everything they did to you was wrong, it was hurtful then would you have sex with them? Would you feel satisfied following the act? That's how they make sense of it. So of course it temporarily relieves their shame it makes them feel better in that moment and it's kind of the same thing when people talk about girls with daddy issues it's like they're hypersexual, they have a lot of sex with multiple partners and yeah, it's true. It's because they never got that validation that they wanted from their father so then they go out and they seek it from other men but it's never enough because those are the men are not the source of the invalidation in childhood that's from their father but of course most girls are not attracted to their fathers in that way of course there are some cases where that does happen and some girls do actually seek that sexual validation from their fathers directly but of course that is extremely rare so there's no need to go too deep into that in most cases they have that invalidation in their childhood from their father and then they go out into the world when they get older and they seek that validation from other men but no matter how much sex they have or with how many partners it's never enough because what they really want is that validation from the source and even if they do get it it may be too late because they needed that a long time ago so the only thing they can do now is go within to resolve the trauma but as we know narcissists aren't going to do that they don't seek external validation they don't self reflect or look within because it's too painful for them to deal with a shame so yeah it's pretty much the same as daddy issues only with a relationship partner because they experienced invalidation from you as well you invalidated the false character when you began to realise that it was fake you began to realise that it wasn't real and then they stopped feeling so sexy, so beautiful, so handsome they pulled back on the false character and they began to devalue you and that's when the sexual frustration began to build up and they started to feel really bad about themselves they felt a lot of shame and of course when they feel shame what do they do the rage and the abuse they come down on you like a ton of bricks but yeah that's really what you're seeing, what you're witnessing when they're really bitter, they're really angry, really resentful that's actually their sexual frustration they're sexually frustrated and many of you when you saw that they were mad they were putting you down you may have tried to become more affectionate of course many of them they're so prideful, so arrogant they may have just rejected you and pushed you away even though that's the exact thing that they wanted is for you to be more affectionate is for you to want to have sex with them and validate the false character but if they did manage to let you do that it's amazing how quickly they can change it's like at first they were so mad and then you had sex and following the act they completely changed it relieved their frustration, their pain, their shame so you see, believe it or not there is a very powerful sexual component to this that's what a lot of this is because think about what narcissism is it's a desire to be seen, to be heard it's all about this fake outer shell this false self image where they want to be seen as attractive and desirable and if they don't get that from you especially when you're their source of supply and they're already seeking validation from you to begin with and when they don't get it and they feel invalidated it creates this internal conflict inside of them and they need this internal conflict to be resolved and it has to be resolved sexually because of course that is the ultimate validation is your sexual satisfaction with them because of course if you do have sex with them and for whatever reason you're still not satisfied then that's going to invalidate the false character but then saying that, I mean a lot of them are delusional they live in this false reality inside their heads so they may just tell themselves especially after they discard you they triangle you with the new source they will just tell themselves that they are what you want that you are attracted to them that you do want to be with them again you do want to have sex with them but even then it's just a delusion inside their heads and that's why it doesn't last once things go wrong with the new source they come back to hover you like the first thing they want to do they want to have sex with you again because that's what they really want they're trying to relieve their sexual frustration they want to have sex with you even though they may not always realize it consciously it's always there in their subconscious and it never goes away even when it looks like they've moved on it looks like they're with someone else but actually they're just searching for you in someone else love bombing them maybe having sex with them because they're trying to resolve that internal conflict to where they were with you but the false character wasn't good enough and they felt invalidated so they're trying to resolve that with someone else they're looking for you in someone else and it never works that way the only way for it to work is if they return to the source of the invalidation and of course the source of that invalidation was you they felt like you invalidated the false character and you did because it wasn't good enough for you but they don't look at the reason why they see it as though they caused you all of this trauma they abused you and that's typically how it goes on our end because they've abused us on many occasions so even the thoughts just me talking about this right now talking about the narcissist wanting to