 Gweithio ar y cyflawni gael y maen nhw'n gweithio'r ddweud o'r Hwm Ramadan, yn ymlaen i'r ddweud, Sena Arragi, a'r gwest ffihima'u Mohamed, y cyflawni gyda gyda'r gyfermysgol a'r LPs. Gweithio ar ddweud. Gweithio ar ddweud. A dyna yno yna'n ddysgu'r gweithio'r gweithio Ramadan a'r gweithio'r ddweud o'i gweithio'r gweithio ar y cwrs honi. Fel cysylltu, mae'n ffordd hynny. Roeddwyd wedi gofyn o'r iawn o'r blaen. Felly gydag ei wneud i'r hyn o f haberwyr yma? Fobl. Pryf yn yma ran o'r ymerddangodio ar bobl i gael grwypo ar gyfer rhan oed i'r lleol. Fe wnaethau o'r awdurdod yma, ac yn fawr fel y gallwn amser oherwydd hefyd o'r gwneud. A gallwn gwneud i amser o nodi a ddiswn yna. a'n gilydd y ffordd, mae'n dweud o ddoedd ein bod yn cael ei gilydd yng nghymru mewn ddweud. Yn ymweld yng nghymru, yng Nghymru, mynd i ddweud yn cael ei ddweud yng nghymru, ac mae'n ddweud yn cael ei ddweud, ond cyfnodd, a'n ddweud y ddweud yn cael ei ddweud, ddweud ychydig yn fwy o haf ymddangos. Yn ymchydig, ynghylch, a'ch ddweud, ynghylch yn fwy o fwy o haf ymddangos, can be a lot more easier for you. So I always would sort of give sort of tips and advice with regards to anyone that's approaching in this holy month that preparation starts in the months before, just like it's recommended to be honest. Our religion has such an amazing way of putting it so that we actually have to follow, we have to read between the lines that in Rajab and Shaaban, when we have to do some of the recommended fasting and prayers and also I think it's preparation for us. But a lot of us sort of just regard it a little bit and we don't actually perform that. When I know I haven't done that myself but when I did start, it just made Ramadan so much easier when I was fasting a few months before, not consecutively but regularly, months before the actual month of Ramadan for example, because your body is sort of preparing itself. The difficulty is during Ramadan when you're just going to start on day one to fast for example, obviously the body is not going to handle it, just with anything in life, you have to prepare. And then again with the thoughts and feelings that we have with regards to Ramadan, as much as we know it's such a blessed holy month, we do feel the pressure of what it entails, the worship, going to the mosque in centres, inviting family and friends, giving all the extra charity, things like that. And it can be like a marathon that we're trying to sort of like sprint and be ahead of people and organise in that way, which is fine but at the same time, we need to sort of analyse what is the real purpose of it, what is the main issues that we ourselves as individuals can put upon ourselves. And a lot of the times we also comparing as to what other people should do or what society and communities expect us to do. And that also creates a lot of pressure. So you've got to analyse you, what you can do for yourself as an individual, for example if you're working, if you're a mum, or your dad that has a very demanding and challenging job for example, then you've got to go accordingly to your own situation, not necessarily what someone else says and does. And a lot of the time communities and societies do put the guilt up saying that, this needs to be done, that needs to be done and the pressure's on. Yeah, it can be pressurising a lot. Very pressurising. And we have to kind of manage our time during the Ramadan. Absolutely. And especially when you have children, it can be quite difficult during the long days perhaps and having to be more flexible with bedtime routines and things like that. So it can create pressure for the mum and the dad in some cases. Absolutely. And you raise a very important point, which is time and organising. And as much as we all can't be organised, but I think in a time like this, we need to get ourselves into the habit and routine of being organised because the more we are prepared is going to give us the extra time for us to do what we really want. And all it takes is just a few adjustments. And if you prepare and plan sort of weeks and months in advance, sort of coming up to the Holy Month, it can make it so much simpler. And for one, getting the mindset, knowing that this is my time to sort of submit in this Holy Month because Allah puts it on us as a gift. It's a blessing to each and everyone's home. And it's for us to be at ease, not to put difficulty on us, but we put the difficulty on ourselves for various reasons. And it's normal because at the end of the day we do want to do everything but we have to understand we cannot. And again, going back to knowing ourselves really well, our own homes and our environment, what are we capable of doing, and it's you sort of like putting yourself in a situation, knowing that you're improving from what you were last year. So compare yourself to yourself before, not necessarily everyone else. Yeah, of course, because it's down to the spiritual connection and I think a lot of people that I know they tend to focus more on the preparation of the food. Yes. So it's all about making sure we have the ingredients, it's Ramadan, it's about feasting, that's focus on food and preparing for the food, but we're not preparing our mind in some cases. Absolutely. So that can cause pressure, especially for mums, or just women in general because they tend to be doing the cooking most of the time. Of course. So, you know, they have to allocate time to cooking and that can take a lot of time for some mums, so that also can increase the pressure in the household. And as an individual, we need to sort of really take some sort of responsibility of ourselves as to what is it that we want out of this month for ourselves? You know, what are the improvements? What are the habits we want to create? What are the things that we want to sort of, you know, better ourselves and set some