 Why the narcissist ends up in a worse situation after discarding you. They do tend to end up in worse situations, which is quite ironic really, because they always complained about you. They always said, something is wrong with you. You're not good enough. And they led you to believe that they wanted more. They wanted better. That's what the narrative was before they left. But then a few weeks or months down the line and you hear about their situation or maybe you see something on social media and then you realize what they're dealing with. You realize that they're in a worse situation than when they were with you. And of course, there are reasons for that. What you will find is that water seeks its own level, birds of a feather flock together. And what I mean by that is the narcissist got lucky with you. They weren't on your level. And that's why you had to put up with so much shit, so much crap that they were throwing at you. That's why you went through so much stress and anxiety because they were weighing you down. When they first met you, they made you think that they were on your level. They told you that they shared the same likes and interests. They made you believe that they shared the same values and principles as though they were about the same thing as you, as though they wanted the same things. But as time went by, began to reveal that they were full of shit. It was all a lie. It was fake. And it began to reveal that because they started slacking off. They were no longer operating at the same performance as they were in the beginning. You were constantly on them, telling them about things that they weren't doing right, that they were doing differently. They no longer give you the same treatment as they did before, but they still try to stay in it because they like the benefits and conveniences that came along with being with you. But it started to become an inconvenience for them because they couldn't keep up with you. They couldn't operate at your level and cracks began to show. You started to see that they were getting tired. They didn't want to do it anymore. And some of them may have just ghosted you. They may have just packed up and left. And then you didn't hear anything from them because they lied about everything. They were never on your level to begin with. And that's why eventually there were so many problems, so many extra things that you had to deal with. Because you were doing all the work, you were overcompensating for their errors and weaknesses. And then they move on. And we wonder why they seem to go down. Why they end up with people with less money, people who are not as physically attractive, people who maybe don't have a good job, haven't got much going on in their lives. Maybe they're not that intelligent. They're not that confident or charismatic. They end up with people who really have nothing going for them. They're just not about anything. But when you look at it, that's the same thing as the narcissist. They're not about anything either. So, yeah, it may look like they're going down after being with you. It may look like they're downgrading, but actually they just got lucky with you. And as I said in the beginning, now they're seeking their own level. Birds of a feather flock together. They're just gravitating back to where they belong. I think I've said this analogy before in one of my videos. It's like a mouse that crawls out of a hole in the wall and it grabs the food, and then it goes right back to the hole where it belongs. Same thing with the narcissist. They'll come out of their hole and then they'll get whatever they can from you. But they have no intention of sticking around. They're going to go right back to the hole where they belong because they already know they can't sustain a relationship with you for a long period of time. There's no way they can do that. They can fake it for a certain amount of time in the beginning. And that's really why they end up devaluing you and blaming you for everything. Because deep down they already know that they just weren't good enough for you but they had the audacity to put themselves in a position of being with you. I already know that many of you in the beginning you had to fight them off. You tried to get rid of them but they were so persistent. They were hanging on to you for dear life. And in the end you were the one who had to take the fall. You had to pick up the slack for them because they caused all kinds of problems for you. They messed up your life but yeah, they misled you about their abilities their intentions, everything. They weren't about any of that. And that's why you lose everything. They invest nothing. And then in the end they end up with someone on their own level because they already know they didn't have a chance with you. There's only a certain amount of time that you would put up with them. They had nothing to offer you anyway. So why would you keep them around? And they know that. They already know for the moment they met someone like you. They knew it wasn't going to last long. Unless they found a way to keep you under their control. By devaluing you, making you feel like something's wrong with you. You're not good enough. Blaming you for everything. They all play by the same book. They all do the same thing. Because it works. It does keep you under their control for a certain amount of time. As Kathy is saying in the comments there, his new supply is an alcoholic, has BPD, and narcissistic traits. Perth is an example of what they end up with. And they were with you and maybe you had a clean lifestyle. You didn't do drugs or drink alcohol. I mean, alcohol is okay. If it's just socially and not every day, I don't drink myself, but I can understand some people like to. But I'm just saying that many of you live such clean lifestyles. You have good jobs. You look good. You've got everything going for you. And yet, they have to act like it's not enough. It doesn't matter how good you are. Because if they're not constantly pointing the finger at you at everything that they're saying is wrong, you're going to start looking at them. You're going to be expecting something in return from them. And they have nothing to give you. They move on to an easier situation because with you it was difficult for them. It was stressful. They couldn't manage it. So they move on to someone else who is more manageable. Someone who is easier for them to control because they could never control you. You were too powerful. They tried, but in the end that's why they devalued you. That's why they left. It's because they couldn't