have sex with you again and they're sexually frustrated maybe making many of you sick after everything you've been through with with the last thing on your mind maybe having sex with the narcissist of course because they've done all of these things to you but for them it's different because you weren't like that with them you were very caring very loving, very patient so it's very different and of course they abused you and then you invalidated the false character because that's typically how it goes it doesn't just go directly from idealization to devaluation it's kind of rather idealizing you they do little things hurtful things they test you and then you reject the false character you invalidate it and then they feel like it's not good enough for them to continue garnering supply so then they resort to the devaluation but that's just there what you have to understand about narcissists as well is that they're not really physically or sexually attracted to anyone they're narcissistic it's just all about themselves so when it comes to sex all they really want is your validation so that they can have power and control over you they're not really concerned about your sexual satisfaction they're not really concerned about that at all it's just how it pertains to them they just look at it like if you're happy with how I look with my physical appearance my body if it's good enough for you and you're sexually satisfied then that must mean that I'm good that I'm attractive I'm desirable I'm beautiful I'm handsome I'm sexy that's all that that is it's just based on how it pertains to them it doesn't really have anything to do with you as a person they don't even care about you you're just an object that they use to make themselves feel better but yeah this is their shocking truth they must assess that many of you may not believe but look deeper into it do some research and you will find that it is true this is really how it is it's all just their sexual frustration because you invalidate the false character and that's why if they do go off and they try to find a new source then they come back to hoover you and you don't accept them what do they do? they harass you, they stalk you they want to punish you now because they felt sexually invalidated they felt like their false character was not good enough for you and I do believe that this is why many people in this world today they're not satisfied with just normal sexual relations and instead it's all about BDSM and being a dominatrix it's all about pain and sexual abuse it's like that's the only thing that can bring them satisfaction and it's because they believe that deep down who they actually are isn't good enough they're not attractive, they're not desirable they're not sexy enough as they are so then they go from idealizing their sexual partner to devaluing them and becoming sadistic and getting off on their pain but of course that's not what they really want even psychopaths all they really want deep down is to be loved admired, validated appreciated they want to be desired this is why their false image and their supply is so important to them because that's what they really want it's just they feel invalidated they feel like they can't get it and they can't sustain it so they always slip up and then they begin to attack you because no amount of supply or validation is ever enough and as soon as they feel like they're losing your attention your validation then they resort to the attacks but it's not what they really want what they want is that sexual validation they just might not be able to get it from you anymore but whether they can get it or not that's what they want they are sexually frustrated let me know what you think about what I've said in this video down below in the live chat and I will read out your responses your questions and I will respond to them because I know I've given quite a deep discussion a lot of detailed information in this video Marilyn says they want love not knowing what love is and when they have love they don't know what to do with it so discard happens they can't recognize love when they have it it's difficult for them to recognize the love because even when they get it it's for the false character not for who they actually are so you love the false character and in their minds it's just reminding them of how who they actually are isn't good enough because you're not loving them you're just loving the false character and even then no matter how much love they get it's never enough because the false character isn't real they have no love coming from within for themselves what they love is their false character but deep down they know that it's not even real it doesn't even exist so that's why no amount of love is ever enough Arani says no one can tolerate disrespect yeah that's just it they disrespect you and then their false character feels invalidated and then they start feeling bad about themselves they start feeling attractive and desirable but they never look at their actions or what they did to you to cause that to happen they just point the finger at you they just blame you for all of that and then that's just another reason for them to punish you to devalue you Arani says I'm in this situation where she is narcissistic and is sexually frustrated and when I don't want sex she states to degrade me yeah they will degrade you when you don't want sex they expect you to want it 24 hours a day 7 days a week whenever they want it whenever they feel like they're not that attractive then they expect you to want it immediately because they want it and they view you as an extension of them and they've got to regulate those emotions from within so that they can feel better about themselves but of course they can't regulate it within they have