realistic goals? Yes. Really set some goals, not just approach it, saying that it's going to be exhausting, it's going to be tiring, I want to just, you know, do what we need to do and I want to, like you said, do all the shopping and get that out of the way, which is all fine. But if you've got your mindset in the right way and SubhanAllah, when you get it right with the right connection and the love for Allah, knowing you're doing it for that connection and for you to bring yourself closer to your submission, then the rest follows in a lot more easier, calmer way, but people don't understand that. The mind is so powerful, your thoughts and the way in which you look at things and everything else follows afterwards. But it all starts with that. So I think that the main preparation for Ramadan is to understand what is it that this month really means. As much as we know the crucial and, you know, the obvious reasons, but we need to reflect upon ourselves and create that sense of knowledge and remind ourselves so that we can bring ourselves to a state where we can actually even write it down, visualise what exactly can I do? Make it really specific as well. Don't just have it in the air in your thoughts. Write it down, set a plan. Yeah, something simple like that. Just writing it down. We don't really think about doing. As a coach, we always recommend our clients to write things down. I mean most self-development sort of, you know, books or self-help books will actually say that because your thoughts can go everywhere and we have stories to either, you know, be doubtful about it because that's the way the human mind works. So when you write something down it becomes real and actually the stress is taken away because it's out of your head now. Yeah, yeah, and I've put that to practice myself. Okay, that's brilliant. That really does work. It does work. Yeah. And when you see something out that it doesn't become so difficult. So for example, if you feel like you want to actually read more Quran, and do the extra sort of prayers and worship, maybe attend the mosque a little bit more because you know, as a family especially in your home, it's a really good way of going out there to do that and to mix and sort of integrate. So I think things like that can be done and you maybe not be able to do that every night or every other night but you know, once or twice a week if you were to do that because obviously kids have school, then you know, you have a plan. Set a plan for the week just like you would for a menu for you know, the cooking. That also could work. Yeah, of course. Yeah. So those things really do matter and make a huge difference. And I think also you need to sort of like sit down and realize that especially you know, we have women obviously that are at home. Some of them are working and they're taking care of the kids. Then there's also the men that are working really hard and really long hours as well. And how do we manage this when we are at work? Working long hours and you know, in environments that is actually you know, not the same as what we are practicing. So how do we you know, manage that? Yeah. We need to sort of like educate others in that way. We need to sort of be a bit more you know, knowledgeable as to how we portray ourselves in these times even at work. Yeah. And I think at work you know, some workplaces can be quite accepting and they can be quite respectful but there are some instances where maybe it won't be as comfortable for you. Of course. And so that can also be a challenge in itself. Absolutely. But when you've got the time to think about it before I know a lot of people they might even take their breaks you know, so they have a bit of time during the Ramadan to sort of take that time out. I know we'd like to go on holiday. Yeah. And that's the other issue. A lot of people might take time out to actually go on holiday during Ramadan knowing that you know, we exempt from fasting and we can take it away. But if only you knew the blessing in that month when you fast in that month when you actually do the worship and the prayer in that time that has been set for us it's like, oh, giving each and every home a gift. Why would you not take that? Why would you run away from it or open it up later? The benefits and the blessing is not the same. There are a lot of people that you know, they look forward to Ramadan but at the same time they don't understand the meaning of it. They don't understand what has been given to them. It's whether you're rich or poor whether you're from whatever background or culture that gift is in your home. So make use of it. Don't book a holiday so you don't have to fast and then you can make it up another time. Yes, of course Allah says in the Quran, yes, if you cannot fast because you're ill, you're elderly or whatever for whatever reasons that you're traveling for work whatever maybe purposes that's fine. It's out of your control but there are people that are actually planning to go away so that they can miss this time and it's such a shame and we need to highlight this. You're throwing a gift from Allah that's come to your home for free and all the benefits that is going to happen all the normal prayer is the reward are 10 times more. Yeah, it's true. We should be really looking forward to Ramadan to come. It should be exciting. We should be all thinking you know, oh god Ramadan is here. We're going to be allowed to do the special prayers. We're going to be blessed. You know, we're going to have family if you're fortunate to have family around you. So it should be about that spiritual connectness to Allah because it's the holiest of months, the holiest of days, the holiest of hours. So we really should utilise the month because it will go very quickly and so, you know, we're blessed to have Ramadan come. I mean, you know, we need to focus