 Next question is from Marissa Lyft, repeat. Can you please settle this nutritional question my husband and I have had for years? Is it better health-wise to eat the whole pan of brownies in one sitting, or spread it out throughout the week? Now first, before we answer this, listen. I love this type of stuff. Yes. Do we think that the wife is on the, eat the brownies on the ones for the crab? No, the husband is just like me. Crushes the whole pan. You eat the whole thing. That's what I was thinking. This is the reason why I keep stuff like that out of my houses. I just don't have that self-discipline. My Katrina, she can do this. She could bake brownies and we could eat off of them for like the next month. Just little pieces. Yes. In fact, I have this client that she, every, this is tradition for her. She's done this her whole life. She's in her fifties. And she eats for her birthday month, cause she's not a big sweet eater. She's her diet's in check. She looks phenomenal. Not just the week, the month. So the whole month she eats cupcake every single day, but it's a quarter of a cupcake. She eats these little cupcakes. She cuts them in fours. And every day she just has one little, that's like perfect. Yo, it's great. And I don't tell her not to. I said, that's great. I mean, she has the ability to manage that and keep that in check. And honestly, that is how, if I was going to have a client, you would much rather do that than to over consume in one seat. On all levels, it is far less healthy to eat a bunch at once rather than spread it out on all levels. Physiologically it's worse. You're overloading your body probably with extra calories, tons of sugar, hitting the body, tons of potential food intolerance issues. These types of foods tend to bother people's guts. And if you push a lot of them, you're probably gonna have those kinds of issues which cause inflammation. Let's also talk about the psychological factor. That's binging, right? That's encouraging this relationship with food where you over-indulge all at once and you don't have the ability to enjoy it a little bit but then also back off a little bit. And then you punish yourself about it later, like inevitably, like so you go through it. You're mindless. You're not even really enjoying it as much as you're trying to get it in quickly because you're just looking at it as an opportunity that's only right now for me to get all of this in. And it's not even as enjoyable as like really paying attention to the taste, the flavor, all of that. It's just about getting it in. Well, the truth is too, it's important. I think you have self-awareness on why you have behaviors like that. And by no means am I pointing the finger here. This is my, to this day, damn you're 40 years old and I'm very aware of this behavior in myself and still struggle with it. I mean, it's, when you have things that are so deeply rooted that go all the way back to childhood, just becoming aware of your shit doesn't just fix, doesn't change it. Yeah, I still have to have this conversation. Anytime stuff like that is in my house, I know my behaviors. I know my habit when it comes to that. And I play my own mental mind games of justification. Oh, I only, you know, I trained really hard today. I started having this like, you know, debate with myself on why it's okay for me to do it. And it's so funny, but it's like, so the easier thing for me or the best way that I control this is I keep it out of the house. I mean, that's, for me, that's just a better approach. Yeah, I would love to have it in there and have the discipline to do a quarter. And have I done that before? Sure, I've done it, but I'm very susceptible to making up an excuse on why I think it's okay that I can smash the whole pan. This is all rooted in the, and for many people, it's rooted in the feeling that you're depriving yourself and restricting yourself. And, you know, every time you don't eat sweets. So then when you do have the sweets, now you switch to a different mentality, which is, well, I already broke the first rule, which is never to happen. Let it all in. So now let's just go for it. The reality, what you should do, and this is kind of part of the practice, it ain't easy, but this is part of the practice of developing a better relationship with this, is to understand that you're choosing. You want to not eat it all the time. It is a choice. Here's the thing. If somebody forcibly takes something from you, it's much more difficult than if you voluntarily give it up. This is a fact. This is a total fact. Try getting an alcoholic to quit drinking when they're not voluntarily choosing to do so. It's almost impossible. Even if they know it's good for them, they may even know in their mind, yeah, I probably should quit drinking, but that force feeling is what makes it a problem. So understand that when you choose not to eat these types of things, it's not because, ooh, I'm restricting myself and I need to really punish myself and push myself. It's, I don't want it. I don't want that. I know it's gonna taste good. You can acknowledge all that. Yeah, I know it tastes good. I know I enjoy eating it. It's all good, but I choose not to because actually these other things are more important to me right now. And then when you have it, you have this conversation. Yeah, I choose to have it right now. I know some of the doesn't have these qualities, but also has these other qualities and that's also totally fine. And then, Justin talked about that binge process. Next time you're caught, you catch yourself in that process of eating a lot of something. Try to pay attention to this. This is a big one. Try to become aware of this. It isn't so much the food that you're tasting. It is the anticipation of the next bite. It's a very unique and strange quality of that binge mentality. It's not about the bite that I'm enjoying. It's about getting the next one. It's the anticipation of getting that next bite, which is why when you binge eat or you have this type of behavior, you tend to eat very quickly. You're not actually enjoying the brownies. You're waiting for the next one and the