to use you as an external regulator and you regulate them through sex to make this false character feel sexy but of course if you don't want it how they want it and exactly when they want it then this these feelings that they have for themselves about not being desirable enough are then projected outwards on to you so that's why they then degrade you Raccoon says it's like they are oblivious to their own hurtful actions yes they really are they're disconnected from themselves disconnected from their own feelings actions and behaviors they're in denial they're in denial that's why they use a false character so that they can exist in this false reality but denying it does not mean that it's not still there they can deny their actions, they can deny the shame but it's still there and they're still going to feel compelled they're going to feel this desire to resolve the internal conflict but yeah this is why they do what they do this is why they devalue you they blame you, they punish you they discard you, they ghost you they triangulate you with someone else they hoover you and this is why they then become obsessed with you they stalk you, they harass you this is why they do all of that because they're sexually frustrated and what they're really seeking is your validation of all these things to you so you no longer validate the false character you no longer see them as attractive or desirable instead you just see them as this mean abusive person and to a normal person there's nothing sexy about that that's like the biggest turn off there is when someone's harming you I mean some people they've experienced some traumas in childhood when somehow they managed to connect sadism and sex or I'm not sure of the exact terms for this but even being a recipient of pain during sex some people do get off on that some people like it but I'm assuming most of us here we are normal so the relationship never goes down that road and it just kind of fizzles out we stop having sex with them because we can't see an abusive manipulative person as being attractive as being someone who we would want to have sex with and that's why they've got to go to devaluing us discarding us strangling us with their new source to where they then develop an obsession and they start stalking us but yeah that's what they really want that is what they really want and some of them may not know it consciously because they are in denial but deep down it's still there that's what they're seeking when they're obsessing over you and they just can't leave you alone or in some cases they may leave you alone but then they run off they find new sources they're looking for you in someone else but that's never going to work because they've got to get that validation from the source from what made them feel invalidated through their own abusive actions that's what they've got to do and that's the only way that they are ever going to resolve it and until then the road's going to be bitter mad angry envious hateful people and that's just the way it is but that's not for you to worry about because you don't have to be intimately involved with them you don't have to have sex you don't need to do any of that as an empath you can self reflect you don't have to be in denial you don't have to deny your part in it you can accept it and you can resolve it by going within just as you try to resolve it with them all of those times you don't need to do that anymore of course you should know by now that's not going to work they don't want a resolution and anyway it's more effective if you do go within yourself which of course that's something they're never going to do they're always going to blame you they're always going to be trying to punish you triangulating you starting smear campaigns doing all of these things so it's never going to be resolved for them but it can be resolved for you anyway I think I've gone deep enough into this message and I hope that I have provided you with some clarity because it's very confusing when they begin to rage and they devalue you it makes you wonder what is really going on what do they want and that's really it, that's what they want if you take them back you have sex with them yes, the sex may be good in the beginning but over time that will change and they will return to normal they will go back to abusing you again because it's never enough no amount of validation is ever enough for a narcissist they're always going to want more and one person can never give enough to them one person can never fill that void so if you want my advice just leave it alone I know it may be tempting sometimes especially if the narcissist that you are dealing with is attractive but honestly it's only going to ruin you in the end they're just going to go back to trying to destroy you because at some point you're going to invalidate the first character and then they're going to feel sexually frustrated again and you can't connect sexual acts to pain, abuse and trauma that's not what a normal person can do so it's inevitable they're going to keep abusing you but I hope this provided you with some insight the shocking truth about an narcissist and if you found it helpful you can give it a thumbs up down below to show your support and you can also support our community by sending a donation to paypal.me or also by giving a super thanks in the comment section or a super chat through the live chat and let me know what you thought about this video in the comment section below I reach a comment every day and I try to respond to as many as I can and if you would like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me go to my website it is narksviver.co.uk and you can find out at narksviver.co.uk and you can follow me on 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