obviously on our fasting and our prayer but at the same time we have to have a positive outlook. You know, we have to be physically and mentally prepared. Our bodies, you know, cannot just, you know, perform and conform on the first day of Ramadan as most of us do. That's why the preparation needs to start from before and ideally even throughout the year because that's what Ramadan is for. It's a reflection and it's a reminder of how we need to do things for the rest of the year. So, it's not just like, oh this time comes, we do what we need to do and then it becomes, you know, back to the norm, for example, afterwards. Doesn't work like that. So, we need to sort of create a new way of being and thinking as to what is Ramadan going to bring for us and how are we going to take from it. That's the real preparation. Yes, some of us do kind of struggle to maintain it throughout the year. I think as soon as Ramadan comes, you know, we struggle because we haven't been doing anything all year round. Exactly. So, you know, that could affect it. That's the effect, of course. Of course. So the preparation isn't also just the two months before or three months before. It's literally you every year trying to increase and improve to sustain something. So when Ramadan comes again, you're taking steps forward all the time. That's what it's supposed to be. And you're not just doing it for yourself, especially when you're in your home and with your family. You're influencing, you know, your siblings, young or old. You're influencing your children if you have any. Even your partner. We all have different levels of Iman. We all have different levels of faith. We shouldn't really, you know, think that we don't have substance to give others in whichever form or level we have. Because as individuals, being on this earth, being gifted, you know, to be created by Allah, SubhanAllah, we have knowledge and everyone, you know, has something to give. So we need to also know that about ourselves and have that worth and value within ourselves in order to transfer that. And don't be afraid to transfer it either. You know, you can do so little and that's all it takes. And especially in the month of Ramadan, the most little things are elevated to such levels and such heights that you cannot even imagine. So do not waste that time in any particular way. As you were saying about being role models towards our children, now some parents can face challenges in encouraging their children to start observing Ramadan. So, I mean, what advice would you give for someone who perhaps has children who are at the age of puberty and they want to encourage them to start fasting? What, I mean, how could one go about, you know, making their child become excited and positive about Ramadan? In my experience, I do find that a lot of young children do actually have that natural excitement for Ramadan because they see their family members doing it and they want to participate. So it is a natural urge for children and they're so amazing. I mean, of course, as they get older and they realise the actual difficulties, it is a lot more testing with teenagers. But at the same time, like I said, it's always in the mind if you educate them in the right way about the benefits, not telling them about, oh, if you don't fast, you know, this is how it's going to happen and this is what's, you know, wrong for you, always be positive, positive learning, showing the benefits, showing what you can get from it, showing exactly, and even scientists have said that fasting generally, if you take away even the spiritual factor, it's so good for our bodies. To do that. The health benefits, for cancer or even just general health benefits. I've read so many articles that even say to do that on a regular basis, weekly or wherever it may be, it really does help the body. So whatever is written in our religion, it's obviously, you know, science has to thank Islam for, to be honest. So you can be very logical with them to show them the benefits from a very basic foundation level and at the same time, we have the added benefit of the spirituality because we know ourselves when we fast, even through those moments when we're parched and we're tired and we're hungry and thirsty and hot, you know, especially it always becomes the most beautiful weather in Ramadan, especially in London with the long days. But the thing is, you know, at the end of it, there's so much satisfaction, there's so much fulfilment, there's so much happiness, especially when you're doing it because you're doing it for the love of Allah, there's so much greatness that's in there and when you explain it like that to your children, of course they're going to be drawn to it and they're going to feel it themselves and that's the beauty of it. Sometimes you can't even speak it, so let them fast, even if it's for a few hours, even if it's for half a day, let them get used to it. A lot of schools, secondary schools, are quite okay with that, maybe not primary schools, but then there's the weekend so it's fine, there's no excuse. Your children should be doing this as early on as they need to, if they can handle it and you have to obviously observe them to make sure they're not overdoing it and sometimes they might want to do something which is not healthy for them, so you have to obviously make sure that you're around them, that they're not feeling weak and you prepare enough for them in the morning, which is healthy, you've got to take the advice with nutrition to know what they need to eat, that's going to give them the energy that they require because they're obviously going to do a lot more than what a normal adult will be doing when they're running around and playing and not realising that they're using up a lot more, so you can plan that around that, so make sure you just act responsible for younger