next one and the next one until it's all gone. And then you sit there and you're like, oh, what'd I do? I think it's really important you unpack it because honestly, that has nothing to do with why I do this. And I know that. Yours is more unique, I would say. Well, who knows though? Maybe more people can relate to this. They just never have thought about it like this. When I grew up and there's five kids in a house and as a kid, so I'm not buying the groceries, our parents are, if we got a six pack of soda or we got a, what is that? Not a pint. A pint of ice cream? Ice cream, yeah, what is it coming? A gallon. No, it's not a gallon. It's like a quart. A quart, there you go. Yeah, like a quart of ice cream or whatever. A mile of ice cream. Are we talking metric or is that a standard? What are we doing here? 15 minutes of ice cream? This much, right? So, you know, or a thing of Oreos, I mean, when you have five kids plus two adults that are getting, and for us, it was a big deal, right? If my parents spent outside of the things that we absolutely needed to get some of the junk food or the treats like that, it was a big deal. And you know, in most boxes come with only eight to 10 servings and like, you know, fruit roll-ups and weird shit like that. So, it was a race to get to it as fast as you could and have as much of it as you can before somebody else did. Because it might hit your house and you not get it. A six pack of soda, you might not get one, you know what I'm saying? If someone decided to have two before you decided to have one, you're assed out. Get it in real quick. So, you had to get it in. And I remember getting, I remember this was a, you know, long battle for me as a kid growing up. And then I remember becoming an adult and I had my own place by the time I was 17 and had a job, make my own money. I remember like for me, I made the conscious effort. I'm gonna fucking buy a whole court and eat all of it because I can. Yeah. It had nothing to do with- Why is the fight my dad? Healthy for me, am I serving myself? No, it had everything to do with, I couldn't have it before. I can now, I make my own decision, I'm adult. I'm gonna do it. So, and I still struggle with that today as a grown ass adult because I first went through all of it as a child, then I went through my 20s of giving it to myself because I could and then justifying it because I trained hard, I worked out good, I didn't get fat from it. I balanced that out through playing sports and training and exercise. So this justification of I deserve this and I can do what I want. So that's the mental battle I have with it. Yeah, I was a little bit more of a treasure hunt for me growing up because my dad would like hide him in different places and cabinets and things and up on top of the refrigerator. And he thought that like, you know, I'm going to work, I'm gonna come back. And I would just start finding all of his treats around the house and start eating them. And he gets so pissed off. But, you know, that was just one of those things that it was like, you held it in such high regard because it was like, why is he hiding it? You know, like, ooh, this is tasty. And like, it just became a thing. These things become hardwired, isn't that funny? Like you, the way you treat food in your house, your children become hardwired to eat that way. I mean, when I was a kid, and this is part of the, you know, my parents' culture, the Italian culture. I mean, they grew up very poor. So you ate all your food. Cause we don't know when the next time we're gonna have a meal like this or whatever. And so when we go to, and when I grew up, I wasn't without, right? My parents were, you know, middle-class. My dad worked very hard to provide us with the middle-class lifestyle. So I have no experience growing up the way my dad did. So I don't know what this is coming from. Or especially my grandparents and my grandfather. You know, he eats, if you give him a bowl of boiling hot pasta, no joke, right off the stove, so hot, you stick your finger in that it'll melt your skin off. My grandfather eats the whole thing in three bites. He uses a fork and a spoon at the same time and eats it all. And this is because when he was a kid, he'd go to work at the age of, you know, 10, 11, 12, literally go on a train and disappear for days at a time, come back with some money to give his mom. And he would get hired by these farms and landowners. Food lines, huh? And what they would do is when they would feed the workers, they'd be out a big, big massive pot of boiling hot beans to feed everybody. And he's 12, he's working with a bunch of men. And if he didn't get in there and ate the boiling hot beans, by the time it cooled down, there'd be no food and he would starve. So he learned how to just inhale this hot ass food. We joke with him and tell him his mouth is made of his bestos, because he can just, you know, when we would eat at my grandma's house, me and my cousins, so there's like, you know, six of us, seven of us, a lot of us, we would all sit outside in the patio and my grandma would service the food. And then she would come out and she'd have money. This is no joke, this was a kid, this was a terrible, this was a terrible thing to teach a kid. But she would come out with money and she'd say the first person to finish gets a dollar. So we'd be like, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, just training us to eat super fast, you know what I mean? Or she'd put a timer, all right, when this is up, if you're not done, you're in trouble, oh, I got five seconds left. Different times, man. I need to finish eating this, you know? So you end up developing these, you know, these bad eating habits. So, but yeah, this is something that you want to become aware of and unpack it. And for me, it was paying attention to the fact that it wasn't about the food that was in my mouth, it was about the next one. I remember when that first hit me and I, as I was eating, I'm like, wait a minute, I'm not even enjoying what's in my mouth. Yeah. I'm just thinking about the next one. Just trying to get it all. This is kind of stupid.