 Hi, she was seven. Okay, so I want to talk to y'all today about knowing yourself and How it plays an important part of the type of person you end up with in a relationship So many people do not know who they are. Do not know what they want in life Do not know what kind of future they want. They just walk around with nothing in Their mind of where they want to be in five years They just walk around and So they're sending out this vibration of I'll take whatever Comes to me. I'll take whatever comes to me because I don't have a plan. I don't have a list I don't have any goals about where I want to be in five years. So I'm game for anything. Okay So this is the vibration you're sending out and this is why certain type of guys or type of women come into your life because You're not sending out a specific You know Need or want or a manifestation of the type of person you want to be with You know, or if you do it's very vague and it's not enough to get with actually, you know, what you need so Knowing who you are and knowing what you want is very important Even if you realize it or not If if if you take a woman who doesn't know what she wants in her life or you know knows where she wants to be in five years And then you take a woman who has a plan who knows where she wants to be in five years Who knows what she wants to be the type of man she wants to be with how many children She wants to have what's she gonna name them what's how the town she wants to live on and all that you take that type of woman versus the woman who doesn't even plan for the next day And you will see the type of men that are that that they attract will be told to totally different types of guys The woman with the plane is gonna only attract men who can Actually be a part of that plan help her with that plan or Be actually, you know Part of the plan itself now the woman with no plan She's gonna attract anybody a stragglers. She's gonna attract people who don't know what they want either who are still searching and You know two people with no plan You know lax Foundation lax commitment lax honor Because they haven't decided who they are or what they want So if they don't want you you can be gone the next day or if they see something else that they like They're gonna go run over there. You know why because they don't have a set mind of what they want in life either So when you meet people, this is a very important question to ask Where do you see yourself in five years? And if their answer is well, I don't think that for you. Oh, I don't know. Maybe Listen to key words, maybe I don't know. I don't think listen to those words key words. I don't know. I don't think Maybe These are the words that you need to stay away from if you hear that come out of someone's mouth Let that be your last date or conversation with them Okay, so And you mean a guy and you ask him, okay Where do you see yourself in five years or you meet a lady and you say where do you see yourself in five years? If she's ghost bam, bam, bam, bam, bam down a list That is a good sign Because she's already focused. She's already thought about it. She's already visualized that she has goals set in place She's already researched or whatever she just went down a list for and it's already in action is coming to her Okay, so key words will going to eventually plan goals stability Education listen to all these words, you know Where do you see yourself in five years? Well, I see myself in a position able to purchase a house to start a family to be This far in my career to go to school to this this is that you know if they can name off a list of stuff that's actually thought about and not pulling stuff out the sky and Looking around thinking about it, you know, they're there already mentally and once you are there mentally It's coming to you physically already. It's on the way So and also listen to the person that talks more Then they actually have to show That's a key sign. Okay, we have talkers now If you get some if you get someone who likes to talk about themselves Talk talk talk talk talk. Don't ask you about yourself Has all these plans and goals and and they're gonna do distances and that and you look around and don't see any evidence of Anything so far. He's a talker or she's a talker And when they when they talk too much and they're over compensating for what they don't have yet When a person has a plan in place and they're already taking steps towards it They don't need to really talk about it too much. Okay, so that's another hint So yet know what you want because you're gonna attract people who know what they want and when two people know what they want There's no confusion. There's no You know Arguing about well, I thought you wanted this or I thought you wanted that or I thought you said this There's nothing like that because you've already made the plan. It's already in motion So keep that in mind when you when you meet people, okay? I don't hear I don't care how cute they are cute can't pay the bills, especially if you're a guy cute don't pay the bills unless you're Living off some woman who likes your cuteness and pays your bills, okay? So ladies you got to get this look thing out your out your head, I know a lot of young women go for looks Looks will not get you in men's looks do not get them anywhere past a certain age You know why because once a man reaches a certain age. He's looked at by his Financial stability and that's just truth. You never seen somebody who's 40 years old think about this y'all You never seen a man who was 40 years old Whose highest Compliment was oh, you're so cute Or oh, you're so handsome Think about this if Whoever like let's just pick an older actor Idris Elba Denzel Washington Johnny Depp Keanu Reeves if they were all broke, which is still think they were like Cute at their age No, you'd be like, well, he's attractive. He's attractive, but walk on by So you got to remember ladies when you when you're planning for the future You can't use cute as a factor, especially with men You got to use brains. They got to have brains a plan and they have to become stable Because after the age of 40 They get no respect for what they look like. It's just like what can you do? What can you produce? Let me see your Let me see your portfolio. What have you invested? What have you saved? Can you buy a house? Do you have good credit? Do you have a college fund set up for your children this this and that this becomes the attraction, okay? Not oh, he's so cute. Oh Look at him that old 40 year old guy. He's so cute. No doesn't find him or after after your mid 30s It's over guys. So you got to get it together And for women, you know the same thing But see women got tricks though. They can look young for a long time. They can pile on the makeup pile on the wigs And stuff like that and go for older men But there there's gonna come a time where even the older men are each their woman's gonna become older and Even older men aren't gonna want her. So she has to you know, settle down with somebody She has to figure out what she wants the type of man. She wants what's important to her And stuff like that. So usually you'll see ladies try to settle down if they want kids before the age of 30 Or you know The woman doesn't want kids already has kids and it hasn't settled down She'll try to settle down by the age of 40 45 Okay, because she knows, you know, I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone My kids are grown. It's time to you know, find this person So especially when you're older you need to find somebody with a plan, you know When you're young and free like if you're if you're under 25 Just go have fun. After the age of 25, you got to start thinking. Okay After 25 if you're still dating that um, well, I don't know. We'll see kind of guy You're going backwards so remember that babies don't go backwards and I always say this if if the man you're deciding to be with You know long-term cannot provide you With the lifestyle that you are raised in or better. What are you really saying to yourself? You know What are you really saying to yourself? I don't deserve I don't even deserve the lifestyle I was raised in because I'm going to settle for this guy That doesn't have his stuff together and you know But maybe I can help out and I know there's a lot of people That do have to have to income families and that's fine, but remember As long as he has potential as long as he's going upward and not dragging you down That's that's good. Okay. Now everybody's rich. We know that so as long as he's going up And not backwards if if nothing is going to pull you back by being with him then by all means be with him You know if you're not going to have to suffer the consequences later for being with someone Who's not where they should be in life yet Who has past mistakes and stuff on their records and stuff they can't get over and you know They can't get hired anywhere because they done this this and that that's only going to drag you down So you want to avoid that? Okay, you want to avoid that for your future and your future generations? You don't you don't want to latch on to that You want to let that go and say this is not what's best for my life. This is not going to push me ahead This is not going to be good for my kids There's nothing going to come from this that's going to benefit me in the least bit. Okay, so We have to use our brains and our hearts to make these decisions, okay A lot of times when women are in love or in a relationship They they forget to use this and men too. They forget to use this, you know, they don't look five years into the future They're looking at today and right now and that's fine. It's fun to live in the moment But once you get to a certain age, you got to start planning for your future generations So they can have their chance to live in their moment Without, you know suffering. Okay, so I'm gonna leave it at that I'll say If you have any questions or comments Leave me down below and I'll see y'all later. Bye