control you and they knew that. If they could control you and make you do what they want and make you see yourself how they want, then there would be no reason for them to leave. That's a perfect source of supply for a narcissist. So yeah, they just move on to someone who is easier to control. Someone who is more manageable. And it might not be someone who looks that great or has much money. Maybe they don't have a great job. Maybe they don't have anything. They could be alcoholics. They could be drug addicts. They could be anything, but that's great for a narcissist anyway. Someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol, someone like that is vulnerable and very easy for them to control. So that's great for them. The only bad thing about that is they may not seem so desirable to other people. So the narcissist may not get supply in that way, but it's still a target that's easy for them to control, which is what they want, which includes people who may not have a job and have a lot of free time. People like that are great for the narcissist. Easy for them to control. So, yeah, that's really it. That's why they end up in a worse situation. They're destined to end up with someone who is not on your level. Someone who is on the same level as they are. Because there's just no way. I mean, yeah, people might want to own a luxury car. They might want to have a Lamborghini, Ferrari, Aston Martin. People may love to have and drive these types of cars. For a start, you've got to have the credit to be able to afford that. But not only that, you've got to know how to maintain it, how to look after it. Because if you can't do that, then it's not going to be any good for you. It doesn't matter what car it is, or how great it is. If you don't look after it, it will break down. It will fail you in the end. The narcissist knew that with you. That at some point, because they didn't know how to maintain the relationship with you, eventually you are going to be unable to provide them with supply. For many of you, it did get to that point, where you could no longer supply them. So that's another reason why they just have to go down to their own level. Someone who's easier to manage and control, and they feel more comfortable as well. With you, it felt very threatening and intimidating. Because they always knew that you were better than them. They knew that you were on a higher level. I mean, that's the thing. People tend to be attracted to those who are on a similar level. That's really where people are drawn to. That's where they gravitate towards. But the narcissist never gravitated towards you. They targeted you because you had what they wanted. And once they took that from you, they were out. They didn't stick around. So yeah, in the end they just go back to what they're comfortable with. What they're familiar with. What they're used to. They go back to where they belong. I'd like to hear from you in the comments below. Let me know about your situation. And I'll read it out now. Did the narcissist return to their own level after being with you? I'd like to hear from you right now. Please let me know. I'm just going to show the views here. I'm on the top floor of the tallest building in this city. So some really incredible views here. It was part of the city here. You can see the mountains and the islands and in the distance. If you look down, you can see the pool. Just trying not to drop my phone. Great place to take a bath. Pretty good view here. Very relaxing. We got some comments here. Vanessa says, yes. My ex went from me to his ex within one week. Then expected me to take him back two months later. Haha, no way. That was four years ago. I never took him back. Yeah, that's another thing. Something I didn't mention actually is, yeah, they will return to the level they used to. And that could often be an ex. Maybe that's what they were used to. And then they got lucky with you. But they never felt comfortable. And there was too much for them to manage. They were under qualified for that position. So they go back to what they used to, what they're comfortable with. What they know that they can manage and control. Human engineer says, your husband died in a mental hospital and the guy she cheated on him with had another kid on top of the first two. Ended up being done for DV. Yeah, that's it. I mean, they got lucky with you. They had a good bride. And they know eventually that bride has to come to an end. Carol says, my ex downgraded the cheap trash who will do anything for him. Yeah, that's it. They just want someone they can control. Someone who will listen to them and do what they want and not go anywhere, not say anything. There's no balance, no reciprocation, no equal exchange, nothing. And they expect you to be happy with that. Steady pay says, don't forget the rubber ducky. Yes, the rubber ducky. Human engineer says he died from brain damage from an abuse. But I bought her sob story. Yes, I certainly believe that's possible. That people do die from brain damage, injury, you know, from dealing with narcissists. I think so. I mean, the brain damage that is caused by narcissistic abuse, it can cause mental illnesses, personality disorders, ADHD, maybe autism. And as we know, CPTSD, which many of us have, and who knows what else, these people can kill you without ever having to lay a hand on you. That's how damaging psychological abuse is. It's far worse than physical. So, yeah, protect yourselves out there. These people are very dangerous. They will break you down mentally. And the reason why it's so dangerous is because all we really are is our mental, our psychology. Everything starts from the brain. And then it works its way down. If your brain isn't functioning properly, everything else takes a hit. All it takes is a brain injury, and then that's it. And it's all over for you. And this is something that people need to understand, just how dangerous this type of abuse is. It's very damaging. So that's something to be aware of when you're around these types of people. Psychological abusers, there's no limit to the damage they can inflict on you. And in such a short amount of time as well. I'm sure many of you have noticed that if you've just spent 10 minutes having a conversation with them, it just brings you right down. You feel very anxious and depressed. It completely changes your mood. It completely changes your outlook on life because they're very negative and they're only looking to do harm. So you have to be very careful with who you're dealing with. 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