children when they are fasting because the thing is you don't want to have an adverse effect where they do find it difficult and something goes wrong and that can actually, they will hold that thought of the fast being a problem. It becomes negative. It becomes negative, so if you like doing it with all of the preparation so that you're not going to actually hopefully experience anything like the negative side of things because you prepare for them in that way with regards to food and their activities are a little bit less physical, for example, then maybe that day you could do homework or that day you can actually go and visit a museum or something less strenuous and less physical activity, then that could take away the time for the day, for example, or go to the mosque and have sort of like invite other families with their children so that they realise that it's a community that's doing this together. And I think that's a very good way of moving forward to realise the benefits and ask them about their experience and even if they feel it's difficult you need to actually allow them to have that feeling so that they can actually speak about it and you can learn from it and maybe you can actually do something to help them overcome that. Yeah, of course, yeah. Now, I know of some parents who do reward systems with their children from a young age to encourage them. Would you say that that was a positive approach, a good approach to motivating a child to feel that they've achieved something at the end of their fast even if it's just for a couple of hours? Yeah, I mean, it is quite nice to do the reward system and for sometimes it works but then personally I don't do that because I feel that the reward is being good is just the way it should be doing something just because it has to be done and also it depends on their age and their stages and you don't want them to be doing it for the reward itself and the reward doesn't have to be as in a gift or a suite or an outing even though those are the options the reward is spiritual reward especially when they're older they should understand that a reward is doesn't have to be seen felt or, you know, something tangible. Okay, that's great. Because that's a good way of them learning just like how when you are going to be reciting any sura when you're walking out of the house for protection you don't see it you feel it and you get the blessings for it and that's a much more powerful way of telling children about the essence of our religion it doesn't have to be seen it doesn't have to be heard you have to believe and that's when you create belief in a child because if they're always given something that they have to see because we're not always going to be in these situations where we'll be able to do that so you need to be a little bit careful as to how you will approach that it's not a bad thing but just be careful of that Okay, well thank you Vima for highlighting these tips and points to us and the strategies You're welcome however we have come to an end and inshallah we'll be going to a short break where we'll be coming back and answering some of your questions Asalaam aleykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakat Asalaam aleykum and welcome to the second part of making a house at home where we've been discussing how to prepare during Ramadan now we're going to be taking some questions from our viewers today the first question we have Fahima is from Hussain and he says what can you suggest to keep positive while you are tired and hungry during Ramadan You know a positive mind is always about flipping what exactly the negative you feel and that's with any scenario in any situation and look at the strengths because you know when you when I've done sort of positive psychology it's always focusing on the strengths the fact that you've done it before the fact that you know you are capable and you are able then that just shows that at the same time that even though you're feeling that it's going to be tough with regards to the time exhaustion you know whatever it may be challenges that you face you can do it and you have done it before there are situations where it has been done so sometimes we are apprehensive because we only remember the bad times of that particular month and how difficult it was but then you've got to focus everything in life is about where your focus is so if you focus on the positive it will be positive how can I improve because I've done it before what did I do before or what didn't I do before that I know that I can make it better for me I will maybe have an earlier night when I'm actually you know going to work I will pray a bit earlier I will maybe not have as many outings with family and friends when I'm working there's so many things that you can do to adjust yourself to make your life easier you know you can still pray you can do all the worship and you can actually be positive by just refocusing it's all about the focus that's what we have control over and that's what we have meaning and people don't realize that the psychology of our mind is where we put our focus okay yes so it's you know it's it is challenging it is tough and as humans you know we constantly have the survival mode and the doubt mode in our brains because that's how we're wired but when you understand that's how your mind works whatever negativity you have in life you flip it you flip it straight away and there is always another side so try thinking in that way and whatever routine you have that's in the past to make it a positive way of you know you know basically experiencing Ramadan where it was good for you try and bring it back try and make that happen in that way and that could work I mean would you say perhaps surrounding yourself with positive friends could help someone like saying that yeah seek advice exactly there are people