 Because when there's silences in the conversation, if you rush to fill those, you're trying too hard, period. She will lose interest because at that moment you are trying way too hard and for what? You don't know this girl. She feels awkward in her dress. She's having a bad hair day. Why are you trying so hard? She doesn't, she's not up on this pedestal. She doesn't feel like she's up on this pedestal that guys put her up on. That whole thing about her being up here and us down there, it's bullshit because girls sure as shit don't feel that way. So when there's that silence there, if you rush to fill that gap, trying way too hard. If all of a sudden she fills that gap, all of a sudden things are starting to work the way they're supposed to. All of a sudden you can get a smile on your face. When a girl says, so, and goes to continue the conversation at that silence, I'm like ding, okay. She's interested in me. This is clear sailing from now. I can have fun, I can enjoy this conversation. I get to know this person. So, she says something, I pause. And this is a good time to actually think about what she's saying. Most guys are thinking about what she's saying as she's saying it so they can come up with a clever line right off the bat. Most guys wanna have that witty response as soon as she's done talking. Like, you know, pop it up, oh, ha, ha, ha. Like that's how it is in movies sometimes so we think that's how we should talk. It's not the guys that she wets herself over talks. Guys that she wets herself over in a good way, of course. They actually pause, they reflect upon. They think about for a second. And then after I'm done pausing for a second, I don't say what I'm going to say just yet. Oh no, here's the part that changes everything. I buffer, oh, it's so beautiful. What is a buffer? A buffer is a statement that builds a little bit more anticipation for what you're going to say next. But that also could prompt her to talk more. It's beautiful, it's amazing. So what are some examples of buffers that I use? The one I use constantly, the one that I use all the time is really, really, really, really, really good. Really, you ever hear me talk to a girl, I will say really, no less than a thousand times, I kid you not. My girlfriend got pissed at me one time actually because we share a bed. And this was like early in the morning, I was still sleeping, she had woken up. And apparently I was flirting in my sleep. I was buffering in my sleep apparently because she looks over and she told me the story. I just had this big smile on my face. And I was just like, really, that is so interesting. And I woke up and she was like, you son of a bitch. You cheating son of a bitch. It's the best, I say really a thousand times, really. That is so interesting, I might say. Or I might say, is that right? Is that right, is that so? Really, you don't say. You know what's funny about that? You know what is so interesting about that? Really, I can't believe you would say that. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Now hold on for a second. Buffers, they're magical. And why are they so magical? One, it builds up anticipation for whatever you're going to say next. You throw out a buffer and all of a sudden she's like, what's so interesting? What's so funny? Really what? Tell me, I want to know. Please, do not leave me hanging like this. And the other thing is oftentimes, it gives her that prompt to do what she has been dying to do the entire time, which is talk more. So oftentimes, I don't have to say anything. She'll say something, I'll pause. I'll buffer really. And she'll be like, yeah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Go on for more and I'll say, is that right? And she'll be like, yeah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'll say no, wait a minute. And she'll be like, what? Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. You should never, ever, ever run out of things to say. One, because you're not rushing to say everything that you have in one bolt. And two, I mean, for every one thing a woman says, you have things that click in your head that they remind you of that you could say in response. But if you just throw out a little buffer, really? Pause again, you have to pause again after the buffer. And then she starts talking again. All of a sudden, you've got a million more things that you could say based off that newest slew of stuff that she just threw at you. And you can say anything off of that thing that she just threw out, or you can say anything off of the first thing she just threw out. And maybe you buffer again and she throws out another, like blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you've got a whole new slew of material that you can talk about, that you can vibe off of, that you can use if you're paying attention, if you're listening. Buffers, they're the most beautiful thing in the world. And if you concentrate, you do them anyway. Everything that I teach, it's intuitive. It's all the shit that you do when you're just hanging out with your friends, when you're relaxed, when you're not worried about what to say, when you're not trying to impress her, when you're not thinking about what you should do, it's what you do naturally. And if you focus on taking the actions that you do when you're feeling good, your feelings will follow. Just like when they say, when you're feeling anxious, just take some deep breaths. I didn't make that up, that's for sure. But everything else that I have is kind of based off that exact same principle. Buffer, focus on it. And girls are just talking, talking, talking. You're like, is this really this easy? Really? You should be talking to the minimum of the time, every time. If you're not, you're doing something wrong. Now once again, once she starts opening up and starts, you guys start laughing and you guys start having a good time together and you're not thinking about shit, then I mean, you do whatever you want. Don't worry about anything. But in that interim, that pre-things when things are a little rocky, buffer. How much time do I have left? 15, I thought that was six. 15, 20, okay. What do I want to talk about? I'll talk about painting a picture. Painting a picture. Another conversation technique. That's really the part where a lot of guys get caught the most. A lot of guys can approach, sometimes get good responses. I mean, a lot of times when guys have girls that are laughing, looking at them, basically throwing themselves at them, like it's nervous, you have to escalate. You have to do some of this stuff physically that I talked about last time. You have to take action there. You have to pound on the keys. But, I mean, getting good at that escalation part, when you have girls that are lighting up and you're having a good time with, I mean, that can be tricky. That can be some fear to fight through, but that's a labor of love. That's the most fun you'll ever have. But consistently getting there time and time again so that you have those opportunities to ask. That can be the part where a lot of guys get caught up. So, on top of buffering, what do you do while you're pausing and while you're buffering to give yourself a little extra time and to give yourself more ammunition, whatever you want to call it? What you're doing, and what you do naturally when you're just having a conversation, is you're doing what we like to call painting a picture. What painting a picture is, is when a girl says something, when you're feeling nervous and you're thinking about what to say, oftentimes you just focus on the words and you're thinking, okay, what can I say to that? What can I say to that? And your brain usually darts to like,