 kept going to church but then kept hearing things that were not okay because I was figuring myself out and I'm like how are you going to tell me who I should and should not love. Yeah. This is a concept that unbelievers have a very hard time understanding. How could God tell me to deny desires that feel intrinsic and core to who I am? They often say well well didn't God create me this way? What we need to recognize is that we've been corrupted by sin ever since Adam and Eve in the garden we've inherited this sin nature. That means our natural desires and tendencies go against God's good design and command. Still some will say why does God have the right to tell me what I can and can't do? Well simply put because he's God and we're not because he created us with intention and purpose but we've rebelled against that design all of us but then Jesus came not to condemn the world but to save the world that we would be no longer slaves to sin but alive to him that through his power we would be able to lay down our sinful desires and pick up our cross and follow him. God makes us into a new creation yes we might still struggle with sin but we have a whole new identity.