always in your situation we always think that we are about ourselves experiencing what we experiencing as well that's the other thing that's a very very good point we always think that we're alone in this world going through whatever negativity or challenges or tests that we're facing but actually there's a lot of people around us that are facing the same things that we can learn from and it's a very good way of actually sharing and saying out loud to whether it's family or friends that you know I really do find it difficult and I don't want to find it difficult but I really do so then you know question yourself what is the actual difficulty what is the actual difficulty and when you actually think that you know what even with the difficulty I know the reason and the meaning and the purpose behind what I'm doing sometimes that alone can bring about that positive thought to say you know what Allah will give me the strength because I'm doing it for the love of Him I'm doing it for that so remember it don't just think about the food and the drink Ramadan is so much more and as a person you know we need to sort of like remember that it is so much more than just the abstaining of food and drink and yes our bodies are tired but I'm sure if we have to do other activities like you know I don't know go to a football game or travel around you know for miles and you know go to a destination that we love we put up with a lot and then it doesn't trouble us but we still put up with it but when it comes to something religious and holy then you know a lot of the times it becomes you know we just don't feel that we can do it and we avoid it completely or it just becomes too much of a strain and the negativity is just down with spiral yeah so we give up we give up yeah well I have another question from Doha and she's saying as a working mum it is very difficult to create time for worship and prayer especially on top of the daily chores and responsibilities of the home so how can I maintain and create balance firstly Allah does not expect us to do anything extra and as a general practicing muslim we have daily prayers throughout the year that we have to sort of abide by you know so I'm sure if she's already doing that that's all you need to do so continue with what you are able to do like I mentioned before we are all judged individually you know according to our own circumstances and I know there's the extra tiredness and the extra sort of you know lack of energy when it comes to this time of month with children and being a mum working for example but at the same time like I said if you are spiritual enough then that little that you do will give you that extra sort of strength that you require and you will be amazed how Allah opens up that time for the day and that extra moments that you require because you have the intention it's all about the intention if you want to do more because of the love and you really feel it that opens up for you SubhanAllah this is the whole idea of you being a true believer and having faith blindly in what is it that we actually do and that's what you keep having to remind yourself always have that you know things are practical things have to be organised but even when you have an exam and you will study everything and you know that book inside out that's only a small percentage as to what's going to happen because the rest isn't always hands as to whether or not it's written for you and right for you and it's the same with your daily life you know routine you do as much as you can and whatever else you need to cope with Allah you just speak to him and say you open up that door for me you give me that energy you give me that time you make it easy for me people don't talk there is dua but then there's that personal dua for your own circumstance that you can have and with the intent of wanting to do more and wanting to make it easy for yourself people don't realise that you know we can actually talk and we can do this and that will happen for you and don't look at it like everyone else does yes statistics have their statistics to show that you know in a household when it's Ramadan it's challenging it's this it's that but you can be that extra you could be that one that stands out to say that even with the statistics I'm going to be that one extra special family extra special mum extra special working mum that's going to make it happen because I have that belief and I'm doing it for a belief yeah of course and you'll feel so good about it afterwards I know everyone will probably think well it's very easy to say but I'm saying it because I do practice it and I've seen people practice it and they do come out not having the words to describe it because no language can describe what I'm saying right now it's just you putting yourself out there really having that belief really practicing it and then the rest will follow and that's the whole idea and the spirit of Islam spirit and the holy month of Ramadan and we've given so much more blessings in that month that you'll be surprised people I mean we are living in a luxury developed country we have the help we have the shops completely filled up with things that we require all we've got to do is even pick up the phone and deliver to our houses we don't even have to go shopping physically okay and there are people that are you know in other countries in the heat without any sort of like air conditioning without even the food without the facilities that we have remember that too that can make you positive that can make you you know appreciate that family that you have and actually you know live in the household that you have with all those pressures but it's still not enough compared to the ones that are below you in that sense definitely I think appreciation is the key there because once you appreciate everything you have everything becomes easy to you absolutely so I think you know that that's a great lesson to be learned and also as I mentioned before not to compare yourself to others but this is the one time you should but not comparing yourself to others is in a sense that oh they are better look at the ones that are less fortunate that's when you need to compare yourselves that you can be grateful yes so that's why you should also always compare in that way only when it comes to something like this to be you know thankful yeah definitely thank you for that and there's a lot around us to actually you know sort of you know remember in that way unfortunately yeah unfortunately the next question is from Mosa and he says while working long hours it is challenging to fast and concentrate at work so I find myself not really looking forward to this time because of work pressures and demands and as well as not having the energy and mind to perform daily during this time at work or practice in this month other than fasting and use your daily prayer let alone reading Quran so I mean what's your thoughts on that there's several sort of suggestions to make for someone who's working like that and firstly you know if you're going to plan ahead maybe take some time off if you can take some time off holiday time during that month if it can be done if that's not possible then you have to re-evaluate your diet your nutrition your body a lot of the times we just think that we can perform like everyone else but we don't know ourselves and I don't mean knowing yourselves mentally but also physically we have to take into consideration our body type when it comes to Ramadan as well you know check your GP go and see them talk to them about you know we're going to be approaching this month you know am I okay do I need extra sort of vitamins do I need extra energy tablets do I need you know less intake of certain things that's actually going to you know sort of destroy you know what I'm actually going to have the energy for so you know your diet's really important it's not just on the outside it's on the inside that's really important and what you eat and how you perform in that way is really important so when you feel you don't have energy so much so then you've got to change your whole you know way of balancing life with regards to your food intake your activity levels and again your mindset so all of that needs to be taken into consideration so if that person was sitting in front of me I would question that and if they're not here and if they're listening then you know you need to question yourself as to what is my routine with regards to it because a lot of the times we carry on as we normally do throughout the year as well as Ramadan but they did they you know they need to be a certain adjustment yeah of course so when you have those adjustments with your food intake with your activity levels and you know with your spirituality generally with your thought and your frame then that could help even with those long hours and the concentration can still be there maybe eat something a little bit more healthier actually wake up for soho people don't wake up for it it's very true yeah so that alone could be something yes I know it's tiring I know it is but it's worthwhile if you have maybe some and I know it's late so you think you don't have enough time to sleep but when you have a lunch break or when you have a smoke break a lot of the times people can even go and you know take a nap and lie down on a couch or a sofa in the car you know at your break you know when you are at work and that 20 minutes half an hour can make or even 10 minutes just closing your eyes people meditate so you can do it as a as a sort of relaxation yeah definitely so there was always ways to work around it and that can revitalise you and also carry a smoke on with you you know when you read go on during your time that you have a break even at work you know that spirituality that spirit will open up for you that even that tiredness will go away so use that as an extent you know as a you don't have time when you go home because you're working but in that five minutes just read one page trust me in every day you'll be reading 30 pages if that's all it comes down to but you're doing it with the real intention for love trust me you'll be managing a lot more than you're realising definitely and for those who can't maybe read Arabic they could listen to it exactly listening is really good a lot of people are walking around with earphones all the time so putting that in the Quran in you know you won't realise that you're listening to so much Quran but because you're on the go but that could help yeah whether it's in your journey on the train or in the car the audio like I said we've got so much facilities we've got so much development knowledge technology whatever it may be we just have to innovate and be creative we do that for everything else but when it comes to this its tiredness takes over the long days the heat the hunger all of that and then we just you know overall just think that that's it we can't do anything because that's what happens yeah definitely but if you want something and you want to fight for it you'll make it happen and Allah opens up those doors and those little pockets and then the times and the day where you can actually fit everything and more in very true yeah and going back to your point about going to to the GP I mean I think that's a really good idea of course because I've used that myself where I've gone there and I've been very tired and the doctors just said something simple like your anemic you need iron tablets that you know straight away made me feel better after a month you know I had energy so it could be something maybe simple as that that someone could maybe do before Ramadan a month or two all that's all to do with the preparation I guess exactly with Ramadan and that could actually help someone gain their energy levels during fasting we take for granted everything every day and we don't and this is actually a time where the preparation comes in you know not just for Ramadan but for ourselves like you said you wouldn't even go see a GP normally you wouldn't you wouldn't for this time because you're preparing your body you're preparing your mind so it's a really good thing and we just don't take the opportunity to look at it in that way yeah definitely okay well thank you for that I mean the next question we have from Khadija she says I find that I can do a lot at the beginning of the month but it suddenly drops in practice and when I need to pray more especially during the ending I find that my motivation is less what can I do to keep the momentum going throughout the month yeah I mean it's a very common scenario because 30 days is a long time and at the beginning a lot of people can be like yes we're in it whatever it may be like they're running a race and they start really fast and then they burn out and but the word she used memento is to keep balanced throughout don't go too much to begin with you know and unless you know you can maintain it yeah so you should know yourself well enough like I said the preparation comes in with the planning and the organizing and if you want to do something and if you feel it's going to tie you out and it actually has happened to you in the past then every other day go to the mosque instead of every day yeah you know that could be something so that your body is actually now developing itself so that it could continue for longer and when it comes to you know doing whatever it may be whatever activities in life it's all about having the balance and only you know that as to how you plan your time and if you're doing a lot at the beginning well then just cut back or you know hold back as to what is it that you need to do so that you know that you can manage throughout the month and um to be honest you know life is all about balance and we cannot be overexcited and we cannot be overly doing stuff because generally even if we're going to teach ourselves and our children to do certain things and even at work you know you're going to burn out if you're just going to keep sprinting you need to warm up and you need to keep that you know memento because you are you know slowly gaging in that sort of direction in that way so that's even with Ramadan so don't just get oh this week I'm going to invite everyone before the you know the 10 days because that's what happens every weekend they've got different families different friends coming around write the list of whoever's going to be and then they're tired you know cut back on that there's a lot of people that actually really deserve it and give charity instead as well it's not just about that so don't do the normal routine for every Ramadan improve change we don't want to change with too much you know want to live in this mediocre life and be comfort you know in our comfort zones and never change and do the same things and just compete with regards to what foods we're making and who we're inviting and what clicks we're keeping to that's not going to improve you that's not going to benefit you so keep balanced and know what's important and what is your priority prioritize you can't do everything but what is the most important thing that you need to do in this month that's what you need to understand and the only way you're going to do that is seek the knowledge what is the most important thing that someone needs to do in this month of Ramadan and when you actually read about it the most simple thing is to take that time to reflect and improve and to worship now you tell me where is the energy in that really there isn't really is it so it's exactly very simple so you know reorganize your way of thinking understand the meaning the real understanding and meaning of what this holy month represents and then I think that's what's going to make a difference don't go through this cultural norm in society and community of what should be we're perpression on each other and ourselves but we need to only understand who are we pleasing and who are we doing it for and we don't do that Ramadan is a time yes you know it's kind of like getting together with family, community, friends whatever it may be but that becomes a priority and that is tiring and that's taken away for what you really need to do yeah very true and I think with in terms of making it a priority like you said we could maybe reduce normal activities maybe taking our children to special clubs exactly for that month of course and also that will even show the children that listen it's Ramadan so that means we're going to do some do things a bit differently this month absolutely and that means we're going to be reducing extra activities instead of going to maybe after school clubs we're going to do more Quran at home more dua more worship or maybe just helping out mum in the kitchen that is a very good idea absolutely that could perhaps alleviate the pressures yeah absolutely so yes life is about balance you need adjustments and we need to obviously re-evaluate you know what exactly we want to actually you know commit ourselves to during this time yeah and it's a very special time and we should not ever take that for granted okay well inshallah I hope those answers has helped the viewers and thank you very much for Hema fortunately we've come to the end of the show so thank you very much for Hema and I mean we've gained a lot of insight and knowledge about preparing for Ramadan and I hope that you've all benefited just like I have benefited and inshallah we'll see you in the next show of making a house a home as-salam aleykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatun